Hello guys, am new here, so forgive me if i haven't posted this topic in the right section

My flatmate, who happens to be my friend/ course mate broke up woth her long term boyfriend and simce rhen, she keeps bring questionable men to our shared apartment! She brings new guy almost every night even when we have lectures the next day. Now to make matter worst these guys always hv breakfast wirh her, she feeds them my OWN food.

I have complained about this, and she keeps saying the guys are in her room not mine, plus she can bring anyone she likes home.

While I understand it's not my place to judge her personal life, I'm not at all comfortable with her bringing strangers into the house. The chance of one this guys robbing or us or doing something worst is pretty high, since they all look rough and scary. I don't feel safe in a house I pay rent in. I start to lock my room, but I still don't feel safe.

So please guys how do you think I can solve this issue?Should i involve our landlord? i hv tried talking to her but it was all in vain. We are on holiday now so I have a lot of time to ask for advice before going back to uni.

*If I didn't post this topic in the right section*

You better go and find another flat.

Women and cat fight. She's right! So long as she does not disturb u with her visitors, she is OK, unless you have it spelt out in the rental contract : no visitor- you have no case. You have given up ur privacy and freedom in consideration for her rent. If you don't like her opinion or choice to matter, you should not ask for her wallet. If you don't like people or strangers visiting your flat mate, live on your own or have it written in the rental agreement

No need to tell ur landlord as that might spark up more enmity btw u and her. If u really like that apartment and dont wanto leave, all u v to do is one, make sure ur room is well locked when going out! Two, cook ONLY what u can eat. Three, whenever she's at home with a guy, be in ur room and lock ur door. Four, make sure u have a close friend that u would always alert to bear witness whenever she (ur roomie) brings a guy home should incase anything happens. Five, dont engage in much talk or arguement with her when having issues cos such person (esp. girls that wont mind quarelling with their friends cos of men) 'might' be secretely harmful, if u know what i mean. Well, i think i'v made myself clear but to wrap it all up and to make things at ease since u'r not confy with the house u pay part rent, the BEST thing for you is to look for another apartment.

sorry to say, buh aint nothing you can do about it, landlord would only worsen the situation.....

to have peace of mind, pack your bags and go find another place of abode,

no matter what you say, she is gonno get worse.....because she sees it as pay back time; she doesnt give two pence about any guy any more. she wano xpirence what it feels like to be the PLAYER

Just ignore her and her visitors.

Feel your pain. Flatmates from hell can be a thorn. I guess you didn't really know her before shacking up with her. Sometimes though you think you know someone until you move in with them. Had this flatmate back in uni whose relatives kept stealing from me.so I kinda understand you. Anyway my suggestion is that you ensure your own security. Not trying to scare you but you must keep your doors locked and your phones within easy reach. Don't think you should involve your landlord. To what end? May cause more gbese for both o'ya.hope it all works out for you. Let me know how it goes?

Wait for her to invite another friend over.

When he gets there, invite one of YOUR guy friends over.

Be intimate as loudly as you can! Scream, moan, and talk dirty!

Do this enough times and your friend will be so embarassed that she stops bringing her dates to your apartment.

Alternatively, you might end up in a "being loud while intimate" competition, with both of you competing to be the loudest.

Note: It is hard to have a "sex.ual" conversation on Nairaland!

Flygerian.:
No need to tell ur landlord as that might spark up more enmity btw u and her. If u really like that apartment and dont wanto leave, all u v to do is one, make sure ur room is well locked when going out! Two, cook ONLY what u can eat. Three, whenever she's at home with a guy, be in ur room and lock ur door. Four, make sure u have a close friend that u would always alert to bear witness whenever she (ur roomie) brings a guy home should incase anything happens. Five, dont engage in much talk or arguement with her when having issues cos such person (esp. girls that wont mind quarelling with their friends cos of men) 'might' be secretely harmful, if u know what i mean. Well, i think i'v made myself clear but to wrap it all up and to make things at ease since u'r not confy with the house u pay part rent, the BEST thing for you is to look for another apartment.

capish!
abi wetin u want hear again :/
btw, is that your pissure That your curve na die o

I believe there are enough thoughts for the OP to pick from

Officialgrl2: *If I didn't post this topic in the right section*

You can easy moderate your post...ok

She also paid for the house remember
So she can do whatever
The only option you have now is either look for another flat or cope with her

Wat wud Jesus do?

Flygerian.:
No need to tell ur landlord as that might spark up more enmity btw u and her. If u really like that apartment and dont wanto leave, all u v to do is one, make sure ur room is well locked when going out! Two, cook ONLY what u can eat. Three, whenever she's at home with a guy, be in ur room and lock ur door. Four, make sure u have a close friend that u would always alert to bear witness whenever she (ur roomie) brings a guy home should incase anything happens. Five, dont engage in much talk or arguement with her when having issues cos such person (esp. girls that wont mind quarelling with their friends cos of men) 'might' be secretely harmful, if u know what i mean. Well, i think i'v made myself clear but to wrap it all up and to make things at ease since u'r not confy with the house u pay part rent, the BEST thing for you is to look for another apartment.

