I'm Starling (from Edo State, Nigeria) and got married sometimes in August 2011, after my masters in the United Kingdom. I was based in Manchester, but my fiancé (Now wife works and base in Lagos. She was pregnant three weeks after our honeymoon in the United Kingdom.

For her: She works as a Human Resource Person in one of those reputed Real Estate Firms in Lagos (Ajah to be precise) and currently on a monthly salary N 280,000.00.; a three bed apartment in Lakki; and three official cars, which two are brand new and now in her name. (I am giving this information to allow for a critical and better advice from NLanders).

Like I said earlier, she was pregnant for our baby after the honeymoon- but we loss the child at delivery sometimes this year.
My wife, (my guardian Angel, I call her), I must confess has been the happiest thing that has ever happened to me in many years now. She is so humble, understanding, careering, polite and of all, God fearing. She has been my back born, wife, sister and of all, my best friend)

Me: During my Masters days in the United Kingdom, I do import electronic products (LCD, Plasma TV, and Home Theatre) from the UK and the United States to Nigeria for sale, while its proceeds it sent back to me the United Kingdom. You can say I was self employed and also a salary earner in the United Kingdom. In every aspect of life, we face challenges, and such business, you can never rule that out too. My business suffered a setback in 2011 ending when my goods were stolen at the Lagos Apapa Wharf (point of clearing) - with the connival of a new agent I started using; but that I have rested in the hands of God.

With the hash economic satiation in the United Kingdom, coupled with the fact that I was expecting my first child, I relocated to Nigeria early this year, and since then, I have managed to gather some funds and engaged in a little importation business from China.

The Main Issue: Two months after the loss our baby, I relocated to Bayelsa State to resume a new job in an Oil Servicing Company (though, I got the job two months before the delivery period of our baby, but have to shift it to witness the arrival of our little boy).

As I type this post, its three months down the line with my present company (on a salary of N150, 000.00) even my first month salary is not complete yet, and the probability of it being paid any time soon is below 40 percent.

This is where I seek the advice of matured people in the house.

Should I leave this job and return to Lagos to be with my wife (who is presently undergoing certain medical issues/complications as a result of the last pregnancy), since I have the intention to continue on my importation business, or should I remain here to sort for another job?

NB: We are both 32 and 28 years respectively. And please pardon my typo error(s), as I'm busy and have to hurriedly type to seek for advice.
I patiently wait for your advice. Thanks

Why don't you paste this in the family section, you'll get prompt and saner advice there. Anything not related to visa, lottery and permanent residency doesn't sell here.
I sympathise with you on the loss of your baby. I pray You find the strenght to pull your family through.

Do you have any money in lagos with which you intend to start your importation business now?

Has your wife ever complained or hinted that she's unhappy with your absence?

What's her "medical situation" ?

Depending on your wife's "patience, tolerance level" , and your personal "man ego level", it would be a good idea to go back to lagos, stay with your wife and scout for another job.

You are not earning any money in bayelsa right now so why stay there ?

In your present situation your family is not getting your emotional or financial support. abeg, go home to your family, and continue with your trade until you can find another job.

ifyalways: Do you have any money in lagos with which you intend to start your importation business now?

Has your wife ever complained or hinted that she's unhappy with your absence?

What's her "medical situation" ?

Depending on your wife's "patience, tolerance level" , and your personal "man ego level", it would be a good idea to go back to lagos, stay with your wife and scout for another job.

You are not earning any money in bayelsa right now so why stay there ?

I import goods from China presently, which I supply to marketers too.

Bro, an employer that can't pay ur 1st month salary is not an employer. Ur best bet, based on ur post, is quit ur present "slavery", return to Lagos to "support" ur dear wife; nuture ur biz while looking out for a job (if need be).
Sorry about ur loss.

I know you want to be the man in your home but all those lovely qualities your wife has are not for show go home to her i believe both of you will be happier for that decision. Remember two heads are better than one. From your post you dont sound lazy so i like to think you will do your best for your home and your business sometimes when things fall apart like your work place issue its so that better things can come forth. Take it as life pointing you in a better direction even without her health complications common logic dictates that you and your wife need to talk about what next. This is where i am afraid i believe there is a communication gap between you and your wife, in so many young families these sort of problems crop up. What if you had a great job and you lost it? will you rather be far away from home or go home to your better half to reason things through. Remember you are now a team and you don't have to make this tough decisions alone anymore.

You married her for a reason not just to make babies and love speeches but to have your back when the road is rough and make merry with you when times are smooth. I guess you are afraid of something,i don't know what but whatever it is you know her better open the lines of communication don't be afraid to be vulnerable and talk to her and with her. Goodluck