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Greatest tip of all: DON'T BE A SINGLE MUM! Unless you are unfortunately widowed, divorced through no fault of yours or molested which resulted in an unwanted pregnancy.

Having said that, we are all human and make silly mistakes once in a while, if you fall in the once in a while category and was strong enough to keep the baby and LEARN from your mistake (God bless you), then I raise my hat to you and pray that God sends you a loving partner.

Unless you belong in any of the categories above, there is NOTHING strong, brave, independent or whatever word you want to fool yourself with in being a single mum.

Sound children (the future of our planet) need to be raised in a balanced home with loving parents - male and female!

I wanted to apologise for my next sentence, but the truth will be the truth. A woman can seldom raise a sound man by herself and vice versa.

I don't think I have ever or will ever know pain quite like this again. Sergeant Brody couldn't have survived this. The feeling at the sound of the final whistle must be what it feels like to be pardoned of a 90yr jail sentence - I could swear i heard the English commentators switch off their mics occasionally to have a good curse!

I hope this is not the best that Africa has to offer

mens dept: ABi...

See how stupid they look, and they wonder why they are hardly chosen to head any major organization in the world, why they are denied visa in their millions, why SHell Oil does whatever they want on their land, why their politicians steal without anyone doing shyt about it, and why light is something that is common of small countries like Belgium and UAE, yet problematic in their NIG.GEr areas.


Shame

My guy, abeg no vex; read the original post again, come tell us where dem mention Nigeria for there.

Na wa o. Na Ghana throw Halogen Party, but na Naija dey receive all the curses. Which day Naija become Ghana now I beg make una free my country o!!! Hia!!! Oo!!!

I'll start with something very drastic. Extremely drastic: The fight for "equality" and/or "superiority" (whatever that means to you) between men and women will someday if not properly handled destroy our beloved universe - another day's discussion.

If your partner does not know you enough or is not capable of taking you to the highest pinnacles of cloud 9 but in a split second equally take you to the lowest depths of contemplating murder and vice versa. You don't have a relationship!

I have read comments from men and women alike calling each other names and all sorts over this topic. For men: have you ever been pushed to the point where your body is trembling almost uncontrollably; not out of fear of her but out of a kind of anger that can only be ignited by someone who deeply knows you, is supposed to love and respect you, but even made worse by the fact that this person has your heart and is supposed to have your back and literally be your crutch, this same person that you might have lost things -- nearly your life -- for and will do it again if required. And just when you think your silence will make her stop, she adds fuel and goes personally deeper so that you are now counselling yourself to ignore or numb the effect of her words but to no avail. And with every spoken word she cuts even deeper into your deepest insecurities and issues; God forbid she gets physical. Most women at this point will break down and sob inconsolably; most men on the other hand just want to stop the source of the pain.

Of course you can leave the house momentarily as has been suggested by a few, but what if that is not easily feasible for many reasons, like she being daring enough to lock the doors and put the keys in places where she'll either have to permit you to take it or you do so by force.

If the case is not as drastic as above, you can dish out the silent treatment for a few days, but trust me from an expert cook of the silent dish. It is a very bad habit with severe consequences - once you learn to ignore her once, if not carefully watched, it can become a habit and can tear you apart. The effect of the silent treatment is not any easier on the individuals, the ladies can tell you what it does to them but it also affects the enforcer because as I have experienced, it is a painful waste of loving time I can be sharing with my wife, 24hrs is too short to drive home the point and any longer can be detrimental to both parties and the relationship.

The poster is not advocating men beating their wives/gfs or vice versa, neither am I. But the truth of the matter is that in the heat of the above scenario; love, man, woman, husband, wife or individual status and orientation is not the question, but for the man sometimes, it is an urgent feeling to enforce some peace or sanity and in some really grave situations hurt her a bit depending on the individual, and since men rarely out-speak women, some physical restraint or impact might be the last involuntary option.

