fstranger9:

You sound like someone who has been out-competed? lol

You are right jare. You out-smash-it me and it's annoying


No foreign accent jare

BTW, Stranger, when did your Stranger series reach NO.9?

THE LADIES HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT TO LEAVE A QUALITY LIFE, THE LOVE AND MONEY SPENDING HAVE TO BE MUTUAL.

Ola one: BTW, Stranger, when did your Stranger series reached NO.9?

Ask Seun. He alone has the answer. Me, I just react to his whims

fstranger9:

Ask Seun. He alone has the answer. Me, I just react to his whims

Don't mind that Seun boy. They all hate Chris Stranger

.

Agiliti:

well self preservation, of which s/e/x is a major ingredient...im not sure people like einstein and tesla were thinking of punanny when they made their discoveries

. May be they're preternatural beings, abi?

oluite: Growing up as a young girl,it was unheard of to live beyond your pocket money,questions will be asked if your hairdo was too expensive or you have what my mum calls 'unusuals' in your wardrobe or amongst your stuff.Accepting gifts from guys,wahala!!!There must be an acceptable explanation.Talk less of actually asking a guy for money.It was drummed into our ears you must have values,be contented,work hard,be independent et al.

Recently i was so embarrassed when some guys in my office where complaining about todays chics, a guy travelled with his girlfriend for a wedding,he paid all expenses.Suddenly the girlfriend sister and friend appeared in the airport expecting the guy to foot their travel expenses as they claimed to be stranded.These are all working class ladies.Of course no plan to pay back and his girl friend didn't see anything wrong in this arrangement.Another time,a young working class girl ended a relationship majorly because the guy couldn't give her a specific amount for her monthly upkeep. Please she knew exactly what he was earning as well and it wasn't so fantastic?!

I heard and seen many of such from young working women,only to come across a thread here with something similar.Mothers can we discuss this? How did this become the in thing today,where many working single women expect the men in their lives to foot all their bills? Maybe some women are not aware that this is not a good attitude and there should always be balance,boundaries....

the moral decadence in nigeria is peerless. the parents, religious leaders and the society don't care these days how the money is made! people have traded their ethics and moral values for their gluttony!

the men must share some of the blame too. nigerian men have gotten lazier too. they cannot be arsed again to go through the motions of chasing and courting - they pay express service to get the girls laid and move on to the next one....

Materialism ko, raw material ni.
You aint seen nothing yet.
Better be ready to spend your kidney and liver to maintain a relationship in the days ahead.
The fight to live it up is intense and will not abate anytime soon. So, please, spare us all that sermonizing.
Girls of today are in a league of their own and we men propped them up to that position.
By we men, i mean we fathers, boyfs, wannabe lovers and lovers.
Of all of these mothers are the worst culprits because no one is closer to a daughter than the mother.
So, like mothers like daughters.
Like fathers like sons.
Who wants to drive a 505 now when you can do an AudiA8?
We all are materialistic in this new age and time.
Values? That died with Noah and was washed away by the flood of his time.

knotty: Materialism ko, raw material ni.
You aint seen nothing yet.
Better be ready to spend your kidney and liver to maintain a relationship in the days ahead.
The fight to live it up is intense and will not abate anytime soon. So, please, spare us all that sermonizing.
Girls of today are in a league of their own and we men propped them up to that position.
By we men, i mean we fathers, boyfs, wannabe lovers and lovers.
Of all of these mothers are the worst culprits because no one is closer to a daughter than the mother.
So, like mothers like daughters.
Like fathers like sons.
Who wants to drive a 505 now when you can do a AudiA8?
We all are materialistic in this new age and time.
Values? That died with Noah and was washed away by the flood of his time.

Good point. Let's all slog it out then. But, from experience, women often lose out

oluite: Growing up as a young girl,it was unheard of to live beyond your pocket money,questions will be asked if your hairdo was too expensive or you have what my mum calls 'unusuals' in your wardrobe or amongst your stuff.Accepting gifts from guys,wahala!!!There must be an acceptable explanation.Talk less of actually asking a guy for money.It was drummed into our ears you must have values,be contented,work hard,be independent et al.

Recently i was so embarrassed when some guys in my office where complaining about todays chics, a guy travelled with his girlfriend for a wedding,he paid all expenses.Suddenly the girlfriend sister and friend appeared in the airport expecting the guy to foot their travel expenses as they claimed to be stranded.These are all working class ladies.Of course no plan to pay back and his girl friend didn't see anything wrong in this arrangement.Another time,a young working class girl ended a relationship majorly because the guy couldn't give her a specific amount for her monthly upkeep. Please she knew exactly what he was earning as well and it wasn't so fantastic?!

I heard and seen many of such from young working women,only to come across a thread here with something similar.Mothers can we discuss this? How did this become the in thing today,where many working single women expect the men in their lives to foot all their bills? Maybe some women are not aware that this is not a good attitude and there should always be balance,boundaries....

Hmm. Maybe there is hope afterall.

Slug out as much as you want, these girls do not give a hoot about what lies ahead.
Today is all that counts, everything else is collateral damages.
After all, its their lives

May God help Us All.

phraze: I had a gud gurlfrend 5yrs ago. While we chatted i revealed to her then that she wil disown me. 5yrs came and she did. I love our women, strong and up to any task but the post traumitic emotional stress they face after a one break up or the other lingers with them forever. They need Physchological Pills and God Heals.

your girlfriend disowned you? rofl
please elaborate!

