zaralady:


@ 7, she cnt use one without the other it's like a car without an engine, u cnt drive

My question wat gives uu the confident dat dis guy is a better person for her...a guy who advice her to dump her bf for him? which decent pesin does dat, and who says ditance relatnship doesn't work??...

JoeCutie:
I hate all these threads and so much unnecessary talks of virginity and sex.

See... You already know what you want.
Do you actually want me to tell you to have sex or not to have sex? Like I'm the one to experience that 'Oh-My-God' sort'orgasm...

If you want to f*ck, f#ck. If you don't want to f#ck, then f#ck off!

gymnasium:


Zara he's not saying the other guy is a better person, let's look at the story very well and carve out points

1. Distance and unavailability of the first guy has taken its toll on the op thereby forcing her to get another companion

2. Distance relationships are like a coin with two sides its no guarantee for lasting love

3. The op herself has started a trend she believes the first guy would not follow which we al know its not possible

4. The op should stop decieving herself and follow her head, cos its natural for guys to get jealous and ask you to quit your first love and follow them she started the trend so she should follow it through

Drops ma pen.........

nallypaul:
Hello dear by this u won't get the answer u seeck. I would to share a similar story with and the out come but it won't be here. Whstspp me 08035307959. The other is best option for one reason and he may be doom for you if your not sure of the reason. I await your msg. Paul I studied gardian and counciling in ABSU

Beverlyjean:

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

RicardozRichard:


Since u don't watch nollywood

What about this China movie Title "" JUN TAO DIE BECAUSE HE NO MIND HIM BUSINESS""

or you don't watch CHINAWOOD too

shortisland:


Title sounds Italian. Anyways have a wonderful day

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

AgapeCharis:
What's wrong with 9 years difference in marriage?

zaralady:
Hhhmmmmmm...dis one is strong!...my dear my good advice is to stick to ur bf, reason because a guy who is comfortable dating u while u re a relatnship ll someday cheat on u while u datin him,secondly, he is selfish, for him to ask u to dump ur bf for him...gal Dats not a good person to me...my dear u got urself into dis mess....wen I was datin my bf I got a crush on an extremely lovin guy who wouldn't mind datin me while am datin my bf, but I knew wat I wanted...am not a cheat and I cnt leave my bf for someone else...because u love ur bf doesn't mean u wnt love odas....u jst hav to control ur emotionals...don't cheat in a relatnship if u cnt stay, jst leave!...u had better dump d oda guy and stick to ur bf else u ll end up loosin both, I was in dis shoe before and wat I did was dump the distractin guy and focus on my bf tho we re no more but I didn't regret my actions...y not confess to ur bf abt wat has been going on and as him to forgive u, @least dat is a test of love....u don't need to follow ur head without ur heart or heart without ur head all u hav to do is do the right tin....do the right tin gal and it includes not cheatin on ur bf..i cn tell u since Ave been in relatnship I hav neva cheated on my bf before...not even once, be prouud to b among the decent gals

Rareg:

I second what zaralady said. It's important you stick with your boy friend, the other guy is just distracting you. Pls be focused. All that gliters is not gold....

shadowgwalker:


1- talking about dumping, are you an object? it's not a new thing. it's even possible he's shining some other CUNTinents out there. my advice, focus on your life, be a
woman of integrity. a serious man will come crawling.
2- it's possible, afterall the later friend is closer to you more.
3- I'm warning you,don't waste your time to live a frustrated life later, pursue your career and don't get distracted. relationships are dangerous commitments.
4- loosing virginity to a guy is oldschool and epic, you will end up loosing your value and integrity. at the end,boy of the guys will forget(my point;you can never satisfy a man with sex)
5- by God's grace, at the right time.
6- you will only regret allowing yourself drop your guard for relationship sake.
7- hian! don't you have ambition?you better focus oh. weigh it, go for the one that pays your dowry.
8- is this life?your head is filled with bf bf bf bf!!!

jashar:
Leave both.

Focus on building your career or brand. You're young. Or are you ready for marriage now?

My spidey sense tells me you attached to the 2nd guy cuz of material things.

JeffreyJamez:


EVERYTHING!!!

foxxynik:

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They're not sane..... Look up for the word "sane" in the dictionary.... Any man who does dat isn't sane...
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Men who hunt for married women aint sane... And married men who hunt for single ladies aint sane.... No real man will toil with the heart of a woman!....
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Listen...I've had cases where ladies trip for guys and the guy will turn them down...simply becoz they can't cheat on their spouse.... I've also had cases whr reasonable ladies turn men down becoz they can't cheat on their relationship....
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If u're inexperience....u'd believe that they're no sane men in this country.... But I tell you what... They're a lot of them... Its not a new thing.... Men who hunt for engaged ladies do that at their own peril....likewise the ladies.....
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Never say dat...a sane man will behave in such a demented way...

JeffreyJamez:


EVERYTHING!!!

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

AgapeCharis:
Nothing is wrong with it. The 2 years difference is the one that isn't so cool (I didn't say wrong) but if they can manage themselves with it then, they should continue.

Do you know women age faster than men? A man of 50 years will still look young and smart but his wife if 48 years will already be an old woman. It isn't so cool to still look young your wife looks like your eldest sister or aunty.
You get my drift??

JeffreyJamez:



When the young don't take care of themselves they'll look old..... I know many women who are old in age but look very young, Momsi Jeff included... so don't even preach that old age line for me,I no gree lol......9 yrs is too much abeg

EOOJ:



There is nothing wrong in dat ooo infat I have a friend whose parents age diffrence is 15yrs....my parents 8yrs n my uncle n his wife 19yrs age difference n all living happily.

Love n mutual understanding matters

My opinion though

AgapeCharis:
And two years is so perfect??

JeffreyJamez:


O yes!...... highest 5yrs......but 9!!....haba na..... [s]when you dey 100lvl she just dey enter JSS1......[/s] no let German juice deceive you o,na small pikin o

Beverlyjean: