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She is still looking for Johnny. Johnny ooooo...

OnpointDesign:

Shiiiiiiit.

I knew that modafucker used jass to punch Wilder.

Cos if u see how tired and dejected Wilder looked in the 5th to 7th rounds en.

Only ogun could have handled such feat.

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We would be running naija down if he had lost...

Alas, everyone wants to be associated with success

kerzhim:
This is so obvious, Supreme Court does not have the jurisdiction to take away people's mandate without their consents. Bayelsans unanimously voted for APC.... I was so ashamed with the Supreme Court Judgement based on what the Nigeria constitution and INEC constitution says on how the mandate does not belong to individual but the party. The Apex Court should have ordered the party to produce a new candidate in place of the elected deputy or perhaps called for a new election.
In the case of Kogi State, when a Governor elect died before inauguration, APC as a party had to be ordered to produce another candidate. Why did they not give the mandate to PDP.
Nigeria constitution is just a mess.

In Kogi state, the "candidate" or "aspirant" died before the final result was declared. He was not yet governor elect. If only final result had been declared before Audu died, Faleke would have inherited the ticket.

That, my friend, is the fundamental difference.

APC could also have given the ticket to Faleke, but it seems the guy was stubborn and a Tinubu boy, so they did otherwise.

Davash222:
This is how my God will pack out dirty and nonsense girls out of my life.

If you say you be gutter
...na only no sense de enter gutter na

Jeffmonti:
My concern is what my girlfriend will do to herself, if she leaves I’ll have my self to blame and move on. if i have my way i will pay child support to for the child when he/she come out after a DNA test of course. But I’ll never marry a desperate woman. I was thinking of calling Lola on another phone and set up a meeting to let her i know I’ll pay child support. But not sure if i should wait for the child to be born first or just do it today. I have been really restless for many weeks.

Brothers learn from my mistakes abeg

"Do with herself" or "do to herself"?

If you are worried about what she will do to herself, I think you are hinting on her emotional management issues. If the emotion is anger, then you should be more worried about what she will do to you eventually.

Tell her the truth. Break up with her and try to move on. If she is yours, she will come round after a while and accept the reality of the mistake. If she is not yours then move on. But don't try staying with her for long if you know she has anger management issues.
Be the one to tell her parents yourself, so they can understand that you respect them but made a mistake. They may be upset, but if they are reasonable people,they will understand that you made a mistake, and will you manage your babe for you.

That's d problem with having a regular shagging partner. You both become careless and just do away with protection. Do you know if she was shagging someone else, HIV, STDs or other issues could have come up?

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

It is your opinion. But it does not mean you are right. Worse still, you have d nerve to call him stupid. Maybe he
1. By nature, men are not as resilient as women. Sleep deficiency takes a greater toll on men than women. Is it when he starts making great blunders at work and gets sacked that you will realise it is a real issue? He moves to a spare room to solve that problem. I commend him for this.
2. Did you read the part where he said his 9 year old child still sleeps in the same room as parents? What is a 9 year old doing still sleeping in the parents room? And they even have a spare room o!
From 2 years I ensure separation. And I have four kids. Ask me how that has worked out. It helps the children develope a sense of Independence. Of course there will be a transition phase during the separation where they cry a lot, especially with the first child. But you are the parent, and you need to do what is good and right for the kids.
3. He got it wrong with the 7 month old child. When there is a child in the house, everyone adjusts. He is insensitive to think that the mother should separate the child now. She could get a cot for the cold, and baby stays in the same room. That way he gets to cuddle his beloved and have spontaneous sex the way he likes.
4. Buy her gifts as a reward for what exactly? Dearie, he should rather take her out a lot so they can bond more and spark up their marriage.
5. They need a live-in helper to cater for the house chores and help with the kids. That way madam will be less tired at night and they can have more pleasurable sex.
6. What is alpha male? Is it pretending that stuff don't affect you that makes you an alpha male? Twisted reasoning. What happened to discuss and resolve? Why can't she realise she is married to her man and not her kids? Why can't he make mental adjustments, knowing that after a year or so things will improve?

