How do you know if someone is using emotional blackmail to get what they want from you?
Is your boyfriend/girlfriend using emotional blackmail to manipulate you?Do they threaten to make your life difficult if you don't do what they want?

Always want more from you?

Assume you'll always give in to them?

Often ignore your feelings and wants?

Make promises that depend on your behaviour but rarely keep them anyway?

Keep labelling you as selfish,bad,greedy,unfeeling or uncaring when you dont give in to them ?

Tell you how wonderful you when you give in to them,then say u aint when you don't?
Use money to get their own way?.....
If you can see a pattern in your relationship and the questions above its really not that uncommon.Unfortunately most of us at one time ot another will have been on the wrong end of someone close to manipulating us.
Some of us are more vulnerable to emotional blackmail than others.
When we embark on the relationship roller-coaster, we bring our own set of hot insecurities,anger,resentment and fears.
The elephant in the room is when a potential emotional blackmailer figures what our hot buttons are they start to push them,we react and voila the game is on.
Our compliance in allowing the emotional blackmailer to get what they want,basically means we are rewarding them for their behaviour and letting them know that they can do it again and again.
Fear is a strong basis for emotional blackmail, fear of loss, fear of change,fear of rejection and fear of losing power.Quite often there is always a trigger for example loss of a job, divorce, retirement or illness can increase the anxiety and stress in a relationship leading to the person feeling very insecure and then the emotional blackmail can start.
Many of the people who will emotionally blackmail us will be friends, partners, family or colleagues. These are people we want to have close relationships with.
Often the emotional blackmailer will leave us feeling off balance, ashamed and guilty, we desperately want to change the situation but don't know how plus our self-worth is eroded.

So how do we go round this madness?!

Food for thought

WAM?:
Food for thought

I guess so.

many ladies do this