Ok, so here's my question. Can one be too sexual inside a marriage. I mean are there limitation on what is appropriate? Many may argue that oral pleasure is just plain nasty, some say it should be for someone special, others say it's meant only for a spouse. Now this isn't the only thing in the wide range of sexual acts two can preform.
What about role playing? Or doing "it" in strange places with the thought of getting caught in mind?

Is it best to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend your desires and fantasies in which you wish to full fill after the I do's to avoid shock?
On the wilder end what about party...ie..one spouse wants to try it, should they ask for it?
Now I know based on many cultures a lot of things aren't practiced...does this mean that one doesn't get strange desires which end up going unmet or they end up going outside for a nice little dark place to get it?
Some believe ( no longer just a western world thing but still very low profiled) that anything that the man and wife are in agreement to do is ok and does not defile their bed but...
What do you think about the limitations of sex when it comes to marriage? Is it better to satisfy than to grow apart or even to divorce...Is sexual desire so relevant anyway
Please let's respect each other's answer and not make anyone feel bad if it's avoidable.

I believe that it is the name that you give your dog that it will answer and that also that r/ship of which marriage is one ,is btw two people who should be matured enough to know what they want. I have always demanded of my girlfriends to tell me what they want ,what they desire or which for me to do to them sexually. I will also like a wife who will be open enough to me to tell what excites her . I will be willing to listen and try anything at least once within limits.

IZUKWU: I believe that it is the name that you give your dog that it will answer and that also that r/ship of which marriage is one ,is btw two people who should be matured enough to know what they want. I have always demanded of my girlfriends to tell me what they want ,what they desire or which for me to do to them sexually. I will also like a wife who will be open enough to me to tell what excites her . I will be willing to listen and try anything at least once within limits.

Do you expect the same sexual experiance from a wife and a girlfriend?

There is nothing like it. Although one partner might not have the same taste as the other when it comes to the number of times to be intimate but they should come to a compromise

How does one comprimise when the other partner is asking for something so far from anything the other partner could imagine. I'll ask you this..should there be comprimise when it's a boyfriend/girlfriend things?

Mynd_44: There is nothing like it. Although one partner might not have the same taste as the other when it comes to the number of times to be intimate but they should come to a compromise

buzzedoffbeauty: How does one comprimise when the other partner is asking for something so far from anything the other partner could imagine. I'll ask you this..should there be comprimise when it's a boyfriend/girlfriend things?

What people don't get is that in marriage, you give up the "I"s for "we" you have to start looking for what would make you and your partner more comfortable and if it means cutting down or increase you intimacy, go for it. The two of you would have a talk and work something out

Mynd_44:
What people don't get is that in marriage, you give up the "I"s for "we" you have to start looking for what would make you and your partner more comfortable and if it means cutting down or increase you intimacy, go for it. The two of you would have a talk and work something out

Yes you have a great point but not all spouses request is simply an increase or decrease in sex..some what to be dominated, some what to be use as toilet, some are into making home porns, some are into threesomes. What would one say to such a person...and if they say no and go to their pastor..will it help or bring a big space inbetween the two of them?

buzzedoffbeauty:

Yes you have a great point but not all spouses request is simply an increase or decrease in sex..some what to be dominated, some what to be use as toilet, some are into making home porns, some are into threesomes. What would one say to such a person...and if they say no and go to their pastor..will it help or bring a big space inbetween the two of them?

which is why they need to sit down and discuss their problems and see where one can shift and look at the unrealistic demands and try to accommodate the realistic ones

What may seem unrealistic to one ( like anal sex) may seem totally realistic to another. Sex is all about preference and if you let a person really relax and be themself..you may see that they have alot of sexual things that they have been hiding. IJS...some people are extremely open and it's either they do it with their spouse or they do it outside...period. what do we say to such cases?

Mynd_44:
which is why they need to sit down and discuss their problems and see where one can shift and look at the unrealistic demands and try to accommodate the realistic ones

buzzedoffbeauty: Ok, so here's my question. Can one be too sexual inside a marriage. I mean are there limitation on what is appropriate? Many may argue that oral pleasure is just plain nasty, some say it should be for someone special, others say it's meant only for a spouse. Now this isn't the only thing in the wide range of sexual acts two can preform.
What about role playing? Or doing "it" in strange places with the thought of getting caught in mind?

Is it best to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend your desires and fantasies in which you wish to full fill after the I do's to avoid shock?
On the wilder end what about party...ie..one spouse wants to try it, should they ask for it?
Now I know based on many cultures a lot of things aren't practiced...does this mean that one doesn't get strange desires which end up going unmet or they end up going outside for a nice little dark place to get it?
Some believe ( no longer just a western world thing but still very low profiled) that anything that the man and wife are in agreement to do is ok and does not defile their bed but...
What do you think about the limitations of sex when it comes to marriage? Is it better to satisfy than to grow apart or even to divorce...Is sexual desire so relevant anyway
Please let's respect each other's answer and not make anyone feel bad if it's avoidable.

Do whatever you want as long as you are both happy and willing... and it is not illegal

lol...

Atheist:-D:


Do whatever you want as long as you are both happy and willing... and it is not illegal

Lemme guess you are an introvert!
And if am correct, i only wish you do not have melancholic features as a dominating temperament cos the both of em together is a recipe for disaster. Trust me, i can Imagine your fantasies.

pawn89: Lemme guess you are an introvert!
And if am correct, i only wish you do not have melancholic features as a dominating temperament cos the both of em together is a recipe for disaster. Trust me, i can Imagine your fantasies.

