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 Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 11:15am On Jun 15, 2019 |
Imogenn: You're concentrating too much on yourself and what goes on within your body. That only makes you self conscious and you're likely to make mistakes which can be perceived as awkward. Stop thinking too much of your imperfections and how they're laid bare for all to see. That's not true. They can only see what you reveal to them. I know it's hard, but try to focus your attention externally to what your companions are saying and their actions. That'll ease the pressure and help you respond better. When you're responding, don't talk to the crowd. Speak as though you're talking to one person. Unify the crowd into a single entity in your mind and assume that entity to be your friend. Personally, I think going to a big gathering was not a good way to start your socialising journey. You should have mastered conversations with coworkers first. Then learn talking to small groups and move progressively as you become more comfortable. Being an introvert myself, my job requires to meet new people every day and it was a nightmare at first. But after a while, I got used to it and actually began to enjoy it. For me, it built a skill that's very useful and required to be a functional member of society and for that I'm greatful. When you've gone past the angst of thinking what to say, you'll discover people are happy to meet you in so far as you're not a nasty person. This video will be of great help https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6MasOctLkY 5 Likes 3 Shares |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Graduate Engineer & Other Engineering Roles At ExxonMobil by Xzbit91: 7:31pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
NanaF: B |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 5:27pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
number5: @bolded, don't know where you heard that from. I just said "grow up". It's just an advice. Take it and your future self will thank me for it. |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 5:37am On Jun 03, 2019 |
number5: The introvert rage  Grow up dude. You're not going to remain a kid forever. |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 10:09pm On Jun 01, 2019 |
number5: You need to grow up dude |
| Business / Re: 3 Things Nobody Tells You About Digital Marketing by Xzbit91: 7:07pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
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| Celebrities / Re: 2019 Election: I Never Said Vote PDP, Davido Replied A Fan by Xzbit91: 1:04pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Richdad50: I'm curious as to why you think voting Atiku will bring about economic boom and prosperity. How does he intend to make that happen? |
| Phones / Re: The Xiaomi Thread. by Xzbit91: 6:45pm On Feb 08, 2019 |
seaboyzen: I dunno |
| Phones / Re: The Xiaomi Thread. by Xzbit91: 3:00pm On Feb 08, 2019 |
henry007:bottom of the highest is still high |
| Health / Re: Carpenter electrocuted while working in Delta State (Disturbing Photos) by Xzbit91: 9:03pm On Feb 07, 2019 |
Why build your house that close to public power installations?  1 Like |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Graduate Engineer & Other Engineering Roles At ExxonMobil by Xzbit91: 4:43pm On Jan 30, 2019 |
Ajide1993: Please, l need dragnet mechanical skill test QandA. mavenphoenix@gmail.com |
| Phone/Internet Market / Re: Protein0 Xiaomi Seller Here Is 100% Reliable by Xzbit91: 8:50am On Jan 30, 2019 |
Protein0 is the bomb. Got my new redmi note 5 pro delivered yesterday without hassles. Transaction was smooth and he provided excellent communication throughout the period of delivery. This review is not to hype him up but to remove any reservations you might have about his services. Thank you protein0, will certainly be doing more business with you!  I'll be uploading pictures later Edit: pictures uploaded
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| Phones / Re: The Xiaomi Thread. by Xzbit91: 8:48am On Jan 30, 2019 |
Protein0 is the bomb. Got my new redmi note 5 pro delivered yesterday without hassles. Transaction was smooth and he provided excellent communication throughout the period of delivery. This review is not to hype him up but to remove any reservations you might have about his services. Thank you protein0, will certainly be doing more business with you! I'll be uploading pictures later Edit: pictures uploaded
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| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 11:16pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Akposb: That's improper use of words. Don't you think "insensitive" is more appropriate than using the word "sadist"?  |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 4:04pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
RSVP: stancod: I'd like to understand something, under what context are y'all referred to as "sadist"? I fail to see the relationship between introversion and sadism. 1 Like |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Graduate Engineer & Other Engineering Roles At ExxonMobil by Xzbit91: 7:05am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Anyone with dragnet mechanical skill test should please forward to mavenphoenix@gmail.com |
| Sports / Re: Kaka: "Jose Mourinho Ruined My Real Madrid Career" by Xzbit91: 11:08pm On Dec 30, 2018 |
samsam2019: He may not have won player of the year but bottom line, he was a big shot before heading for Madrid. Don't make it seem like he was some feeder team player that mourinho had to work on. @bolded, was that really necessary? |
| Sports / Re: Kaka: "Jose Mourinho Ruined My Real Madrid Career" by Xzbit91: 10:06pm On Dec 30, 2018 |
samsam2019: A 21 year old Ozil was already 2 times bundesliga player of the year. He wasn't coming to Madrid as a young player but an accomplished professional. |
| Politics / Re: PDP NATIONAL CONVENTION 2018: Result As Announced by Xzbit91: 12:11pm On Oct 07, 2018 |
The whole nairaland community is on this thread |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 7:00pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
My results 2 Likes
