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Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by Blatant: 6:15pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
Can a Nigerian man be happy with an English wife Tales by moonlight |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by mamaput(f): 9:18pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
yvskc: ok but there is nothing to forgive. the shit that hit the fan did not hit my face. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by mamaput(f): 9:19pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
Can a Nigerian man be happy with an English wife maybe for you. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by romeo(m): 9:43pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
mamaput: Abeg Mamaput!! the shit scatter for your fine face |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by mamaput(f): 10:43pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
almondjoy when some fool rains you with "blessings" you will not wish your worst enemy you say thankyou ABI- The fool will be sitting in his church on sunday singing Jesus is god at the top of his voice and sleep with his bible under his pillow. romeo please i have soap and water even disinfectant |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by yvskc(f): 10:49pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
Tales by moonlight, how romantic. And valentine's day just 48 hrs away Romeo, sometimes u just have to give up for the sake of peace, @mamaput :Even small things can be forgiven,such as misunderstanding. I wasn't aware that any faeces had hit any electric equipment, but I am not going to get involved and belittle myself, neither should u. Be cool and show love to at least one person every day, you will live longer, trust me |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by spoilt(f): 11:06pm On Feb 12, 2008 |
mamaput abeg put rice for me ! ok. im kidding. relax now. wetin yvskc do you? |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by Nobody: 12:06am On Feb 13, 2008 |
mamput,na wetin? that time of the month? |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by Nobody: 12:07am On Feb 13, 2008 |
spoilt: with or without? |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by spoilt(f): 2:07am On Feb 13, 2008 |
nwando: put one fish. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by almondjoy(f): 4:12am On Feb 13, 2008 |
mamaput: I understand mama"P". We all have moments like this once in a while. Just try and relax ok. I found your position on the whole thing more funny than baffling. But like I said--we all have moments like this. Just relax and work with Madam yvskc a little. She needs support from her fellow women. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by romeo(m): 8:50am On Feb 13, 2008 |
Hmmmmmm too many Mamas for this thread jooo!! make i comot now now |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by mamaput(f): 9:01am On Feb 13, 2008 |
spoilt: i only sell beans. backed beans , kidney beans, boiled beans bean cake etc |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by RDynamite(f): 2:00pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
I won't say much on this topic but seriously it doesn't make sense to me that after 15 years of marriage with 5 kids, a woman will ask "Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife"? I must be sincere, it makes no iota of sense. I mean, this is the kind of question your kids should be asking themselves seeing how their parents go about their marriage.(someone correct me if I'm wrong) If there's nothing fishy about your marriage then you need to work on your paranoia Or what were you expecting to hear? That a Nigerian man won't be happy with "an English" woman? Most Nigerians can be happy with anyone as long as YOU make them happy(this could be in many forms). As for him cooking and all that blah blah, haha! You better PEEP beyond this! Nigerians can be very loving but very harmful on the other hand. Nothing you say can make me eat my words though so. . . . People are just strange. It's only a matter of time and circumstance. However, enjoy your marriage. I'm happy for you. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by iice(f): 2:09pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
R-Dynamite: Reason why i didn't even bother |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by romeo(m): 3:19pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
R-Dynamite: She wanted to know more about Nigerians and i believe she came to the wrong place though, Too many igbo haters and ignorants of igbo cultures! They will not offer you good advice but they will spend more time trying to find faults in your post to prove their " i too know disease". Some people always want to be smart where they shouldn't be |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by faketan(m): 3:41pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
Mamaput Abeg are you mixed race or hardcore naija? No offence intended? Meanwhile, I need ogbono soup with egusi, put okporoko, and isi ewu? You get nkwobi? Ok good give one plate to yvskc, then another nkwobi plate for leilah. I think Almondjoy will like one plate too. Ok give malta guiness to everyone or 5-alive if they prefer that. In fact give them whatever they want eeeh How much ? |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by romeo(m): 3:55pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
Abeg give me Rioja vintage red wine of 1995 |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by yvskc(f): 4:03pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
Maybe I should have re-phrased my question as it seems to have puzzled some as to my motives.I don't understand why to be honest. My thread should have read something like "Does not speaking the local dialect really matter?" I did not pose my question expecting to find the answer to whether or not I should have married an Igbo,I don't need guidance or advice in that area because it's true that after 15 years I am where I belong,and neither one of us wants out. I am far from paranoid,I have never been the type of woman to worry over my man unnecessarily. I suppose that in thinkin about bein in Nigeria permanently questions have arisen. My mother asked me the same question,about how I would feel being around Igbo speakers all of the time. If I ask the opinion of my English friends they will be unable to relate and the Igbo friends and family we have in the uk all say don't worry,but I still find it hard to be in a room with people and not understand what they are saying! We are proof that an English woman can make a Nigerian happy and vice versa And I understand where u are comin from R-Dynamite, but our children would not be asking that question because they don't see us as Nigerian and English,they see us as mum and dad I just don't want to feel isolated when I am there,I lead a very independant life and has some very good girl friends here,I will miss talking to them on a level. Whatever your mother tongue it always allows you to be more natural in your behaviour when u are speaking it,I believe Maybe I need advice from foreign men and women married to Nigerians who actually live in Nigeria. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by tpia: 6:47pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
