dozymars: Anybody can come up with any theory stating his own believes and surely surely he or she will have followers.
Please don't be deceived with man made theories that are false and unreal.
Courtship is a very important period before marriage, and should be done with the fear of God and prayers.
Even if the lady or the guy pretends to be good you can still know if you pay good attention to access him or her.
You also need to be truthful to yourself and not be carried away by the love u have for eachother, as u need to asked yourself if can live with the person for the rest of your life.
During courtship your heart will tell you if you are in the right relationship or not, then you will have the time to make your decisions and learn from the experiences.
You cannot meet someone and jump into marriage. you need courtship to understand him or her,the basic characters.

greatgod2012: I've heard him severally on d irrelevance of courtship, but at d same time, i've always known its his own marketing strategy more members, at least, some pple want to desperately get married. I just hope they dont come back to this forum complaining abt their partner.

m.k.o2005:

Very very big lie. Mary never courted Joseph even for a second. Pastor Chris Ojigbani Knows exactly what he is saying and how i wish i have time now i would have by the grace of God enlighten most of us here on the issue of Courtship. It is in deed from the pit of hell. God is not and can never be in support of it.

Anyigala: Women use sex to get love, men use love to get sex. When you eliminate sex in courtship, you get realness. The Pastor is not totally correct in some of his assessments.

striktlymi: @poster I don't quite agree with the view of the 'good' pastor. I don't think that it would be wise for anyone to get married without one form of courtship or the other. As much as I agree that because of the dynamism of human beings and our natural instinct to adapt with the changing world, it is absolutely impossible to know everything there is to know about an individual; it is still self deceit to believe that we can actually get married without courtship. For starters and in the context in which we are looking at it, courtship simply means to attempt to gain the love or affection of someone, especially when we are considering marriage. In the days of our fathers, this attempt is done by the families involved. You will agree with me that it would be practically impossible for a man to get married in those days without the consent of both families. Courting in those days are left in the hands of our parents. That was when the community was small and everyone knew each other. But presently, because of globalization, expansion, modernization and the rest, we are no longer talking about a homogeneous community where everyone is acquainted with the other. As such the job of the parents has become cumbersome, hence the need for the individuals to help out with the job of courting i.e trying to gain the affection or love of the other. Those days it was sufficient to get the affection or love of the girls family but now it is required that we seek to win both the affection of the lady and the family as well. I think I am talking too much. The bottom line is, I believe that if courtship means to attempt to win the love or affection of another then even the 'good' pastor courted before he got married because he either sought the love and affection of the girl or the girl's family. Q.E.D.

m.k.o2005:

Dozymars,u said we should not follow any man made theory.Now tell us,where in the 'Godly theory'we were instructed or admonished to court like u just quoted?
Can u sight any example of courtship in the bible ? Courtship is what is man made and not the other way round.
Now this is just one poit from Ojigbani:
Ask for God's direction.If HE direct's you,you don't need to court.

striktlymi: @poster I don't quite agree with the view of the 'good' pastor. I don't think that it would be wise for anyone to get married without one form of courtship or the other. As much as I agree that because of the dynamism of human beings and our natural instinct to adapt with the changing world, it is absolutely impossible to know everything there is to know about an individual; it is still self deceit to believe that we can actually get married without courtship. For starters and in the context in which we are looking at it, courtship simply means to attempt to gain the love or affection of someone, especially when we are considering marriage. In the days of our fathers, this attempt is done by the families involved. You will agree with me that it would be practically impossible for a man to get married in those days without the consent of both families. Courting in those days are left in the hands of our parents. That was when the community was small and everyone knew each other. But presently, because of globalization, expansion, modernization and the rest, we are no longer talking about a homogeneous community where everyone is acquainted with the other. As such the job of the parents has become cumbersome, hence the need for the individuals to help out with the job of courting i.e trying to gain the affection or love of the other. Those days it was sufficient to get the affection or love of the girls family but now it is required that we seek to win both the affection of the lady and the family as well. I think I am talking too much. The bottom line is, I believe that if courtship means to attempt to win the love or affection of another then even the 'good' pastor courted before he got married because he either sought the love and affection of the girl or the girl's family. Q.E.D.

tex baba: The pastor may be rigth in some sense. This is d way I see it: if u court a gurl for 3 yrs, enjoying every every all in the name of studying her or him, nd later u discover that she is not ur type, u then move on to the next gurl rigth! After courting the new gurl too for abt another 2 yrs then she happens not to be ur type, u move on again abi. Then u court the 3rd gurl for another 3 yrs nd she may still not be ur type...how many girls ar u going to court before u eventually marry one? What d pastor is invariably saying is that courtship, no mata how long does not determine whether the marriage will be successful or not. In other words, he is saying don't marry d person u love but instead love the person u marry shikena! The pastor is not saying we shld marry strangers, if u see a gurl u think u like frm a distance based on character and or beauty, go for her. The process of planning ur wedding will be btw 3 to 6 months or more, that's some tym to do further study, not to disqualify her but to know more abt her since uve earlier find somthing marriable in her in the first place.