By the way, husband sees sweet looking beautiful girls everyday who are career side chicks and will give him mind blowing sex. But he comes here to seek advise and you give him insults?
He wants to be faithful!

Ok,now I am sure who the stupid one is, and it's not him. He is insensitive but not stupid. I don't know about you though...

crackkhaus:
Here's how a woman explained this submission issue. I can't remember her name, but I remember she's a business exec. I tuned the TV and encountered the programme where she was being interviewed.

She said,
For a woman of her calibre who can take care of herself and travel anywhere in the world whenever she wants, she will explain what submissiveness means from her perspective.

1. I don't have enough money, so I meet my husband and tell him I wish to go on a vacation in Venice. He turns down my request and insists a vacation is not important at the moment.
I really need the break but still I accept and don't bring it up any further - this is obedience, not submissiveness.

2. I already have more than enough money from my business accounts enough to treat myself to a vacation. I meet my husband and tell him I wish to go on a vacation in Venice. He refuses and insists a vacation is not important at the moment.
I really need the break and knowing I won't be able to convince him, I accept his decision and pipe low until next summer - this is submissiveness.


The summary was that a woman is said to be submissive ONLY when she defers to her husband's authority despite the facts showing she could very well live, survive, and treat herself to a great life completely without his financial effort.
Every other situation is just women being obedient because they have no other choice.

Would it then be right to say that this is the fundamental reason why women of old were deprived economically?

Or were they just wired to be dependent?

Taking a cue from the Bible to juxtapose with your position, can it be said then that the women of the Bible days were economically independent? Why were they asked to be submissive and not obedient to their husbands?

Just trying to expand the scope of discussion.

Obedience
/əˈbiːdɪəns/
noun
compliance with an order, request, or law or submission to another's authority.
"children were to show their parents obedience"

Submission
/səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/
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noun
the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
"they were forced into submission"


I read somewhere, where a writer attempted to differentiate the two concepts. I can't remember the exact source of this argument. But if I recall correctly, the attempt to differentiate the two was hinged on "capacity" and "ability".

He argued that most women are obedient and not necessarily submissive. The "obedient" ones are forced to "obey" their men by a lack of "capacity" and "ability" to do as they "will".

My take

A woman is only truly submissive when she has the capacity and ability to do something else, but still "choses" to bend to the "will" of her man.

Notice the key words.

Obedience.
Submission.
Ability.
Capacity.
Will.
Choice.

A truly submissive woman chooses to go along with the will of her husband even when she has the capacity and ability to do something else. She chooses to desire that which pleases and alligns with the desires of her man.

An obedient woman has no choice but to be obey her husband because she does not have the capacity to do other wise.

The typical African woman before today did not have the capacity and ability to reason in a certain way. She was "obedient" and not "submissive", strictly speaking.

She did not have any input in the rules and covenants that governed society. She was not economically empowered. She hardly had a choice or voice when it comes to making key life choices like when and whom to marry. She was not allowed to enjoy sex and was not allowed to speak up about her sexuality. She lost her identity once she got married.

Key question remains, was she happy about all the above? Losing her identity? Not enjoying sex? Not having inputs in the ways of her society? Was she happy about her economic status?

Today's woman is in a transition phase. Still struggling with the values of the past, while embracing the new teachings of the day. The numbers are doing a see-saw, tipping one way, then the other. The women are hovering between liberal thinking to conservativeness. While more and more women have become economically empowered, educated, and sexually liberated, the conflict within the ever conservative African society brews beneath the surface.The blame can be narrowed down in main to women, who as mothers, teach their sons to retain the old ways, while at the same time insisting on liberating their daughters.

The result is that the sons are not ready for the kind of women they grow to meet, and the women are not ready for the kind of men they grow to meet.

In the past, obedience worked because of lack of education and lack of economic power of the women. Today, we are in a transition phase as many women have been educated though many refuse to be liberated mentally, sexually and economically. This refusal is a conflict avoidance mechanism adopted by many to fit into the conservative society they find themselves.

