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I tell people everyday, religion has caused more harm than good in 3rd world countries, particularly Nigeria.

People get scammed, defrauded, lied to, deceived and misled in this country in the name of religion on a daily basis. Does the world even have 5 billion christians? Are all Christians pentecostal? There are billions of orthodox Christians who would not sit down to consume media related to pentecostal teachings.

When are Africans going to celebrate innovations in science, technology and true leaders who have changed the course of history instead of wasting time exalting a blue eyed Jewish man who died 2000 years ago and hasn't done anything for Africa.

Nobody is questioning the impact, the argument is the alleged total number of viewers "5 billion globally" , these are clearly bogus claims.

dawnomike:
Whether 5 billion people or not... It does not matter. What matters is the impact of the event to those reached

What is stunning or eye popping about this? These titles are soo deceptive and meaningless

What advances have you made exactly? Have you tried to kiss her? Have you sexualized the conversation with her? Does she let you touch her arms, hair, waist etc? Is she open to paying u a visit? Do u ask her intimate questions about love, men, dating etc? Have u taken her ti any fun location so she let's her hair down abit? These are unanswered questions that would help us judge her affection level . Till I get response, yes you are in the friend zone and its super difficult to get out of it.

Everester:
Call this thread anything u want, criticize, mark error, I don't care, I just need ur honest opinion, and pls no one should tell me to go make money.

We met some months ago, I got her contact, and u know the rest of this wooing tricks, but the issue is that she is always like I'm not interested and yet, each time we get to meet, she will like to know every details about me

If we talk on phone, she likes to know my current location, she even know some information about me, which I never disclose to her.

Call me a simp, I don't care, but naturally I'm not like this, I don't do this, I'm guided by my church rules, I'm not women freak, but I love her so much, the first time I saw her, I nearly lost my balance, I started having a breaking voice, when talking to her friends, I really love her, and no one should talk about any redpill here,

But today, I got frustrated, I was like, let's define this relationship, I'm not interested in all this ordinary friendship stuff, I didn't get close to u to have u as ordinary friend, I want us to date,
She was like this is all we can have together, friends!
But still, she won't stop interfering with my personal affairs,

Now I'm scared of not getting into friend zone, if u were me, will u try more to persuade her or u just leave her like that?

And pls, nobody should mention anything like "I'm the plan B" cos I know her so much, she is this churchy type, with strict doctrine, me getting her number sef, was a miracle,

So what do u think, am i been stylishly friendzone, or she is trying to forming hard to get and yet we won't stop talking about me.

extol1:
the second to the last paragraph, makes me to ask the op how old are you?

Same thing crossed my mind, when you say getting a lady's number was a miracle it just reeks of low self esteem and unworthiness.
The OP needs to snap out of this state of mind, men get rejected/ friendzoned all the time, ain't no shame in that.....the OP either needs to keep her as a friend if she has the potential to add value to his life or slowly move on from her if all he wants is commitment and she's not keen on it

quote author=YorubaPrince post=99628865]This FFK guy is just as bad as bad could ever be! Very arrogant and selfish Bastard! Ever since I saw a clip of him belittling an innocent Journalist, I lost all regard for him.

Every reasonable man knows their kids would flourish and do better within the mothers custody (hopefully she's mentally stable). Even animals know this.

ONLY in Nigeria would the privileged fools like FFK drag total custody of children with the mothers. A society filled with weak morals.[/quote]Dude, child custody battles happen all over the world. The marriage has hit the rocks and both parties want to see their kids grow up within the confines of their home.
There is really no need to bash FFK, he might not be a great husband but we don't know if he is the best dad in the world. He definitely has the means to ensure his kids live a very glamorous life and ultimately its left for a judge to decide if they share custody or the mother takes full responsibility for these kids... its ok to not fancy FFK but let's also be objective in our conviction.

SweetVibe:
She surprise me with this valentine gift yesterday.
I am shocked beyond words, I was expecting the normal boxer and singlet gift but she surprised me with a 22k wrist watch.
I LOVE YOU BABY

not bad at all bro, not sure what she earns but it's a kind gesture from her to shell out 22k on a timepiece to put a smile on her mans face. What did you get her?