Mad Cow:


In Chris Ojibanis church, omo na live on stage, there and there..

At one of his crusade, as the two people wey just meet that evening see each other, like each other, omo the pastor carry them commot for alter o!!

on stage na ehn one woman come say she go sponsor the gown, another person sponsor the decoration of the hall, another person sponsor the ring.. OMO!!! Wedding set in under 30 miniutes..

I FAINT AGAIN!!

m.k.o2005:

Dozymars,u said we should not follow any man made theory.Now tell us,where in the 'Godly theory'we were instructed or admonished to court like u just quoted?
Can u sight any example of courtship in the bible ? Courtship is what is man made and not the other way round.
Now this is just one poit from Ojigbani:
Ask for God's direction.If HE direct's you,you don't need to court.

m.k.o2005:

Courtship does not mean to attempt to win the love of the other person. Check ur dictionary and revert so we see if courtship truely means a period u get to know each other to see if things will work ! Please revert for us to discuss. Thanks

m.k.o2005:

Courtship does not mean to attempt to win the love of the other person. Check ur dictionary and revert so we see if courtship truely means a period u get to know each other to see if things will work ! Please revert for us to discuss. Thanks

Dauchman:

Dude you lie, wasn't it d same mary that was bethroted to Joseph. I hope u realize dey knew each oda not canaly b4 Mary gave birth to Jesus. You seem to misconstrue courtship as being sex b4 marriage. My parents courted b4 dey got married and after 65yrs dey r still rocking. Stop throwing your ignorance around.

fluid26: Fake pastors everywhere!

amaikama:
if God can be in the center of the marriage and still have storms,wat of the ones He is not in the center?

adelegan1:

Guy you too funny, you dey make me laugh die

sexkillz: Mr pastor Whoever, with all due respects, shut tha fark up!

Dauchman:

I now understand ur afinity to agree wit the pastor. Apparently you do not even knw the meaning of courtship. Well this is a lite read for you
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Courtship

striktlymi:


Guy make your research before you comment as I did mine. Courtship can mean a whole lot of things including the definition I gave. Courtship can mean:

Abbr. C., ct.

1.a. An extent of open ground partially or completely enclosed by walls or buildings; a courtyard.
b. A short street, especially a wide alley walled by buildings on three sides.
c. A large open section of a building, often with a glass roof or skylight.
d. A large building, such as a mansion, standing in a courtyard.
Since courtship can mean a whole lot of things urs,mine inclusive. Now let's start with, Why do we court ? Just a sentence from you will do.

2.a. The place of residence of a sovereign or dignitary; a royal mansion or palace.
b. The retinue of a sovereign, including the royal family and personal servants, advisers, and ministers.
c. A sovereign's governing body, including the council of ministers and state advisers. d. A formal meeting or reception presided over by a sovereign.

3.Law. a. A person or body of persons whose task is to hear and submit a decision on cases at law.
b. The building, hall, or room in which such cases are heard and determined.
c. The regular session of a judicial assembly.
d. A similar authorized tribunal having military or ecclesiastical jurisdiction.

4.Sports. An open, level area marked with appropriate lines, upon which a game, such as tennis, handball, or basketball, is played.

5.The body of directors of an organization, especially of a corporation.

6.A legislative assembly.

noun, attributive.
Often used to modify another noun: a court jester; court records.

verb
court·ed, court·ing, courts


verb, transitive

1.a. To attempt to gain; seek: courting wealth and fame. b. To behave so as to invite or incur: courts disaster by taking drugs.
2.To try to gain the love or affections of, especially to seek to marry.
3.To attempt to gain the favor of by attention or flattery: a salesperson courting a potential customer.

verb,

Excerpted from The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Third Edition Copyright © 1992 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Electronic version licensed from Lernout & Hauspie Speech Products N.V., further reproduction and distribution restricted in accordance with the Copyright Law of the United States. All rights reserved.

