While some men don’t want to
settle down and claim a
girlfriend, most men don’t need
any “girl…friends” either. After
all, what man wants to just
“hang out” with a beautiful
woman?
That’s what his boys are for. It’s
totally possible for men and
women to be platonic friends,
but that’s not normally how it
starts.
The man is attracted to a
woman, he asks her out, and
they spend time together. But
then somewhere along the line,
said man falls into the dreaded
“friend zone” – and he has no
idea how he got there. He’s not
sure if she’s playing hard to get,
or if he’s been hoodwinked –
and while he’s trying to figure it
all out, the woman knows
exactly what she’s doing. If
you’re not sure if you’re being
played for a fool, here are some
signs that she just might be
using you.
1. You Are Her Personal
Chauffeur
You have a car…she doesn’t.
This is not a big deal, and being
the gentleman you are, you have
no problem picking her up for
dates. But after a while, you’re
not just picking her up to go to
the movies. You’re driving her to
work, to her doctor’s
appointment and even to her
friends’ house. As a matter of
fact, she asks you to drive her
AND her friends around – to the
club, the mall, wherever. But
she’s attractive, so you do it,
even if it’s totally out of your
way. The way you see it, she’ll
think you’re such a nice guy that
she might even invite you
INSIDE of her home one day.
But she doesn’t, and you barely
get a kiss on the cheek for all of
the gas you’ve burnt up. If she’s
given you ZERO indication that
she’s even remotely physically
attracted to you, then she’s
using you for a ride. Unless
you’ve at least gotten to second
base, keep your car parked and
let her figure out how to get
around herself.
2. You’re Her Flunky
It’s not enough that you drive
her around, but sometimes she
sends you out WITHOUT HER to
run her errands. She asks you,
in that ever so sweet voice of
hers, to pick up her dry cleaning
“since it’s on your way home.”
She has to work late, so she
wants to know if you’d be a dear
and walk her precious dog for
her. And you do it, because you
figure that’s what a good
boyfriend would do, right?
Right.
Problem is, you’re not her
boyfriend, you’re her errand
boy; and any hopes you had of
becoming her boyfriend went
out the window along with your
dignity. She’s not going to date
you because she doesn’t respect
you. Some women don’t like a
guy who does whatever she
says or who she can walk all
over. What you see as kindness,
she may view as weakness. It’s
sad but true. There’s nothing
wrong with being a good friend,
if that’s all you want to be. But if
you want more, and she’s not
giving it to you, despite all of
your good intentions, then
bounce…and let her hire an
assistant.
3. You Are Her “Go-To” Date
If you find that she only wants
to go OUT – to the movies, a
concert or to her favorite
restaurant, chances are she just
wants to get out of the house
and you are her “go-to” date.
Every time she calls, you’re
always available…probably
because you sit around waiting
for your phone to ring. She
knows this, and she also knows
that you will do anything to be in
her presence. If she’s always
busy when you invite her to
your crib or you’ve never seen
the inside of her place, then she
probably doesn’t want to be
anywhere where something
could jump off…and she’d have
to turn you down. Just once or
twice, be busy when she calls or
tell her “no” to an outside date
and see how she reacts. If she’s
bent out of shape or stops
calling, then you’ll know she’s
probably not that into you.
4. You Pay For ALL Dates
Not only are you her “go-to”
date – you also PAY for ALL of
the dates. Some women expect
men to pay for all dates, and
some men even agree with that.
But you shouldn’t be going
broke while you’re trying to
figure if she actually even likes
you. If you’ve got the means to
stick it out until she magically
falls in love with you, then rock
on. But if you have to take out a
small loan just to keep courting
this woman, while she NEVER
ever offers to pay for anything,
then stop…now. See how long
she wants to “date” you when
you tell her that you forgot your
wallet.
5. You Pay Her Bills
It’s one thing to pay for dates,
but it’s another thing to pay her
rent. There’s nothing wrong with
helping out a friend in need, or
LOANING someone some money
until they get on their feet. But
unless you are her MAN, and
you KNOW this, then there is no
way you should be paying for
anything that’s in her name. Men
and women use each other all
the time for different things, but
you’re a straight up sucka if she
hands you a utility bill and you
actually pay it…regularly. And
don’t try taking her to court
when she drops you for some
other fool and you’re out
hundreds or thousands of
dollars. She’ll claim it was a “gift”
and you’ll never get your money
back. Listen to what I’m telling
you and save yourself from
having to learn an expensive
lesson on your own.
6. You’re Mr. Fix It
You’ve let it be known that
you’re pretty handy when it
comes to fixing things, so she
invites you over one Saturday
afternoon to “help” her paint
her house. You think it’ll earn
you some cool points – and
you’ll get to be INSIDE her place
and you can seduce her while
you wait for the paint to dry.
WRONG! All she’s going to do is
find a way to be busy “doing
something else” while you paint,
and when you’re done, she’ll
suddenly need a ride to Home
Depot to pick up some things for
the next project you’ll be
working on. So you drive her
there (See #1) and pay for all
the materials (See #5) and then
go back to her place to install
her new cabinets, hang some
shelves and fix her leaky faucet.
She doesn’t even offer to feed
you (See #4). She rushes you
out of her house when the work
is done because she’s
“tired” (has a date with
someone else) so you leave,
hoping for another chance to
get closer to her bedroom. You,
my friend, have been had. Next
time, tell her to hire a contractor
and keep it moving.
7. You’re Her Confidante
So by now, you realize that
you’re in the” friend zone”, but
you don’t care. You think you
still have a chance to woo her,
so you continue to be her
shoulder to cry on hoping that
one day she’ll come to her
senses and realize what a
wonderful, caring,
compassionate man you are. So
you endure endless hours of
her late night calls crying to you
about the jerk who broke her
heart (again). You encourage
her complaints about all the no-
good men out there and remind
her that if she were your
woman, you’d never hurt her
and treat her like the queen that
she is. Little do you know, she’s
a glutton for punishment, only
likes “bad boys” and thinks nice
guys like you are weak and
pathetic. Dude, run…or else
she’ll just continue to use you
up and walk all over you. You’re
wasting your time if you think
she’ll change her mind about
you – and if she finally ever
does, it’ll be too late…because
you will have found a woman
who appreciates you.
8. You’re Her s*x Toy
Now, this might not be a
problem for most men out
there, but if you are genuinely
interested in having a real
relationship, getting married and
having kids one day, then you
might want to find a woman
who wants you for more than
s*x. Believe it or not, there are
women out there, like men, who
have jump-offs who they will
never be seen out in public with.
The s*x is earth shattering, but
she doesn’t want a relationship,
OR, she doesn’t want a
relationship with YOU. Maybe
you’re too short, don’t have a
job, have multiple children with
multiple women, have some
teeth missing…who knows.
Either way, she doesn’t want her
girlfriends to know about you,
so you become her dirty little
secret and she calls you after
midnight to come by and crack
her back. Now, again…some, if
not most, men would be fine
with this arrangement. But if
you’ve somehow caught feelings
for her, then it’s best you leave
now before your heart gets
broken into a million little pieces
once she finds a guy she can
actually be seen in daylight with.

You nailed it.