Who did this to you? 2 successive nonsensical posts ?You try to sound intellectual but instead you end up making an absolute fool of yourself

Aredomi:
Here they come. Ethnic jingoists who are always quick to view information through shaded lens. Rather than embrace truths, they hawk around their fairy tales and skewed versions of truths to discredit and thwart honest opinions.. My dear, you'll be alright if you just manage to take 1000mg of Ibruprofen this afternoon

This might be one of the most senseless quotes I have have read on nairaland. Gibberish!!!

Aredomi:
It's good to know.

I'm glad you've just let it out how like many others like Dangote do not have the right to judge, discredit, mock the younger generation that didn't have the privilege of being close to people in corridors of power who had affluence to wealth.


There are many Dangote with legendary visions in the young minds but without access to push-buttons. So when next y'all criticise the younger generation show some respect. We nor be una mates

The IG should be tested for drugs IMMEDIATELY!!!

How does this affect the average nairaland user? Sigh!!!
We don't give a shit what scandal affects celebs or whatever, we have our own problems I beg u

https://punchng.com/six-scandals-that-rocked-nigerian-entertainment-industry-in-2020/[/quote]

MBA Forex

The Alaafin of Oyo is the premier Obaship stool in yorubaland, Osinbajo is a yoruba man and knows the ins and outs of the yoruba culture.

Obasanjo, fayose, Tinubu etc would most likely bow for the same reason.

Long live the king!!!

I gained admission at 23, studied geology at a university of technology ( 5 years), served l, got a job instantly and I have been working since 2011. Infact I have switched career completely, getting a second degree in Marketing and communications.

Please go for this degree, it would eventually be useful and it puts you in a position to achieve a lot more later in life. Education is the best legacy they say.

Good luck

Who cares?

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

What a life, does your wife mean traditional marriage does not amount to anything in today's society? U are her husband, and u have married her albeit traditionally, if that's not enough for her to engage in sexual activities with you then your wife is outright primitive.
I advice you do not go ahead with the orthodox wedding, this is cheap blackmail and is a horrendous way to start marital life. You might need to to reorientate your wife as she clearly thinks marriage is child's play.
Just my 2 cents

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

For me, I believe drastic situations call for drastic measures. How can your spouse be your biggest source of misery? This psychopath has no regards for your feelings, marriage as an institution or your companionship.
I am with your dad on this, he does not deserve you, d mistake most people make in life is that they reward bad behaviour..... I suggest you withdraw your love and attention for him and see how he reacts, if he still wants the marriage, let him know what he needs to do otherwise you might sink into depression slowly.
In the meantime, do not let this interfere with your quality of life, do fun stuff... hit d gym, I learn how to dance salsa, learn a new skill at your work place etc... that way he would see that you are not a slave to your emotions like he might expect.

Good luck

tomi87014:
Help, Trouble In My Marriage

Hello Nairalanders.

I have been married for a year and half. I thought hubby and i have been living happily and i would've swore he was faithful. A few days ago i saw that a random lady messaged him on Facebook and they got talking. I was shocked at first to see that he was chatting her up. Fast forward to yesterday I checked his phone and saw that himself and the lady had more conversation and what started as facebook chat had progressed from phone calls to whatsapp chat. The content of their chat seems they were eventually planning to hook up.

I confronted hubby but he wasn't remorseful and told me he doesn't owe me faithfulness and went on to sleep in the other room. Hubby and I pray together and are looking towards a very bright future together, this is not something i really saw coming from him. I am very troubled in my heart and pregnant for our first baby. He dozent feel any atom of pity that the whole issue might cause me problems and I have been wondering what has come over him. I am 100 percent faithful to my hubby and want the union to work out. I am at work typing and holding back tears. Please i need advise from mature people in the house, how do i deal with the situation. I am in my late 20s, he is in his late 30s.

