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Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by addictiv(m): 8:52pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
i don't get it, why should someone see service as a punishment even something as little as food.....i mean the main idea of marriage is to serve each other isn't it? there is no law that says a woman must serve her hubby's meals and there is no law that says if she does it she ll automatically become a slave....so whats the problem here? |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Lasinoh: 9:04pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
We are talking NIGERIAN MALES, not the normal males. You have to be a SLAVE to prove your SICK love. Come and take! Make AH tish you sointin! Highest, I help you make Eba or boil rice for you. If you nor fit to go take your own soup/meat from pot. . . .make you suffer impotence! I nor send. LADIES!!!! THIS IS A TRAP!!!! NA SO ABUSE DEY TAKE START!!!! THE DAY YOU DO NOT SERVE, NA SLAP TOZAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! Don't START to serve o! NA SEE FINISH BE DAT! TRAIN YOUR MEN TO COOK AND SERVE YOU INSTEAD!!!! |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by uzoexcel(m): 9:14pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
ki ni e le yi so?shey u dey my side or u dey support kobo?? [CHocolaTE: |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by sugar001(f): 9:28pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
sleekch1c: lots of super-dumb comments. women,serving him food wnt secure him,a dog is a dog even when u dress him in designer clothes.Tell them! God bless you for this comment. |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by bjcole(m): 9:34pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
I ve been appreaciting my wife more these days after joining family section, thank God i did nt fall into d hands of any hawks, i pity future husbands. To do questiong, We onced had a maid & my wife never allow her to near her kitchen, my wife derives pleasure in cooking & serving her husband & my daughter must do same, dats d discpline i wil instil in her. I dont knw otherwise. 3 Likes |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by babyboy3(m): 9:44pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
sleekch1c: lots of super-dumb comments. women,serving him food wnt secure him,a dog is a dog even when u dress him in designer clothes. You couldn't put it any better a man that's going to cheat would cheat whether he lives within 10 miles of no women or not. We have been using Au-pairs over the last 7 years and nothing happened and generally Au-pairs are young and very attractive foreigners, The first one was a very old lady after we interviewed so many young ladies but my wife opt for an old lady but I couldn't complain but the old lady couldn't withstand the school runs and she had to leave we have some Spanish speaking Au-pairs, The kids love her and she is very attractive but I know my boundaries. 2 Likes |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 9:44pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
Eleyi abi oro min? This place don turn to battle ground, this is a serious matter o! 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Tropilo(m): 9:45pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
Shinatu: I wonder why people think having your husband 'snatched' is the worst thing that can happen to the woman? Case of soured grapes. |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by uzoexcel(m): 9:49pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
ow to make Egusi Soup Ingredients Egusi (Melon) seeds - 3 cigar cups | 600g Red Palm Oil – 2 cooking spoons Beef – Best cut and Shaki (cow tripe) Fish – Dry Fish and Stock Fish Crayfish Pepper and Salt to taste Vegetable – Pumpkin leaves or Bitter leaf Seasoning – 3 Maggi or Knorr cubes Traditional Seasoning – 1 Okpei (optional) Tools I used Cooker: Buy it in USA | in UK Deep Pot: Buy it in USA | in UK Spice grinder for grinding egusi (melon) seeds: Buy it in USA | in UK Spatula: Buy it in USA | in UK Chopping board: Buy it in USA | in UK Knives: Buy it in USA | in UK Before you cook Egusi Soup Before preparing the soup, soak the dry fish for about half an hour. Boil the stockfish for 20 minutes and leave in the pot with the hot water to soak for about an hour. Much closer to your cooking time, grind the Egusi with a dry mill. Grind the crayfish and the dry pepper separately and set aside. Wash the vegetable to be used. Cut into tiny pieces. Boil the shaki, stock fish and dry fish in 1 litre of water till they are well done. First sign of a done shaki is that the cuts will start curling on itself. Wash the beef to be used for the soup and place in a pot and start steaming at medium heat. There is no need to add water at this stage. When the meat is done, add 3 cubes of Maggi/Knorr. This method makes the meat cook faster while retaining all the taste. Also meat contains lots of water and you will notice that the water content increases as the meat starts to boil. Cooking Directions There are two main methods of cooking egusi soup. These we will