Wat will I say dan to thanks God for givin a wondafu, friend,dearest womam as my wife.I ask God to bless me as a good husband.

Very lovely thread. My marriage is made in heaven. My husband aka Obim is God sent I must say. He is a man and a woman all together. Its almost 2 yrs since we got married but I can count how many times I have done the laundry. Sometimes, I don't even know its done until I look outside. With o much joy and smile while the music is playing, he would mop as I sweep, he would cut the flowers, baby sit our son, fuels,cleans nd fix my car( me that have a car no Sani anything) ns believe it or not, he goes to the market when he notice that I am tired. He would just say, Usom, let me go to the market while you do the cooking. He buys things or me even when I don't ask and I lack nothing. He is so close to our son that when i am even around, my son prefers to be with him and i love that soooo much. We are best of friends, gist buddies and sure knows how to make me feel like a woman. In my next world, I want him to be my husband and father of my children.

Cool thread, I must say!

My wife makes me wish I never never never never never married. The ONLY good/great thing in the marriage are the two boys. I am tempted to upload there pics. The are cute boys

Efemena and Co pls pls pls don't patronise peeps.
All these anti-marriage Crooners.
Leading the Movement for hate and Woman Emancipation.
Pastor don preach for Una 2day Abi??

Hotstepper: Very lovely thread. My marriage is made in heaven. My husband aka Obim is God sent I must say. He is a man and a woman all together. Its almost 2 yrs since we got married but I can count how many times I have done the laundry. Sometimes, I don't even know its done until I look outside. With o much joy and smile while the music is playing, he would mop as I sweep, he would cut the flowers, baby sit our son, fuels,cleans nd fix my car( me that have a car no Sani anything) ns believe it or not, he goes to the market when he notice that I am tired. He would just say, Usom, let me go to the market while you do the cooking. He buys things or me even when I don't ask and I lack nothing. He is so close to our son that when i am even around, my son prefers to be with him and i love that soooo much. We are best of friends, gist buddies and sure knows how to make me feel like a woman. In my next world, I want him to be my husband and father of my children.

Will you Still be this Happy if he stops being your Part-time Houseboy??

Yes I will 100 percent and he is not my houseboy. He's a hardworking man that value his family and doesn't think men should not help around the house.

His thoughtfulness, his silliness, his vulnerability, his quick wit and razor sharp humour and his conflict resolution skills.


His perservering and unconditional love for me and my imperfection and my idiosyncrasies.

debrief - can we talk about fiances

cotton101: debrief - can we talk about fiances

Yes oh, we can talk about any spouse who is doing it right

Hotstepper: Very lovely thread. My marriage is made in heaven. My husband aka Obim is God sent I must say. He is a man and a woman all together. Its almost 2 yrs since we got married but I can count how many times I have done the laundry. Sometimes, I don't even know its done until I look outside. With o much joy and smile while the music is playing, he would mop as I sweep, he would cut the flowers, baby sit our son, fuels,cleans nd fix my car( me that have a car no Sani anything) ns believe it or not, he goes to the market when he notice that I am tired. He would just say, Usom, let me go to the market while you do the cooking. He buys things or me even when I don't ask and I lack nothing. He is so close to our son that when i am even around, my son prefers to be with him and i love that soooo much. We are best of friends, gist buddies and sure knows how to make me feel like a woman. In my next world, I want him to be my husband and father of my children.

Awwwwww sooo cool

Busy_body:
His thoughtfulness, his silliness, his vulnerability, his quick wit and razor sharp humour and his conflict resolution skills.


His perservering and unconditional love for me and my imperfection and my idiosyncrasies.

Lol at Razor sharp humour, my Ogas own is crude and wicked, too blunt, most people dont get it, we go out and I am pinching him or if I am sitting across, looking and begging with my eyes, Him own na bad mouth. Imagine saying to someone " I hope you didn't pay for that hair oh "

Hmmm....my own different o!

Me, na basic animal instinct and attraction be my own. That man fine nor be small thing! As soon as I saw him, the first that entered my mind was: Yea, lord! This man is going to be the father of my children o!

Yes, I'm an absolute sucker for handsome men. Tall (and I mean over 6ft), dark and handsome. Kai!! Yes, Efe is sooooooooooo vain - who nor wan born fine-fine pikin?? And yes our kids are testament to that jor. See as handsomeness dey flow for that man side of the family eh!

I hold my own equally in that area, but won't blow my trumpet sha. Now what else do I love about that man sef, apart from his great physic and model looks? Ah yes,

~ 14 years on in married life and the nookie is no joke! Seriously.

~ I love his intelligence. I'll never cease / tire of talking with him. His knowledge on many subjects is vast. Although we do have some differences though. Can't for the life of me understand what he enjoys watching Discovery "How it was made" stuff - you know Jet Engines, automobiles (arrgghhh!!), formulae 1, snooker (double arrggghhh there!). But yeah we do love real animal documentaries and a couple of entertainment / comedy programs. Love watching those with him - his comments are hilarious!

