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apparentlylaw:
Wu be dz Werey ?

adahgold:
well said dearie,I love u! Wish I had someone like u. Good tinz will follow u all tru ur life...

Trustworthiness:
Are you saying you are from a motherless home. And you can't discuss this with your mother or your father or both?

Loosing your virginity does not signify love nor will it make any man to love you. So, save your virgin to after marriage. I bet you you won't regret it if keep your virginity till after marriage.

I don't think you know what you want in life. Do you want boyfriend or husband? If you want by you know who to choose. But, if you need a husband the 30 yrs old guy will be only your option if the younger guy of 23 yrs old his not ready for marriage.

I bet you, the younger guy may not be ready for marriage now but the older guy, from your post, is ready but do not want to push you against you will.

If it is sexual urge that is driving you, why not discuss with the older guy about marriage and you can get your urge satisfied all the time with you.

As per the guy not always being around in your events. What did you expect from a serious business guy that you are yet to key yourself into his life by marrying him. If you marry him or after marrying him, you will put you into consideration anytime he wants to travel. You even travel together if he has the money.

Mind you, gift from a man or any action from a man you called caring and loving before marriage is only a game played by men to get what they want. It could be good or bad. Loosing virginity before marriage visit totally a bad idea. Definitely, you will regret it except if the man that deflower you is the one that marry you and you yourself have not been sleeping around with guys . Because, that the two ways most problems women do have after marriage starts from.

Moreover, love from the heart of men are not real yet until after marriage. It is the women themselves that have to plant the love into the heart of men through their good home training and morale background that follows the women into their marital life. This start by the man being the one that disvirgin you after the marriage and not before the marriage . This increase the trust he has for you and increase the marriage bond.

This is my advise to you and all the singles reading ladies reading this post.

cr7lomo:
She said she wants people that are experienced and not kids like u to confuse her. The reality of life is that the new guy is more mature and is always around her . Did she mention that she is engaged to her bf or married. 95% of young relationships don't work.

The truth of the matter is that ur young bf will eventually loose interest in you as u grow older .

A man can't truly love u until he is ready to settle down and that's a fact .

Ur bf might love u today and fall out of love tomorrow when he meets someone he feels is better because change is constant

Don't allow all these posters saying stick with ur bf that is not always around to confuse you

@ zaralady , are u married? The answer is no , and u are getting older. The young bf u had and trusted later dumped u , do u know if ur husband came while u were wasting ur time with ur young bf. now u are here deceiving the young girl to make the same mistake u made and some people are calling u love counsellor . What a wicked world

shadowgwalker:
1- talking about dumping, are you an object? it's not a new thing. it's even possible he's shining some other CUNTinents out there. my advice, focus on your life, be a
woman of integrity. a serious man will come crawling.
2- it's possible, afterall the later friend is closer to you more.
3- I'm warning you,don't waste your time to live a frustrated life later, pursue your career and don't get distracted. relationships are dangerous commitments.
4- loosing virginity to a guy is oldschool and epic, you will end up loosing your value and integrity. at the end,boy of the guys will forget(my point;you can never satisfy a man with sex)
5- by God's grace, at the right time.
6- you will only regret allowing yourself drop your guard for relationship sake.
7- hian! don't you have ambition?you better focus oh. weigh it, go for the one that pays your dowry.
8- is this life?your head is filled with bf bf bf bf!!!

Rareg:
I second what zaralady said. It's important you stick with your boy friend, the other guy is just distracting you. Pls be focused. All that gliters is not gold....

gymnasium:
Zara he's not saying the other guy is a better person, let's look at the story very well and carve out points

1. Distance and unavailability of the first guy has taken its toll on the op thereby forcing her to get another companion

2. Distance relationships are like a coin with two sides its no guarantee for lasting love

3. The op herself has started a trend she believes the first guy would not follow which we al know its not possible

4. The op should stop decieving herself and follow her head, cos its natural for guys to get jealous and ask you to quit your first love and follow them she started the trend so she should follow it through

Drops ma pen.........

kraftsta:
Wow! Gal u are d best...I think u should b in a TV show making lots of money...nice counselling....#thumbs up

XBLadez:
My dear, the new guy is ready to settle down. A guy who has nothing good in his mind for a girl won't take her to meet the parents! That's just one secret about men that u may not know. Granted, the parents of the mature guy likes the confused virgin and call her 'daughter'. Don't u understand what that means? It means they accept her!
The other one is abroad, schooling. What's the possibility that after graduation he would still love his 'Naija babe'? And don't forget he hasn't taken her to meet the parents yet, and nobody can say they'd accept her if he eventually does. Their age is close and their educational difference is wide. These are factors too

JoeCutie:
I get your point, it's absolutely spot on. But then, that "use" of the common sense is actually what we see as the common sense itself. Unlike what the name suggests, it's not common at all. I think 'common sense' is not common.

But you're wicked sha.

JoeCutie:
Common sense is not common at all.