call oil before egusi and egusi before oil. Confusing? Not. Oil Before Egusi Put 2 cooking spoons of red palm oil into a dry pot and set on the stove to heat. As soon as the oil is clearer, add the ground egusi and start frying. This should be done at low heat to avoid burning. Keep frying till you see the egusi getting drier. One sign of this is that it will start sticking to the bottom of the pot. Now, start adding the shaki/fish stock little by little while still turning the egusi. When the stock is exhausted and you feel that the soup is still too thick, you can add more water. If your choice of vegetable is bitterleaf, it should be added now as well. Cover the pot and cook for 30 to 45 minutes. The egusi is done when you notice that the oil has risen to the surface of the mix and separated from the mix. If this is the case, add the fish, shaki and meat. Also add pepper and salt to taste. If pumpkin leaves (or any other soft vegetable) is your choice, please add it now. Cover the pot and leave everything to steam together for 5 minutes. The egusi soup is ready to be served with amala, Eba (garri), pounded yam or cassava fufu. Egusi Before Oil This method produces a healthier egusi soup. This is because there is no frying involved. In this method, as soon as the shaki, fish and meat are done, remove them from the stock and place in a different pot or plate. Add the ground egusi to the stock and cook for 40 minutes. You will notice the clear egusi oil coming to the surface of the soup. Add 2 cooking spoons of red palm oil, the meat, fish, bitter leaves (if it is your choice of vegetable) pepper and salt to taste and cook for another 10 minutes. Now, add the pumpkin leaves if is your choice of vegetables, stir the soup and turn off the heat. The egusi soup is ready to be served with amala, Eba (garri), pounded yam or cassava fufu. Enjoy. . . . |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Stayo90(m): 10:01pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
I enjoyed dis little drama btw kobojunkie and efemena... Bt u guys dnt nid dt 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by MumZ(f): 10:03pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
Y husband? Serve both husband n wife. Part of her duties. Dsnt mean d wife can't do it if she wants 2. All dis fear bout maids snatchn hubbys is getn stale. A hubby dat wants 2 b snachd ll b, weda by d maid or sme1else. |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Dec 05, 2012 |
Only okay if the female children are not old enough to serve their own father or when the woman is away I guess |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by stantob(m): 6:00am On Dec 06, 2012 |
Circumstances can warrant that.So I don't see anything wrong with a maid serving the man of the house. |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Mavor: 9:20am On Dec 06, 2012 |
Lasinoh: We are talking NIGERIAN MALES, not the normal males.Lol. Shay na by force to marry ni? |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by bukatyne(f): 9:29am On Dec 06, 2012 |
addictiv: i don't get it, why should someone see service as a punishment even something as little as food.....i mean the main idea of marriage is to serve each other isn't it? there is no law that says a woman must serve her hubby's meals and there is no law that says if she does it she ll automatically become a slave....so whats the problem here?and how does the husband serve his wife? |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by bluestreak(m): 11:24am On Dec 06, 2012 |
Kobojunkie:...CAPITAL YES..I've cooked and served my wife several no of times. Its no big deal dont get me wrong. Of course when she was heavy, I assisted in a whole lot of things and thats understandable. Talkin of my wife gettin under my car all in the name of assistance...u're a funny man..I cant help but only laugh.[Except if she studied mechanical engineering, automobile option]. Otherwise u must be a joker. We're meant to pamper our wives with love and care. I wont do that. I fix my car and hers to. Thats sounds manly. Pls dont divert and let experienced people talk. 2 Likes |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
tunapawizzy: I'm already married and my husband helps himself with his meals whenever he's hungry! I don't 'serve' him, I'm not a servant! 3 Likes |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Lasinoh: 1:18pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
Mavor: Lol. Shay na by force to marry ni? Not by force . . . but a desperado as a single lady usually means a MEGA desperado in marriage! The trusting and obeying continues. . . .to no effect but low self-esteem. You don't have to be a 'mugu' to get and stay married! SERVE ONLY A MAN WHO SERVES YOU! Never to an emotional nomad! Simple! 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 1:21pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
Ujujoan: you are fired |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 2:10pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
r231: Oya sorry na . . come let me 'serve' you! |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 2:13pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
