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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by huni_naija(f): 11:10pm On Dec 22, 2012
tintingz: abi nau. . .maybe she just got dis-v and checking out men thought on it

op if you know you have spread ya legs and dis-v. . .a guy will still marry you even me sef smiley dont be worried ok...

Believe what you want about me, shows the kind of person you are! No time jare i am who i am smiley
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by D-Explorer: 11:12pm On Dec 22, 2012
ayurdavid: @ huni, u don spread ur thin legs loose ur virginity finish come dey look for sympathy abi. Yeye thing

Young man, sometimes thread created has NOTHING to do with the personality.
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by huni_naija(f): 11:13pm On Dec 22, 2012
D-Explorer:

Now that's my girl. Give me a hug smiley

*goes in for an e-hug* smiley
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by tintingz(m): 11:17pm On Dec 22, 2012
swtdarling: i wonder why women are more castigated for not being virgins than men.if a woman is called immoral for loosing her virginity,so should the man!
hmmm. . .thats why i said ayam a virgin smiley moreover men think bout sexx all the time. . .our urge for sexx is uncontrollable buh women can

secondly nothing is blocking our tin
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by d light(m): 11:19pm On Dec 22, 2012
huni_naija:

Pride in being a virgin? When certain women are even stigmatized for being virgins! The world in which we live in doesn't value anything moral anymore including virgins, even the men who want to marry so called virgins would be the first dis-virgin her without any form of commitment whatsoever if given the chance.
the fact that the society doesn't reckon with moral values does not translate to mean that moral decadence is the acceptable way of life. The fact that everyone indulges in an act does not make it the right thing to do. Nigeria as a country is so bedeviled be corrupt politicians this does not in any way justify that act we all still condemn it but almost all of them are rogues
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by huni_naija(f): 11:24pm On Dec 22, 2012
d light: the fact that the society doesn't reckon with moral values does not translate to mean that moral decadence is the acceptable way of life. The fact that everyone indulges in an act does not make it the right thing to do. Nigeria as a country is so bedeviled be corrupt politicians this does not in any way justify that act we all still condemn it but almost all of them are rogues

True, but those that have realised they've committed a wrong act and repent of such, should they then still be castigated and set aside is the question here?
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by tintingz(m): 11:31pm On Dec 22, 2012
huni_naija:

Believe what you want about me, shows the kind of person you are! No time jare i am who i am smiley
hmmm. . .no time indeed smiley
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by d light(m): 11:59pm On Dec 22, 2012
huni_naija:

True, but those that have realised they've committed a wrong act and repent of such, should they then still be castigated and set aside is the question here?
of course not at least everyone has a past and the fact that a woman is not a virgin before marriage does not make her less worthy a good wife but the fact remains that virginity remains a treasurable thing especially for ladies
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by vivianc(f): 12:20am On Dec 23, 2012
Smh..
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Adaeze003(f): 1:27am On Dec 23, 2012
lord kpakpando: Weder she is a Virgin or not let her just tell me the truth before marriage becos if not it will definitely lead me to divorce
ladies should see this! Deceit might not be tolerated..

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Nobody: 2:32pm On Dec 24, 2012
KateSpade: if you aren't a virgin, you are a loose woman. its a fact. no man wants to marry a trollop.

a woman's virginity is her special gift. it holds together all her morals and dignity.
getting married is best thing u can ever achieve Lmao the same men u are talking of have tasted all shapes and sizes and they will continue to do so especially when they are married to women who think that marriage is all there is to a girl becoming a woman grin ur moral and dignity do not lie between ur legs my dear
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by KateSpade(f): 6:20pm On Dec 24, 2012
mondi_cheeks: getting married is best thing u can ever achieve Lmao the same men u are talking of have tasted all shapes and sizes and they will continue to do so especially when they are married to women who think that marriage is all there is to a girl becoming a woman grin ur moral and dignity do not lie between ur legs my dear

I said I was being sarcastic
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by achina boy(m): 7:30pm On Dec 24, 2012
i think it`s a big mistake for any guy to think of getting married to a virgin,the advice i would give to any girl including my daughter,is to have fun,date as many men as you can,then get married when when you are ready
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Dec 24, 2012
KateSpade:

I said I was being sarcastic
oh sorry
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by tzetzefly(m): 8:19pm On Dec 24, 2012
grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by tpacalipse(m): 8:32pm On Dec 24, 2012
huni_naija:

