ITbomb: .Sleeping positions also helps

yuzedo: By FLOGIN d pikins day and nite, dey will learn any talent u wanted, i promice!!!!

PAGAN 9JA:
dont do any test.


Introduce her/him to a wide variety of options. provide the child with art books, encyclopedias/picture books, musical instruments, swimming classes, sport goods (football, tennis raquet) etc. give it many options at an early stage.

The child will automatically pick up the option it finds best suited towards and will work on it. Always provide the options and keep it as an open choice.


If the child is talented in anything, it will show itself. you wont even need to go after it, because it will be interested in it. (the child i speak of will be around 3-4 yrs). however if you dont provide equipment and options, you will never know what good your child is for.


Im speaking this from personal experience . My parents left me around Gods for a lot of time. I used to spend time with Idols, ritual stuffs, books on religion, etc., from an early age. Thats how Im so interested in Traditional Religion.

so yeahh. it depends on your choices.

redsun:

The worst is that these kids tend to be very intelligent,but brushing their teeth tend to be a mammoth task or even washing hands before eating or keeping their clothes clean or tiding up their rooms.

And don't know how that connects with intelligence,but everyday basic chores tend to be mammoth task for some bright kids.

yuzedo: By FLOGIN d pikins day and nite, dey will learn any talent u wanted, i promice!!!!

ayswags: Naija parents dont recognize talent the only thing they identify is books,go to school and bcom an engineer,a doctor,a lawyer because to them thats the only definition of success
so any talented child have to nurture and groom his talent all alone because the parents are never gonna be supportive of it until they start seeing the flash of success in it

PAGAN 9JA:



there is only 1 solution to that. .




^The above will take care of their basic responsibilities, so they can look into higher areas and talents. If a child cant even brush its own teeth, he/she is a good for nothing and should be drowned.

redsun:

Are you actually serious?or you are just being sarcastic?Because even a bright child won't make such suggestions.

Doing that will inhibit whatever good in that child,destroy his confidence and wipe out his/her creative intuitions.I think there are better ways to make them see need for self preservation and protection.

PAGAN 9JA:



I was flogged and loved @ the same time. I thank my parents for making me the man Im today. I would not've suceeded without slight discipline.

redsun:

I think the children of these are are way different from what we were children.We were more or less brought up in a crude age,while the children of these days are born into this complex digital world that they seem to adapt to at early age.And it shapes their iq,thinking and intelligence.

They are always finding easy way out because every thing in their graphic and synthetic world seems easy.

favoured-seed:
I want my son to be a footballer, I was so happy when his school teacher told me dat he is d only one in the class (less than 2 years old) dat uses his leg to play football, others use hand, so he plays football wit older pupils

PAGAN 9JA:




nothing digital. just smash their ps3s and flog them. they will immediately come out of their dream land and enter the real world.

redsun:

Are you for real man?Wow! what you are saying is very scary.People will think i have gone crazy doing that.

PAGAN 9JA:



good. now take it forward. make him join coaching classes. etc. etc.

dont heap riches on him, or else that will get into his head. do it step by step.

PAGAN 9JA:

redsun:

It is time you start seeing things different,or else you are going to get into serious trouble for hurting a child.

Children upbringing is very complex,especially in a regulated world were were rules and orders abides.Abi,are permanently nigeria base?

favoured-seed:

Noted, thanx

PAGAN 9JA:



I dont care. I will bring up a child however I see fit. there is nothing complex. If a child behaves, reward it. If a child misbehaves, flog it. No. I am not permanent 9JA based. I keep traveling. I am a nomad.

redsun:

Na wa for u o.What will tell a teacher that flogs your child merciless for being late to class or for doing his/her assignment?

PAGAN 9JA:


depends on his offence and how mercilessly.

redsun:

Although i was caned as a child,both at home and at school,but i don't see anything good about.

And i am not bitter for having the experience,but i will take compromise and good rapport with a child anytime anyday,no matter what the issue is.

Children learn by mistakes,challenges,constructive correction and persistent examples.The more you talk them down or beat them down,the more they get confused,withdrawn and less proactive.Same as abused or intimidated adults.

If you think i am lying,take a deep look at nigerian present elders/youths population of today and see how dormant,unconstructive and immobile they are.Like subdued children.

PAGAN 9JA:



I think you are lying. look at american and european kids. by the time they are 14, they are into drugs, p.orn, gang, etc.

they even call police on their parents for scolding them.

btw your example of Nigerian elders/youths is very lame. .


dont take offence. its my opinion.

redsun:

Most american and european kids that are into drugs are mostly kids from broken homes,kids born of kids and abused kids like you are recommending.

As for example of nigerian elders/youth,i will remind you of the taste of the taste of the pudding saying.It is clear to see that nigerian society of today is more or less a failed one and the answer lies in looking within and actually finding out the fundamental relevance of life and survival.Understanding the basic intelligence(common sense) that could be passed on to children without fuss or violence.