bluestreak: ..-what d heck is that...hey! lady wives serve their husbands. My wife cooks for me and also serves me. Its her joy doing that, and its my joy fulfilling my obligations as the head of the family. I guess u're young and ur comment shows u're naive. If u have plans of getting married and enjoyin ur married, pls grow up.when u serve ur husband he will also serve u back in many ways. Why do people just assume one is not married, just because she doesn't share their distorted views about marriage! Abeg oh, I'm not in a master servant r/ship with my husband. I don't want to serve my husband and I dont want him to serve me. 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 2:23pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
Uju, why do you want to kill people na? How can you be married when you are not a servant? Don't you know married women "love" to come back all drained and tired and still find joy in service? What is the joy you have as a wife if you say you are not a servant? The maid will snatch your husband or your husband in this case will snatch himself since anyone who gives a Nigerian man food must also sleep with him 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
See me see wahala my sister! Servant kin servant ni . . . If a man wants to sleep with a maid, will he wiat till she's 'serving' him before he does it Na wa! Abeg oh, I did not marry my husband to die of heart attack thinking of irelevant things to prevent people people 'snatching' him from me. in any case, it's absolutely impossible for any woman, with red blood flowing through her veins, to snatch my darling husband from me! Yea, I boast! Bad belle people no ge see me abeg! 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 3:16pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
Nigerian men are enjoying o. |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
Uju Love I have lived both lives the one of the fear of a husband being snatched, cooked washed cleaned worshiped it didn't make him staay faithful. Then I have lived with a man who respects me and let's me have a life and never makes me feel insecure and have any fear whatsoever that he will be snatched. He is an adult who makes sane decisions not controlled like a goat by who "serves" him or what "she wore" or we have aan arguement and I am too scared to speak out because he will "go out and get snacthed. Marry a man who respects you, who won't make you insecure who won't bother your heaad and time with nonesense fear, who will be head of the home love you selflessly and respect you as God commands not one who makes you feel fear that he will be snatched like an uncontrollable headless chicken with no mind of his own to resist even things that won't even matter. Most Nigerian women like me formally live in constant state of paranoia of their husbands being snatched, everyone is a suspect and the man who took a vow with them is never to be blamed or held accountable for his action. It has to be that he was seduced or tempted or provoked. God forbid a minute is actually responsible for any action 3 Likes |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Kobojunkie: 3:39pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
bluestreak: ...CAPITAL YES..I've cooked and served my wife several no of times. Its no big deal dont get me wrong. Of course when she was heavy, I assisted in a whole lot of things and thats understandable. Talkin of my wife gettin under my car all in the name of assistance...u're a funny man..I cant help but only laugh.[Except if she studied mechanical engineering, automobile option]. Otherwise u must be a joker. We're meant to pamper our wives with love and care. I wont do that. I fix my car and hers to. Thats sounds manly. Pls dont divert and let experienced people talk. Oh!! So when she was not pregnant, why do you think she does not need help from you? So there are conditions as to when you can help and when you can't help? Yet you are married to her 24 hours of the day? You mean you can actually count the number of times you have helped, given you are here telling of how you helped? Do you think your wife can do the same . . . i mean count the number of times she has done house chores? Talking of your wife getting under the hood to fix the car . . . . um . . . if her interest is in fixing stuff . . . why not? What is funny about that? I used to have a girlfriend who knew more about cars than I did, and she was generous enough to help me change my oil, fix problems with alternators, batteries, solenoid, etc. What is wrong with that? If you have an intelligent enough wife who does not feel she is limited to house chores, what is funny about that? You are meant to pamper women? So letting them FREELY use their talents wherever it may apply is NOT PAMPERING them? So if a woman prefers to mow the lawn, take out the trash, paint the trash, etc. rather than wash dishes, cook, scrub the floor etc. you should still demand they do house chores because in your mind you have somehow convinced yourself that house chores is all every woman should focus on? 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 3:47pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
