Auxtan:

You can request for a waybill though I know trust will be a big issue or if you have someone in Eastern Nigeria or Calabar better.

Is it from a reputable store or an individual?

Auxtan:

It is currently around 95k in the market and if you stay in Eastern Nigeria or Calabar I can recommend who/where you can get it.

I'm in Delta State

Auxtan:

UK used.

Thanks bro. How has it been so far? If it is something you'd recommend I'd like to know where you bought yours.

Auxtan:

Then it was 80k last year October but 95k will be the good market price equivalent right now given 1$ is N505 now.

Core i5 for 80k? Is it a new or second hand laptop?

TheHulk616:
again if you can talk to many people you are not an introvert.

Introverts are shy, and we need help. But since fake introverts are saying its OK, so how can true introvert such as myself find help?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozSjZ6iRKSA

dreaizy:

WOW guys great replies, I have found myself saying a lot of "No" recently. That's one of the reasons why I realise that I didn't really have any true friends. My birthday was last week, and I realized that most of these guys don't even know my birthday or care to send their wishes. They know nothing about you, yet they are always ready to bill you.

It's great to give when you have the capacity. The key to a balanced and fulfilled is knowing when and how to say no. Sometimes you'll be called on to make sacrifices and your goals will have to take a backseat.

You have to find that fine line between being selfish and being someone else's 'knight in shinning armour'.

Even spouses sometimes forget each others birthdays and anniversaries. What should really count is if they treat you the love and respect you deserve.

dreaizy:
Hello fellow introverts, how do you deal with this billing culture?
To make people like me, I use to give. I gave to the extent that I lacked. In 5 years at the University, I had this friend (from a poor background) that I spent most of my money on transportation and feeding for both of us. Later, I won't have money to buy handouts at the right time. Sometimes, I had to borrow his handouts and this affected my results.
During NYSC, I got into this cooking together/brotherly stuff. This guys would spend their money on sometimes good (responsibility at home) and sometimes bad (women, clothes, alcohol) stuff and they will end up depending on my money.
In dating too, the only 2 girls I have ever dated just wanted my money.
My point is, I am too nice and I hate asking for money/help.
Most of these people don't really like me, and I will never ask them for help (help that I usually need because I am doing Mr Nice Guy).
Now I am trying to build my self and not ask anyone, including my parents for help. I don't have a regular job but I am making a little money.
Yet, people still bill me, and those who borrow never pay back.
1. I need every Kobo I make, how do I stop people from billing me?
2. How do I choose better friends?

Don't you have ambitions in life?

The major reason why you give out all your earnings, even to the point of lacking is because you don't have anything to do with it.

A man with clear cut aspirations and goals will never be a 'yes man' to every request from every Dick and Harry in his life.

You better develop a spine before you're squeezed for all you're worth and run into the ground.

Set reasonable and clear deadlines for your goals and you will see that the money you're giving out isn't even enough for you.

If you're waiting for people to stop billing you, you are in for a long ride. They'll continue to bill you as long as you make yourself available to be billed.

Remember if you were to fall down and die today, life will go on and they will survive. So don't kill yourself because you want to be liked. People who will like you, will like you, you don't have to pay for it.

Think of all the people you like, did they pay you to like them? The relationships with the strongest bonds are not built with money.

You can deny someone's request without severing the relationship. It depends on how you go about it. For example, when someone requests money from me and I have it but don't feel like giving it away, I tell the person I've already given out money and what's left with me is for my upkeep.

Now unless such person doesn't mean well for you he /she will leave you alone. Other times, I give what I can afford so when they don't pay back, I'm not hurt much.

But most of the time I give to people who are credit worthy. That means I only give my colleagues and other people I know are working and who have the means to pay back.

Sometimes people who are working too disappoint, but before that I test the waters by giving them what I can afford to lose that way even if they fail to pay back they won't have the gall to ask me for help again.