Learned what?
Yes, have you not learned frm NL?
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Eze Promoe: 8:51pm On Dec 24, 2012
achina boy: i think it`s a big mistake for any guy to think of getting married to a virgin, the advice i would give to any girl including my daughter,is to have fun,date as many men as you can,then get married when when you are ready
Yea, correct guy. Also tell her that a sugar daddy has been waiting for her to grow brëästs.
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by drnoel: 10:09pm On Dec 24, 2012
Oh man, not andoa virigin thread!!!
We all are virgins here, including those who have 3 or 4 children..
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by miftpulse: 10:49pm On Dec 24, 2012
@poster,
if you are not a virgin and you got dumped because of your indiscretion in time past,this is a wrong avenue to vent your anger
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by d light(m): 4:39am On Dec 25, 2012
swtdarling: i wonder why women are more castigated for not being virgins than men.if a woman is called immoral for loosing her virginity,so should the man!
the reason is simple; there is no true test to confirm if a man is a virgin or not otherwise the same thing would have applied to the men's folk and that might probably be even worse than that of ladies

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by lola.luv(f): 7:30am On Dec 25, 2012
While I practice abstinence myself, I'll state categorically that no one should judge a girl who isn't a virgin.

Y'all know the pressure you men put on girls from a young age!
I know how on campus, guys would tell girls 'you either allow me, or it's over', and these girls are at an age where they are emotionally immature and want to please their boyfriends.

Some of my earliest toasters as a mere child were grown arze men - pedos!

In junior secondary, I was about 10, 11, on my way to church a Unilorin lecturer (he showed me his ID) followed me and asked me to be his girlfriend.
You can imagine a 10 year old girl being the one telling an old man that what he's saying is bad, that the church teaches us not to have boyfriends?
Tell me who should know better between the man and the child?
Assuming at that young age, I was ignorant, what do you think would have happened?

Then the Ibo guy who was always waylaying me on my way to school at 12, calling me his wife (na so dem dey start). I reported that one to my huge uncle and he avoided me after receiving a stern warning.

Those are just a few examples. Girls are pressurised from a very young age by men who should know better. If you escape those men, your age-mates who are boys are waiting with their love letters.
Escape those ones, your uni relationships will demand it from you.
Escape that, nysc.

And some willingly give it up for love.

And not to forget, the battle against self. When your own body fights against your will to do what you feel is right. Because let's face it, women have hormones and intimate needs too.

It's a constant struggle, I tell you. You have to be tenacious to escape unscathed.

Please don't judge anybody, except you've walked in their shoes.
Women are human. Prone to choices, circumstances, mistakes, needs, pressure and the likes.

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by tomzman: 8:37am On Dec 25, 2012
Well, as far as I'm concerned, as long as I have not defiled myself, I also deserve a girl who has not defiled herself.I agree with lola that there are a lot of pressures on ladies nowadays but guys too face a lot of temptations as well and I believe a guy who manages to overcome those temptations deserves to be crowned with a girl who also has kept herself.
Ladies, please keep yourselves.It will increase your worth and dignity before your man.
Merry Xmas to you all.

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by lola.luv(f): 9:33am On Dec 25, 2012
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Merry xmas to you too. Of course, you deserve to reap where you have sown. If you have kept yourself, why not?

My grouse is with those who belittle women who aren't vees, yet play a part by not being straight themselves.

A friend slept with 3 girls the time we spent in the same vicinity. His own virgin girlfriend he was keeping in a shielded corner. Till she dumped him.

Anybody that has slept with another man's potential wife, shouldn't expect any less ricocheting back to him.

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by tintingz(m): 9:51am On Dec 25, 2012
mtss*

must a gal open her legs and got dis-v jus to please her boyfwend?

If the gal is not ready for it then the guy should wait...what the essence of dating sef, na only to fukc??

mtss

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Eze Promoe: 10:00am On Dec 25, 2012
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Kirinwa: 11:18am On Dec 25, 2012
Op I understand where you're coming from.You are not a virgin feeling angry and frustrated by men asking you this question.You know you can't lie about issues of this magnitude because you will be discovered.I've heard stories where a woman was divorced because she lied to her husband prior to their marriage.What am I saying?Be truthful to your fiance if he asks you,but if not keep it to yourself because it does more harm than good.It cheapens you and places you in the same scale as sl.uts.A woman who cheats before marriage is more likely to cheat after marriage than one who hasn't.I believe I have said it all.To some it's an issue while others don't care.Truth is 1 out of 3 unmarried girl age 18-30 is not a virgin and gets worse as time goes on.
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by fuckluv(f): 1:23pm On Dec 25, 2012
Guys wants 2 marry a virgin but no one is willing 2 help her keep her virginity. They all want 2 test drive God save our virgin sisters.

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Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by lipsyliscious: 1:51pm On Dec 25, 2012
lola.luv:
While I practice abstinence myself, I'll state categorically that no one should judge a girl who isn't a virgin.