Source: Microsoft bookshelf 2000.

berem: am sure the eediot didn't court his wife too! Bloody hypocrites!

Mad Cow:


[b]Too long a write up... Now let me explain this pastor and what he is known for..

PASTOR CHRIS OJIGBANI is Nigerias NO. 1 marriage pastor.. His marriage miracles are instant.. Like my Igbo peoples will say Che're We're miracle..


At his crusades, from meeting your spouse to marriage dosent take more than a week.. Infact, several people have met, courted and married their partners at his crusade in under 1 hour..


At one of his crusades, a woman attended the crusade today, went home and recieved a call from a guy in America that evening who professed love to her and everything and said he would marry her despite her having about two or three kids (this woman looked like she was atleast 50 yrs old) and promised to send her a Visa and all for her and her kids to join him in America.. She had never seen, met or spoken to the person before attending the crusade that evening... Apparently, the person saw her picture with someone she knows in the U.S and decided to marry her..


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCTgeK2oiv4


#I Fainted again!!

Thats his style...

His crusades are always filled with 85% single women...


google him and listen to JAW-DROPPING TESTIMONIES.. [/b]

striktlymi:


Guy make your research before you comment as I did mine. Courtship can mean a whole lot of things including the definition I gave. Courtship can mean:

Abbr. C., ct.

1.a. An extent of open ground partially or completely enclosed by walls or buildings; a courtyard.
b. A short street, especially a wide alley walled by buildings on three sides.
c. A large open section of a building, often with a glass roof or skylight.
d. A large building, such as a mansion, standing in a courtyard.

2.a. The place of residence of a sovereign or dignitary; a royal mansion or palace.
b. The retinue of a sovereign, including the royal family and personal servants, advisers, and ministers.
c. A sovereign's governing body, including the council of ministers and state advisers. d. A formal meeting or reception presided over by a sovereign.

3.Law. a. A person or body of persons whose task is to hear and submit a decision on cases at law.
b. The building, hall, or room in which such cases are heard and determined.
c. The regular session of a judicial assembly.
d. A similar authorized tribunal having military or ecclesiastical jurisdiction.

4.Sports. An open, level area marked with appropriate lines, upon which a game, such as tennis, handball, or basketball, is played.

5.The body of directors of an organization, especially of a corporation.

6.A legislative assembly.

noun, attributive.
Often used to modify another noun: a court jester; court records.

verb
court·ed, court·ing, courts


verb, transitive

1.a. To attempt to gain; seek: courting wealth and fame. b. To behave so as to invite or incur: courts disaster by taking drugs.
2.To try to gain the love or affections of, especially to seek to marry.
3.To attempt to gain the favor of by attention or flattery: a salesperson courting a potential customer.

verb,

Excerpted from The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Third Edition Copyright © 1992 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Electronic version licensed from Lernout & Hauspie Speech Products N.V., further reproduction and distribution restricted in accordance with the Copyright Law of the United States. All rights reserved.

Source: Microsoft bookshelf 2000.

Mad Cow:


[b]Too long a write up... Now let me explain this pastor and what he is known for..

PASTOR CHRIS OJIGBANI is Nigerias NO. 1 marriage pastor.. His marriage miracles are instant.. Like my Igbo peoples will say Che're We're miracle..


At his crusades, from meeting your spouse to marriage dosent take more than a week.. Infact, several people have met, courted and married their partners at his crusade in under 1 hour..


At one of his crusades, a woman attended the crusade today, went home and recieved a call from a guy in America that evening who professed love to her and everything and said he would marry her despite her having about two or three kids (this woman looked like she was atleast 50 yrs old) and promised to send her a Visa and all for her and her kids to join him in America.. She had never seen, met or spoken to the person before attending the crusade that evening... Apparently, the person saw her picture with someone she knows in the U.S and decided to marry her..


#I Fainted again!!

Thats his style...

His crusades are always filled with 85% single women...


google him and listen to JAW-DROPPING TESTIMONIES.. [/b]

m.k.o2005:

What does the word betrothed means ? Check and revert to me pls.The bible recorded that Mary was espoused(bethroted) to Joseph. Was that courtship ? Pls let's take it a step at a time. So others can learn.

Lero15: u dont av to take evritin ur pastor says 100%...courtship is not a sin or frm any pit of hell as long as u dont engage in immoral acts.