joyblinks: @op

This post describes my Fiance... He is everything sweet in this world but the type that barely say sorry... When he does something wrong (which he rarely does) and I tell him he did wrong, he will
1. Try to make me feel he is right.
2. Try to put the blame back on me or when the matter is serious he will say he's going to fix it. But the word sorry, na wahala. I can count the number of times he has used the word sorry.

I have noticed guys that are players use this word more often. They can even go on their kneels saying sorry for a simple matta.

mumumugu: My mum always complains that my dad neva acknowledge his mistake. Even when its obvious, he tries to justify why he acted the way he did.

He sometimes says statement like, I THOUGHT...., I EXPECTD U TOO...., YOU SHOULD HAVE .......etc

he neva says SORRY. This annoyd my mum so much dat she woke us one night about 15 years ago and made us promise to apologise immediately we are acusd of any misdeed b4 defendin ourself.

I have since grown up wit dis and i must say, SORRY helps in maintainin a relationship .
I noticed my dad isnt alone in dis,many men are. .SORRY is a big word for us to say.why is dis so?

simdam500: I tink am learnin 4rm d guys here, sayin sorry will make dem(women) take u for granted. Hmmm...... I dont tink i'll be goin into any rela

joyblinks: @lola.luv.

I am not generalising... I didn't use the word "only". I said players use the word "Sorry" more often. ofcourse there are faithful, cool guys who mean it when they say sorry.

MRbrownJAY: i think saying sorry is pointless UNLESS YOU MEAN IT, and to mean it you have to believe that you did something wrong....... so i think your mother was WRONG in teaching you to say sorry whenever you are accused of something, and you should instead ONLY say sorry when you believe you have done something wrong.

now, if your partner tells you that something that YOU believe is right, makes her feel bad (or whatever) then tell her that you are sorry about HOW SHE FEELS, but not about what you did, while explaining to her why you think it is right to do what you did.

mumumugu: My mum always complains that my dad neva acknowledge his mistake. Even when its obvious, he tries to justify why he acted the way he did.

He sometimes says statement like, I THOUGHT...., I EXPECTD U TOO...., YOU SHOULD HAVE .......etc

he neva says SORRY. This annoyd my mum so much dat she woke us one night about 15 years ago and made us promise to apologise immediately we are acusd of any misdeed b4 defendin ourself.

I have since grown up wit dis and i must say, SORRY helps in maintainin a relationship .
I noticed my dad isnt alone in dis,many men are. .SORRY is a big word for us to say.why is dis so?

thorpido:
It's the men who don't have the love of God in their hearts who find it difficult saying sorry.When you are in a marriage that you desire to make fruitful and enjoyable,then sorry shouldn't be an issue.There are times you stoop to conquer.

nickibarb:


sometimes I really wonder. my husband says he loves God. he loves me passionately. he's usually a great husband and father except for occasional slip-ups like staying out all night, not calling to give me a heads up, coming back the next afternoon and not even giving me the courtesy of an explanation as to why he didn't come home. instead he'll rather give me the silent treatment for as long as I can bear it, eat the food I put out, dress up and go out again. what happened to a simple "sorry I couldn't come home because of .......". Trouble averted

thorpido:
nickibarb,there are issues between you and your hubby and it may have been something you chose to ignore or let him get away with while you were dating.Your hubby does not RESPECT you.
I don't know how you can earn that respect now but you have to start to put your foot down and don't let him ride all over you.You are his wife,not his housemaid.

nickibarb:


I notice most people say if a man has a bad trait, it must be something you ignored when you were dating. but I've cast my mind back like a million times. my husband, then bf and fiancé was so excellent. he never did even one thing to upset me for the 2 yrs prior to marriage. Sometimes i thought it was too good to be true, but who am I to look for faults when there was none. It's not like I was desperate to get married or anything. I was just 24, had my undergrad and postgrad degree. Surprisingly, we got married and then this ugly trait shows up. its not like his cheating or anything.Sometimes I wonder whether he feels he can't say sorry to me because he's so much older than me.

nickibarb:


sometimes I really wonder. my husband says he loves God. he loves me passionately. he's usually a great husband and father except for [b]occasional slip-ups like staying out all night, not calling to give me a heads up, coming back the next afternoon and not even giving me the courtesy of an explanation as to why he didn't come home. in[/b]stead he'll rather give me the silent treatment for as long as I can bear it, eat the food I put out, dress up and go out again. what happened to a simple "sorry I couldn't come home because of .......". Trouble averted

fem29:
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Are you serious . I don't want to spoil what works for you guys or sow a seed of discord but that is very disturbing. How can he stay out without letting you know where he is then he comes home and still doesn't tell you where he was. Very dysfunctional. Where do you think he is on those nights, do you have any idea.