You have to assess all your relationships one-by-one and be honest with yourself what has each person added to your life. It doesn't have to be monetary value. It can be companionship, the one who gives advice, the one who gives you listening ear etc.,

Anyone that has been a net negative, cut them off. They're parasites. Make friends with like minded people. Especially those who can help you achieve your goals in life.

lordally:


I don't know any graduate from Semicolon.... At least their pay after the training should still be on entry level let's say 100K to 150k... Then as for job prospects it's very high meeen as far say na IT it's high asweh!! ...bro omo as of the training the ball is in your court!!! Are you ready to go into training for 1yr Are you ready to pay them almost a total of 3M in Installments from the moment you get a job let's say in the space of 3yrs after the training which is putting yourself in Bondage!!!!! You read all I wrote up there and you still dey ask me again!!! Bros you funny meeeen!! Lols see after you go Semicolon and I go STUTERN or Univelcity we would still earn the same pay but I'll be living a better life than you cos what I'll be paying back will b little ...I would advice you not to do it bro!!! The ball is in ya court oooo ....enjoy my boss..

See if I had my way I for learn am on my own with the help of an experienced person. You can learn on your own bro...all is required na Data , laptop and your interest

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate.

lordally:


Ah ah B4 nko! Well some schools teach it for 12 months ( Semicolon ) some for 6 months ( Decagon ) I also know Code360 is for 4 months too.....well STUTERN is cool cos I've seen how their 1st set of students are now working in respectable firms.....and STUTERN is the cheapest in all of them now see

Semicolon charges 1.3M or so as tuition fees for 12 months or so but if you cannot afford the tuition fees you can be trained then when you get a job the total amount you will pay monthly from your job everything is sums up to 2.3 million naira


Decagon charges 2Milliin naira for tuiuon fees but if he cannot afford the fees you have to apply then if they find you interesting they will invite you to their boot camp which last for I think either one week or two weeks.... Getting into their boot camp doesn't guarantee that you will make it into their training but if you make it into their training after the boot camp you will be trained for six months in the course of the six months training you will be given a brand new laptop a free accommodation for six months with constant light and a stipend of 40000 Naira per month for 6 months then after the training when you get a job what you will be paying to decagon in three years is the total of 3 million naira


Code360 this one seems to be sheep their tuition fees 350000 naira for 4 months but if you cannot afford the fees and you get into the training once you get a job after the training the total amount of money you will be paying back is 1 million naira

At STUTERN in which I'm currently enrolled in their tuition fees 430000 naira but if you cannot pay the fees at once you have three options see the training is for 4 months the second option is to either pay #110000 per month for the next four months while the third option of which I am making use of is that you once you get admitted into the program you pay an enrollment fee of 73520... Then once you get a job he will be paying 15% of your salary for 24 months you can see it very affordable that's why I chose them

Good morning bro, do you know graduates of semicolon? Do you know how much they're paid?
I would like to know my job prospects after completing the training because I'm about to key into CBN Nirsal loan for software engineering training with semicolon.

It costs a ton of money and I hope I'm not making a big mistake?

Swtbabyvee:
Me ? Lol! She’s popular and I hv seen her topics on front page before nd I follow her, so? Please think whatever u like .

Both of your accounts were created in the last 2 months. I've been on nairaland long enough to know the popular monikers.

Swtbabyvee:
why is it like this with nairaland peepz u support someone and all of a sudden u are an alternate? Was never talking to you . Thank you

So you have nothing better to do than act as backup account. This is not the only thread I've seen you offering your support for same moniker

Juell:

They don't think deep that's another of their downside.

I wouldn't go as far as to say they don't think deep.

It's just one of the downsides to being a part of the majority and conventional social norms. You become blind and indifferent to the struggles, experiences and realities of the minority.

Karleb:
You're comparing Cat and Dog I'm comparing human and human.

I used that caparison for lack of a better analogy, but that's besides the point. Human beings are not a monolith.

Karleb:


This is exactly what I am saying!

How do you expect people to relate with you when you don't relate with them?