~ He's a fantastic cook in the kitchen. Well, he would be, afterall he gets that from his dad. Been teaching my boys how to cook too.

~ He's a friend, a confidant, someone to pour my bad and good day experiences on.

~ What else? Oh, I just love him for who he is. Miss him loads when he's got to work long hours. Was terrible when he travelled for a month. I cried my eyes out the night before he left, you go think say person die. Hmmmm funny now, but not then sha.

He's not perfect, but he's my perfect match. Yeah, that's what I love about him and our marriage. We've grown together. Understand each other a lot, lot better then we did during the early years of marriage....

debrief08:
Lol at Razor sharp humour, my Ogas own is crude and wicked, too blunt, most people dont get it, we go out and I am pinching him or if I am sitting across, looking and begging with my eyes, Him own na bad mouth. Imagine saying to someone " I hope you didn't pay for that hair oh "

Hahaha, in the same boat so i know the feeling, lolz.

I have lost count of the times its been so embarassing I wished the ground would open up and swallow me If I was oyinbo, my colour would have permanently turned red from blushing

Duke_Nija: Efemena and Co pls pls pls don't patronise peeps.
All these anti-marriage Crooners.
Leading the Movement for hate and Woman Emancipation.
Pastor don preach for Una 2day Abi??

Awww - a bit of the green eyed monster here.

Efemena_xy: Hmmm....my own different o!

Me, na basic animal instinct and attraction be my own. That man fine nor be small thing! As soon as I saw him, the first that entered my mind was: Yea, lord! This man is going to be the father of my children o!

Yes, I'm an absolute sucker for handsome men. Tall (and I mean over 6ft), dark and handsome. Kai!! Yes, Efe is sooooooooooo vain - who nor wan born fine-fine pikin?? And yes our kids are testament to that jor. See as handsomeness dey flow for that man side of the family eh!

I hold my own equally in that area, but won't blow my trumpet sha. Now what else do I love about that man sef, apart from his great physic and model looks? Ah yes,

~ 14 years on in married life and the nookie is no joke! Seriously.

~ I love his intelligence. I'll never cease / tire of talking with him. His knowledge on many subjects is vast. Although we do have some differences though. Can't for the life of me understand what he enjoys watching Discovery "How it was made" stuff - you know Jet Engines, automobiles (arrgghhh!!), formulae 1, snooker (double arrggghhh there!). But yeah we do love real animal documentaries and a couple of entertainment / comedy programs. Love watching those with him - his comments are hilarious!

~ He's a fantastic cook in the kitchen. Well, he would be, afterall he gets that from his dad. Been teaching my boys how to cook too.

~ He's a friend, a confidant, someone to pour my bad and good day experiences on.

~ What else? Oh, I just love him for who he is. Miss him loads when he's got to work long hours. Was terrible when he travelled for a month. I cried my eyes out the night before he left, you go think say person die. Hmmmm funny now, but not then sha.

He's not perfect, but he's my perfect match. Yeah, that's what I love about him and our marriage. We've grown together. Understand each other a lot, lot better then we did during the early years of marriage....

this is how its supposed to be

LOL about wanting fine pickin - lol.

Busy_body:

Hahaha, in the same boat so i know the feeling, lolz.

I have lost count of the times its been so embarassing I wished the ground would open up and swallow me If I was oyinbo, my colour would have permanently turned red from blushing

My Sister, just this weekend we had a get together with some other couples, I had begged him before we left, He has been away and I know he will have some "comments" about some friends, one in particular, I begged him, Oga, keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself, save it for gossip when we reach house. Hian, we got there, we entered, greeted and hugged others, just when I was about to give him a thumbs up one of our friends who had recently taking to "toning" aggressively, walked in and gave him a hug and a peck, I stepped on his feet, but I was too late Oga said "na wa oh A-----, which kain bleaching be this one na"?

Efemena_xy: Hmmm....my own different o!

Me, na basic animal instinct and attraction be my own. That man fine nor be small thing! As soon as I saw him, the first that entered my mind was: Yea, lord! This man is going to be the father of my children o!

Yes, I'm an absolute sucker for handsome men. Tall (and I mean over 6ft), dark and handsome. Kai!! Yes, Efe is sooooooooooo vain - who nor wan born fine-fine pikin?? And yes our kids are testament to that jor. See as handsomeness dey flow for that man side of the family eh!

I hold my own equally in that area, but won't blow my trumpet sha. Now what else do I love about that man sef, apart from his great physic and model looks? Ah yes,

~ 14 years on in married life and the nookie is no joke! Seriously.

~ I love his intelligence. I'll never cease / tire of talking with him. His knowledge on many subjects is vast. Although we do have some differences though. Can't for the life of me understand what he enjoys watching Discovery "How it was made" stuff - you know Jet Engines, automobiles (arrgghhh!!), formulae 1, snooker (double arrggghhh there!). But yeah we do love real animal documentaries and a couple of entertainment / comedy programs. Love watching those with him - his comments are hilarious!

~ He's a fantastic cook in the kitchen. Well, he would be, afterall he gets that from his dad. Been teaching my boys how to cook too.