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| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 7:43pm On Aug 10, 2018 |
myca: I should be the one giving the thanks but all the same you're welcome. I found your thread illuminating and I just had to share with our small community here. Hopefully, you'll continue to share tips here to help us navigate the corporate environment. 3 Likes |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 8:29pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Came across this thread and felt compelled to share with you guys. https://www.nairaland.com/4657358/introverts-job-search-getting-ahead @myca shares the story of his early struggles as an introvert, how he overcame them and the challenges he continues to face in the corporate world. His early struggles accurately reflects what I went through trying to secure a job. Although I'm better now than I was a year ago, I was able to pick on some key hacks I can apply to my life now to immediately make it better. I believe you'd find it useful too. 6 Likes |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 6:52am On Aug 09, 2018 |
Geofavor: Learnt oceanofpdf was shut down as a pirate site. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 9:50am On Aug 05, 2018 |
iamnavy1: @Krasid has said it all. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You are not what people say you are but who deep down you believe you are. So don't give anyone the power to berate you and make you feel bad. @bolded, I can relate. When I was much younger, there is no name under heaven as relates to dullness or slowness I wasn't called. You're a teenager so you might not know "The Undertaker". But WWF (now WWE) fans would know who I'm talking about. The Undertaker was a wrestler who fought in world wrestling federation from the 80s up to early 2000s. In the 90s, he was as notorious for his eerieness as he was for being slow. He usually took forever to get to Ring. I was nicknamed after him as a kid. I was so slow that task that should normally take 10mins to get done, I'd use over 30mins. I was usually the last to leave my class as a result of writing slowly. The bike man sent to pick me would wait and wait till he's tired. I suffered academically because of this. Then something happened, the details of which I don't want to go into, that changed me for life. I'm not going to say I transformed from a tortoise to a hare but I got better and better to the point where people who knew me then wonder how different I am now.. Why am I telling you this? The capacity to be the best version of yourself lies with you. If your parents don't encourage you, encourage yourself. I was already in 400L the first time I came across the word " introvert ". Meaning I navigated through most of my life without being aware of who I am and why I did things the way I do. You have discovered yourself earlier than I did. Which means you get the chance to be better as you move forward. As humans, challenges are inevitable, and only in overcoming these challenges do we get to grow and become stronger. Suicide is not the answer. Crying your eyes out will not solve the problems for you either. When life throws challenges your way, don't cower or wallow in self pity but rise to occasion. A problem identified is already halfway solved. Now that you know you have a problem with shyness, the next logical line of action should be finding ways to overcome it and not looking for the shortest way out. Forget about people looking at you when you're walking the streets, it only exists in your head. Introverts have an irrational fear of being judged by prying eyes. The people you think are looking at you, what could they possibly know about you to warrant judgment? And if at all they're judging you then you should be happy that whatever conclusion they come to about who you are is wrong because they know next to nothing about you. So I want you to eliminate that thought from your head. My advice to you is to read up some of the materials shared on this thread and apply what is within it's contents. I always emphasize on application because that's the only way to grow. It's not just OK to know these things, apply. You could also search the internet on some psychological hacks to overcome shyness, they come in handy especially when you meet authority figures. Here's an exercise I want you to do to immediately boost confidence. When next you see someone looking at you, look back until they take their gaze away. Also, when moving along the road, look the people coming in the opposite direction in the eyes, don't blink, don't look away until they're behind you. If that's too much for you for start then look at their foreheads, you'd still come across as looking them in the eyes. Goodluck! 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Sports / Re: Twitter Users Make Use Of VAR To Make Correct Decisions About Pictures (FUNNY) by Xzbit91: 7:05am On Aug 04, 2018 |
princetemitee: Zoom in |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 9:58pm On Jul 17, 2018 |
babyfaceafrica: There's a world of difference between being alone and being lonely. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 9:49pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
MrJavaS: You're welcome. I'm glad I could be of help. PS: the journey is going to be a long and arduous one. You're going to work against your very nature but it's necessary if you're to survive in this world. You're going to feel exhausted but don't ever give up, for the world recognises and rewards extroverted behavior. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 9:27pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
