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Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by sleekprincesses: 6:21am On Oct 21, 2012 |
integrityfood: I feel so sad that my friend's wife after repeated appeals has continue to take instructions from her mother and feel safe to ignore her husband. The worst is, on any issue that her mother has a different view from her husby even when it does not bother on religious doctrine, she would rather heed her mother's or other people opinion. Your friend CANNOT say that he didn't see any signs during dating and courtship, no matter how little. He just probably thought she'd mature when they got married. If she wasn't mature then, she's never going to be. He has to live with all that he chose, because he saw the signs- no matter how little, and went ahead. This is a lesson- if u see something very little that you can manage in a relationship, but you are truthful to yourself aand know that u can't take it in marriage, PLEASE walk away! You will definitely find someone with qualities u can live with! 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by bolaino(m): 7:27am On Oct 21, 2012 |
The price of garri is gradually coming down, ,,,,, whewwwww, thank God, 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by ezme(m): 3:21pm On Oct 21, 2012 |
Personally I feel the girl's family did a lot to get this guy where he is today. I don't see why my wife's parents should call the shots in my house. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by UjSizzle(f): 7:26pm On Oct 21, 2012 |
Sam has said everything o jare. You better advise your friend to put his house in order; he should start acting like a man or very soon his inlaws will move into his house and start living with him. O biko since when did mother-in-laws start to discuss baby's name too? When they said a wise husband is one that sees with only one eyes I'm sure they didn't mean this. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by GOBANOS: 9:43am On Oct 22, 2012 |
Omo Alata: Please come clear. that its disgusting could mean that the guy is in error to ask or that the father in-law-went too far or the wife ought not to have reported in d first place. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by GOBANOS: 10:03am On Oct 22, 2012 |
sleekprincesses: I kind of agree with your analysis. Though, considering Abraham Maslow motivational theory of hierarchic of need suggests otherwise. every person tends to work towards a target that is important to them and will most likely discontinue once such purpose is achieve. What is ur opinion on this? |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by integrityfood: 11:00am On Oct 22, 2012 |
adeibi: the way the OP described and is concerned about the situation as if he lives with them. To answer your question; do you understand the true meaning of childhood friendship in it best / honest form form? if you have a friend who worth much more than a brother/sister, you will probably understand. Any ways, its only advice but not cash is being solicited for here so there is no proclivity for scam sir. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by integrityfood: 11:20am On Oct 22, 2012 |
Thank you very much for all the creative ideas, godly advises and brilliant suggestions. I read where some people expressed concern about the in-laws' financing the family. though thankful to the supportive father in law, truth is my friend is working. Again, few suggested banning the mother-in-law from his house; considering the weight of this action in the light of our African culture and religious values, is it expedient/ advisable? Concerning the signs of this immaturity and too engaging mother-in-law before marriage, yes, the signs were there though not as clear to suggest backing out of the union then. truth is, some reasonable women grow out of their parental influence once they are pronounced wife. most people will agree that if one must wait for a perfect date who complies 100% with your likes before a decision to marry, one may wait for long. most people are fortunate to have a sympathetic wife, which Chief Obafemi Awolo once said its the bedrock of a man's success in life. like I said earlier, I hope to bring all parties involve in this matter ( wife, husband & mother-in-law) to read these advises. Should I do so? will it inspire peace or more trouble? pls I still need your help. Thank you for being a family. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by integrityfood: 11:21am On Oct 22, 2012 |
Thank you very much for all the creative ideas, godly advises and brilliant suggestions. I read where some people expressed concern about the in-laws' financing the family. though thankful to the supportive father in law, truth is my friend is working. Again, few suggested banning the mother-in-law from his house; considering the weight of this action in the light of our African culture and religious values, is it expedient/ advisable? Concerning the signs of this immaturity and too engaging mother-in-law before marriage, yes, the signs were there though not as clear to suggest backing out of the union then. truth is, some reasonable women grow out of their parental influence once they are pronounced wife. most people will agree that if one must wait for a perfect date who complies 100% with your likes before a decision to marry, one may wait for long. most people are fortunate to have a sympathetic wife, which Chief Obafemi Awolowo once said its the bedrock of a man's success in life. like I said earlier, I hope to bring all parties involve in this matter ( wife, husband & mother-in-law) to read these advises. Should I do so? will it inspire peace or more trouble? pls I still need your help. Thank you for being a family. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by Nobody: 11:55am On Oct 22, 2012 |
Sam Milla: This things dont just happened. Women inherit such rubbish way back down the lineage. The wife of your friend will eventually influence her daughters too unless they get married to someone who can intelligently break the chain. It's all relative. You have spoken like an oracle. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by integrityfood: 11:58am On Oct 22, 2012 |
I thank everyone who has contributed. i appreciate your godly advises, suggestions and creative ideas for way forward. Some suggested that the mother-in-law should be banned from visiting. Considering the huge traditional & religious implication of such action, is it advisable? few also expressed concerns if the in-law was bankrolling my friend. the answer is that though the father in-law is a nice man but my friend is working! about your questions if there were no signs before marriage. Abraham maslow's motivational theory of hierarchy of needs makes it hard to completely understands human characters during courtship; you are a witness to this except you haven't dealt with human characters either at a family or on corporate level. As I said earlier, I hope to bring parties involve in this dispute to view these comments, advises and suggestion. Do you think it will inspire peace or cause more problem? Thanks for being a family |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by Nobody: 12:02pm On Oct 22, 2012 |
adeibi: the way the OP described and is concerned about the situation as if he lives with them. It doesnt matter but he is. |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by Nobody: 12:05pm On Oct 22, 2012 |
Truckpusher: Was there courtship in this union? because if there was one ur friend would have noticed all this incompatibility....any courtship without intimacy can actually have this problem....However where there is no intimacy during courtship both parties should define clearly there expectations but most of our church goers would pretend all along to be fine and after they expect somebody to change .I GUESS THIS IS THE CATEGORY UR FRIEND BELONGS TO...my advice if u ask me:GET A DIVORCE. Shattap |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by AmicusCuriae: 9:33am On Oct 24, 2012 |
I think the world is going crazy. Since when did marriage become a union between more than husband and wife. Even if it's the girl's family that rescued him from the miry clay and set his feet upon a rock, they don't have the right to come and dictate what happens in that union. The girl is mental but unfortunately marriage is till death do us part and such people are never ready to die to convenience you. My suggestion to your 'friend' is he needs to give his wife an ultimatum. Some people never use their brains until they're pushed to the wall. He should tell his wife to pick between the marriage and her family. If her choice is her marriage, she should make it up to her husband by giving him head 3 times a day for the next 40 days. THAT is scriptural! |
Re: My Friend's Wife Is Loyal To Her Mother And Ignores Her Husband by Nobody: 2:28pm On Oct 25, 2012 |
gsalvatore: @OP... Your friend no get Orientation!childish mentality. Banning a grown up from visiting her parent. If that is a solution then to hell with marriage. Be diplomatic in handling your marital affairs. If you Cut your wife from her people then yourare going to live with a zombie for the rest of your life |
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