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How To Mend A Relationship That Is Going Downhill by seleroms: 2:06pm On Aug 09, 2012
Are you experiencing a breakup in your world? That happens to a lot of people and you want things to be different? You want to have that relationship that you once had back together again. Every time this sort of thing happens it doesn’t get any easier to cope with.

This relationship reveals some strong emotions that emanate from you. Let’s see if I can spot some of them. Do you feel at odds with yourself without him? That is a normal feeling to have. Now that he is out of your life do you feel lonelier? Are you trying to mastermind a strategy to get him back at any cost?

Regaining your relationship doesn’t have to be complicated at all. In fact you just have to change the way you approach the situation. Prior to the relationship turning south was it going too fast? Were you giving hints of a strong relationship as in marriage even though you were still dating? If he wasn’t ready for that type of commitment then you may have gotten him scared off.

People act that way.Unless they are ready for a lifelong relationship that type of talk has to be handled very diplomatically.

It could have been that he felt emotionally bound before himself making a decision that he wanted a marriage relationship. Each individual in the relationship really has to make that decision on their own and not be obligated to make it for them.

Maybe he felt too much pressure to follow while you were together with your demands. Not wishes but demands. Now understanding this view of human psychology you may need to take heed of yourself and your own personality.

Are you dominating? Do you make statement ultimatums? You don’t have to answer to me but to yourself about this and be honest about it.

Men need to feel independent and need to feel that they are in charge of circumstances. They definitely need to have their distance from time to time. Once a person feels trapped into a relationship without fully understanding it they may jolt out of the gate. In this case it may have happened that your boyfriend just needs time and space to figure out what they really want in life.

Relationships are like the game of chess. There are no quick moves in chess. You have to think 2 or 3 moves ahead of the current move. When you are dating the subject of marriage and long term commitment has to come naturally and on equal grounds.

Once things start getting too fast and assumptions are made that the male doesn’t agree too then you start having troubles. If they feel they aren’t ready then they’re not. If they feel pushed into a certain direction they certainly won’t feel comfortable.

To make sure that he wants a long term relationship you have to let him want it as much as you do. If he has gone out of your life temporarily you have to let it go for now. If he has gone into his own space and you really want to get back together again you will have to be very smart and selective on what you say from this point on.

Do not force the issue and you’ll have to start all over again re establishing the relationship that you once had. In fact just let him know that you aren’t pushing any type of agenda and let him know that you are available for him to talk anytime.

You need to let him feel like he’s calling the shots and that it’s on his direction for the relationship to get back on track.
Since there is no direction right now and you’ve let him know you’re still interested you need to make him feel like he’s chasing you. Once you do get back in a dialogue let him know of how important relationships are to you.

Let him know that you aren’t in the dating game per se but really looking for a long term commitment and leave it at that.

In order to get what you want out life you have to dramatize it a bit.

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Re: How To Mend A Relationship That Is Going Downhill by 190: 2:20pm On Aug 09, 2012
just hustle for money by either crook or nook means

the relationship would sort itself out when theres cash!

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Re: How To Mend A Relationship That Is Going Downhill by Nobody: 3:55pm On Aug 09, 2012
190: just hustle for money by either crook or nook means

the relationship would sort itself out when theres cash!
gbam

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