More often than not people will relate with others that are ready to reciprocate the gesture, even you.

What could have really saved you then would have been asking your brother how he does it, I'm very sure he would have happily taught you what no Introvert can teach you because he had the real experience not some copy paste solutions.

Now you don't even relate with your own relatives. Image!

This is why I strongly suggest this thread should be opened up to all especially extroverts because of people like you, people who have real life problem.

Please note that the problem I'm talking about is low Social Awareness.

That's the mistake you're making Karleb. No one can teach you what comes naturally to them, especially when it's instinctive and you didn't have to learn.

If a rat scurries in front of a dog, the natural instinct of the dog will be to run but if it scurries in front of a cat, the cats instinct will be to attack.

It's not like the introvert doesn't know how to socialise, he/she can do that, even better under certain circumstances.

There are certain emotions, fears and drawbacks that prevent introverts from being outgoing and making themselves vulnerable to strangers. Only someone who has undergone and overcome same challenges can provide a practical solution for those who face same challenges.

DeeMarh:


And that was why I left, I wasn't dumped!

I hope for your sake that's true because no one deserves to be treated like that.

DeeMarh:


I totally agree with you dear.
It's tough when an introvert and an extrovert are paired. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me because he thinks I bore him. Whilst in the relationship, In a bid to inquire what I wasn't doing right, when I asked him why he was always cheating, his response was that he was looking elsewhere for emotional entertainment with someone more interesting, and he wished I could be less boring. It hit me hard because I thought he understood the kind of person I was, and that I was trying to do things that I normally wouldn't do, just to please him.

I just wish he knew that If I’m quiet and/ or straight-faced, I’m probably not mad: I’m just people-watching.

You should rephrase the bolded statement.

DeeMarh:


It's not something I'd like to discuss explicitly here. I forgave severally, and at a point, I didn't think I'd be able to love anyone else as much as I loved him, that was why I stayed. Introverts are known to be selfless and loyal lovers...

You let someone cheat on you severally and dump you, then you turn around and blame your introversion?

You need to work on self esteem girl. No self respecting human will tolerate such disrespect.

Xavfra:

Why....

Xavfra:


Why

Refer to my subsequent posts/reply to @oyetpel

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May we be among the successful hopefuls

oyetpel:


Nice points you have there, but you know no two people are the same.
Some lady might go with a guy being straight forward while some won't.
Although i wanted to go through being friends and do things together, but she's always in midst of her friends. And the more i think of her the more i want her, reason why i quickly ask her out. Cos it won't be nice to have her see me as just a friend while me i am in love with her.
I am moving on though, i guess this boyfriend, girlfriend thing is not for me.

That's why I said 80% of the time you're going to spook them by being too forward. They'll make you chase, and the harder you chase, the more elusive they become.

If she ends up as a friend then you didn't play your part right. Learn how to use sexual innuendos to spice things up. Make her guess your intentions and only say that "I love you" when you're sure she feels same way. Even if she doesn't tell you directly, it'll show from her body language.

oyetpel:


What should I have said?

Don't say, show her. When you like girl and want to date her, start treating her as though she were already your girl.

Get acquainted with her as you would a friend. Find out her likes, dislikes. Places she likes to hang out and her hobbies.

This will help you know how to pull her strings, like when and how to tease her or stun her with compliments.

If she likes novels or movies for instance, instead of asking her out, invite her to come see a movie with you. There's a subtle difference between the two, if you say "let's go see a movie" you're asking her out but if you say something like "I was planning to watch the merry men at the cinema today and I remembered you also like that genre of movie so I bought two tickets, are you interested?" she's more likely to say yes if you've played your cards well and she really enjoys your company.

In the second scenario, you're going to watch the movie anyway whether she accepts to come with you or not and it's something she would miss out on if she turns you down while in the first scenario she's the centre of attention and if she doesn't go with you, your evening is ruined.