XBLadez:
First love with young people don't normally work out. Na Nollywood dey deceive them

Ignatiusprince:
... My dear,First of all, u are not faithful.... u have cheated on ur guy and now even thinking to give d 2nd guy sex... while ur guy has not even disturbed much on that.... I don't think u love ur guy as u said coz if u do, u won't give chance 2 d 2nd guy and have done everything with him, seen ur unclothedness, and touch every touchy parts.. why u said u are sure ur guy z not cheating on u, who z now cheating on each other... U don't love ur guy plz,coz u wouldn't have given d chance in2 a romance section wiith d other.. Every guys are not d same but anything can work despite age.. 4 some1 2 advise 2 leave ur guy 4 him means he can leave u 4 another, coz Itz a game.. he should have waited patiently 4 u and plant d love in u... Change coz 4rm ur bad ways, coz I guess if Itz ur guy that did diz, u won't 4give him...

ogaprime:
For this your comment ehn! May God almighty bless you left right and centre, side behind and above. May your future husband carry you like an egg in his hands and not inside basket. May your children read this post and beat their chest that they have a woman of virtue...na your type this world need ooo. Stay focus

Collins0609:
u b id01t . u dated u bf and he left u and u still want d gal to pass through it. the OP na f00l. I can never b too nice to a gal.he gets u everything and shower u wit attention and u are not satisfied. what have u contributed to d guys life. d guy did all dat for u and u have done nothing for him.u tink making money is easy or do u tink u are beautiful, go and visit ashawo .do u tink u have better qualities. at ur age u are still seeking advise. d guy in abroad will dump u and d oda guy will marry a better gal and u will ruse ur chances. Ewu Gambia. I know you still allow oda guys access to ur body. virgin ke. there are many good gals dat are no virgin.ur type will cheat on dia husband. u don't deserve d oda guy.leave him now so he can find a better love. d guy is blind cos u are a virgin. forgetting dat ashawo was once a virgin

Beverlyjean:
In the beginning , he said I can be with my bf but it seems like he started changing words when my bf missed those dates while he was available but even with that I might wanna be with the one I love

ZedX6:
First of all, end the relationship with the guy abroad. . . It's pointless. It won't work. Long distance relationships are an utter waste of time.

Now.

1. Yes he will dump you, therefore, you're screwed both ways anyway. It wasn't going to work. Dump him yourself and let him move on.

2. Yes. As long as that distance exists between you 2, one of you must eventually get tired of the nonsense.

3. You cannot be sure of anything. You cannot trust him. You don't even trust yourself. You are dating someone else already, and you still ask this question? Are you for real?

4. No. Don't ever do that. Having sex with him proves nothing. If he loves you as he claims, he'll wait.

5. Life is not a fairytale. It doesn't happen like you watch in movies or read in books. You are guaranteed nothing. No one makes a choice for you. You can only get advice, but the decision is yours. The consequences, you'll bear alone. I don't know if you'll find another guy or not. I'm not God. What I know, I have told you. Left for you to choose.

6. Again, no one knows what will happen tomorrow. Your mind has shifted from the guy abroad for so many reasons. Forget him and move on. Then bear the consequences of your decisions. At 21, you're an adult.

7. Use your head. The heart is mostly wrong.

yemicoal:

zaralady:
The two have different beauty, nnaji is very beautiful, nadia is very pretty, u could compare pple like Martha ankomah and Jackie appiah, or genevie and Jackie appiah and nadia buhari and some fair pretty actress...I forgotten one gal's name..but nnaji and buhari really u cnt find who is more beautiful becos dey re two different skin complexion and dey re beautiful in dere various ways

maskid:
If he is not nko.... Wetin go happen

Jackeeh:
I think The man is just lazy in bed. He probably thinks being massive is everything. I'm very sure he's the wham bam kind of lover/husband. No pre-intimacy. Just dive in and out. Endowed guys sometimes don't bother about a little romance and pre-intimacy cos they feel they have the only thing the lady wants. Married people, no matter how big or tight he or she is, romance n pre-intimacy can make him seem small n her, not so tight. Instead of divorce, increase the pre-intimacy and romance. This takes patience. And also ensure there's no infection or any other health challenge( on d lady's part). BTW, sex before marriage still remains a SIN.

Ipledge:
Thank you for what?she gave you money...see scam oo,after u paid dowry,u gave her dick for and u still the one saying thank you

Nelton:
My take on this is simple. Sex within marriage is acceptable. However the bible never gave explicit instructions in how this should be carried out. Infact in most places in the bible the word KNEW was used to describe sex ( he KNEW her ) .So there were no instructions on how one should have sex. Generally whatever is done between couples within the context of marriage should be acceptable, however like someone mentioned the essence of sex was for procreation and definitely procreation cannot occur with anal sex. We all know that sex is meant to be enjoyed and in a bid to derive maximum satisfaction man has invented varieties of ways to do this, but subconsciously we should be able to decipher which one is good which is bad. Anal sex is filthy and unhygienic as far as I can tell and as our bodies are the temple of God it will be wrong to engage in an unhygienic act. As for MouthAction, it is left for the couples to decide generally because if you feel that your joystick is safe inside her honeycomb and your honeycomb can accept his joystick that is to say you both clean in that area so as adults you should be able to decide what you want. Like I said earlier sex is meant to be enjoyed only within the context of marriage. ...anything outside marriage is sinful.