Mr. Dreamer...this is when a guy likes a girl, who sees him more as a friend or as a brother, and always come to him whenever she's heartbroken, needs a shoulder to cry/lean on, needs advice on how to save her relationship with another guy, needs money to buy birthday gift for her boyfriend or to give her guy to use as transport fare or take care of his financial needs. we have guys like that, who despite their love for a particular girl they are always placed in the friend zone. when the girl doesn't feel the same way or pretend not to notice his feelings for her. and atimes, we have girls who do this on purpose. especially if the guy is not the kind of guy they dream about or desire to date. they usually take him as a friend or treat him as such. by coming to him with one need or the other. telling him anout their boyfriends or excapades with other guys, sharing her pains with him and using him to heal her pain whenever she's heartbroken only to go back to the guy who hurt her or find a new boyfriend. Oblivious of the pain she's causing the guy, who most times just sit and sulk in silence. My guy if you are in such a situation, abeg stop wasting your time and go look for a girl that'd like and love you. for there's always a girl for every guy. dont let any girl use you to heal her pain and then jump into the arms of another guy. abi na so you want am? This same thing happened to a guy like that. who was so much inlove with a girl on campus, but the girl was already seeing someone else. and more so, she saw him more as a brother and never really gave him the chance to express his feelings for her. but whenever the girl is heartbroken she always run to the guy for succour. even when she had issues with cult boys, it was the guy she ran to for help, when her boyfriend couldn't do anything about it. and whenever she was in need, it was the guy she always run to. she knew the guy liked her, but never really came to liking or having the same feelings for him. things were like this till they both graduated from school. You cant really force or cajore someone to love you. love comes naturally. If you are in such a situation, abeg wake up and look elsewhere. Cos she's not that into you (and may never be). Simple! This issue is also vice versa. cos we do have ladies who have crush or feelings for guys who either dont notice them or are dating other girls. they do their best to make a guy love or feel the same way for them but to no avail. such a girl ends up becoming an adviser to the guy on relationship matter. her love is hardly returned by the guy, except if the guy is one of those bad guys who might want to take advantage of such a girl, just for pleasure and still be with his main girl. but I dont blame them, i blame the girl, cos once you realize the guy you are dying to date/or have a crush on, is seeing someone else (or in a serious relationship). dont try to 'force' him to love you. cos if you do, it might back fire on you later. Like I said, look elsewhere for your own love. he or she is out there.