I bet they are freaky

It's a pity really for most marriages. Lots of adventurous menene before marriage and then -halt!- after d marriage. And sadly, women r d most guilty. They seem to think 'such acts arent for married women'. Once they have d ring or whatever symbolises d kind of marriage they contracted - sex becomes dull for their hubbys! After marriage no more blow jobs/sucking off! Dont get me wrong, in marriage you can get MouthAction i.e you may occasionaly, get 2 or 3 perfunctory licks! and this from a gal/man who used to give you 5-10 minutes of mind-blowing blow jobs/'licking' when you were courting!? No more shagging or screwing for the rest of your lives! Yes, you get sex, intercourse, sleeping with, making love, etc. But believe me there is a whole lot of difference btw shagging/screwing/f*king and intercourse/making love, sleeping with...

No more doggy style. No sir, all you get is a grudging 'do you want me to turn my back now?' Sad really. And this attitude has no boundaries, tribe, religion, age, class, educational qualification - it is a common trait among married people, esp women. Period. I hear the same thing from my age mates, (im in my very late forties), and younger friends.

Of course marriage brings responsibilities - children, family, rent, school fees - but this shdnt be any reason why d sex life shld be consigned to d dustbin. If yu wouldnt share with your spouse, just a few hours of your time, d kind of sex life he/she craves, you might be strongly pushing him/her outside.

buzzedoffbeauty: What may seem unrealistic to one ( like anal sex) may seem totally realistic to another. Sex is all about preference and if you let a person really relax and be themself..you may see that they have alot of sexual things that they have been hiding. IJS...some people are extremely open and it's either they do it with their spouse or they do it outside...period. what do we say to such cases?

That's why you're supposed to figure out before marriage whether or not you are sexually compatible with your partner. And I don't just mean doing the act, but communicating you're wants and needs to them.

To what end?

Is this not a case of putting the cart before the horse?

What is all the debating about what is proper in marriage and what is not? Since when did proper behaviour become different when a person gets married?

What is not proper for a married couple is not proper for those who are single. What is wrong for a single person should not be tolorated in a marriage. Except of course stuff that are reserved for the marital home like se.x. Great se.x. Banging day and night. Anytime he wants it, anytime she wants it, anywhere they can get it.

Nice one Arobake. I'm still gonna put that P**** on a plate and eat it good, even after years of marriage.

LewsTherin: What is all the debating about what is proper in marriage and what is not? Since when did proper behaviour become different when a person gets married?

What is not proper for a married couple is not proper for those who are single. What is wrong for a single person should not be tolorated in a marriage. Except of course stuff that are reserved for the marital home like se.x. Great se.x. Banging day and night. Anytime he wants it, anytime she wants it, anywhere they can get it.

Rear action? Dominatrix... whips etc? Asphyxiation?

There are always limits in these things.

Some couples even attend swingers parties

LabourParty: Some couples even attends swingers parties

That would be adultery however. But what of hardcore se.x with just themselves. Like corprophilia? Would that be acceptable for a married couple? You know like that video with those 2 brazilian chicks and that cup

Atheist:-D:


Rear action? Dominatrix... whips etc? Asphyxiation?

There are always limits in these things.

Now you put it this way, I guess there should be some kind of limits. But these should be set only by the couple and not by society. So while I'l admit that a.nal and Asphyxiation rank with drug abuse in my mind, a dominatrix with limits set to prevent bodily hurt doesn't ...well.. Hurt if it rocks their mutual married socks.

LewsTherin:

Now you put it this way, I guess there should be some kind of limits. But these should be set only by the couple and not by society. So while I'l admit that a.nal and Asphyxiation rank with drug abuse in my mind, a dominatrix with limits set to prevent bodily hurt doesn't ...well.. Hurt if it rocks their mutual married socks.

Ok. Corprophilia? Is that suitable for an "open minded" married couple between themselves?

Hmmm.

If you are married nothing is off limit.

Each couple is different.

@op u just confirm that most women love sex more than men, all you're thinking about in marriage is sex sex sex! chei may God help us.

I use to think that Americans or Western societies were the only ones who pushed freakiness to the extreme but I've learned that many man of strict cultures do have the same types of fantasies and would love to share them with their wives but refuse to because the feel she is too "holy" to hear it and will write them off as nasty and may even "tell on them". Or have them rebuked in the name of Jesus. Many men don't admit it but are into all the things they see on x rated videos except the homosexual stuff. I've even talked to a christian couple who's interpretation of the matrimonial bed is undefiled is totally different than the majority. They beleive ANYTHING they're in agreement on is ok on their bed. What made me intrigued by such a couple is that they have been happily married for 25 year and got married right out of highschool! She says that the key to her happiness is honesty. That her and her husband grew together intamantly and explored themselves until they found the perfect fit for them. I was talking with a group of women about this and the reactions varied. Mind you this was a women empowerment meeting in a christian setting with a first lady. Most of the women were Nigerian..some from other countries and a couple of american chicks.Many of the Nigerian women said it's an abomination. Yet I know that some of them are dealing with a husband who's penis is always outside their home... This is a touchy topic Mrs. Chima..lol!

Mrs..Chima:
If you are married nothing is off limit.

Each couple is different.

BUMP !

Atheist:-D:


Ok. Corprophilia? Is that suitable for an "open minded" married couple between themselves?

No offence intended dude but you know some seriously messed up sh*t (pun intended). I thot I was wierd!!!

Like I said previously, anything with limits on preventing bodily hurt, goes as long as it is totaly mutual and not one desire being pressured on the other.

Why would he mention something so sick? I said things seen on x rated videos...have you ever seen an x rated video with something crazy like a dead person....WTH!

LewsTherin:

No offence intended dude but you know some seriously messed up sh*t (pun intended). I thot I was wierd!!!

Like I said previously, anything with limits on preventing bodily hurt, goes as long as it is totaly mutual and not one desire being pressured on the other.