romeo: can you plz go back and follow this thread from the beginning instead of posting prejudiced comments. 99% of the posters/responders here are either Igbo, half Igbo or married to Igbo. So who are the Igbo bashers and where are you seeing Igbo hating? The only person being bashed unequivocally that I can see, is Leilah. People were raining abuses on both her and her husband. And she was told the quality of her own man is less than others, since nobody on Nairaland or even Nigeria itself has ever done anything her husband may be doing. I don't know what you are reading here. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by almondjoy(f): 8:07pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
tpia: It is like you were reading ma mind! I just decided to leave it alone because I do not like to visit the same issues twice! This precious "igbo" blood--na only some people get am for this Nairaland I swear! I hope he can answer you! |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by oziomatv(m): 8:21pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
Ebi like sey today na so so fight me I no put mouth. I dey warm up for valentine eve hard core with my woman. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by mamaput(f): 8:42pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
moi moi for all of you but only with tap water |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by oziomatv(m): 8:43pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
do you serve ofe owerri? |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by RDynamite(f): 8:55pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
yvskc:I'm positive that you wouldn't prefer lies instead. yvskc: This is what you should have asked yourself before marriage or better still would have learnt IBO in this 15 years. yvskc: Where did you get this from? yvskc: True, but if you feel uncomfortable around people you don't understand their language and you MUST live in their midst, then you should learn their language if it so bothers you. I mean, what can I say yvskc:Heavens!!! So, what's the point of this topic yvskc: Obviously they know you guys are their parents but what do you tell them when they ask where they're from and obviously figure out that you're mixed and he's black? yvskc: I think Mamaput mentioned a website to you earlier on. www.nigerwives.com You said you have a very happy marriage where your "king" treats you like a "queen". Dear, dialect is the least to worry about but if it so disturbs you then learn the language, period! |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by romeo(m): 9:00pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
tpia: I know what i am saying when i mentioned "igbo haters" . I said she came to the wrong place " Nairaland" I am not new in this nairaland and i know them all Maybe you're the one that needs to read from the first post, with just a single post you're now telling me to follow the thread, LoL almondjoy: No dey look for back up , and i have answered him romeo: I am qouting myself here, i am sure you're paying attention tpia |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by tpia: 10:58pm On Feb 13, 2008 |
romeo: if you're referring to the side argument between yourself, mellow and oziomatv disputing the Igboness or otherwise of Delta Ibos, then maybe you guys should start another thread to debate that. The only Igbo man who is being hated on here is Leilah's husband. That's why I said you should reread the thread from the beginning. Doublecheck what you're referring to as Igbo hating. Kindly point out the exact posts which are " Igbo hating" on this thread. See your first post here, (a diatribe against "mixed" people, b.tw): Mixed as in Hausa/Yoruba or Bini/Efik ? Who will not claim to be igbo again here!! In and out of English schools in Nigeria or outside Nigeria? small children of nowadays You are the one who's prejudiced, as far as I can see. Correct me if I'm wrong. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by spoilt(f): 12:23am On Feb 14, 2008 |
wawa: mamaput is not cheap. her price fit shave your head to gorimapa! oziomatv: hehehehe. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by mamaput(f): 8:26am On Feb 14, 2008 |
tpia when the talk is about igbo heaters,you have to read the whole forum to find out and not just one trend. Obviously they know you guys are their parents but what do you tell them when they ask where they're from and obviously figure out that you're mixed and he's black? you tell them nothing because they will not ask. They did not wake up one fine morning to find out they were mixed. after all they know the name of their fathers village and that they are Nigerians. granted she would have had enough time to learn the language but that will not be easy in the UK. if she had been in Nigeria she would have picked up the language. and if at all we blame the husband. nothing stopped him from speaking Igbo to the children from when they were born. That way sh too would have picked up the language. |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by RDynamite(f): 9:49am On Feb 14, 2008 |
mamaput: they know their fathers village abi? lol Children are curious creatures. They always ask questions and there's no limit to what they ask. Or may be it's only the ones I've seen including myself when I was small. They didn't just figure out they were Nigerian/Jamo/Irish. I'm sure they asked or probably the parents told them without them asking |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by Naijadr: 10:51am On Feb 14, 2008 |
@ poster, u'll be alright, my uncle married his Trini-British wife like 33+ years ago, and they've lived in Enugu together for almost 30yrs!! I never even realized as a kid that she wasnt Nigerian, till I got older, i mean I should have known from her skin complexion because she's mixed but I think it was the way she carried herself. In the village which they go to very very often, everyone pretty much knows her and she's very much one of us. My other uncle married a black american, and she lived with him in lagos for 20yrs, matter of fact she's one of the better wives married into the fam, and she doesnt speak Igbo. I used to laugh when she'd come for the village meetings, and then have my mom or aunties interprete for her You couldnt tell Auntie C nothing, she came in and got very comfy, and we all love her that! I think what really matters is your level of interaction with everyone, the homely u are, the easier it will be. Auntie C did pick up some Igbo words, but when u say stuff she doesnt understand, she'll just keep a smile, and later turn to one of us and ask quietly, "what did they just say", then play it off, 27yrs later, she still rocks! Dont worry much, from your posts u seem like a great woman, I'm sure your husband knows that, and its his right to look after u, my Igbo people love them some kids so u already satisfied it with 5 and looks like u already have given them their male child, so case closed!! Learn to cook some of the native soups well be it onugbu (if he's from anambra) or oha (if he's from abia) or some mean nsala, or master the skills of making tasty abacha or ugba. Whatever u know how to make, make it your specialty, make enough for everyone, and your house will be forever full with family "well wishers" who will sing praises of this their oyinbo wife!! |
Re: Can A Nigerian Man Be Happy With An English Wife? by RDynamite(f): 11:35am On Feb 14, 2008 |
Naijadr: I'll only laugh |
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