The woman of the future will be educated and liberated, having the capacity to generate her income and ideas, and to make choices on her sexuality. If she makes a "choice" to be with you as a man, it is most likely out of other factors and not economic reasons since she she can provide for herself. This will come me as a shock to the ill-prepared.

We need to prepare our men for this future. We need our mothers to give their sons the right foundation to cope with the woman of the future. The men, as fathers, need to accept the reality of the world to come, and foster an enabling environment. They need to man up as well as up the game, so their sons can have heroes and good examples to copy from.

The future is knocking.



Ability
/əˈbɪlɪti/
Learn to pronounce
noun
1.
possession of the means or skill to do something.
"the manager had lost his ability to motivate the players"
Similar:
capacity
capability
potential
potentiality
power
faculty
aptness
facility
propensity
wherewithal
means
preparedness
Opposite:
inability
incapacity
2.
talent, skill, or proficiency in a particular area.
"a man of exceptional ability"


capacity noun (ABILITY)

[ S ]
someone's ability to do a particular thing:
She has a great capacity for hard work.
[ + to infinitive ] It seems to be beyond his capacity to follow simple instructions.
Do you think it's within his capacity to do the job without making a mess of it?



Capability
/keɪpəˈbɪlɪti/
Learn to pronounce
noun
the power or ability to do something.
"he had an intuitive capability of bringing the best out in people"
Similar:
ability
capacity
power
potential
potentiality
competence
proficiency
accomplishment
adeptness
aptitude
aptness
faculty
experience
skill
skilfulness
talent
flair
cleverness
intelligence
gift
strong point
forte
knack
know-how
Opposite:
inability
incompetence
the extent of someone's or something's ability.
plural noun: capabilities
"the job is beyond my capabilities"
a facility on a computer for performing a specified task.
"a graphics capability"

Thegeneralqueen:
It's so sad her husband left her in this terrible situation i hope she sue him

Typical emotional response from a woman.

Have you bothered to ask what led to this situation?

I don't know either, but I won't judge till I get more facts.

EFCC detention centre
Old Boys Association set 2019

[quote author=Jewessgratitude post=85210837][/quote]She can't try divorce o! Nigerian society is harsh to divorcees! Besides, those guys she is sending pic to will evaporate the moment she becomes a divorcee.

Try counselling. I suspect there is something seriously off.
Condom with his wife?
Does only anal?
Why is he avoiding conception? Or is it that he is unemployed and does not want the burden of family yet?
Anal is supposed to be tighter, so is that she is slack?
Is he a closet gay?
Or is he planning to bail out, so wants no kids with her?
Does he have a secret family somewhere?

Too many issues need to be addressed.

Preciousgirl, you both deserve to be happy, so a calm mind will address these issues better. Keep a cool head and take everything to God in prayer, not some silly manipulating pastor.

And don't flirt around o! For a very sexually active adult,one month of no sex may make your temper a little cranky, but women have better control. Don't go tempting the devil!

franchasng:
You guys have started again with this satisfy her sexually. Pls stop polluting the minds of married ladies. What else is there to satisfy Didn't they court or dated for some time and I am sure indulged in intimacies countless times and she was satisfied with his sexual prowess, so why the sudden chant of maybe he is not satisfying her sexually


Is marriage all about sex If you talk about the man not providing financially as the husband then I will say it is totally wrong but stop all these not satisfy her sexually. You guys are polluting the minds of married ladies with all these tales of how to satisfy a married woman, stop it!!

Dear Sir,

Nature has already done the "polluting". Women have needs too, and pretending that those needs are not there will not make the needs go away.

Sex is like a haircut. An excellent haircut today, does not mean you will never need a haircut again, NO! You will still need a good haircut in a week's time for you to look good. The need for quality sex will not go away because you are married, or that you have had sex before.

Learning to satisfy your woman is akin to building a happy home. Have you heard a sexually satisfied woman sing in the kitchen or shower? Have you seen how much energy she puts into making you happier because you gave her multiple orgasms the previous night? Me, I enjoy watching her sing all day and laugh at every little thing, knowing that I made her that way with my dick. I don't know about you...

