OP additionally, search NL for the dude with this handle (dopejemi), check out his signature and apply it in ur life.....that should work big time!

Jarus: I joined a company and in less than 4 months, sent on foreign training, my colleague(who reports to same boss as me) and others who had been in the system before me, but had not been sent on training, started gossiping. They must have talked about it while I was away but one of them stylishly mentioned it when I came back.

My approach is to ignore and pretend as if you don't know. Relate with them normally, don't try to outshine them.

Congrats man. The highlighted is my strategy, but I tend to prove a point once in a blue moon so as to call people back to order...You know, we need to be overly assertive once in a long while. This does not mean pride, nor does it mean that one is trying to rubbish one's colleagues.

T22.

Get closer to GOD and they'll fall into their own pit.

Its really pains when someone for no reasons hurts you by word of mouth for a mere feeling of inferiority or untold competition.

Its a past tense for me because i work for myself now and employ people. So I will advice you to work towards financial independence.

Chikeena!

Not really bothered about the envy but I think it might be related to the age difference and employee status. Cant say too much but sometimes you have companies with two categories of staff with some permanent and some non-permanent. Many of them fall into the latter category and they are quite advanced in years( read significant age difference with me younger and sometimes required to administer group tasks).

As for the former friend, he stayed in my flat and i had to kick him out once I discovered my life and times had become a twitter trend in the office. Plus he had no respect for his host, coming in and out at all hours and bringing home strangers. He had to go. Quite bitter about the quit notice I guess but very skilled at hiding it.

Part of it is blowback for me in the sense that i still havent completely gotten used to ordering/administering older people. I am quite concerned (a bit too much) about how they feel but I must get the job done.

Thanks for all the tips.

As for the reply about objective self assessment, all I can say is life is easy to assess in hindsight. I probably got a bit too close and was a bit less guarded about how ok I was. Not advertising anything or boasting stupidly in the office (actually I dont talk in the office if possible, too busy working to resolve issues/monitor tasks or surfing the web during downtime) but just taking it for granted that people would be ok seeing you living life exactly the way you want it.

But its nice to see that its a very common issue for many people. (not sure if thats a twisted thought).

jst ignore them

lareine: @ OP,you haven't said how you got yourself in this situation. Are you sure you d're not a schemer? People who rise to the top thru hardwork cannot have all his colleagues envying him or talking at his back.

Are you also sure you do not backstab in order to get favoured? Cos if you do, perhaps the person you claim is spearheading may have found out and told the others.

About your former friend, why is he or she "former?" What have you done to win your friendship back?

You need to check yourself first! Goodluck!

You may not have worked in the type of environment he described so i dont blame your doubts.

K,k:
I give them the middle finger every morning n after work. Works like magic, you should try it

Funny, sometimes you get pissed and react rashless so they know you got teeth.

Ignore them, but keep a low-profile.

From the posts and responses it appears everyone here is a victim. My question is : " Who then are the culprits?" Could it be that there is an envious pie in everyone? God help you all!

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