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Brokenbars: @Zomo, is he not supose 2 leave his family & cleav 2 his wife? i hav left mine. i dont discus private maters with dem like plans not yet materialised.

Brokenbars: Renee, im just worried. u wouldnt know which one is envious or bitter about his achievements.

Les: you cannot tell maturity through this thread, for the fact one is never attracted to slim girls doesn't make him any less matured. I'm never attracted to slim girls but will never marry an endowed lady as per the post you quoted, thanks.

Andyblaze: Ur love don bust my brain. Wheneva i type ur name, i feel like my pubic hair has rub sporting waves cream

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kulyie: exactly.if he didnt,he will get the exact opposite reaction from me

dominique: Benue, Adamawa now Rivers. Why do the states keep changing every year, do the PLWHA keep migrating or what? Benue that used to be ridiculed as an HIV ridden state is not even in the top 3 states of PLWHA. I don't know what to make of all these inconsistencies.

obailala: To a large extent, most married men that cheat did not plan to be cheaters, they were forced into that situation by their wives. The unfortunate thing with it is that once it starts, it can hardly be stopped. Most women get married and after the first child, they forget they have a marital duty to their husbands.

I have countless number of guys who complain about getting the cookie once a month or even 2 months and this is after endless pleas, tricks and gifts. At a point these 'good' husbands get frustrated and eventually become scared to even ask their wives for the cookie, then comes the 'temptation' into the situation. A man that is this frustrated, God forbid he falls for the temptation to look outside and then the women folks open their mouth to say 'all men are the same.'

Deep Soul: Men are just insatiable. Some of them even go as far as repeatedly having unprotected sex with women who arent their wives thus exposing innocent women to all sorts.

Na God they save person.

Prayer: Lord, please give me a good man.

coldgate: I can identify with Gaggi's position. It really isn't that the attraction to sex is gone. What happens is that the couple get so comfortable in their relationship that they may not grab at each other on every turn. Hubby is going nowhere and same goes to wifey. No need to grab and hustle. It is all yours whenever you want it. Besides, wouldn't you rather leisurely savour your ice-cream. Than hurriedly gobble it down?

Princess zoe: And you are thinking of parting ways because of this? Just for this only? Not even as a result of adultery? These days marriage sounds more like a social club where one comes in and goes out anytime any day he wishes. Now oga, why you have not being able to solve this problem is that you don't do it with love; you have not been doing it as if she is one body with you; you have not being doing it with sacrifices; you have not really being showing her the sign to trust you enough in the sense that you know what you are doing. You think parting ways will settle the matter? You think divorce will free you from marriage turbulencies?

. Divorce and remarry and you will still see another set of turbulence which will be very different from this one you are facing and might be worst...

mutter: you are justified to think about divorce...meaning you see this as a big problem and indeed it is.
when you love someone you do not bring shame on the person and you do not break bonds the person shares with family and loved ones. you can keep distance without being rude. This woman is egoistic because and acs to your detriment.

bellong: Even if she was offended by someone from your family, she doesn't have to go to this extreme behavior in registering her grievances.


I don't know your wife to be able to actually give a concrete advice on what to do but I know communication is the first step in resolution of differences between couples. Probe her heart as to why she is acting negatively to your family. Let her understand that she has more to lose in future than gain if she keeps to her ignore mode of her in-laws.


If she were a child, she needs a koboko reset to default settings. Her action is awkward and uncalled for.

zomoears: I hv bn married overr a year now. But all thru this period my family members have chosen to maintain some distance from me n wifey.this is cos wifey has got anattitude.

She makes me feel like am *spoils ofwar*, somethig she won after a long battle, like i am her prize, so my family should hands off anything that has to do wt me.

She doesnt answer calls from my sisters n mother. Not even birthday n christmas day calls to wih her well.

Ofcourse all mysiblings r graduates n up to one biz or job, none hangs around me n none depend on me.so when they call, its just to inquire about our welfare.

Still she doesnt take their calls.

My joy is nt complete. She is supposed to be an addition to d family, n not a source of division. Am at a loss.

bellong: I am sorry about this situation, it is pathetic as you described it.

How was her attitude to your family members prior to tying the knot? Did she change suddenly or her change came about as a result of some occurrences?
Even if she was offended by someone from your family, she doesn't have to go to this extreme behavior in registering her grievances. Probably, she has the notion of me and my husband alone, ...

How is her attitude to her own family? If she acts same way, she probably needs a psychological help. Meanwhile, you can try all you can in the meantime to diffuse this situation before your own people. For the love between you two, while making efforts to understand her negative attitude, help repair her "rep" before your own people before they completely turn against her.

If she were a child, she needs a koboko reset to default settings. Her action is awkward and uncalled for.

jumzzy448: So sorry. Have you ever sat her down to discuss this with her? If no, i'll advice you do that. Tell her how you feel about her attitude towards your family; also ask her how she'll feel if you were the one acting this way towards her family. Hopefully she might let it all out.
My two cent.