yellowpawpaw:
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joker5180: am surprised u called urself a muslim, go back to islamic teachings on a muslim woman marrying a non-muslim and u will knw that u made a mistake abnitio.

joker5180: am surprised u called urself a muslim, go back to islamic teachings on a muslim woman marrying a non-muslim and u will knw that u made a mistake abnitio.

kofsy:
Someone is asking for an advice you are here condemning! Religion is indeed the opium of the masses... It has taken over our common sense! Smh

So two people who are in love can't get married cos of a barrier called religion? The question you need to ask yourself is, Does being in the same religion guaranty a happy home? Even though majority of people marry from their religion, there is still a looming rate of divorce... So what then is the problem?

OP, I guess the problem is foundational! Yourself and your spouse didn't talk it through and reach a compromise as touching this. You need to do what you ought to have done during courtship now... Sit him down an appeal to his sense of understanding. He's human too and if he has an iota of love for you, he'd listen. Tell him the decision to switch religion is a huge one and it should not be forced on anyone. Tell him everything has to do with your mind and personal conviction. I'm sure he would not just want you to be a church-goer, he would want you to have faith in Jesus. So he should let God convince you personally. Until then, peace should reign in your home. Doing this would buy you time... Before you decide what to do.

Now what to do... I need to ask you some questions.
1. Have you ever had the thought of being a christain?
2. How did it make you feel?
3. Do you feel you'd be happy being a christain?
4. What do you feel about your kids being christains?

If your answers to the questions above were positive, then you can easily switch for the sake of keeping your home. But if they are negative, then you really have to stand your ground, but in an indirect way. Men are like toddlers, they can easily be manipulated depending on the approach you use. You know your hubby more than every other person. Always be calm when you are talking to him... Don't argue with him. Be submissive in your tone when taking home your point. Whenever he raises the issue remind him that he can force a horse to the stream, but he can't force it to drink water. Over time you guys will get over it. I'm sure he's getting pushed by some external forces. Work on his psyche and you will be fine. In doing this, you must always meet up with your wifely expectations. Take care of the home, feed him well et al! The home is yours dear... You can either build or destroy it. It all depends on you. "Wisdom is the principal thing, seek wisdom..."

joker5180: when i subscribe to any religion i do so wholeheartdly. her religion is CLEAR abt this issue and what she is expeciencing now is one of the reasons her religion decreed so. way forward is simple; seek for divorce and go back to the teachings of your religion.

yetseyi: my neighbor's wife recently converted 2 Islam nd I almost cried. she said she had an agreement wit d husy 2 go on being a xtian but 4yrs nd 2kids later she sucumbed 2 presure frm inlaws etc, nd she had a deeper life bakgound

point is as a lady if u're nt ready 2 convert 2 ur husy religion dnt bother marrying him

kofsy:
Someone is asking for an advice you are here condemning! Religion is indeed the opium of the masses... It has taken over our common sense! Smh

So two people who are in love can't get married cos of a barrier called religion? The question you need to ask yourself is, Does being in the same religion guaranty a happy home? Even though majority of people marry from their religion, there is still a looming rate of divorce... So what then is the problem?

OP, I guess the problem is foundational! Yourself and your spouse didn't talk it through and reach a compromise as touching this. You need to do what you ought to have done during courtship now... Sit him down an appeal to his sense of understanding. He's human too and if he has an iota of love for you, he'd listen. Tell him the decision to switch religion is a huge one and it should not be forced on anyone. Tell him everything has to do with your mind and personal conviction. I'm sure he would not just want you to be a church-goer, he would want you to have faith in Jesus. So he should let God convince you personally. Until then, peace should reign in your home. Doing this would buy you time... Before you decide what to do.

Now what to do... I need to ask you some questions.
1. Have you ever had the thought of being a christain?
2. How did it make you feel?
3. Do you feel you'd be happy being a christain?
4. What do you feel about your kids being christains?

If your answers to the questions above were positive, then you can easily switch for the sake of keeping your home. But if they are negative, then you really have to stand your ground, but in an indirect way. Men are like toddlers, they can easily be manipulated depending on the approach you use. You know your hubby more than every other person. Always be calm when you are talking to him... Don't argue with him. Be submissive in your tone when taking home your point. Whenever he raises the issue remind him that he can force a horse to the stream, but he can't force it to drink water. Over time you guys will get over it. I'm sure he's getting pushed by some external forces. Work on his psyche and you will be fine. In doing this, you must always meet up with your wifely expectations. Take care of the home, feed him well et al! The home is yours dear... You can either build or destroy it. It all depends on you. "Wisdom is the principal thing, seek wisdom..."

Sweetmom115: I speak with my mom also about this, I was amazed shld Cldnt support me. She said a gud wife must practice her husband religion so matter what the case might be, she said we ladies of this generation seems to be very selfish of ourself & that's why we've high rates of divorce.