debrief08: Uju Love I have lived both lives the one of the fear of a husband being snatched, cooked washed cleaned worshiped it didn't make him staay faithful. Then I have lived with a man who respects me and let's me have a life and never makes me feel insecure and have any fear whatsoever that he will be snatched. Exactly . . . Sometimes I wonder why people get married at all if they are going to end up caging themselves for the rest of their lives! A cheating husband should be held accountanble for his ways and not an unsuspecting maid who was probably sexually abused by "oga"! I admire your courage and patience ooo . . . You know say person like me for give that your ex poison one day . . or knock him over with a pestle . . or pour boiling water on his kini! 1 Like |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Daresh(f): 4:04pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
When I was a kid, the table will be set and my father will come to eat. E no dey know who serve am and e no care whether na maid or my mama.Now I dont have help so its either I serve him or he serves himself. |
Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by meipsum1: 5:13pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
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Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by meipsum1: 5:58pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
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Re: Maid Serving The Husband: Right Or Wrong? by Kobojunkie: 5:59pm On Dec 06, 2012 |
meipsum1: It is a pity how some people think they are married when they are only cohabiting... With all due respect to people like Lasinoh, ujujoan, kobojunkie, chocolate e.t.c, there is some thing call role play, he that made them in the beginning made them Male and Female, there is a reason why men has testosterone and women has oestrogen, why women skin is luscious why that of a man is not as luscious, why women has uterus and women does not. It is because there is a ROLE/PURPOSE for each one of them. When you try to interchange roles there will be problems. Just like when a Goal keeper decides to go and Strike, there will be problem. The Goal keeper is not necessary inferior to a Striker, because no matter how much goal a Striker scores, if a Goal keeper concedes more, the Team will always be losing, so each one of them are equally important in their roles. But we need not be stereotypic, sometimes when a team needs a goal badly doing die minutes and there is a corner kick for the team, a goal keeper will leave the goal pole to try score via corner kick, that is the work of a striker but it is expedient that the goal keeper shelve his own role at that time and do the work of a striker. I just try to use football to try and pass across my thought, because just as a football team involves teamwork and roleplay, so does marriage. You minute you decided in your head that a married couple can be compared to a football team is the minute you revealed you have no clue what marriage is about. There are no set roles in marriage. Apart from the fact that a man has a Pe_nis and a woman has a v-jay-jay, there is no other differences or set abilities otherwise. A woman can work, watch tv, take care of her family in much the same way a man can. It's been proven a million times over at this point. Arguing it is admitting one would rather continue to delude self that being born one gender over the other is something special. meipsum1: It is sad that you come with the above mentality. Very sad indeed as it shows that a lot of work is needed with the way our women raise their children. For every Genevieve out there, do you realize that are many more sons of Adam out there like you still looking to get the Genevieve kinds but cannot because they think like you? You see Genevieve but you don't see the more than 10 men who are still single because she continues to refuse to lower herself to their level. You see Kate Henshaw, but you somehow ignore the long list of men who have desired her for decades but cannot reach her because they probably think as you do and so are below her. Yes, I say below her because one would not expect a Gorilla to go for a babboon. meipsum1: Finally, the picture on my profile is not of me but of a man dressed as a woman. He is a popular british-Nigerian actor. You should know him. Yeah, see how you were decieved by that picture, that is how many of you are with these ideas you spew of how different men are from women. Take away what sits between their legs and there is not much of a difference. Anywho, I honestly you should go find yourself your kind to converse with as I have exhausted too much of my time with people who think as you do and I would rather engage more intelligent and grown up minds on this issue. Even my father, who is a lot lot older than you does not think what you have said here makes any sense. Matter of fact, he suggest you go get your parents to teach you right before you come back out professing to understand even life itself, let alone what is "Natural" to men. 1 Like |
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