~ He's a friend, a confidant, someone to pour my bad and good day experiences on.

~ What else? Oh, I just love him for who he is. Miss him loads when he's got to work long hours. Was terrible when he travelled for a month. I cried my eyes out the night before he left, you go think say person die. Hmmmm funny now, but not then sha.

He's not perfect, but he's my perfect match. Yeah, that's what I love about him and our marriage. We've grown together. Understand each other a lot, lot better then we did during the early years of marriage....

awww, i wanna be like una when i grow up

debrief08: Too many depressing topics on marriage lets lighten it up AND Let us stop scaring the unmarried folks.

Abi o. U married folks have succeeded in scaring the beejeezus out of us, The Unmarried

cotton101:

this is how its supposed to be

LOL about wanting fine pickin - lol. my own was making sure my kids were tall cos looks wise i knew any child coming out of my womb was going to be fine so was never worried about that. joke o joke

My sister na so now!

A bit of Jungle instinct was used in choosing my mate for life.

Man (homosapiens) is afterall, an animal...

debrief08:

awww, i wanna be like una when i grow up

Lol! Thanks Debrief

I've been married for just a year and three months so i dont really feel 'qualified' to talk about marriage. So far to be honest its been too easy. We just compliment each other so well that quarrels are basically non-existent. We r just so proud of eachother. She is so strong, worked real hard during her pregnancy. Infact her allround strength made me so calm and confident during her labour and delivery. I just knew if God protected her from uncertaintities she would deliver quite easily and she did. She has been my best friend, my confidant, an excellent cook and i pray we grow from strength to strength.

women & their funny comments, so if a man has not turn to houseboy, u wont luv him, d world is surely upside down, Someone drives 2 his wife shop everyday & stay there throughout D day & he is nt praying 4 it change. I rather be a femi otedola r mike Adenuga with little or no time 4 wify gossips, than a woman rapper.The more time u spend wit a woman in d house, d more insults u receive.Women olivertwists little wonders some f d commentators here r nt still satisfy even after all d so called treat.

Ishilove:
Abi o. U married folks have succeeded in scaring the beejeezus out of us, The Unmarried

Awww! It's not all doom and gloom na! Besides, marriage does have it's perks...

shagarri: We are complimentary entities, like garri and sugar.

She sabi craze, I sabi yarn.

She sabi cook, I sabi chop.

She sabi dance, I sabi do don jazzy for background.

She sabi movies, i sabi book.

She sabi dress, I sabi un.dress.

...to be continued.

Even though I know this poster is still unmarried and prolly waiting for his NYSC call up letter, I still find the post hilarious

bjcole: women & their funny comments, so if a man has not turn to houseboy, u wont luv him, d world is surely upside down, Someone drives 2 his wife shop everyday & stay there throughout D day & he is nt praying 4 it change. I rather be a femi otedola r mike Adenuga with little or no time 4 wify gossips, than a woman rapper.The more time u spend wit a woman in d house, d more insults u receive.Women olivertwists little wonders some f d commentators here r nt still satisfy even after all d so called treat.
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Not every woman wants a dangote or an Adenuga, Adenuga has multiple wives who may seem to have it all but may not be happy.
Dangote has been married 3 times and none of the wives stayed. SO we will gladly have a woman wrapper who knows that he must work but money is to take care of his family and not to replace family time. Our husbands may not be Dangotes but we value them more than the biggest diamonds, Why spend all the time away making money when you end up with a miserable wife and kids who you had no input in their lives?
Our wealth and happiness is not in things but in our loved ones. We like our woman wrappers like that, I hope Dangotes Ex wives can say the same

really nice and cheering comments.big up,guys.

Ishilove:
Even though I know this poster is still unmarried and prolly waiting for his NYSC call up letter, I still find the post hilarious

Even though I know you are having a hard time nailing down a man and believe that till YOU get married, every other person on Nairaland is single...I still find this hilarious.

Guy dont allow cynicism to blind you. The guys are not jobless; their 'crime' is wanting to spend more time with their families and helping out with chores. Some men are very good at that and even enjoy it. If the guy that drives to his wife shop everyday started a thread complaining that though his job provides for the family adequately, his wife is pushing him to go and hustle with his spare time, u would most likely come here and bash women (afterall u have already called them Oliver Twist).
Beyond that if money is so good and wonderful, how come the really poor are not commiting suicide in droves but sometimes even the rich do? Being rich should never be equated with being happy, fulfilled and content.
Nuff Said
madam Debrief, thanks for ur response on the matter.

bjcole: women & their funny comments, so if a man has not turn to houseboy, u wont luv him, d world is surely upside down, Someone drives 2 his wife shop everyday & stay there throughout D day & he is nt praying 4 it change. I rather be a femi otedola r mike Adenuga with little or no time 4 wify gossips, than a woman rapper.The more time u spend wit a woman in d house, d more insults u receive.Women olivertwists little wonders some f d commentators here r nt still satisfy even after all d so called treat.

I love dis thread!it makes me want to settle down fast!buh d agony of it all am stl searchin

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