A man genuinely reaches for his wife and instead of an explosive orgasm, what they get is a boring sexual intercourse. To put it bluntly, the sex is no longer as good as it used to be.

More than ever, couples do not know what to do when their sex lives begin to diminish. And they wonder what on earth happened to the passion that they used to share together.

But, it may interest you to know that in some cases sex can or may almost never measure up to the passionate act displayed on the lighted screen. Television shows and the movies give us a twisted picture of what sex should be, in which everyone seems to be hopping from one orgasm to another.

When some married couples watch and compare the scenes from such films to their own sexual experiences, they easily conclude that their sex lives must be declining. And they contemplate dumping their partners for new ones.

Real life sex may not be perfect. It does not always end with an earth-shattering climax. Good sex does not necessarily have to end with an orgasm. It can just be an emotionally fulfilling experience between two friendly and married lovers.

However, no matter how drab your sex life may be, it can get better. The secret is to know exactly what you want and then ask for it. You long for wet, sensual kisses and you want to be fingered, your clitoris caressed and nipples teased in a tender manner.

On the other hand, he prefers dry, chaste pecks to sex. Maybe your spouse needs sex two times a day, while you cannot have it more than three times a week. The rule of the game is to say what you want.

Even when everything else in the relationship is working, sexual styles are not always compatible. This is true for new couples. But, when you operate open communication your sex life will soar high. In that situation, sex is not just naturally perfect; there is the heady feeling of having a new experience that is positive, exciting, and passionate.

The negative part is that it may be very clumsy because both partners have yet to learn how to dance together in harmony.

Most of the time, even couples who have lived together for a long time do struggle to attain perfection in bed. Although we can easily tell our partners what clothes we would like them to wear or what we would like them to cook for dinner, we are usually speechless when it comes to sex.

Some couples tend to be very sensitive when it comes to talking about sex. They seldom speak their minds because they are afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings. So the question is how do you tell your partner what you want without bruising his or her ego?

The solution lies in how you present the matter to him or her. Instead of staying off sex or making excuses, you can begin your speech with openers, such as ‘I would love it if we’ … or, ‘Could we try this?’

You do not want to make your partner feel bad about what he or she has not done. You can have that conversation in bed or during dinner over a glass of wine wherever it is most convenient to do so.

Before you talk, you need to find out about whatever has gone wrong in your sex life. Is it the technique, personal hygiene, or timing?

Once you discover what is wrong, there are different ways to solve the problem. For example, if something about your partner’s smell is turning you off, ask him or her to freshen up with you before making love.

Before you can tell your partner what you want him or her to do in bed, you need to be sure of what you want. I think the women have to let go of inhibitions and allow their husbands to explore their bodies.

But then, after you have figured out what you want and shared it with your partner, what if your sex life continues to be dull and unfulfilling? What if it turns out so bad that your relationship is threatened?

What you should do is experiment together. Learn to understand each other’s bodies. Try some sex aids. Read books with pictures (such as ‘Sexual intimacy in marriage’ by Funmi Akingbade), or watch an educational, but explicit, videos in which a voice-over explains what’s happening in the scenes.

Sometimes the problem could be physical, such as premature ejaculation. Or it may be that the stressed out from working too hard and it is interfering with your sex life. In that case, it will help to see a sex therapist.

If you are still dissatisfied, is it okay to fake it in bed? In the first place, when you fake it, you are denying yourself pleasure and giving your partner the wrong impression over time.

Reinforcing that wrong impression can lead to a not-so-satisfying sex life. Besides, you are doing yourself a disservice because you are not learning what really turns you on and eventually, your spouse will realize that you are disconnected from the relationship.

Also, practice the act of consciously getting in the mood for sex. Getting in the mood for sex means shutting out distractions and that is not easy to achieve, especially if your bedroom is full of nagging reminders of a boring routine. Stripping down your bedroom to create a more neutral and relaxing space can help.


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