For the ladies who have used all manner of words to describe men who do as much as nurture the thought of "laying their hands on a woman" with claims that it doesn't show love, the men are this and that, they are not men and what not; maybe verbally beating your man or doing whatever you do to push him upto the point where he finds the need to get physical with you is very noble and perhaps the perfect gesture of love - Kudos!

It makes no difference if the victim is beaten to death, takes their own life, or suffers a heart attack or stroke. The bible says life and death is the power of the tongue,  and if you can kill with your tongue, it makes you no better than the one who kills with his hands.

Simple remedy: to avoid mishaps, ladies keep your tongue and men keep your hands! We are all human and have emotions, insecurities and imperfections.

Administer the pain with the tongue or the hands - no difference.

To every action there is an opposite and equal reaction!!!

Pain is pain. Do I need to continue

It's such an irony that Nigerians came up with the word 'maga', cos right now I can not find a better word to sum-up the performance in this whole competition. Grown men paid to play ball, reverted to being spectators. I never saw them make any conscious effort, rather they seemed fascinated by their opponents, the ref and the linesman, as though they were star studded. Always asleep and sheepish, no discipline whatsoever, no drive, no hunger. It was disgusting. No focus whatsoever - Absolute magas.

Until further notice, if anybody ever call me a Nigerian again, I will place a generational curse on them. I refuse to be identified with such maganess.

ehie007:
all these certificate wey una they display, una stil dey work for person, those who only have B.SC or HND that have millions in their acount and dont wake up 4 am to be rushing to work na im i won see. e.g wazobia--certification---80million in bank account.

My guy, God bless you eternally. na lack of ambition, identity and self worth dey make people pursue all these degrees. No offence to anyone, but if you have all d degrees and still work 4 somebody, then i guess u didn't acquire common sense in all your stupidity studying. The days of job security are far behind us. A company can only have 1 MD at a time, if the founder is not already occupying that position. Politics is neither guaranteed nor safe. The wisest man is the one that educates himself to a degree level (1, maximum 2) then starts something for himself rather than spend further 10 - 15 years acquiring more senseless degrees. God no dey accept degree 4 heaven gate. MY PEOPLE PERISH FOR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE. BLOODY IDIOTS!!!!

How is this any of your fault, you dated a girl, went your seperate ways only for your brother to bring the same girl home by sheer coincidence (or so I should hope).

If the story is as simple as my first line, then I can't see why you should have kept this from your brother up to this point.

Your relentness is fishy.

Telling your brother doesn't seem to be the only problem. Infact, it shouldn't even be a problem.

You didn't personally finish with her and you fear hidden and uncompletely dealt-with feelings might surface or is probably already creeping up. May not even be feelings, might be just a crazy urge to sample the goods once more (you may not be feeling this now, but what about tomorrow?). You are, but a man

We shouldn't really be discussing your brother. We should be advicing you first; on your own feelings if there be any, and of course how to discipline yourself for the future should your brother decide to continue with the relationship after you tell him.

Whatever the case, you NEED to tell your brother ASAP.

God help you.

refer to my earlier post. case dismissed

chei, chei. Kasala. Chei, chei, kasala.  Na who give Ekaete bele?,

to serious issues,  hmmm,  nna, truth be told. Either nwa baby has been getting the koboko or it is just a serious case of grievious naivity.

Wetin rabbit go dey find inside snake hole?

And the sad thing is that most women never see anything wrong in these kind of actions. What naivity!

Why would a lady carry herself and go to a single man's house wey no be her boyfriend or brotha, even for 1 hour visit. Does she think she's going there to play ludo. Even if she want play ludo sef, is a single man's house the place for any responsible lady to go and play ludo. How much more spend the night alone, with him, on the same bed even if lion dey outside.

Before naive women chop me in her defence,  what happens if the bobo chop kpomo by force. who go hear her story, 4 naija. Taa, she neva talk true.

Na dis kind mumuness dey pain me reach bone, i no even come care whether she dey cheat or not, but d sheer fact say, she sees it normal to pass nite 4 anoda man house, single man, on what grounds? come get mind tell me, the stupidity of the case alone - na goodbye. who born goat.