Sweetmom115: I speak with my mom also about this, I was amazed shld Cldnt support me. She said a gud wife must practice her husband religion so matter what the case might be, she said we ladies of this generation seems to be very selfish of ourself & that's why we've high rates of divorce.

Sweetmom115: I speak with my mom also about this, I was amazed shld Cldnt support me. She said a gud wife must practice her husband religion so matter what the case might be, she said we ladies of this generation seems to be very selfish of ourself & that's why we've high rates of divorce.

Amelian: Is it not the same God, we all worship.. Why are human beings segregating on how to worship God? Be it Muslim or Christian , God will answer our prayers , if done with a pure intentions ..op, serving God comes first , Yes... But not serving of religion.... if your husband is a good man, and the only problem is religion? ... my dear, follow your husband to his church , cause we all serve the same God and the Man is the head , who leads his family.... not the woman...when your family start expanding ,, who will they follow you or your husband?...i feel thats what your husband has realised...for peace to reign , and to keep your home , shelve pride, human ways of confusing issues, and follow your husband wholeheartedly .... Didn't u see Janet Jackson turn into a Muslim? Her husband profession? All for peace to reign... Even Asiwaju Tinubu, his wife follows him to mosques, even though she's a Christian ... It's all about understanding, true love, sacrifice and wisdom...no home is perfect , u shud even thank God that u have a good husband, which some married women are praying to switch, if they have the means... Value what u have, trust your husband, that he won't lead u astray and believe that we all serve the same God.
As for me, I have no issue about religion, whomsoever I fall In love with and marry, be it Muslim, hindu, or free thinkers club, am all for it, as long as there is true love and my intending husband is good to me, what else do I need? ... Except church of satan .....that one,na no no.... I don't nid in my life.. So uphold your marriage, nurture it and serve God, Not Religion.

joker5180: these r words of deception, we DONT worship the SAME GOD, worship ur GOD nd let her worship hers.

Amelian:


It's not deception... We are only deceiving and confusing ourselves ... So she should divorce her husband , cause he wants her to join his religion? ..... As for me that's fullishness ....I can never divorce a good man/ husband due to religion..good men are very scarce but religion is everywhere , preaching and maniupluating whatever to suit each other needs.. Well, it's her choice, to go ahead and marry religion, while her husband could get someone better to suit his needs...al least, it's not by force to stay married.

Sweetmom115: I speak with my mom also about this, I was amazed shld Cldnt support me. She said a gud wife must practice her husband religion so matter what the case might be, she said we ladies of this generation seems to be very selfish of ourself & that's why we've high rates of divorce.

joker5180: i see! u r one of those ppl who does not believe in the God they worship, as MUSLIMS we believe in ALLAH and the DAY OF JUDGEMENT( a day when all creatures will rise from death and give full account of their worldly adventure), that day ONLY ur deed will save NOT a good husband or a peaceful home. my SISTER (sweetmomm) dnt get decieved there wil be LIFE after death and what matters is NOT this one, DONT leave ur GOD for someone else's God and DONT lead ur CHILDREN ASTRAY, u hv no HOME in that HOME. the ppl advicing u r ppl who believe life start and ends in this world.

bukatyne: I guess we are all saying the mother is wise because her hubby is a Christian.

In as much as marriage is important, our faith in God is much more important. The mom is probably not grounded in her religion that's why she thinks a woman should follow her hubby's religion.

I do not even understand the selfishness in me wanting to serve my God the way I am convinced to.

P.S.: Christians and Muslims do not serve the same God.

This is a big lesson to the singles out there: Do not marry someone of another religion esp. if you know you cannot change.

Amelian:

I believe in the God I worship, pls don't get it twisted... And my life has been very great , so far.... Connection I have with God is awesome and unique, I don't need a distinctive religion to make heaven, as long as I keep the laws of God.... And am at peace with my chosen faith.

joker5180: i like ur response because it exposed the selfish in u, HER chosen faith is ISLAM and the laws of the God she keeps r the laws of ALLAH , laws of ALLAH says she should not even marry the man in the first place. pls allow her to keep the LAWS of her God (ALLAH) and keep peace with her chosen faith (ISLAM).

Amelian:

Pls , Point of correction, am not selfish....am one of the most humane, understanding human being on earth... But well, You are entitled to your own observation and judgement... That's for you, not me....

AbdH: @poster,
there is no valid marriage between a Muslimah and a non-Muslim no matter how much is spent on the wedding, I hope you realize that.
I'll be frank with you, the solution is to divorce him and marry a Muslim for anything short of that is tantamount to having zina for the rest of your (un)married life.

deols: @Op

Be careful whose advice you take. Many of those telling you to go ahead and be with him are saying so because they are Christians.

I dont know how much of a Muslim you are. But I can be sure that you are concerned about your hereafter and that of your children.
of course you dont want to lose out on al jannah just because of your husband's threat.

If he truly loves you like you claimed, he wont be lording this over you. In fact, when you maintain your stance about remaining a Muslim, he will allow you practice your religion because as much as you don't want to lose him, he also doesnt want to lose you.


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