Y'all know the pressure you men put on girls from a young age!
I know how on campus, guys would tell girls 'you either allow me, or it's over', and these girls are at an age where they are emotionally immature and want to please their boyfriends.

Some of my earliest toasters as a mere child were grown arze men - pedos!

In junior secondary, I was about 10, 11, on my way to church a Unilorin lecturer (he showed me his ID) followed me and asked me to be his girlfriend.
You can imagine a 10 year old girl being the one telling an old man that what he's saying is bad, that the church teaches us not to have boyfriends?
Tell me who should know better between the man and the child?
Assuming at that young age, I was ignorant, what do you think would have happened?

Then the Ibo guy who was always waylaying me on my way to school at 12, calling me his wife (na so dem dey start). I reported that one to my huge uncle and he avoided me after receiving a stern warning.

Those are just a few examples. Girls are pressurised from a very young age by men who should know better. If you escape those men, your age-mates who are boys are waiting with their love letters.
Escape those ones, your uni relationships will demand it from you.
Escape that, nysc.

And some willingly give it up for love.

And not to forget, the battle against self. When your own body fights against your will to do what you feel is right. Because let's face it, women have hormones and intimate needs too.

It's a constant struggle, I tell you. You have to be tenacious to escape unscathed.

Please don't judge anybody, except you've walked in their shoes.
Women are human. Prone to choices, circumstances, mistakes, needs, pressure and the likes.
dis is d most sensible point here! I know virgins who watch Indecency, self-service n give deir bfs bjs just 2 keep d virginity! N @ d end u're givin me crap about her bin holy! Lukin @ it religiously,it is a mistake bt societally y'all insistin on virgins cn go 2 hell! As fas as she's not a slut,dere is notin wrong in bin a non-virgin!she has a past just lyk u, move on! If a guy leaves a girl perfect 4 him just because she's nt a virgin den he's a silly a**hole!
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by lindabon(f): 1:52pm On Dec 25, 2012
Both men and women are s/exua/l creatures with temptations to overcome every now and then. Its human nature and Ideally, everyone loves intimacy. . . . . . .
In life, you "get what you give" and when you judge a person by the same "supposedly" bad qualities that you are guilty of, it easily puts you in a ridiculous, hypocritical and compromising situation. undecided

Finally, whether you're a man or a woman, just live your life and do what makes you happy. If you need 1001men or 1001women to be happy (as long as its mutual and you're not hurting anyone), its your life and your choice. Enjoy it! Have fun! . . . . At the same time, if you need 0men or 0women and this is what makes you happy, its your life and your choice. Enjoy it! Have fun! wink wink
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by lipsyliscious: 1:55pm On Dec 25, 2012
Exactly! wink
lindabon: Both men and women are s/exua/l creatures with temptations to overcome every now and then. Its human nature and Ideally, everyone loves intimacy. . . . . . .
In life, you "get what you give" and when you judge a person by the same "supposedly" bad qualities that you are guilty of, it easily puts you in a ridiculous, hypocritical and compromising situation. undecided

Finally, whether you're a man or a woman, just live your life and do what makes you happy. If you need 1001men or 1001women to be happy (as long as its mutual and you're not hurting anyone one), its your life and your choice. Enjoy it! Have fun! . . . . At the same time, if you need 0men or 0women and this is what makes you happy, its your life and your choice. Enjoy it! Have fun! wink wink


Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by sexyeyes2012: 2:00pm On Dec 25, 2012
OP, you sound apologetic. Unless you were promiscuous, there's nothing to apologize for. If u have any little doubt of your worthiness, no man is gonna find u worthy. It's all about the confidence you portray. Whatever u do, just make sure u do it smart, don't date ppl in the same circle, be picky, dont get pregnant, learn from the experiences, keep your boyfriends on the DL unless u r 1000% sure he's the one....If you do this you will have no problem attracting modern men who believe in equality. Hubby has no issue with my past, and we have told each other all the ppl we have kissed, fooled around with, had sex with....
Re: Nigerian Men, So What If She's Not A Virgin? by Dolly-Parton(f): 2:05pm On Dec 25, 2012
lipsyliscious: dis is d most sensible point here! I know virgins who watch Indecency, self-service n give deir bfs bjs just 2 keep d virginity! N @ d end u're givin me crap about her bin holy! Lukin @ it religiously,it is a mistake bt societally y'all insistin on virgins cn go 2 hell! As fas as she's not a slut,dere is notin wrong in bin a non-virgin!she has a past just lyk u, move on! If a guy leaves a girl perfect 4 him just because she's nt a virgin den he's a silly a**hole!

Gbam!!!
I have a friend who is a virgin, but she's done everything except s3x.
and with more than 10 guys. She was even telling me one of the guys told his friend that she gives d best bj in town.
So the husband that marries her will think he don marry virgin.

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