@op i concore with these guy's ad; look for another apartment carpish!!

Officialgrl2: Hello guys, am new here, so forgive me if i haven't posted this topic in the right section

My flatmate, who happens to be my friend/ course mate broke up woth her long term boyfriend and simce rhen, she keeps bring questionable men to our shared apartment! She brings new guy almost every night even when we have lectures the next day. Now to make matter worst these guys always hv breakfast wirh her, she feeds them my OWN food.

I have complained about this, and she keeps saying the guys are in her room not mine, plus she can bring anyone she likes home.

While I understand it's not my place to judge her personal life, I'm not at all comfortable with her bringing strangers into the house. The chance of one this guys robbing or us or doing something worst is pretty high, since they all look rough and scary. I don't feel safe in a house I pay rent in. I start to lock my room, but I still don't feel safe.

So please guys how do you think I can solve this issue?Should i involve our landlord? i hv tried talking to her but it was all in vain. We are on holiday now so I have a lot of time to ask for advice before going back to uni.

well I can't even finish reading everything,It would have been better for you to have written everything in pidgin.....

Okay well since you have your own room.I think its better you always mind your business or get another apartment..Hope im making sense sha

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My flatmate is a ho! Guess what OP? I am sleeping with my housemate. Shhhhh.

Of course, you should tell your landlord. Since you've tried talking to her and that has not worked, get your landlord involved. You have every right to complain. You are both paying your own share of the rent and neither one should be doing anything to be making the other feel uncomfortable. It's understandable that you're concerned for your safety because she keeps bringing different guys to your apartment every night. You should also be displeased because she keeps feeding them your own food, so disrespectful. Have you two shared each other's food before?

Did you sign a lease and when does it end? What are the agreements on your rental contract? Regardless of the situation, tell your landlord what she's doing and how you're not comfortable with it. I'm sure that would smarter her up. If she gets mad as a result, don't let that bother you. If you still have a few more months to go on your lease, try as much as possible to leave peaceably with her. When your lease ends, leave. If you're going to live with someone again, before you move in with them, make sure you both come to an agreement regarding the terms and conditions of living in the apartment, or better yet, if you can afford to, live on your own. Good luck.

Either she pack and leave or you pack and leave.
Shikena

She likes thugs?
I want to see a picture of the scary men

Officialgrl2: Hello guys, am new here, so forgive me if i haven't posted this topic in the right section

My flatmate, who happens to be my friend/ course mate broke up woth her long term boyfriend and simce rhen, she keeps bring questionable men to our shared apartment! She brings new guy almost every night even when we have lectures the next day. Now to make matter worst these guys always hv breakfast wirh her, she feeds them my OWN food.

I have complained about this, and she keeps saying the guys are in her room not mine, plus she can bring anyone she likes home.

While I understand it's not my place to judge her personal life, I'm not at all comfortable with her bringing strangers into the house. The chance of one this guys robbing or us or doing something worst is pretty high, since they all look rough and scary. I don't feel safe in a house I pay rent in. I start to lock my room, but I still don't feel safe.

So please guys how do you think I can solve this issue?Should i involve our landlord? i hv tried talking to her but it was all in vain. We are on holiday now so I have a lot of time to ask for advice before going back to uni.

@op, You hv got nice curves by the way. sey na their 'soundtrack" dey annoy you in particular?

Which schoool?
How far is it from campus?
Cant u get a self cont?
What is d security situation of dat area like
keep ur food stuffs in ur room if u are nt comfortable with her.
Be watchful and lock ur doors as often as u can.
Dont sleep nak.ed
be prayerful

Methinks your major problm is nt abt your safety and tht of your property as u asserted. The prblm you've is tht you're so much concerned abt ur friend's well being and thats why your jus uncomfortable seeing her wit rough guys @ unholy hours. but since she isnt complainin or worried abt that,let her be. You said you guys share same flat and not same room so it's easy for u to concentrate on ur studies which l gues brought u to schl and eschew interferin in her private life.

@OP..i dont want to sound like a broken record but with ur lucious curves, u should start snatchin ur flatmate BFs to ur side..when she sees u r diverting all her male friends, she will stop misbahving

^ . .it seems u wnt her to turn to a casualty

Berra run for your life before you contract STIs or probably STDs... They babe has unleashed her promiscuous side and is on a deadly mission... #ForfeitYOURrent

Do you not have your own boyfriend(s)? Start inviting them over to pass a night after the other ASAP! That way, man no go vex, na do me I do you

Hey! Inform a reliable person b4 a man dies in dt house and d police come pack all of una oo

Yield: tell your landlord what she's doing and how you're not comfortable with it. I'm sure that would smarter her up. If she gets mad as a result, don't let that bother you.

No need advicin her to do the above when u know u would still come up with the below...

Yield: If you still have a few more months to go on your lease, try as much as possible to leave peaceably with her. When your lease ends, leave.

...cos the way some naija girls behave these days, in the near future I wont like to read something like: "A uni student sets apartment ablaze and ran away while her fellow room mate was inside".

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