Infact, before I take dis case personal, make i jeje throway face.

hmmm

@ Iranoladun,

God bless your union. Any1 who has a problem against your posts on this topic (esp 1st and second posts) either doesn't love their partner or they have ulterior motives.

I have read quite some good comments and some unfortunately dumb ones (by dumb post, i mean people asking for space and all the other nonsense, I have heard). The sad thing is that the dumb posters might actually not know any better.

As for me,  i live with my partner and we speak as soon as i get 2 work and then as many times as d need arises through the course of the day. She knows, when I leave work (YES SHE DOES) and when i am expected home, if I'm more than 10mins late, she'll call to check that evrything is fine. And I LOVE IT. Any body who has a problem with that, HAS ULTERIOR MOTIVES or just isn't ready for a loving relationship.

That would make Swissgard a much smaller probably younger company seeing that their trading territory is very limited while FLP trades in over 145 countries worldwide. Congratulations to your mum on her achievements, but I'm sure she would have earned more with FLP because I know that FLP have a well structured and highly compensating system in place and yes, they do award all expenses paid international trips with spending money amongst other numerous incentives to all members who qualify not just a selected few of the very top. As for you, since you can't work with your mum, perhaps you can join me

Anyway, thanks for sharing.

Hello Folks, I have set up this topic to hear both success and crash stories from PERSONAL EXPERIENCES with forever Living Products - FLP.

I was introduced to the concept a few years ago and crashed out due to personal reasons. I have since returned and absolutely determined to reach the very highest top.

I sincerely believe it is the BEST opportunity out there; very much risk free as it doesn't require much capital. What do you know about this company and what are your personal experiences? Please share.

Amaka, pls post pics and total 1st time fees payable

yashika:
yme, ( and the house) pls can anyone tell me what kind of business on can run or do with 300-500k in a place like ph.

Unfortunately my brother, I don't know what investments will be best you in your region seeing that I don't even live in Nigeria. But I will make research on your behalf.
Anyone else with tips, please help.

BlueDiva:
I believe you speak for yourself.
People have built a fortune from investing part of their salaries.

Are you aware some people earn about a million naira a month?
You don't even have to earn as much to be a good investor, just know the tricks.

I stand corrected on the Nigerian Salary Investment even though I was more about investing your UK salary in the UK. I am yet to hear of that, again, I could be wrong.

ahhhh - you guys are priceless. Nagwode

Biko nu. I never said all employments/employers are bad. I just said having a "job only" mentality or having no plan other than "jobs", doing or relying on nothing other than jobs, jobs as only source of income, a life planned around jobs, what the heck; the word, the idea of "jobs for life" is and I repeat DEMONIC.

Please help me here, if you work for a company and literally run the business yourself, yet you feel trapped and undervalued, definitely unappreciated because you are still accountable to probably an ingrate for a boss.

I also didn't say owning your business was a walk in the park. But, if you can work for somebody else effectively enough not to get fired every two weeks. Then you have most of the personal attributes like, commitment, discipline etc that is required to successfully run your own business - capital? totally up to you, but not always essential.

And please, let's not fool ourselves, you cannot afford to invest your salary, no matter how much you earn, unless you have no responsibilities. You can afford a saving however, but invest, IMHO, I'm yet to see.

Oh boi eeehhh, I go show am madness. God fobid, one mugu come talk dat kind abormination 2 my pawpaw. Machi, kai. We go put leg 4 one sox.

Ala wayi asaba. Wot nonsense.


Anyway, my brother i beg pray and be diplomatic about it, I'm sure you can get to the right authorities without going overboard.

May God guide your actions.

Fixtures, times and UK showings please

Agree with most above. Working for somebody else is ok for a young person. Afterall, you're young, you've just come out of school, probably no financial capacity to do anything else, no experience and all that. So working for someone at this point is not a bad idea - probably the best start. HOWEVER, you should always have a clear vision of a way out of the modern-day slavery called "a job".