I grew up in a house filled with strong,educated women.The deal was that if a woman was well educated,she would be independent and able to proudly pay her way in life without any insult.
Sadly when I got to school,I wondered what all the fuss was about girl-child education?
Several of my classmates who made 2.1s, women with real potential simply pissed away their degrees and packed into the houses of guys who could barely feed themselves so they could answer Madam.

May God Help Us.

@CHIMSKY^^^^^
Ordinarily,nothing is patently wrong with your home assumption that education holds the key to a woman,s freedom other than the naivety that comes with such reasoning as you timelily found out.
Who wants to pore over some nonsense books when you can have it all dropt at your doorpost by a poor boy who has tolled and toiled all his life to have a girl at his armpit called by his name?
But then, this line deviates from the discourse of this thread.

May HE help US.

phraze: just look at you. You give more grieviences than a pitbul... Just look at that.. Yea she did. I am unhappy she joined the cult. All of you women. A war is coming Soon. Change or Die. My 3cents. WHORES!

she joined the cult n disowned you or you left her because she joined the cult? which is which? so sad a woman had to turn you into a complete maniac who now clamours for war on women!! better slow your roll before you hurt a woman by bathing her with acid or committing murder!

God! Help Us.

God bless this poster

love of money is the root of all evil. the first blame must go the parents.

GOD BLESS MY MOTHER!!!
When I see my sisters today, I just can't but thank God for the mother that trained them.
If I never associated with other Nigerian babes I would have probably thought all ladies were as decent, hardworking and 'shy to collect' like my lovely sisters.

I stay in the part of Town where though the rents are extremely high, you get mainly young married couples and bachelors living in the Estate. One thing I have noticed is that 90% of the young bachelors drive in and out with at least 4-5 different ladies in a week.

What this means is that it is almost a miracle to see guys repeating 'a lady' in a week. You want to ask why? Most of these guys spend heavily on furnishing their houses and buying powerful automobiles (some on loan while some are from debt from family and friends) just to live a fake and inpressive lifestyle. Most of these girls almost never want to leave such a guy after visiting is well furnished and high tech apartment, knowing the guy is a FULL fledged bachelor.

Now the thing is while some are there to always demand to meet up with their poverty stricken hungry stomach, some just stick along and want to associate with a so called "big boy".

To be fair to some ladies, the ONLY ones who don't demand are girls from extremely comfortable homes and who weren't influenced by peer pressure. A larger number of girls out there are just irritating annoying panhandlers.

It's just the damn Nigerian way
Greed Greed Greed
Our men doing all sort to get the money
Our women turning the blind eye to how the money was gotten all because of the thirst for good things life has to offer.

Armed robbery is yet to be synonymous with Nigerian females so logic tells me that if the men stop feeding these obvious thirst then may be just maybe our women will learn to understand and appreciate the benefits of hard work

Seriously a lot of us fall into the "who to blame" in all these. From family to friends and individuals. Bad homes breed bad chicks. 9ja guys too don't help matters. By their fruits ye shall know them, its even in the bible. I meet a lady for jus 30mins and I know the kinna gf she might turn out to be and its left for me to back-out or stay and finish my pocket because I think the said lady is "so" pretty. Growing up has taught me that beauty is in the mind and heart of a wife-to-be and I move with that in mind. The thing is that wise guys that have some extra cash have fun with the young ladies who are into the "worldlies" and marry a decent girls..the ladies we are tAlking about here are mainly between their teenage yrs and maybe 27 cos after then they really start thinking about settling down and the way to achieve that is to put themselves together or end up single and the talk of people Who knew them since.

@ Jamey Maxwell, seems u have a serious grudge with both local n foreign artists. lol

The problem is not with your daughter, it is with the human race. Mankind has a nature of always wanting to gather as much as possible, under different excuses. As we approach towards the end-times, these sinful traits will get multiplied and appear as though it is a new occurrence. Materialistic tendencies have always been there.

warrior01:
yeah! You're right but where are they?

hahahahahahaha, infact, were dem de??

The bad economy visited on us by our corrupt and evil leaders have definitely contributed to this phenomenon immensely.

It jumped-start it.

But after, other very powerful factors came in. Nollywood like someone has said has really done of damage to our young girls over the last 10 years. Then the music industry. Almost every song is about having a lot of money, and girls flocking around you because of the money, and earning people's deep respect and admiration because of the money; even their love songs are about money-love: that is if you love me I will spoil you with money.

Imagine teenage girls singing and dancing to P-Square's song: " you must chop my money, chop my money, chop my money o, because I get am plenty.....

Yet when you listen to lyrics of the song and watch the video, you see that it's talking about love from a respectable woman.

So when teenage girls listen to these type of songs 90 percent of the time all their teenage life, what kind of young women do you think they will become.

The same goes for our teenage boys too. They only have respect for their elders, except the ones with money. They look down older than them who don't have money. They respond non-challantly to people they think are poor and are exited to run errands and gist with a bros loaded and sophisticated.

Nigeria men also have this issues with materialism. I met a guy online and everthing was perfect on the fone.We were friends for a month. The day he came to my office and realize i m not the million dolla babe as he expected, that was the end of the friendship . Nigerian men actually go for this pourch babes and end up complaining of how greedy and fake they are.I think people attract like minds.So if u are a man that settle for morals and values, there is no way you would end up with fake and extravant ladies.

mevisbleek: The problem is not the women but the men. Naija men find it difficult to tell women that THEY CANNOT AFFORD SOMETHING. Guys then earlier u start saying to ur woman "BABY I CANNOT AFFORD THIS", the better for us all.

dont generalize pls,just admit u dont kno when,how and where 2 say no