yellowpawpaw:
I love u pass my parents.I can do anything for u bebe,ur wish is my command,oh he is sooo coool,look at his nose,legs and abs etc
The list is endless!

Sweetmom115: My husband & I are based in hull United Kingdom & we love one another dearly during our dating time he knew I was a Muslim, we had our first baby (Kate) only recently he started actin cold towards me insisting I've 2change to Christian I was vry angry about it. I was angry because he never discuss this with me in the beginning, I need your sincere advice towards this issue HOUSE. Is it important for a wife to practice her husband religion at all?. Also I would be glad if this make it to the front page.

Thanks

He's afraid u might be linked to Al Qaeda

Efemena_xy:

Choi!! All that for Oga biolabee?

Efemena_xy:

Choi!! All that for Oga biolabee?

Billionaires: There are more reasons you should change to Christianity, but it has to be your choice finally, one can only advise.

obowunmi: Seriously is it by force to marry? You married him knowing that he's Christian


Why didn't u marry one of your kind?

yellowpawpaw:

Chei madam,abeg o! Na illustration naw!
Iya beji!

ameenahz:

Sir, i think the same thing applies to the man. He married her knowing she was a muslim. Why didnt HE marry one of his kind? And why didnt he strive to convert her BEFORE marrying her?

@OP, it is too late to say this, but i'll say it anyway: you guys shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. A muslim woman shouldnt marry a non muslim man. A (an African) woman doesnt 'really' have a choice in issues like this. You should have known that.

That said, to me, it's too late to convince your husband to allow you practise your religion. Besides, no (African) man will watch/allow you practise a different religion, so you have two choices: It's either your home or your religion. Set your priorities right and make a choice. I pray God guides you to make the right choice.

damiso:

Not absolutely true
Hard esp due to raising kids in a confusing way.I do know an older aunt who is an assistant pastor in RCCG and her husband is still a Muslims.I don't live with them but as far as I know they don't see it as an issue.Not ideal as I know it makes what religion the children will practise awkward but its possible with communication and understanding.

Even the kids sef that I think its an issue na God o. .I was raised in baba alhaji alhaja home, as we had school lesson teacher we had ustaz for Quran and if not that I was unserious I almost had my Walimaat at 13.I was Amirah(female president) of MSS (muslim students society) in secondary school and I actually used to wear hijab.
But today I am a Christian

ameenahz:

Ha, madam, it is always a big issue o. Even if they dont make much noise about it, you cannot know the wounds/regrets either of them is secretly nursing in their hearts/home. I know and have spoken with muslim men who were married to christians and agreed during courtship only to become uncomfortable after 2 kids. Some of them ended up getting divorced. The people you see, semingly ok with their spouses' religion, you will discover a lot of 'grudges' when you sit them down and have a heart to heart talk with them.

The ones that truly dont care and dont complain are either liberalists or 'unserious' (most times, both) and are very few.

And by the way, madam, i have questions for you o. Can i send u PMs?

damiso:

True that often its difficult for a strong spirikoko Christian or muslim to marry outside.I had actually converted before I met my husband so my case is slightly different.As for PM's I cant remember my NL email password.Really private

ameenahz:

Awww, why now? The questions are private and i dont want to derail the thread. Issorai. No probs.

nat138: It is quite annoying when people bring serious issues on here and then disappear.

OP sought for advise which she has been given and very serious questions have been asked but she is no where to provide answers to them na wa o.

As one poster said 'I wonder what people discuss during courtship these days'. You would imagine that the issue of religion will be top priority but well deed has been done already.

The Op's hubby probably didnt bother all this time because there were no kids in the picture, now with the arrival of baby Kate, it has become a worry to him as to which religion his daughter as well as subsequent children will follow. Will the kids go to the mosque with mummy on friday and then follow daddy to church on Sunday? I have a friend whose dad was a muslim and their mom christian, the father had no issue with all the kids going to church with their mom but there was a condition for the only boy among the kids, he followed his dad ti the mosque as well and had to participate in other islamic activites as well as going to church and also participating in christian activities. It had its fair share of confusion for the little boy. Well their dad finally became a christian down the line.

So am sure this is the kind of situation op's hubby is weighing. I really dont know what to advise because whatever we are going to say here, you probably heard much more while preparing for your wedding. The ball is in your court, My concern is not even about you and hubby but about the spiritual upbringing of your children.

Op it is time you and hubby go back to the drawing board and redraw the omitted bits you guys ignored while dating and chart a course forward.

Cheers

mgbeketoto: He has asked you to change to XTIANITY.
If the answer is NO. . . get ready for his reaction which is one of 2 options.
1. Separation or DIVORCE.
2. You stay the same till one person DIES of High Blood Pressure or STROKE.

Simple!

There is no wrong or right to 'SWITCHING' religions or FAITH/BELIEF SYSTEMS.

If I were you. . . .I WOULD NOT!. . .He is only looking for an excuse. . .to WANDER OFF. . .as usual.
HE CAN TAKE A HIKE. . . .

