As coolier said, try and do whatever you can for your siblings. Personally, i don't think it's wise to try and pursue what your mum might have left for you guys. Hopefully, if you are able to help your brothers come over, you can all work together and rebuild your lives.

Re: details of your mum's passing, you might never get the full story. Try and remember that no matter what lead to her death, that she is now at peace, no suffering, no pain and she would not like you to be stressing over these things. So please, try and remember her the way she was and cherish all the good times and work for your personal happiness. All the best and remain blessed

Yo girlie,  your family would be heart broken when they find out that you've been up to no good.  @ Members of the forum, don't you feel for the poor man who worked for heard for nothing,  Her family picture is attached, please anyone who knows the family should please tell her dad to go and collect this feral child from port harcourt. I wouldn't like her to run up her mouth on the street and get killed.

Good try KDK, you only want her to kick the bucket before you - so you have the opportunity to take a young bride.

Romeo! Romeo who rattled you cage. A lot can change in 12yrs, can you be sure thats not the baby father? Easy bro

May Kelly, can i ask you, did you go to iboland to get an ibo man and can't get known. Instead of being bitter, i might be more constructive to approach an elderly ibo lady to help you. If you really beg her, she will call a meeting with her sister friends and they will find one for you. No matter how wrenk you are, there must be an ibo man that can manage you. You carry on like you don't like ibo's but you speak the language, that dont make no sense. Sis, keep it real, all you have to do is ask.

Some women who can't get/keep a man are quick to say 'i don't need a man'. I find men are more honest when they need a wife/partner, they will even ask you to link them with a friend. SOME girls keep fronting, hiding under women's lib and as soon as the hit the 35+ mark, stress under the realisation that biological clock it ticking. Instead of hating and cursing that the men are pigs. One needs to do a self assessment and analyse why there's pigs in your circle. No one is too big to make adjustments inorder to attract the right guy. Nothing but love. peace and out

Well said Bluehorizo.

As someone said earlier, its all bout who you fall in love with. I'v been with my hubby since my late teens, happily married with beautiful children. His Jamaican parentage was not an issue to us. Personally i can't see what all the fuss is about. Whatever makes one happy.

@ poster, could this be your dad in london, although he is using Didier instead of Paul

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/3445121.stm

I am speechless.

Every relationship is different. From my experience it depends on your partners needs, one man's food is anothers poison.