Mavia1:
Who pays the teachers? Parents. Who pays the government (taxes)? Parents. I wish i could insert a mind map here. If you remove parents from this link, do you think teachers or the government can stand well? Parents are the pillars that hold these two together. Their roles cannot be neglected as regards Sex Education

Sheba1: Asantewaa1
1.what happens to the child who goes to a boarding sch & doesn't spend up to 1y in 6yrs with his parents?


2.Let me show u this statistics based on hw a child spends his/her day,
The child sleeps for 9hrs(9-6)=38%
Stays in sch 4 8hrs(8-4)=33%
Watches Tv/stay wit parents for 7hrs(4-9)=29%
Imagine what the parents would get sharing 29% with Tv.So with this,where does the child spend most of his/her day?& who do u think influence the child more,media/sch or the parents?

3.Most sexually active kids wld tell u that they became aware of sex after watching a provocative video,imagine a world without these?dont you think the kids would b safer?

There was a young girl of 9 who confided in me on how she was abused by her uncle who was living with them. I encouraged her to tell her parents about it. After much persuasion, she agreed.

Where are the parents? They have left their primary responsibility in search of money, pleasure, fame, etc. Who are they working for? They usually claim it is for the sake of their children.
If the parents don't go out to search for money, how do you expect them to provide the basic needs of a child such as food, education? Of what use is sexual education to a hungry, malnourished and uneducated child?
Who can control the media, the teachers? No!
The teachers are employed by the government and the government has control over the media. There is a link between these three. Teachers have meetings with the government over educational issues. Parents DON'T!
Teachers have also been caught to violate children.

Teachers are NOT magicians. They are not omnipresent or omniscient. They have about 25 students they deal with. Some schools even have about 40 pupils or more in a class. Do you really expect a single teacher to monitor the sexual activities of 40 children? Common, let’s be realistic. Will the teacher be efficient? No. As a parent, you have less than 25 children to deal with and you still want to pass the bulk of the blame on the teachers? Doesn’t it sound ridiculous to you?

Take for instance, if I had a cute little girl- my daughter, I would give anything to make her happy and live a good life. I would be passionate about her. I wouldn’t want her to be misled or molested. She would be mine. I would have great interest in her. However, if she had a teacher she loved as well- a wonderful teacher. The teacher wouldn’t be as passionate about her future and sexual activities as I would, because she is my daughter and I would know, love and understand her better.

Parents (the sane ones), cannot violate their children.
Don't categorise. They are all parents I Th The major responsibility lies on the parents, while they share a minor percentage with the teacher(s). The child leaves home for school and still comes back home to watch TV and read magazines.
If the teachers had given adequate assignments or home works to the children, which time do they have to watch tv?
You only get educational materials in school from teachers, not movies, porn magazines, social forum, etc. So why blame the teachers?
I used to exchange mills and booms with my english teacher. Erotic novels are distributed more in schools during classes and the teachers see this books but do not seize them. Speaking from a personal experience
3. The child spends more leisure time at home, or away from school, especially on weekends. Free access to the internet, TV, magazines, etc. the teacher will not come from school to control the media access at home. We have Parental Controls on satellite TV networks, but have you ever heard of Teacher Controls? Even the media acknowledges the fact that the onus of the control lies with the parents.

I’ve had opportunities to work with children for years, and I’ve come to realize that at ages 1-3, they tend to dance to interesting tunes that catch their attention. You can manipulate them easily. They are very vulnerable. “This is when we need you parents, not when we’ve started growing baby beards.”
Most teenagers that have had sex one point or the other in their lives would have chosen differently if they had answers to the questions they couldn’t ask. Most girls will not even discuss their Menstrual Cycle with their mothers; neither will most of the boys discuss Wet Dreams or their crush with girls, with their fathers.
Because it is embarrassing for both sides. We are also referring to teenagers who feel their parents are the enemy which is a normal feeling at this age
Teri Hatcher, a celebrity, was raped by a family member when she was just a child. Her uncle raped her for several years starting when she was just five years old. Pray tell me, do we blame her school teacher for this or the media? Where was her mother or father?
Where was her teacher? She attends class everyday. She has spent a minimum of 2 months under her teacher. 2 months is enough to know your student's behaviour and know when he or she is not acting herself or himself
I say that parents are responsible for their children’s welfare and Sex Education, not the teachers or the media.

Gudit:

that is why they are to blame! it is disheartening to know that the people entrusted with the responsibility of educating this children about evil also partake in it.

Mavia1:
Note, i said "primary responsibility". Do i neglect my child because i want to provide her with food or education? No. The life of a child is nothing compared with the wealth or fame i could gather in a lifetime. Of course, the parents should work, but never place your work above your children. There should be checks and balances. Limits should be defined. I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth but the values instilled in me by my parents is the driving force behind my success and moral sanity. Have you heard of Home School? If a parent cannot train a child in school and the government does not make provisions, keep your child in your home and train him/her well. You don't need lots of money to do that.