Alternatively, you can continue this way if you want to take an excuse from your boss everytime you have to go to the loo for the rest of your life, let somebody else determine how much you are worth, get fired or made redundant and re-employed, only to get fired or made redundant again and God knows how many times that might happen. You can also remain an employee if it is your dream to miss-out on your childrens life (you are gone before they wake up and back home just after they've gone to bed - but that is another day's topic). Infact, I could write a book on the cons of being in a job. But the truth of the matter is that "jobs" are demonic - simply put. Please note, I didn't say work. Everything in life revolves around work (doing something). But having a job (corporate or not) is SLAVERY because it ends up controlling your life. It dictates what you can or cannot do, what you can or cannot afford. And you are only free from it when you retire at 75, broke, busted and disgusted. And the worst part, you have lost the best of your days just to pay your bills.

If you are reading this, there is still time. Please think of something at least.

Men need Income, not salary

Profit is better than wages

God help us.

I don't know the whole situation, or what you yourself is like (no offence) seeing that she cannot plead her case. All I can say is that a few things must have gradually slipped out of place without both your notice until it got this bad. But in anycase, God is able.

From a little experience, an unhappy or ungodly woman can do more damage than any weapon of mass destruction especially in her home. I'm sure, you have both put a lot of effort into your union over the years, that must be worth something not to be wasted. And I am sure there was once a time when you could do an impossible for her. You just have to take a trip down memory lane in all HONESTY and try to find and acknowledge the cause of this present war front of a home.

A few points to note: Insecurity is a destroyer of many things. And I sense that; to some degree in her case with reference to her insults for your "not calling the inlaw (keyword: "LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE"" instance. Such instances suggests a case of desperation "to fit in" - (insecurity/lack of self esteem/plead to be accepted). I just hope you had no part to play in putting her down to such level. Another source of her present state could be from a lack of identity, leading to a sense of irrelevance and lack of self esteem especially if she has had nothing doing for a while. Again, your responsibility as a man to appreciate and cherish her and do anything that might help her insecurity or lack of self esteem. Things like compliments, assuring words etc, incase you overlooked those over the years. Develop a sweet tongue (you know the drill).

Solution: Bathe her in love, it will be difficult seeing that you are unhappy yourself; but somebody has to be the bigger person. I don't know where you currently worship, but you need to find a living church where the undiluted word of God is spoken. That will really help both of you especially her. Wisdom comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. If I am being too religious for you, try this one: "Evil communication corrupts good manners". Understanding and implementing that quote appropriately in itself, can transform your situation.

Last but most importantly, go to God in prayer.

A divorce should be your very last option, and if you must choose that option, do seek some spiritual guidance.

NOTE: I HOPE YOU ARE NOT THE TYPE THAT IS ALWAYS OUT AND HAS NO TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. If that is the case, you and you alone is responsible for your problems.

God help you.

sorry, hadn't got time to read the whole posts, so I hope I will not be repeating anyone.

But this is a good move. Why was America so quick to black list Nigeria? This so called big countries are so quick to Poo on the little guy.

How many British citizens and residents have been involved in acts of terrorism. Why hasn't America put Britain in their black list and stop kissing each other's a$$.

Bastards

Pifa:
It’s a common nomenclature all over to world to apply color designations to the routes run by municipal transit. Besides it makes it easy for people to identify which trains they will connect to, if there is no direct train line to their destination.

What would you rather they call the lines?

I agree in the lines being colour-coded. It is the norm as you said "makes it easy for people to identify which trains they will connect to". But literally naming them after the colours, i am not so sure about. But having said that, I am not an expert in transportation or any project of the sort. So, if I am wrong, I concede.

Shey them go paint d trains too in the colours after which they are named?

Nice initiative, but wait, I'm I the only one absolutely disgusted by the proposed name of these line?

I mean, what is blue line, red line and pink line.

Is this female Kindergarten project?