my friend who uses internet dating sites saw my boyfriend on one we have been together for 5 years and have 3 kids...we did separate for a few weeks and he said that's when he joined up but I also went through his emails and it seems he joined 6 different sites mainly the ones for casual fun...I checked his message some he wrote something but no pic and others he wrote profile up and added pics..he hasn't sent message but was that cos you have to pay to do so but if it was free who knows he may of messaged them .I packed his stuff and asked him to leave as I am very hurt and feel so betrayed..i asked why did he do it he said cos I hurt him in the past and he wanted to hurt me back which does not make any sense because if my friend didn't see him online I would never have known (what you don't know don't hurt you right)so how could that be a valid excuse then he said he was on there cos we broke up and I wasn't talking to him...we are meant to get married in September but I really am not sure if I could ever trust him again I feel so let down...also want to add when we decided to give things another go I asked him if he had anything to tell me and he said no he had not been in contact with any girls etc....he also denied he had been logging into the sites when one said on there online today and other said online within a week how can that be wrong .....so confused and do not know what to do sorry for the long essay

hmmmm No long thing

Kai this Guy don suffer .I used hear men banning their women from social networking site,now it is the other way round.Well women liberation things.

Maybe I Don't Understand You Or I Just Don't Want To Talk...

Huh?

Ko tie yemi gan sef

KINGwax: Ko tie yemi gan sef

sexkillz: In short, for living together for 5 years and having 3 kids without getting married, you are both dishonest!

What's dishonest about this?

You guys have 3kids within 5years? . Whats the age gap among your kids?

Back to topic, so you are comfortably staying with a man for 5yrs with 3 kids and he is not yet your husband? Is this some kind of desperation? The man is not ready to marry you. Na me talk am

I don't think a dishonest person will change.My boyfriend doesn't know that his family has told me all about his deeds,he called me to applogise,only for me to listen to more lies.

3 kids,five yrs,u be machine?

Please don't go back to such irresponsible man. Please please please hold on. The guy is a blog/dating site maniac and such a man can be a serious cheat. Besides he is very dishonest. Go to God for cleansing. Take your children too. Staying in a house pretending to be a wife to a man who never wedded you , an irresponsible man for that matter is a very bad move. Don't go back to him again except if God says so. No matter how he begs, don't go back, don't let your emotions weaken you. Hold on until you get to know the will of God for your life and kids. The blessings of God are perfect and they add no sorrow. Hold on!

KINGwax: Ko tie yemi gan sef

Ko ma y'emi na o but...madam u can help him. Gist abt it as though its nothing. Log-in with him, nonchalantly help him select friends even suggest prettier girls. There are oddly effective ways to torture a man's heart...ever played mind games? But of course, u need to have ur emotions under grip.

Princess zoe: Please don't go back to such irresponsible man. Please please please hold on. The guy is a blog/dating site maniac and such a man can be a serious cheat. Besides he is very dishonest. Go to God for cleansing. Take your children too. Staying in a house pretending to be a wife to a man who never wedded you , an irresponsible man for that matter is a very bad move. Don't go back to him again except if God says so. No matter how he begs, don't go back, don't let your emotions weaken you. Hold on until you get to know the will of God for your life and kids. The blessings of God are perfect and they add no sorrow. Hold on!

I don't get it. What makes the man irresponsible and the woman a saint? Was the woman molested three times and it resulted into three children? You sound like you know a lot about the man. Pls educate us.

Caracta:

I don't get it. What makes the man irresponsible and the woman a saint? Was the woman molested three times and it resulted into three children? You sound like you know a lot about the man. Pls educate us.

educate us! ''My HOD'' favourite quote durin MSc project defence.

does it matter after 5yrs? u must have been through serious issues more than this.

but op ur thread is twisty; 5rys, 3kids, bf and now mundane issue

So both of you have been indulging in fornication for good five years? Both of your are not even serious in the first place.

Has he ever cheated on you? If you're having doubts, then think twice before marrying him. A man with three kids and a fiance has no business being on dating sites. The reason he gave sef is just ridiculous: you hurt him in the past and he wanted to hurt you back. Seems he was just trying to blame you for joining the site, and you're right, that makes no sense! You've a big decision to make. Good luck!

If he did it when y'all were broke up when what does it even matter now? If he hasnt been using them since then there is no issue with it.

Like seriously!3 kids in five years and he z still ur boyfrend? U guys re not serious. Ahahha infact I don't want to talk.