Sweetmom115:


He's main reason was because of our daughter I believe.

my advise for you is to pray, but wait is there anything bad in practicing your hubby's religion

Princess zoe: [b]THIS IS ALMOST THE SAME ISSUE WE WERE DISCUSSING ON THE OTHER THREAD. A MAN ASKING HIS WIFE TO STOP WEARING TROUSERS. SINGLE PEOPLE SHOULD BE CAREFUL TO OPEN THEIR EYES WIDE DURING COURTSHIP. ANYTHING YOU SAW DURING COURTSHIP AND IGNORED WILL BE DIFFICULT TO AMEND AFTER WEDDING. ANY MAN THAT COMES HOME AND START GIVING A COMMAND TO THE WIFE ASKING HER TO CHANGE FROM WHAT HE KNEW THAT HAS BEEN SINCE THE DAY OF THEIR COURTSHIP IS SELFISH. YOU NEED TO APPLY LOVE, LOVE AND MORE LOVE BECAUSE IT WAS YOUR FAULT AT THE FIRST PLACE SINCE YOU WERE THE ONE THAT WENT UP TO HER FOR MARRIAGE KNOWING QUITE WELL THAT SHE HAS BEEN THAT WAY. YOU DON'T GIVE COMMAND OR MAKE DEMANDS ON THIS TYPE OF ISSUE BECAUSE IS A HARSH WAY TO GO ABOUT SUCH ISSUE WHICH IS VERY SENSITIVE. BIBLICALLY A WOMAN IS MEANT TO BE SUBMISSIVE(IN THE LORD AND NOT IN SELFISHNESS) WHILE THE MAN IS MEANT TO LOVE LIKE HIS BODY. BUT SOME MEN DO NOT KNOWN THAT ONE CAN ACTUALLY BE SUBMISSIVE WITHOUT LOVING AND ALSO THAT SUBMISSIVENESS IS ONE OF THE INGREDIENTS OF LOVE. WHAT AM I TRYING TO SAY? IF YOU WANT YOUR WIFE TO JUST GO AHEAD AND AGREE IN SUBMISSION IN EVERYTHING YOU DEMAND(WHICH IS HARSH) SHE MIGHT DO THAT AS A SERVANT AND NOT AS YOUR PARTNER(BECAUSE PARTNERS DO NOT USE COMMAND NOR FORCE, THEY USE SUGGESTIONS AND EXERCISE PATIENCE) A SERVANT WILL BE SUBMISSIVE TO THE OGA BUT HE STEALS FROM HIM. A SERVANT WILL BE SUBMISSIVE TO HIS OGA BUT HE CAN BE SLEEPING WITH OGA'S WIFE. A SERVANT CAN ALSO BE SUBMISSIVE TO OGA BUT CAN USE CHARMS ON HIS OGA. REMEMBER WE ARE DEALING ON SUBMISSIVENESS AS A SERVANT HERE.BUT SUBMISSIVENESS BY LOVE AND BY WILLINGNESS CAN NOT AND WILL NOT BE HARMFUL. THAT IS EXACTLY WHY YOU DO NOT ORDER YOUR WIFE OR DEMAND FROM HER OF A CHANGE BECAUSE IT IS HARSH. THE MAN WAS ASKED TO LOVE HIS WIFE LIKE HIS BODY. NOW IF YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE LIKE YOUR OWN BODY, YOU WILL BE SOMEHOW SUBMISSIVE TO HER WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT. LOVE IS WHERE THE WHOLE WORK LIES YET SOME MEN DO NOT KNOW THIS. THE BIBLE SAYS THAT, LOVE ENDURES,LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE DOES NOT SEEK HIS OWN (I.E DEMANDING THINGS FOR HIS OWN REASONS OR PLEASE HIMSELF), LOVE FORGIVES ALL THINGS, IN FACT BIBLE LISTED A LOT OF QUALITIES OF LOVE WHICH AUTOMATICALLY PLACES THE MAN AS A GATHERER AND AN ENDURING AND MORE FORGIVING IMAGE. KNOWLEDGE THEY SAY IS POWER. SINGLE LADIES SHOULD MAKE SURE THEY MARRY A MAN THAT UNDERSTANDS THE INSTRUCTION GIVEN TO HUSBANDS AND WIVES BY GOD AND ALSO KNOWS THE RIGHT INTERPRETATION TO IT IN WHICH THE HOLY SPIRIT IS SUPPOSE TO BE THE ONE SHEDDING THE LIGHT OF INTERPRETATION. OP CHRISTIANITY IS THE BEST THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU. JUST GET A GOOD BIBLE AND START STUDYING, THE LIGHT OF GOD WILL SHINE INTO YOUR HEART TO EXPLAIN MORE TO YOU.[/b][/color]

Princess zoe:

[b]THIS IS ALMOST THE SAME ISSUE WE WERE DISCUSSING ON THE OTHER THREAD. A MAN ASKING HIS WIFE TO STOP WEARING TROUSERS. SINGLE PEOPLE SHOULD BE CAREFUL TO OPEN THEIR EYES WIDE DURING COURTSHIP. ANYTHING YOU SAW DURING COURTSHIP AND IGNORED WILL BE DIFFICULT TO AMEND AFTER WEDDING. ANY MAN THAT COMES HOME AND START GIVING A COMMAND TO THE WIFE ASKING HER TO CHANGE FROM WHAT HE KNEW THAT HAS BEEN SINCE THE DAY OF THEIR COURTSHIP IS SELFISH.