Keep her guessing your real intensions, build the sexual tension and she'll find you irresistible. With women being too straightforward kills attraction. For men, the shortest distance between point A and B is a straight line, for women, it's a gentle curve.

oyetpel:


No, i told her i am in love with her.

I did it in a position of power though, cos i got to very popular. So i know her turning me down won't affect me. But i developed a real love for the girl, that i don't know why i made myself this vulnerable.
She won't even pick my calls again.

Never tell a girl you're not already dating that you love her, all you'll succeed in doing is scare her away.

oyetpel:


This has been my issue this past week.
Just of regrets.
Especially asking a girl to be my girlfriend last month, but got turned down.

Hope you didn't ask her the direct question "can you be my girlfriend?"

You'll be turned down 80% of the time even if the girl likes you.

Someone is lurking in the shadows, waiting to pounce if this information fails to materialise

GeniusOla:


It is only if you are new on this thread you will think jarus is a troll, or think he wont outrigthly admit it, if he is wrong, to the extent of cooking excuse stories, #lol, someone spoke about our generation being impatient but he couldn't wait for jarus timeline to expire before concluding
and dishing out his advise as usual #lol how else can one explain impatience? I'm tired of social media

This will help, "its not about who is right, it is about what is right"

Exactly. The time line is yet expire and the naysayers are already beating the drums of disappointment.

jlomz:

Dear Xzbit91,
Good afternoon bro and a happy Sunday to you, seen ur comment and received it in good faith.
Biko abeg, can one trust this your information, because trust is one very scarce commodity this days most especially on this street. Our seeking information regarding this recruitment is not for jokes honestly, biko help our emotions, don't murder the little hope we have.

Happy Sunday to you too bro.

I've never come here to say I have a source before, that's because I'm not a person with high connections. I've depended solely on God and my abilities in all I've been able to achieve so far. So I'd be lying if I told you I had a source somewhere.

I get my info from this thread or third hand sources. My dad was the first person to call and tell me NNPC is recruiting, this info he got from a distant uncle who has direct connection to the said PA. So you see the chain of information is quite long.

So yesterday was the first time my dad will speak to the PA directly at the burial ceremony of former ED of NNPC. The PA and former NNPC ED happen to be from my state so the encounter was entirely by chance.

The information I got yesterday only reinforces my belief that APL is going to be released this week as it corresponds with what Jarus and Dawani's sources are saying. I believe if there was any change in the time line, the PA would have known before yesterday!

I still believe Jarus and Dawani's source and here's why:

My dad called me yesterday morning and asked me to to check the NNPC career portal. I did and revert back to him telling him there was no change, but I was curious and asked him why?

He said he met a PA to petroleum minister at the burial ceremony of a former ED of NNPC and the PA told him that APL was scheduled to be out within last week and this week so he wanted me to check if I was successful.

I told him it's not out yet (didn't tell him I had already gotten the info from our trusted Jarus) but hopefully this week.

So from my point of view, if leaking a time line for the release of APL will cause so much raucous as to significantly change its expected date, the PA will be in the know.

I can conclusively tell you ladies and gentlemen that the wait is over! May we all have reason to smile by the end of the week.

Sotrue:
Latest information- Let’s forget APL for now. It would come before the end of 31st of March .The recruitment process would definitely come to an end before the end of first quarter; all things being equal but no one knows the exact day. All hands are on deck to ensure the completion of the process but some administrative processes must be followed. Our joy now as applicants is that the issue surrounding the delay has been amicably resolved. God is on our side. We shall soon be testifying of His goodness in our lives.

All rumors of APL coming this week or next week are mere hear-says and not from the boss himself. He has not said a word about the recruitment lately. This is not to say it is not possible for it to be released even this night. Shalom!

We should forget APL now and look forward to the end of the first quarter but it's still possible to get APL this night?

Either you're confused or you're trying hard to confuse the honorable members of this thread. My mind tells me it's the former.

psyrizzla:


ahh,they will just disown me one time �,I'm trying to seek professional help tho

Why will they disown you? Because you have a few challenges?

