falconey:
I think you should follow summarize!!!!

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

JeffreyJamez:
30 yrs old guy wooing a 21 yes old girl....... BIG MISTAKE....make e no go find him mate!!..... and to think he knows she has a bf and still pushing it......the girl sef na wa....better stick with your bf o...or get married to this one and become a slave for the rest of your life..... a whole 9 yrs difference fa!!

lordfamuu:



What else can I say than a total disagreement to ur 'theory". But for sayin u are an author, thumbs up to dat for engagin in sumfin worthwhile. But please, u seriously need some sociological research in dis ur aspect of interest, and while doin dat be very very REALISTIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

deloon:


On the contrary, a great percentage of sane men do that. It's part of the hunt. You should put the blame on the lady who agrees to follow him.

zaralady:


My dear I hav dis feelin dat if u leave ur bf for dis guy u ll regret it, u better knw wat u re doing

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

acidtalk:
Its been long I made a comment here. I will do so because even though you are young, you really sound mature and humble.

Now this is my 20 shillings;

* I totally understand your feelings for your boyfriend, but truth be told, the feelings appears to be so strong because he is the first you ever gave a yes to his proposal.

* Your boyfriend is still too young to get so committed to. For crying out loud he is just 23 and just starting life. Aside the issue of settling down which I doubt he won't be ready for in the next 5years, before he can be termed a REAL MAN WITH EXPERIENCE he will need almost 7years or more of "hard knock life", rejection, betrayals, boss/employee politics, businessman/client relationship, family gimmicks and lots more. Being a man isn't all about graduating from school, getting a job, buying a car, living in your own apartment and sexual experiences. Maturity comes with age and time. I still believe your boyfriend hasn't attained that stage.

* Before you can start comparing your boyfriend with this other guy, you need to spend more time with your boyfriend as you do to the other guy. Long distance relationships are always the SWEETEST. But a NIGHTMARE when both parties see themselves regularly. What am I trying to say? You still really don't know your boyfriend as much as you think you do.

* NEVER EVER vouch for anyone, not even your own mother. Saying your boyfriend will never leave you is a bloody lie. You are inexperience, naive and too deep "inlove" to think any man/woman can not dump you at anytime without any explanation.

* This other guy might not love you more but he is likely to be more serious and committed to the relationship due to his age and maturity. And bearing in mind you are young, a graduate and MOST OF ALL a virgin, any right thinking guy will want to grab you fast and marry you while he copes with your immaturity rather than settling for most of the "breathing PUBLIC PITS" we have walking all over the nation right now.


If you aren't ready to marry in the next 5-6years, stick to your boyfriend even though no guarantee he won't dump you before then, otherwise, give the other guy a chance.


Kiah! My fingers dey ache. Come buy my book LOVE TALK BY ACIDTALK if you want further advice. Lol!

All the best.

Beverlyjean:

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future. I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

EnlightenedSoul:


Oh, how people would wish it were so, but that right there is complete and utter bullshyt.

Well that's your problem not mine

Collins0609:

u b id01t . u dated u bf and he left u and u still want d gal to pass through it. the OP na f00l. I can never b too nice to a gal.he gets u everything and shower u wit attention and u are not satisfied. what have u contributed to d guys life. d guy did all dat for u and u have done nothing for him.u tink making money is easy or do u tink u are beautiful, go and visit ashawo .do u tink u have better qualities. at ur age u are still seeking advise. d guy in abroad will dump u and d oda guy will marry a better gal and u will ruse ur chances. Ewu Gambia. I know you still allow oda guys access to ur body. virgin ke. there are many good gals dat are no virgin.ur type will cheat on dia husband. u don't deserve d oda guy.leave him now so he can find a better love. d guy is blind cos u are a virgin. forgetting dat ashawo was once a virgin

ogaprime:


For this your comment ehn! May God almighty bless you left right and centre, side behind and above. May your future husband carry you like an egg in his hands and not inside basket. May your children read this post and beat their chest that they have a woman of virtue...na your type this world need ooo. Stay focus

naijaboiy:

if you think you Love two people at once,,choose the second.

Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have a second option

Confused set of species

babyosisi:


she may be taking it in the rear while his electric fingers are yonder to preserve her hymen
They still call themselves virgins
Sucking ojolima and spitting or swallowing
All na virgin o

I don laugh die this morning.

zaralady:


@ 7, she cnt use one without the other it's like a car without an engine, u cnt drive

My question wat gives uu the confident dat dis guy is a better person for her...a guy who advice her to dump her bf for him? which decent pesin does dat, and who says ditance relatnship doesn't work??...

Ignatiusprince:
... My dear,First of all, u are not faithful.... u have cheated on ur guy and now even thinking to give d 2nd guy sex... while ur guy has not even disturbed much on that.... I don't think u love ur guy as u said coz if u do, u won't give chance 2 d 2nd guy and have done everything with him, seen ur unclothedness, and touch every touchy parts.. why u said u are sure ur guy z not cheating on u, who z now cheating on each other... U don't love ur guy plz,coz u wouldn't have given d chance in2 a romance section wiith d other.. Every guys are not d same but anything can work despite age.. 4 some1 2 advise 2 leave ur guy 4 him means he can leave u 4 another, coz Itz a game.. he should have waited patiently 4 u and plant d love in u... Change coz 4rm ur bad ways, coz I guess if Itz ur guy that did diz, u won't 4give him...

davide470:

Me: BarMan, give this guy two chilled bottles of Heineken

BarMan; No o. Oga, he does not take beer

Me: OK, OK.. Give him two chilled bottle of Water..

Nice One, Naijaboiy

Thanks oga!...make I use that one cool body this morning

franugo:


are u trying 2 insult kim k







Mtchewww, it's like saying dt Africamagic award get d same rank as Oscars

kimie k na baba-ress!

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

cr7lomo:



Do u know how many women are unmarried now because of ur wicked advice ? With the economic situation in the country , unless the bfs dad na chairman but if not , the girl is wasting her time . U are livin in a fantasy world and I think u are the ops mate and that's why u reason this way .

Op u go wait tire for ur bf

zaralady:


U knw wat sugar?...it's a shame u hav no common sense even wen it's "common" whew! I cnt believe one cn b dis dump ,forgive me if dis sound like an insult but den am expressin my disappointment of u bein a fool @ ur age thnx

foxxynik:

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Check the previous thread...heard there was a lost and found brain... It could be urs....
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Coz the brain u used in typing this junk isn't urs....
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The girl u're dissing gave the best advice ever... No sane man will meet a girl who's in a relationship and ask her to leave the man and follow him...
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How will u feel if the girl u're dating...perhaps married to... Leaves u for another man? Simply because the man is twice ur standard..... Every girl, is supposed to join heads with whoever they're dating to make a better relationship....other than hoping for Mr Perfect to come their way with lots of gift and material things....
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Even when the relationship didn't turn out well..and she left.... She's proud to tell u dat she never cheated on her man...dats a joyful thing to say.....its highly dignified.... And I respect her for that..... If u've ever dated a girl dat cheats on you...you'll know what it is to date a girl dat wil never cheat on you...they're rare species....

daveP:


(replay cctv feed of how naijaboiy dropped "hardlines", bounces off with flied polo, he returns three mins later to join the queue of advisors; seems he still have more hard facts to drop. He sights cococandy standing hands akimbo and waves)

XBLadez:

First love with young people don't normally work out. Na Nollywood dey deceive them

brownlord:


@foxxynik pretty silly comment here