Honestly, I used over 8 paragraphs in my submission that you are criticising, but you picked out the sex aspect only. Maybe, just maybe other aspect of my submission are right.

Sincerely, the marriage has serious issues.

The husband is over reacting. Why go violent? He is immature emotionally.There are mature ways of handling these kind of issues that will lead to dissolution of the marriage if that is what he wants, or will lead to a resolution.

Maybe the lady has not adjusted to the marriage and what it takes to run a home,having been used to living free.
Maybe she expects to see maturity in him before she accords him respect, and he has not shown that.
Maybe she is not sexually satisfied and she is lashing out in other ways.
Maybe he is not providing,so she accords herself the "manly" status since she provides.
Whatever the case, the man is over reacting!

Who knows what words were exchanged that led to phone been smashed? Their souls are both hurting from the words exchanged and they have refused to calm down and forgive, forget, and forge ahead.

The root of it all is discernment.

I can tell you for free that "educated" ladies need tact and maturity to handle. They are hardly humble and rarely faithful. Marriage is usually a shock to them, as marriage means less or no more attention/money from guys as before. The backlash, they take it out on their husband as he is the reason why things changed, and when not well managed, they often tend to drift back to their old ways (when he cannot keep up sexually and/or financially).

preciousgirl sounds like she has refused to be domesticated by marriage.

And her husband has not found a way to win her heart and make her forge ahead in the marriage.

Discernment and maturity will guide them to a better and happier home.

ColonelEmeka:
You are not smart by half



*Drinks Gin*

Running a covert operation within gangs and outlawed organisations is permitted, so long as they serve the purpose of gathering information for national security. While operatives who are members of these gangs on covert operations are permitted to carry out the activities of the gang so long as it serves national security. We have never argued with this modus operandi.

However your interpretation that this judgement is a blanket endorsement of kidnap, murder etc, is pure mischief. Read again.

Or maybe, the issue is comprehension skills. Someone is lacking it!

ColonelEmeka:
*Sips wine and smiles*

Our human rights noise makers who call USA and UK should come and read and see what happens in "saner climes"

Come and see what their version of DSS are authorized to do and then call them to come and set your own house in order when their own house is in shambles

*sips more wine*

You are trying to be smart by half. Nice try.


"Judges on the Investigatory Powers Tribunal declared in a majority decision that MI5 has the power to permit INFORMANTS to operate in criminal groups, even if the policy itself confers NO LEGAL IMMUNITY. The case focused on powers that were only disclosed last year by then-Prime Minister Theresa May."

unmask:
so you have proof someone got into mbbs with 225?

I know someone who got in with 225.

And the rest of my write up, can you contradict anything I have written?

Bedwyr:
Do you have proof that anyone got into ABU Medical Facutly with score of 205??

1. Typographical error. I meant 225,not 205.

2. We see this backward policy everywhere; intake into the civil service and government agencies, secondary school common entrance, university admission, intake into military and para military, or any government program, etc. Those who make it based on meritocracy are barely 20% of the intake. The rest are based on this kind of allocation to minimally qualified persons, while the highly qualified ones are made to seat on the sidelines.

Sad thing is , the policy tends to favor a geopolitical region, that is why there is a national outrage.

I repeat my question. When less qualified persons run the affairs of the nation, how can we make progress?

IAmStrange:
Look at another insincere approach!

It's either you are insincere or you are ignorant of the whole thing

First of all, I'm not supporting what the school did. my message was directed to those who attributed what they did to Islam in the previous post that went on front page.

If you didn't see that post, go and check front page.

So my message is directed to those that attacked Islam because of it.

And secondly, the school has already explained the reason why they did what they did. did you not read the post?

So what is your claim of "assassination of hsrdwork,
diligence and meritocracy" based on and why would you go to the extent of calling me "not qualified to complain about bla bla bla"?

again, it's either you are sincere and just wanted to attack me like the rest of your people or you are ignorant of the whole thing.