Ok. For starters i am terribly sorry about what ure currently going through and wish this air of negativity blows away in no time. Ok, so their is a saying that goes " if it aint broke dont fix it" rule number 1, if you truly love ur husband, trust him and have a smooth marital life like you claim then you have no business probing his social media activity. It speaks volumes about ur degree of insecurity and idleness. Your husband makes a friend on social media, how is dat bad? This sort of attitude is what drives men to cheat... when a woman starts acting too nosy and unnecessarily jealous. Has his attitude changed towards you? No... is ur sex life great? Yes.
So i agree he is ur husband and u deserve to know certain things about him but unless it is impacting your marriage negatively then he can chat with a friend or 2 on social media. Its a marriage not a prison sentence where ur every move is monitored.
Ure pregnant and need as much strength as u can muster both mentally and physically, at this point count ur blessings. Take some time out with ur husband to state ur case logically. Maybe after lovemaking when he is vulnerable and make it him understand how his seemingly divided attention is affecting u. He deserves a fair hearing. Ask him if their is anything ure not doing right cuz if he needs to chat with anyone u are always here for him as opposed to some social media lady. U might just be panicking over nothing. And dont take everything he says to heart, human beings say alot of things they dont mean especially when they feel compromised.
Good luck and have a great day.

Lubyna:
One thing I have realized from reading comments on this website is that a lot of men do not understand that some women have certain financial standards when it comes to dating, and nothing can make them lower those standards. So guys, when a lady says she can't date a broke guy, try to first ruminate on the information I want to pass across before deciding to label her with derogatory appellations.

When I say some ladies, this "some" constitutes a certain category of ladies. This category includes ladies who are ambitious, hardworking and goal oriented. They are aren't idle or ignorant. They are intelligent, well informed and most times are financially bouyant. These are the kind of women I am categorically referring to. If this kind of woman says she can't date a broke guy, then she is justified in making such statement, and any guy who insults her for making such statement or tries to refute her statement with the kind of pathetic comments I read here, is indeed pathetic.

How does anyone expect a woman who is working towards being financially successful and expending time and energy towards this goal, to settle for some guy who earns WAY less than she does? How can a financially ambitious woman lower her standards and spend years waiting for some guy "who has potential" to make it? Let me unpack this last statement because it's a bit radioactive. There are different gradations of potential and that's why I used quotation marks. There are men who have an education that confers a high competitive advantage in the job market, or skills that can catapult them to high rungs on the financial ladder. If a financially ambitious woman meets this kind of guy and he is working hard everyday to become financially stable and secure, then she can lower her standards a bit and grind with him, but only for a while. If after few months or years and this guy isn't making any progress and she decides to go, no one should blame her. Maybe the guy isn't smart enough or isn't just lucky enough. She has the right to leave him and find someone who is financially compatible with her. Yes.
But this only applies to men who have real potential, not some guy who just has a degree or skills and isn't taking diligent steps to improve his finances.

What most guys don't realize is that being broke or just having enough money to subsist, are indicative of certain traits women in general aren't attracted to. Traits like laziness, unintelligence, lack of ambition, bad luck, and a lack of good education. It's not the fault of a financially ambitious woman who is financially bouyant herself if she doesn't want to mingle with broke people, let alone date them.

Instead of dating a guy that has good qualities, the kind of women I am referring to would rather find financially bouyant and ambitious men like themselves, and then proceed to look for these good qualities. And YES they are justified in doing that. Abi is it only broke guys that have good qualities?

Lastly, if any guy is asking out women who don't fall into the category of women I am referring to, then such guy has low standards and deserves the rejection he is receiving from his fellow broke girl.

Easily one of the best articles i have read on nairaland. A far cry from the typical uninformative and intellectually barren threads.
Financial compatibility is of utmost importance to women of substance, fellas, its as simple as that. The alpha male understands this concept deeply and consequently stays ahead of the pack in the quest for a dime chick. Certain women wud push you to the limits of ambition, financial intelligence and confidence, these women are typically worth the trouble when you consider what they are bringing to the table as well
The write up was righteous to say the least..... great stuff

If these figures are real then this might be the most influential video game of the last decade. Cant wait to get my hands on this