kennybelle: Yes it's a defect, one you should not rest until you've completely eliminated from your life. Don't mistake introversion for shyness. Anyone can be shy. You can be a shy introvert or a shy extrovert. You'll know if you're introvert if social activities drains you and you find yourself leaving parties early so you can have an alone time to recharge. On the other hand if social activities boosts your energy, you're buoyed by highly charged environments and you wish the party never ends then you're extroverted. Introversion is often mistaken for shyness because the lifestyle and life choices of an introvert is akin to those of a shy person. The way we process information and our responses to stimulus are internal and how we feel while an extrovert focuses on the environment. There are introverts who have gone on to live the "supposed" extrovert life. People like Barack Obama, Bill Gates to mention a few. You'd notice these people are not shy, but that doesn't make them extroverts. Your shyness is worse because you're exhibiting it in front of family, people whom you should be the most comfortable around. They are the ones who should know you in and out. The only reason I can point out is you come from a family that abused you emotionally or at the very least did not encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Or they never thought you could amount to anything good. As humans, we all need validation to boost our self esteem. When we don't get it, we feel inadequate as though we'd never amount to anything good. The more this continues, the more confidence we lose. You can't wish it away. You have to work at it everyday of your life starting from today. My advice to you is that you should do you. You're the only kennybelle out there, everyone else is taken. Begin to love yourself deeply and seek out your self interests. No one will love you if you don't love yourself first. Don't be afraid to seek out the the things you desire without fear or favor. Forget about what others think of you, it only exist in your head. That's not to say you should become an insensitive prîck. So I want you to take out a sheet of paper and write all of your good qualities on it. Write out ten qualities for a start and recite it till it sinks in. Now put that paper under your pillow and recite it every morning before stepping out. Read books on self confidence and apply what's written within it's pages. Don't just read, apply. I would have sent you some if I hadn't formatted my laptop recently. Check the first ten pages of this thread, you will find some useful resource materials to download. Engage in activities that test your confidence. Join debate groups, go for evangelism if your church does such. Volunteer to take readings in large gatherings. Basically, I want you to put yourself in the exact situations you try to avoid. You'll fail, you'll stumble, you'll feel embarrassed but ultimately you'll improve. Self improvement is what we all strive for and no one is the finished article. kennybelle: I used to be like this way back in primary school even when I had the right answers to questions because I was afraid of prying eyes. Even to this day I hate been the centre of attention. But I realized it's a necessary evil if I'm to amount to anything in life. The key here is to know your onions. I feel more comfortable discussing issues where I have above average knowledge. I noticed over time that it doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it that matters. If you believe strongly enough in what you say then you will get people who will believe you. Think of how scammers operate. Do you think if they approach their mark feeling unsure of themselves, probably sweating and stuttering all through, they'd be able to pull off great heists? Check Adolf Hitler who was able to convince a whole nation that they were a superior race and the perceived inferior races had to be exterminated. Do you think he would have gathered much support if he was wavering and unsure of himself? Having butterflies when you're about to face an audience is natural. It also happens to extroverts. Even the best public speakers get flustered meeting a new audience. Practice speaking in front of a mirror and project a confident body language. Progress to speaking in front of someone familiar, it could be friend or family. Then move on to small groups and if possible a larger group until you're completely rid of shyness. Shalom. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 10:35am On Jul 14, 2018 |
MrJavaS: Yea, you're right "Isolation is dangerous". If you're a loner people tend to forget your existence. How do you intend getting a first class if you're always all by yourself? Na naija you dey o. I've not met anyone more introverted than myself, yet I've always had at least two close friends at any point in my life. I didn't force it either. I just noticed that like minds gravitate towards each other. I made friends with people who we engaged in similar activities or whom I shared similar interests with. Try make some friends. Go play sport, video games, study groups and engage in church activities, you'll definitely make friends. In a Nigerian institution where sometimes assignment and tests are given without your knowledge, who'll remember you when such info is circulating? Asides from that, you'll need the contact after school. Remember school is just a small chapter of your life, there is a whole world out there. You might make connections that will aid you job search or provide accommodation for you when travelling. I won't be so hanged up on first class if I were you. There are many first class graduates without jobs. Seek first to be a balanced person, socially, mentally and emotionally. Don't become a mindless robot by reading all the time in the name of first and thus become a social misfit. @bolded. Shall we say we won't travel by air or land due to possibility of plane crashes or accidents? Certainly not. Being nice is one of the banes of the introvert. Usually such niceties are acts to cover up our insecurities, getting people to like you, because we feel we don't have other endearing qualities. This is simply not true. Most introverts tend to be nice to the point of subservience which makes us prone to being taken advantage of. I learnt this the hard way when people I trusted failed to reciprocate when I needed help most. Since I realized no one owes me anything, I have lived a happier life. That's not to say I've become cold, I just don't go out of my way to please people anymore. There are people I still go the extreme for, but they are those whom I consider worthy. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Sports / Re: South Korea Vs Germany: World Cup (2 - 0) On 27th June 2018 by Xzbit91: 10:15pm On Jun 27, 2018 |
Galacious1: Brandt better than Sane!? Where are the stats to support your claim? |
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