Mavia1:
If only parents cared enough about their children...This is why a child should be free to report cases of suspected sexual activities by teachers to their parents. I don't understand why parents would trust a teacher. You are the parent. He/she is your child. Your blood. Your pride. Your future. Your investment. Your product. Your baby. Your joy. Your heart. Your everything. Why should you trust a teacher with this precious gift? Teachers should be monitored by parents. It is not the teacher's fault, it is because you (parent) have decided to close your eyes.

Gudit:
Why do you think that in most schools, teachers are 2 in a class? and this teachers are of both sexes. one for the males, another for the females because Teachers are trained to deal with this issues. What do you expect of a father in a polygamous setting? If you cannot expect a trained and paid teacher to monitor 25 kids how do you expect a single polygamous father who is who is untrained to monitor his kids?

Gudit: let me help you understand why parents would trust a teacher: it is because they have one through years of training on how to understand children. the parents themselves were taught by teachers. everybody passed through a teacher. the president passed through a teacher. the doctor passed through a teacher. Obama passed through a teacher. we are all able to type here because our various teachers did their jobs.

Gudit: .
Don't categorise. They are all parents. there is nothing like sane or insane parents. once you are a parent, nobody wants to know if you are sane or insane

Moreover, a father does not need Formal training before he can raise his own son? He has enough experience

which many teachers are not even passionate enough to listen or understand these children

Gudit:
If you would teach and understand her better, why send her to school to learn biology and anatomy when you are quite familiar with the female anatomy yourself?

Mavia1: Well, Gudit, you've raised lots of points and lots of questions that time could not permit me to answer all. I'm sorry about this. However, no matter what a teacher does or does not do, the parent is at the central part of a child and is therefore responsible for anything that pertains to the child, especially Sex Education. This goes for media and government as well. Thank you.

Asantewaa1:

as a sane parent, why will i allow a child that is less than 10 yrs of age to go to a boarding house, then, if i allow dt, i have already started to fail as a parent to create time for my child for what we will both reap d reward in d future.
2. Why will i not as a parent monitor what my child will watch for d 7 hrs hrs left for me,i will definately use d time judiciously to ensure dt i educate my child properly on issues dt may affent him/her in d future, like d one we are trashing now. May be u dont even know, children dont go to school for d 7days/week nor for d 365days /year, so dt give me d opportunity of having more time to educate him/her.
3. What will i be doing with a provocative video in my house and even, if i have one, why will i allow my child to watch it, knowing dt it wont have positive effect on his life, or why do u think d film censors always advise on "parental guidance" at d beginning of every film to be watched?

The media, teachers and d religious sector has got nothing to do if parents have performed their parental duties as expected. D best they can do is to remind them of what their parent have done. So, any parent who fail to educate their children on d risks involved in engaging in teen sex is to be blamed.

Gudit: the control the parents have over the media cannot be compared with the ones the teachers have because they meet with the government directly to voice their opinion. parents are not given the chance to meet with the government but only with the teachers. the teachers are the link to the government. They are the middle man and we know how important a middle man is.

Sisi_Kill:

Gudit, don't you think it would be much easier for a parent to just pull the plugs. . .I mean the plugs to the TV, the computer, the phone etc?

Mavia1:
According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, a parent is one who brings up and cares for another. In respect of this definition, if the 16-year-old could comfortable bring up and care for a child, i believe she is well-equipped to educate her child about sex. The only factor that could disqualify her is the inability to bring the child up reasonably. Don't you think her age does not really matter in this case? Don't you think she could be matured and strong enough to teach her child not to make the same mistakes she made?

Asantewaa1: @sheba1
1. Do u agree that, it is not everybody that will have access to education, so what is d fate of those who do not have d opportunity of going to school, if sex education is solely d duty of d teachers?
2. Yes, morals are falling, everything is upside down, i agree with u, but who do u think should be responsible for this?
3. How many families have access to TV, DSTV, blackberry, smartphone, etc. And for those who have access to them, who made them available for the teenagers?

Gudit: so are you saying that because you dont want your child to be corrupted by things that "may" be broadcasted by the media, you make them miss out on information entirely thereby putting them in the dark and discouraging their knowledge of current affairs? i think it would be easier if these kids already know what is right from wrong as taught by their teachers and also as taught by the religious bodies.

Sheba1: [color=#990000]so what happens to kids who go 2 boarding schs above 10yrs,we aren't restricting it To an an age limit u know
If u read my stats carefully,the 7hrs was shared btw parents & tv,& for a parent that works 10-12hrs a day,the child would b asleep b4 the parent is back
I neva said the parent wld allow the kids watch it,d child cld get it 4 a friend,cld walk pass a video store which is showing it & all that[color].

Sisi_Kill:
Mavia1, studies have shown that not all adults who have babies are ready to be a parent. . . not to talk of a teenager. If she knew what she was doing, she won't be pregnant at 16. Won't we be indirectly asking for the circle ignorance to continue if we left the upbringing of her child to her alone?

Mavia1:
If she can't bring up the child, then she is not qualified to be referred to as a parent, according to the definition of parent i gave. I was trying to prove to Gudit that the only way she could refer to the 16-year-old as a parent is if she fulfilled the condition of bringing up her child.