By the way, Imes is coming

The admission policy is an affront to meritocracy.
How do you explain the fact that 302 did not get admission,but 205 got it? Most of the complaints are about this policy that fails to reward hardwork and diligence, but rewards mediocrats based on state of origin. And clearly, you are in support of this backward policy that has placed incompetent people at the helm of affairs in Nigeria simply based on their state of origin.

How Naija go develope?

pocohantas:
At least they left the size of his manhood.

U had to notice that....

Eeevil eyes!

soviete:
Hypocrite!

Read this thread.

https://www.nairaland.com/5546422/asking-naija-girl-date-u

If you want to progress as a young man, change your orientation.

Okafor's law de do d guy...u have been fvcked by him once, u can be refvcked if he feels u owe him pension .

Just kidding.

Seriously speaking though, if you don't take his calls, you will never know...

Eat that frog. Take his call!

...as a first step to becoming a goal keeper trainer/coach, yes.

As a fix to the goal keeping crisis, NOOO!

Kylekent59:
What if they had decided not to air it just like other stations?


Nigerians just like to exaggerate a situation with any slightest opportunity they see.


At least the match was aired. You guys should stop criticising them.

Settle for less mentality.
Make we manage am like that mentality.
Why did NTA Hussle for broadcast rights, only to make a mess of it?

Grow, young man. Do away with this mediocre thought process.

Been Murray Bruce tried to modernise NTA when he was DG, but mediocre thinkers thought he was moving too fast. Should NTA be broadcasting images that look like we are back in the 70's?

Moddr:
COME HERE AND BE ADVERITISING YOUR CONGENITAL IGNORANCE. Capt Wada was never in the military. He is a foremost aviator. If you are conversant with aviation- you will know that they undergo rigorous medical checks every 6 months at home or abroad. If this one is the only straw bello is hanging on to- then it is safe to conclude that bello is a total goner. Make e just remain small money to charter truck to carry his loot from GOVT house. It is over for him. Imagine the audacity of suing with a supposedly leaked document. I can bet my life the document is even fake.

Dear Sir,
We need draw the line here.

Bello has taken Kogi so backwards that it nauseates one just thinking about it.

Wada is from a family whose mental history is suspect.

Between a rock and a hard place, Kogi will not fare any better.

As for your attempt to drag me down to your gutteral insultive kind of discussion, stay in d mud, I won't join you there.

It runs in d family.

Is Capt Idris Wada not his blood brother? Capt Wada himself was alleged to have been discharged from the military due to mental health issues.

The only sane one on that family seems to be the former CMD of Garki General Hospital.

Kogi is in trouble.

Can't be sure, but I think it's a scam or a phishing scheme. U get to release sensitive info which is of value either ways.

Besides, u are required to "fund your wallet" and also "pay a shipping fee".

Me I don't believe.

Sanchez01:
Taison is stupid. I saw the game yesterday and felt he could have protested by walking off and then see whether or not club authorities won't back him. Already established black players plying their trade in Europe don't even go at the fans the way he did.

He is Brazilian and he should have known better how to handle this. Regardless of the racist chants and abuse, there was no way he'd have walked away freely after pulling that stunt. Ukraine shares a similar mindset with Russia and racism. An average Joe knows this.

He could have injured a child in the stands yesterday and even got sued had his shot injured someone.

I agree with you to the extent that he could have handled it better. Football is a game of passion, and his emotion got the best of him.

God knows for how long he had been tolerating the abuse both on and off the pitch.

Wiseandtrue:
Is she not too pretty to be a boxer

Anyways, Catching them young!!! I hope it doesn't affect her schooling

I wish her all the best!!!

A proper plan for her should include her school abroad where her talent will be properly harnessed. We don't have the standard facilities and environment to bring out boxing talents in Naija yet.

Niamey in Benin republic?

Shallow journalism.

faithfull18:
Don't even understand your writeup. And what is wrong if you support her and she owns the business

You probably need to read it again.

Her business takes time to grow. His is currently supporting the family. If he abandons his business, the family finances will suffer for a long time before her business picks up, if it picks up. But he needs her support for his business to grow some more.

Easy way out is for her to support him to grow his own, generate the needed capital, and later grow hers. The family will suffer less financially.