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PunkyVeer:
Wow. She sounds like a keeper. It could be her upbringing or just her nature. Either way, it's not a bad thing but gifts sometimes double as a reminder. Something to remember you by when apart. So you say you can't marry her because of religious differences, but do you wanna marry her? She sounds like a really good girl. Don't let her slip off your fingers if you love her.

Darven:
I want to correct a statement you made. The fact that you and your girlfriend have had issues and despite all that, you both are still both together, isn't what makes your union unique, but instead, it's what makes it a relationship. Every relationship is bound to have ups and downs. But that's by the way.

Now, I don't think that you should be sad that she isn't accepting gifts from you, afterall there are a lot of guys who complain that their girlfriends are over-demanding and that they want to drain their pockets completely. If such people read your story, they would want to be in your shoes.

In my opinion, I think there are three things that might be influencing her decision not to accept gifts from you. It's either her background, her religion or her resolution.

Some people come from backgrounds where they were trained not to receive gifts from others and it grows with them.
But I think perhaps her religion plays a huge role in all this. Maybe she is scared that if she accepts gifts from you, and since you are from different cultures and religions, her parents would question her about it and she doesn't want them to know she is seeing you and stuff like that.

Also, there are ladies, although quite few, who make resolutions not to accept gifts from guys, probably because they don't want to create the impression that they are in such relationships just for the financial or material gain.

I think the best thing to do is to talk to her and ask her why she isn't accepting gifts from you and hear what she has to say.

PunkyVeer:
I ask because most women like little "tokens" of appreciation like that. A trinket here & there makes us swoon. I truly do not get her. It's so strange. I hope she's not feeling sorry for you. You're doing ok financially, right? I don't get her behaviour at all.

arcbay:
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Even if u feed humans and cater for their every need, there's still every tendency you'll be betrayed one day...have u read d story of Jesus and Judas?

If i were to choose between u and my dog, anyday anytime and under any circumstance, I'll gladly choose my dog. No offense intended, just stating facts

joseph1832:
OP. You're 21 and She's 20. I would really like to know what you do for a living, and have you finished school or still in school?

I'll tell you for a fact that you're young, I'm not trying to disrespect you but at your age clearly you still have a lot ahead of you.

PunkyVeer:
Lol, are you sure she's really a female?

Anyway, maybe she's afraid of her parents. I mean, if she suddenly has something they know they didn't buy, they might get suspicious & give her the 3rd degree. Muslim parents, from observation, tend to be very strict & overprotective.

MansaMoussa:
I dey observe the dog bros...any kpararam...I go kill am...chop am! I hate embarrassment!

ronald4lif:
Asked coz I wanted to know if your experience with the lady who said you should pay her monthly was in Jamaica, like your present location suggest. So is she Jamaican?.

Well, wherever she's from she must very stupíd to demand monthly allawee from you. Na you born am ni.

IndianaJay:
Poster.............please learn to speak/write proper English first.

Then get a job or something worthwhile doing that will help you towards financial freedom and growth,

you will then find figure out why girls are the way they are and it wouldn't bother you so much.

Ciao.

Laveda:

donjon:
U ARE A SMALL BOY!

many fine uni gals will happily choose his brains over ur looks, u think say carry over easy

Kingsley1000:

Hannysmilez:
Not all arranged marriages have political or financial agendas. Sometimes,parents just think 'that's a nice lady,i would love for her to meet my son.' I know loads of people in arranged marriages who are happy.

Hannysmilez:
Actually,arranged marriages last longer than love-matches and regarding your second paragraph,it's kinda vice versa. It is not the love that brings the respect and trust but the trust and respect you feel for someone that brings about true love.