YOU NEED TO APPLY LOVE, LOVE AND MORE LOVE BECAUSE IT WAS YOUR FAULT AT THE FIRST PLACE SINCE YOU WERE THE ONE THAT WENT UP TO HER FOR MARRIAGE KNOWING QUITE WELL THAT SHE HAS BEEN THAT WAY. YOU DON'T GIVE COMMAND OR MAKE DEMANDS ON THIS TYPE OF ISSUE BECAUSE IS A HARSH WAY TO GO ABOUT SUCH ISSUE WHICH IS VERY SENSITIVE. BIBLICALLY A WOMAN IS MEANT TO BE SUBMISSIVE(IN THE LORD AND NOT IN SELFISHNESS) WHILE THE MAN IS MEANT TO LOVE LIKE HIS BODY. BUT SOME MEN DO NOT KNOWN THAT ONE CAN ACTUALLY BE SUBMISSIVE WITHOUT LOVING AND ALSO THAT SUBMISSIVENESS IS ONE OF THE INGREDIENTS OF LOVE.

WHAT AM I TRYING TO SAY? IF YOU WANT YOUR WIFE TO JUST GO AHEAD AND AGREE IN SUBMISSION IN EVERYTHING YOU DEMAND(WHICH IS HARSH) SHE MIGHT DO THAT AS A SERVANT AND NOT AS YOUR PARTNER(BECAUSE PARTNERS DO NOT USE COMMAND NOR FORCE, THEY USE SUGGESTIONS AND EXERCISE PATIENCE) A SERVANT WILL BE SUBMISSIVE TO THE OGA BUT HE STEALS FROM HIM.

A SERVANT WILL BE SUBMISSIVE TO HIS OGA BUT HE CAN BE SLEEPING WITH OGA'S WIFE. A SERVANT CAN ALSO BE SUBMISSIVE TO OGA BUT CAN USE CHARMS ON HIS OGA. REMEMBER WE ARE DEALING ON SUBMISSIVENESS AS A SERVANT HERE.BUT SUBMISSIVENESS BY LOVE AND BY WILLINGNESS CAN NOT AND WILL NOT BE HARMFUL. THAT IS EXACTLY WHY YOU DO NOT ORDER YOUR WIFE OR DEMAND FROM HER OF A CHANGE BECAUSE IT IS HARSH. THE MAN WAS ASKED TO LOVE HIS WIFE LIKE HIS BODY. NOW IF YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE LIKE YOUR OWN BODY, YOU WILL BE SOMEHOW SUBMISSIVE TO HER WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT.

LOVE IS WHERE THE WHOLE WORK LIES YET SOME MEN DO NOT KNOW THIS. THE BIBLE SAYS THAT, LOVE ENDURES,LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE DOES NOT SEEK HIS OWN (I.E DEMANDING THINGS FOR HIS OWN REASONS OR PLEASE HIMSELF), LOVE FORGIVES ALL THINGS, IN FACT BIBLE LISTED A LOT OF QUALITIES OF LOVE WHICH AUTOMATICALLY PLACES THE MAN AS A GATHERER AND AN ENDURING AND MORE FORGIVING IMAGE. KNOWLEDGE THEY SAY IS POWER. SINGLE LADIES SHOULD MAKE SURE THEY MARRY A MAN THAT UNDERSTANDS THE INSTRUCTION GIVEN TO HUSBANDS AND WIVES BY GOD AND ALSO KNOWS THE RIGHT INTERPRETATION TO IT IN WHICH THE HOLY SPIRIT IS SUPPOSE TO BE THE ONE SHEDDING THE LIGHT OF INTERPRETATION.

OP CHRISTIANITY IS THE BEST THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU. JUST GET A GOOD BIBLE AND START STUDYING, THE LIGHT OF GOD WILL SHINE INTO YOUR HEART TO EXPLAIN MORE TO YOU.[/b][color=#990000]

dare2think:

99.9% of viewers did not read your post because of an inevitable headache.

My Advice: whilst typing away, leave paragraghs for breaks and clarity so as to pass your point across effectively.






^ Now, its readable.

Bebetter: The man "was" ok with his wife being a muslim but now he does not want his child to take to his. Mothers faith o! PrecAutionary measures, besides its no hidden fact that now adays most. Muslims are terrorists. So simple, start going to church or let him.know that the child we be folowing him to church as he gets a bit older and u will not coerce the child to muslim faith. Chikena!

Sweetmom115: My husband & I are based in hull United Kingdom & we love one another dearly during our dating time he knew I was a Muslim, we had our first baby (Kate) only recently he started actin cold towards me insisting I've 2change to Christian I was vry angry about it. I was angry because he never discuss this with me in the beginning, I need your sincere advice towards this issue HOUSE. Is it important for a wife to practice her husband religion at all?. Also I would be glad if this make it to the front page.

Thanks