degamonn: Don't u have friends to share this with? it is not evrytin one brings to court of public opinion. However, d decision 2 tell him or not is within u. How many of these pple here know ur fada?

otooro: Please advice me.

For up to ten years now, my mum, siblings and i have been separated frm our dad. i really cant give details abt that now, but the truth is we still communicate well with him, but we dont live together.

Now, i've gotten a very good job and i take care of my mum and siblings....my dad as well, but he doesn't know where the money is from because i'm d last born and i dont wanna reveal that to him.

he has been asking me about school...and i've been telling him various things over d years and now i've 'graduated'...i dont know the next thing to say...lol

my little worry is that, he has been kind of fetish before amidst his character disorders! i dont want any 'troubles' because i think, if he knws, he would be very demanding and not responding accordingly could be dangerous!

i still a little confused tho' because i dont want to lie anymore!

what do u advice pls?

Efemena_xy:

Otooro, nor be Jokes Section we dey o! So better make sure that your story up there na true talk, or else...

Anyway, as per the bolded bit, abeg explain further. What d'you mean when you say your dad's been kind of fetish? D'you mean he's a juju worshipper or something?

You also say he's got 'character disorders'. What sort of disorders are you referring to here? Multiple personalities? BiPolar?

You also say he could be demanding and very dangerous. How dangerous? Physically dangerous?

Sorry about the questions, just trying to get a clearer picture of where you're coming from with this. Having said that, the way I see it (based on what you've told us so far) is that you are untrusting and apprehensive of your dad. Probably due to the breakdown in relationship that occurred ten years ago?

Whatever the issue might have been between your parents, it's obviously affected you too, hence your perception of him. Nevertheless, I would advice that you find it in your heart to forgive him of any hurt you might be feeling from this. You're already supporting him financially, so that's a step in the right direction.

I think what you need to do next is to sit with him and have a man-to-man chat with him. You never know, he too might be hurting and may be trying to reach out to you in his own way, hence his questions. I also think that if you're able to clear the air between you both, you might see him in a different light. Less frightening or rather, less fetish. Try and see past any hurt that happened in the past.

You know, we don't get to pick and choose our parents, but we should as their offspring, show love to them.

It is well.

Efemena_xy:

Otooro, nor be Jokes Section we dey o! So better make sure that your story up there na true talk, or else...

Anyway, as per the bolded bit, abeg explain further. What d'you mean when you say your dad's been kind of fetish? D'you mean he's a juju worshipper or something?

You also say he's got 'character disorders'. What sort of disorders are you referring to here? Multiple personalities? BiPolar?

You also say he could be demanding and very dangerous. How dangerous? Physically dangerous?

Sorry about the questions, just trying to get a clearer picture of where you're coming from with this. Having said that, the way I see it (based on what you've told us so far) is that you are untrusting and apprehensive of your dad. Probably due to the breakdown in relationship that occurred ten years ago?

Whatever the issue might have been between your parents, it's obviously affected you too, hence your perception of him. Nevertheless, I would advice that you find it in your heart to forgive him of any hurt you might be feeling from this. You're already supporting him financially, so that's a step in the right direction.

I think what you need to do next is to sit with him and have a man-to-man chat with him. You never know, he too might be hurting and may be trying to reach out to you in his own way, hence his questions. I also think that if you're able to clear the air between you both, you might see him in a different light. Less frightening or rather, less fetish. Try and see past any hurt that happened in the past.

You know, we don't get to pick and choose our parents, but we should as their offspring, show love to them.

It is well.

mgbeketoto: What exactly is the problem?

A fruit or BITTER KOLA does not fall to far from it's TREE OR ROOT!

Chances are. . .HE ALREADY KNOWS. . . YOU ARE HIS SON!
You can NEVER BE SMARTER THAN THAT WHICH BROUGHT YOU FORTH.

Stop acting like you have something to hide. . . YOU ARE NOT A SECRET TO HIM!

If he is like my DAD. . . he is just PLAYING DUMB WITH YOU. . .BECAUSE YOU ARE REALLY DUMB!

A cultist will ALWAYS GIVE BIRTH TO A CULTIST. . . just like a RA-PIST will always give birth to a RA-PIST!

Next topic please. . .

ALL THREADS UNFOLLOWED. . .BLANK PROFILE PAGE. . .

*logging off*

yinka olagbaju: if you are a christian seek counsel from the holy spirit,if you cant, i would advice you to keep your growth and purpose in life secret.Being fetish is eating with the devil and i don't think you would want to share your testimonies with the devil! be wise!

fairlyisabel: @ op i will go straight to the answer to your question. Do not tell him , @ least not now. A fetish man can go any level unimaginable. A fetish man can syphone his children's blessings once he knew that they are doing well. A fetish man can equally be a witch(wizard) and apparently they can devour their children's proceeds. Which church do you attend? How fervant and strong is your prayer life? The spirits that your father consults while performing evil things can raise up against who ever that does not pay homeage to it including you. Please be mindful of the money you give him for he may first of all dedicate the money in their evil alter before spending which will cause havoc to you. Always ask God for His will and direction before giving your father anything because household battle is a terrible scene.

baby_123: You are the last born, taking care of your mum, older siblings and parents. What were you doing before you "graduated". Or you have "graduated" a long time ago and have gotten a job. but you just recently confessed to your dad about your graduation and made the date seem a lot sooner. You can tell him you have a job. You dont need to tell him what your occupation is and your salary. if he insists, tell him another amount. Never tell anyone how much you truly make, because they will be calculating your salary for you. The day you tell them you cant give them what they want, will be the beginning of your troubles.

otooro:

i still haven't found any advice frm ur post.

Aringarosa:

Lol.

Don't expect one from Calloti aka militia, aka jellita, aka mgbeketoto

otooro:

an individual, three usernames? whr r d mods?

Cholls: My brother they have given u a very good advice.....But its your choice and I believe u r not mummie's boy? U r a grown man.