geeky_babe: my bestfriend is the closest person to me and i love him very much but we are not dating, though everyone seems to think we are good together. we have been friends for 5 years now and there is nothing that we dont know about each other. we talk, gist play and are even classmates. we sit together in class, and hangout very often (watching movies, going for shows etc..). In the past few months, we started kissing (bad idea) and it was really cool for me because he was the first person to ever kiss me and stir such emotions in me (though somewhere in my sixth sense) i knew kissing my bestfriend was a very wrong idea.

we've both talked about dating and he told me he still wants more time. recently he told me about a girl and that he is thinking of getting serious with her. he told me and asked for my opinion about it, and i told him to be sure he really needed a gf. 4 weeks after (though he claims not to be dating her yet), her pictures have filled his phone, his wallpaper, he is always chatting with her on whatsapp, and they talk for at least 1hr per day (mtn free credit).

i feel i could still be the best friend, but i cant. i feel hurt that he is telling all of our other friends that he really likes me and he's just waiting for the right time, but he is stalking his phone with another girls pictures.

Why dont you just tell him your true feelings for him. If it is mutual you can date for real, if it is not mutual, you go your way and open your heart to others. There is no rule that says a guy must be the first to say how he feels. Go for it girl!!!

i have been avoiding him for over a month now, and there has been no kissing. recently i fell sick, he came over to my room, and he kissed me, and evn though i did not want to, i responded. that day i really talked to him and i said its not cool if he is kissing a girl and asking another girl out. he said he is confused about his feelings too.
all these is going on very bad as we have been having quarrels and i and he's been complaining that i have been acting strangely and i'm hurting him with my actions.

And i want to get even. i just feel so sad, stupid for allowing myself to fall in love with him. other guys have been asking me out but i dont really like them and it hurts so bad that the person i love is just confused, and doesnt even have a clue of what i am going through.
i dont want to loose my bestfriend(i have just very few friends). please i just need advice on how best to handle this.

Jambsupport: he z confused 2 decide. kip away frm him until he knws wat he wants

lola.luv:
Been there, done that. Didn't kiss mine though.

If you don't want to lose him as a friend, then set boundaries. It's either you're dating, or you're not. No shades of grey here!

Wiz_khalifa: wen u guys bcum enemies... Cn i b ur nu bstfwnd?? I cud really use sum kissing.. #mwah

12 inches!:
Girls and guys shud not be bestfriends. They should only be lovers, boyfriends, sex partners or husband and wife. What r u doin with a guy as ur bestfriend. It's peeps like u that complicate the world.