₦airaland Forum

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

Guy go away from ur misery ..u are not a man .why would a woman do those shit to u and u still went ahead to be spending ur money on her to the extent of thinking of marrying her .lol ..guy Na mumu man u be jor u no get sense

expert234:
Lolz. They will never take it to front page, especially that APC mod called Mynd44

I swear the mod is a idiotic bigot and all their eyes go clear when an alternative forums comes up ....Labour party will Win so Nigeria can be great again ..

I need a plot of land around the college of education Osele Abeokuta urgently ..suitable for hostel accommodation please

akseph1:
Please can you remove tribalism and vote for our future. We can't afford to waste another 8 years of our lives. This suffering is too much. People are seriously suffering. Please save us with your one vote. Please

Leave the idiot , if u check well the idiot can't boast of a good life

Ofunaofu:
What is really happening to nairaland

The Caption says;
My fiscal discipline mistaken for stinginess — Peter Obi

Here is the link;
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/01/my-fiscal-discipline-mistaken-for-stinginess-peter-obi/

But a tribal bigot of a Mod that push it to the front page changed and twist the caption to ;
Peter Obi: If The Presidency Is By Turn, It Is my Turn As An Igbo Man

Seun, what is going on here

The seun is a tribal bigot .Bleep all his mods including this .no wonder Nairaland has degraded to this tribal land

Lanretoye:
e pain u abi?,to say u get bomb u for throw am for their midst but u no fit near there before the bomb detonate come kii u.

U are just a bastard with the way things are .so they aren't crooks to u ...idiot

ItsTutsi:
Lol what's with all these closed cropped pictures, so after all the editing this is the best u can come up with!!!!

Truly Pandora Anini is cursed and a failure!

Mind you not everybody has the strength to go for rally but bet me every right thinking Nigeria want a new Leadership order just like me and many people I know around me here are for labour party .but don't care about rally ..know this and know peace man

What I know is that a right thinking Nigerian can't never vote for APC haba! With all the suffering over d past 7 8yrs?

[quote author=ghiloman28 post=119660286]BAT is too intelligent. Nigerians needs him more. If you think otherwise take your voters card and go to polling unit and perform your civil right for whom you believed in.

For me I am voting ASIWAJU coz he will definitely bring prosperity to Nigerians at large in all areas.

ASIWAJU omo olodo ide Jagaban borgu[/quote




So what do you have to say about how they protested against the removal when the economy was still good and we wouldn't have felt it ...it is not when the economy no get ambition u r praising the removal in ur shallow mind ... Try and stand for the truth once hypocrites

AderonkeOlaniyi:
Peter Aderemi Obi, incoming president of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Cheap shameless amala and ewedu miscreants will develop heart attack from this news.

Below is a photo of members of Iragbiji Town Union organising a meeting to welcome Gbola Tinupoo, incoming president of Iragbiji Town Union.

Lol

lhordspy:
This is the first time i am agreeing with Reno. I think he is starting to come back to his old self.

The Counter-statement from APC was needless. Mr Bayo Onanuga the APC spokeperson should always learn to keep his emotion in-check. It is not everything you dish out responds to. Little little things like these piss people off, especially like me. If PDP decide not to respond to the endorsement just like APC. Then the joke is on APC.

Olusegun Obasanjo has the right to endorse anyone or anybody. Terming his endorsement useless is an overdo. It makes no sense. The yorubas and well meaning Nigerians aint complaining. We wish him well. Even though me and my entire household will be voting Asiwaju Tinubu.

Asiwaju of ur fathers house or compound if you have one

ModCaller:
It cannot be kidnapping. Who will now pay the ransom for the kids?

Abi?

Candidlady:
Ogun state


why kill the woman.. killing the husband should have been enough

rip to her

I know you are left out so u wouldn't know the worth

skales67:
Dunce!

She doesn't have a happy home

SWATMan:
If this incident had happened in the east all hell would have been let loose by nairaland bigots who are only observing this thread and running away like dog's with tail tucked behind their hindlegs.

I'm from the south but u said the truth

God1000:
They keep wasting tax payers money flying up and down, such hokum.

Have you guys ever seen western politicians coming to Nigeria to resolve their disputes?

Not the fault of the politicians as far as I'm concerned after my rigorous observation about us as a country people .. See bro we have so many Myopic Nigerians ,people that are ready to wrong the right ..they believe in making life difficult for their neighbours in order to be able to oppress & show off that they are bigger ... You need to understand how Nigerians think even right on this Nairaland you will notice some people are just fine the way things are.

