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Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 12:31pm On Oct 01, 2012
Please I want to be extremely anonymous. I have been married for about 2 years and I have been TTC (trying to conceive), I have done all tests which shows that I’m perfectly alright.

My doctor keeps saying something that bothers me though; ‘we need to probe your husband, 5 out of 10 men you see nowadays can’t make a woman pregnant’.

The issue here is, my husband has refused to get tested for some reasons, he says we should wait for God’s time and he doesn’t trust his semen to the labs e.t.c.

How can I convince him to get his semen tested? I love him so much and i’d still love and be faithful to him if the problem is from him. Our families have been concerned but we haven’t told them that my husband has not been tested
http://hotwapy.com/2012/10/please-advice-my-husband-refuses-to-test-his-semen-is-my-husband-infertile/
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Emmyk(m): 12:40pm On Oct 01, 2012
Let him see the bright sides or getting the test done.
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 1:57pm On Oct 01, 2012
The doc said that the lady is fine, so what else can it be ( if not that the husband is infertile)? The important question IS: what does this wife expects to do about it, if she gets a confirmation of her husband's fertility status.
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 2:40pm On Oct 01, 2012
Single ladies planning to marry pls stay away from dis kind of men dat posses d following characteristics,(dat is if u value ur life and future than pheneese) Arrogance,sturboness,pride,egocentric behaviours and inability to listen to contrary advice is what unmarried women hoping to marry should look out for bfor tying d knots.stop suspending ur brains when u are courting just to get d ring because wen challenges of marriage comes i.e in posters case,its only God dat can help,end of discussion! @ poster d only alternative u have is prayer.oya men start attcking,@ least dats wot u know how to do.....
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 3:52pm On Oct 01, 2012
Go the post about DNA and you will find your answer https://www.nairaland.com/1060584/three-10-men-not-fathers/7#12387214 cheesy
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Oct 01, 2012
But I don't know the reason why men don't like having fertility test.dunno what they are really scared of!
@poster if your husband is adamant,talk sense into him.if he still refuses,maybe you should involve your inlaws.he can't keep waiting for God for a miracle when he hasn't played his own part!
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 5:33pm On Oct 01, 2012
^^^ abeg care to tell us what is this going to change..... Obviously the man already knows or is afraid to get the dreadful confirmation....... But is there anything they can do to solve it? Is KNOWING going to make the issue any different?
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by oln: 8:09am On Oct 02, 2012
Mr Brownjay,abegi the hubby's fluid test will go a long way to help solve the problem because it will give the medical personnels the knowledge on how to manage the problem.
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 10:23am On Oct 02, 2012
^^^ the lady wrote that she would still love her hubby if the problem was from his end...... So why the big deal? what is the confirmation gonna change? Let them wait for "God's time" na!

This is the hypocrisy of Christians at work, once again........ they are fully against abortion but yet will gladly go and do some artificial insemination. (unless you know any other way to treat an infertile man).

Let me not derail this thread as I am sure the holier than thou Christian sheeps will be quick to rain insult on me, lol!
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by oln: 11:42am On Oct 02, 2012
^^But she never said she was against artificial insemination.Y compare abortion to dat.I'm sure knowledge of where the problem actually lies will give her rest of mind and a stronger push to find a solution.If the lady has maintained that she'l always love him irrespective of the result of the test then why is he still laid back to submit himself for a test
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by EfemenaXY: 1:39pm On Oct 02, 2012
@poster.

Sorry to say this but seems like your man has got something to hide. Obviously, the lack of children in your relationship seems to be from his end. If he's got nothing to hide, say for example, no past history of STD such as Syphilis, then he should have no qualms about having the tests done.

I'm just wondering what his reaction would have been if the shoe was on the other foot? i.e: if he was given the all-clear by the doctors and you, had refused to co-operate? Would he still be "understanding"? Would he have been prepared to wait for "The lord's time"? Would he still declare his "unconditional love" for you from the roof tops?

Have a think about it.
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Nobody: 1:53pm On Oct 02, 2012
oln: ^^But she never said she was against artificial insemination.Y compare abortion to dat.I'm sure knowledge of where the problem actually lies will give her rest of mind and a stronger push to find a solution.If the lady has maintained that she'l always love him irrespective of the result of the test then why is he still laid back to submit himself for a test

I would think that if abortion is wrong because being pregnant is "God's wish", then OBVIOUSLY artificial insemination is equally wrong because it is ALSO "God's wish" that this man is infertile...... Triple Duh! Or shall we use the bible only when it fits the hypocritical agenda of Christians?

If that said lady claims she doesn't mind then why the headache? Let her follow her husband 's wishes, and keep on loving him, as she claim she does.
Re: Please Advice! My Husband Refuses To Test His Fluid, Is My Husband Infertile? by Mowire: 4:53pm On Oct 02, 2012
@0. Jacide, I'll advise that you get your&his parents involved. Let them find a way to talk sense into him. Make them understand (if they don't) that the result will lead to a timely embrace of appropriate solution (medical or spritual). Pls don't let anyone disrupt your system with unnecessary "prayer&fasting" that you may not need.
BTW: Did u find out if he had childless cohabitation with any other woman before u? That may just give u a clearer picture.

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