Most times I hear ladies say they are looking for husband, but when they meet a guy, they want to start as friends, become the guys Gf, then when he proposes you become his FIANCE, then finally when he marries you you become a WIFE.

That is a wrong motive. As a gf most ladies will want a guy to take them shopping, take them out to eat out most times, give them money for human hair etc.

Those are things done in a BF GF relationship. A WIFE is not the woman you become after the wedding. Don't wait till you are married to become a WIFE.

If you have the GF mentality and say you are looking for husband, you will get a bf instead.

Become a wife and a husband will come for you.

When you meet a guy you like and he likes you, cut the GF state out. Cut the forming. Don't try to know how caring he is by demanding a lot to look good.

Instead of thinking of how to spend his money, focus on how to help him save it. That is what wives do.

Instead of looking for the best resturants to go and eat, find the best market to get food stuff.

Instead of encouraging him to hang out with his friends and your friends all the time, focus on making his house comfortable so that u both can stay home and let friends come visiting. That's how family starts.

Instead of trying to make him spend a lot on clothing to look good to impress you and friends always. Focus on making sure that the ones he has are always clean, wash them or take them to the dry cleaner.

Instead of getting to know who his friends and ex gfs are. Focus on who his family is, ask about his mother, sisters and brothers. Those are the people you get married to.

Instead of trying to get him to buy stuff for u all the time , do the buying for him because when your married his money is yours.

Don't spend all the money he gives you save it. There is nothing that gives a man joy to know that his girl saves part of the money he gives her. It shows she thinks of a future together.

When a man sees a wife he becomes a husband. But if he sees a gf he becomes a bf first.

If you want a HUSBAND Become a wife. GF take Wives give and save.

Are you a GF or a WIFE? Do you like your guy spending the money he would use to buy pampers on human hair and expensive drinks in the club?

The funny thing about some nigerian men is that they want to lead and be lead at the same time. You cant have it both ways! If the man is supposed to be the head of the relationship, why is it that its the woman who has to put in all the work, take the initiative and be the one to act like a wife first so that the man should follow and act like a husband? Im tired of all these posts on nairaland especially by men telling women how to behave. Why dont you find out how men should behave first and work on yourselves rather than looking for faults or ways to 'improve' a woman's behaviour. Why must she wash his clothes - is he a child that doesn't know how to clean for himself? Why must she do wifely duties, if shes not a wife? Where is the guarantee that he will reciprocate it and act like a husband? Why would he want to wife her if hes already getting the benefits already?

its22078: The funny thing about some nigerian men is that they want to lead and be lead at the same time. You cant have it both ways! If the man is supposed to be the head of the relationship, why is it that its the woman who has to put in all the work, take the initiative and be the one to act like a wife first so that the man should follow and act like a husband? Im tired of all these posts on nairaland especially by men telling women how to behave. Why dont you find out how men should behave first and work on yourselves rather than looking for faults or ways to 'improve' a woman's behaviour. Why must she wash his clothes - is he a child that doesn't know how to clean for himself? Why must she do wifely duties, if shes not a wife? Where is the guarantee that he will reciprocate it and act like a husband? Why would he want to wife her if hes already getting the benefits already?

Well men don't have menopause. The sooner the ladies adopt this principle of becoming a wife and developing the wife qualities the better for them.

You don't want to realize this simple truth when your 40.

This is how women behaved those days and they were easily getting married. They knew no other ways to approach a man.

From child hood all they picture they had of relationships was what they saw their mother doing.

The only way their mother thought them to approach men was as a wife.

Today ladies are learning to approach men and relationships for , kim kadeshan, series like single ladies, celebrity gossip etc.

By the time they finish the western culture age is not on their side and it becomes too late to go back to the traditional approach.

@its22078, are you single or married pls?

mekaboy: Most times I hear ladies say they are looking for husband, but when they meet a guy, they want to start as friends, become the guys Gf, then when he proposes you become his FIANCE, then finally when he marries you you become a WIFE.

That is a wrong motive. As a gf most ladies will want a guy to take them shopping, take them out to eat out most times, give them money for human hair etc.

Those are things done in a BF GF relationship. A WIFE is not the woman you become after the wedding. Don't wait till you are married to become a WIFE.

If you have the GF mentality and say you are looking for husband, you will get a bf instead.

Become a wife and a husband will come for you.

When you meet a guy you like and he likes you, cut the GF state out. Cut the forming. Don't try to know how caring he is by demanding a lot to look good.

Instead of thinking of how to spend his money, focus on how to help him save it. That is what wives do.

Instead of looking for the best resturants to go and eat, find the best market to get food stuff.

Instead of encouraging him to hang out with his friends and your friends all the time, focus on making his house comfortable so that u both can stay home and let friends come visiting. That's how family starts.

Instead of trying to make him spend a lot on clothing to look good to impress you and friends always. Focus on making sure that the ones he has are always clean, wash them or take them to the dry cleaner.

Instead of getting to know who his friends and ex gfs are. Focus on who his family is, ask about his mother, sisters and brothers. Those are the people you get married to.

Instead of trying to get him to buy stuff for u all the time , do the buying for him because when your married his money is yours.

Don't spend all the money he gives you save it. There is nothing that gives a man joy to know that his girl saves part of the money he gives her. It shows she thinks of a future together.

When a man sees a wife he becomes a husband. But if he sees a gf he becomes a bf first.

If you want a HUSBAND Become a wife. GF take Wives give and save.

Are you a GF or a WIFE? Do you like your guy spending the money he would use to buy pampers on human hair and expensive drinks in the club?

@op nice right up naija girls please learn and don't end getting married to a monster

That's it. I hope girls will take this positively and not try to justify themselves in whatever way.

The washing cloth part is f**ked,is he a child??the rest is on point.

byvan: The washing cloth part is f**ked,is he a child??the rest is on point.

Correct

byvan: The washing cloth part is f**ked,is he a child??the rest is on point.

Lol, he is not a child but u call him baby.

interesting....... extactly wot a lady should adapt