Kapeter:
Is it your tribalism? Is it not my own tribalism again. Because I love Yoruba and Yorubaland now it becomes tribalism. I pity you bro

Bro shift ,Na people like u no allow this country fit progress .. What do you mean by Yoruba lo kan ... Idiot

Afamed:
But your Pandora fraud was part and parcel of PDP till June, Who una want deceive here?

How is obi a fraud compared to others .. Ur mumu get class ogbeni ,get out with ur dark brain

superlanny:
Election time is very near, this is when they will be eating corn, giving children zobo to drink or claiming they had one shoe while growing up.
Nigerian politicians are the most humble and saintly during election periods, and yet millions of educated illiterates will still fall for this comic relief.

I used to think Nigerians are smart and intelligent people, but I have realized that at least more than half are dumb imbeciles. This format is tested and has always worked, why should they change it. Our mumu is incredible.

No be lie , even with the suffering in this country we shouldn't have up to 10% clamouring for APC to return to power again .. Also Atiku ..Our mumu is of the highest order

CoronaVirusRelo:
When men like Arthur Eze talk, they know the direction where power is heading to.


Peter is just day dreaming! Somethings are impossible in life!

“NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE” is an adage used to deceive the FOOLISH

Mugu Notting is impossible as an adage have always turned to reality ever since time memorial
U are the foolish one following bad precedence .. Coz Arthur eze has money doesn't mean he is not jealous of Peter obi...Eze is just been Jealous

[quote author=asanausana91 post=119380578]I can't believe this is a presidential campaign, I believe this is the burial ceremony of emmergination3.[/quote

Gods grace Obi will win and Nigeria would have a breathing space ..I wonder where u all clamouring for pdo and APC come from sef

No be every body get privileged to move for rally ok ... But many men will vote for the new revolution party LP coming election ..bet me

BATified2023:
u can hang yourselves if u ain’t comfortable

U igbos can cry till thy kingdom come,nobody send u

U be stupid guy shey Na only igbos no want APC again ? We Yorubas too don want anything APC ..Idiot like u

djWALE:
Naija to d world

But ordinary cape Verde can't give us visa free entry

Faiththatworks:
I always make my bias very clear before I comment,I will.vote for Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and the Charismatic Sen Gov Kassim Shettima in February 2023.
Like a friend said yesterday, Asiwaju is in Niger state campaigning,the Amazon Sen Remi Tinubu is leading the women in Borno State,I'm sure Seyi Tinubu will be in Abuja today for the Youth rally,even Iya Oloja is mobilizing Market women in Oshogbo,while many are on Facebook, Twitter,Tik-Tok shouting Bulaba and Blablubla.
When it's time to count the results,these bulama folks will still come online to make the loudest noise.
The Lion of Kogi is about to launch the Youth wing of the campaign,I challenge anyone to show me which party apart from the APC has campaigned the hardest in these election circle.
As they say, Election booths no dey social media.
God bless Asiwaju
Happy Birthday to the incorruptible and Wonderful Baba Buhari
God bless Nigeria

Oloriburuku person after 2yrs you will start saying govt Bleep up

Pickmycall:
We are just keeping quiet.All this loans that Buhari and his finance minister have obtained which they cannot account for are going to be paid by nigerians.

If their tenure ends they will vacate their offices and go and enjoy their loots while vat,stamp duty charges and other unreasonable taxes will be introduced by the incoming government to repay the loan.
We are the ones that are going to pay for the money they borrow and steal.

Exactly my thought , I don't know why they keep keep borrowing but we still suffering

Ha! Hot iron? Nail in the head ? Ha some people are truly wicked .13yrs is just too small nah

sliksusan:
ok them

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kingmaster2009:
Nyamiri person dey speak about election in Yoruba land.....mumu , Oyetola bleeped up and they dealt with him...

Now let Obi or Atiku come and win Osun state in the presidemtisl election....

Even Adeleke's days in government office are number.....

Are u really saying you are very well comfortable with the way things are under the APC govt for the past 7yrs in this country .. Are you truly. Human being ? I do not think so . u will never see any changes in ur life as from today if you are defending APC .Amen

So this thing love the way things are going in Nigeria if I'm not mistaken ? Jesus Christ why do you allow me live among d wicked

LeoDeKing:
Tinubu is the next president.

Ipob pigs can cry to death.

Presidency is not about ipob or igbos , we Yorubas are supporting obidatti for the next one . You gay the 30k given to u can't buy a bag of rice .Stop the stupidity