If you're not doing well at school they deserve to know why and how they can help you. No parent will want to see their child fail, not if they can help it. So do away with those fears and confront them with your problem.

psyrizzla:
Help me!

Hello nairalanders,call me rizzla for privacy's sake. I am a Nigerian male,20 years of age, intelligent, beautifu-minded and I'm dying! I've always been the weird kid,the black sheep,the different one,I've always not know how to talk to people,how to socialize,how to make friends ever since I was younger I have always unconsciously isolated myself I don't know why but I always did.

When I got quite older I started cutting people of my life, people I love, people that loved me... everyone,with every passing day I was more alone than the last day. The final straw that broke the camel's back was the time I was given admission to study Mechanical engineering in a Nigerian University. I finished my clearance and school resumed,only that I didn't resume with it,I had no friends,and no way to make one,I always felt awkward...weird!

One my first day attending lectures,I got to the hall and the number of people who I saw left me stunned,it was as if every single person in the hall was connected to my energy and kept sapping it away,with every passing moment I felt weak. WEAK!!! I convinced myself it was atress and all that stuffs but with every visit to the halls,every visit to my course advisers office,every visit outside of my lodge I felt my energy level drop,I felt weak,useless,worse than dead! Sometimes I wouldn't step outside my lodge for weeks upon weeks because I was afraid,ashamed, humiliated, embarrassed by what I don't know!!! It was so bad that even merely thinking of "people" would trigger my panic attacks.

This kept happening until after the first semester exams which I did very very badly! Second semester came and I couldn't even register a single course,every single day,I would curl up in my bed and feel the life force get drawn out of me,every single day I would curl up in pains wondering why God that so much loves the world would see it befitting to create on of his precious humans like this...to be so afraid of commitment,so afraid of other humans! And the funny part was that nobody knows what I really felt,I always plastered a smile across my face every single time I was around someone (mostly because I hate sharing my problems and because I really value company)
Without necessarily saying, y'all should know second semester bleeped me up!!
I started this year with a resolution,that I would put an end to the Bleep ups of last year. But the moment I got back to school,the depression resumed!! Pains,anger, sadness,more pains, anxiety,more anxiety,pains,more sadness... Yesterday,I tried going to a class,I got outside the class and the bare noise I observed from where I was stunned me,I couldn't go on,so I sat under a tree and blasted some music,I just couldn't literally move!!!!
My family put a lot of hope and trust in me,but then they do not see their son for the broken young man that he is,they do not see the tears behind the smile,they do not see the pains in every word... I'm dying!! I need help!! This is a distress call!!!!!!!!!!


SOCIAL ANXIETY!!!
DEPRESSION!!!
PANIC DISORDER!!!

Yours is a severe case of social anxiety. As much as we would like to help, we can't. You have to let your parents know right now so you can get professional help.

BetWinners:

No.Just from formerly being,interacting with & researching on "nice guys" .The post below by a lady explains it all
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All the guys in school who I thought I was good friends with, would talk every day, hang out constantly, and think we were actually friends, just to find out years later that they were actually only just waiting for a chance to date or sleep with me. But clearly their pretending to want to be friends while secretly having hidden intentions is my fault.I mean how dare I think guys that I was friends with actually wanted to be FRIENDS.

I understand what you mean but it's totally off the mark here. They've probably known each other for over ten years now.

Remember they both worked at a supermarket before heading for university and they've been working on the business for five years now. She even admits that they're romantic partners, so I doubt sex is endgame for him. He's probably already getting that.

What I see is a sincere but naive guy who is unable to draw the line of business from relationship pleasure. He's yet to come face to face with betrayal and malevolence so he can't fathom how things could go horribly wrong in the future.

I've seen stories like this even on nairaland where a nairalander was double crossed by one of his friend on a business they built together simply because the other was too trusting. He failed to get lawyers for the business to specify who owns what and the rules of engagement.