In my opinion one of the saddest dilemmas in
our society today is the decline of femininity.
In striving for equal rights many women have
abandoned the idea of being women in the
preference of emulating men. This might
advance you in the short run, but how does it
make your husband feel in the long?

1. Recognize that men and women are
equal but separate and thus have
separate roles . A housewife is by no
means inferior to any man in a
professional occupation. The hand that
rocks the cradle is the hand that rules
the world. Comparing men and women is
like comparing apples and oranges;
they're both fruit with the same general
fruit-like qualities, but there the
comparison can go no further.

2. Embrace your own femininity. Don't
have an attitude that men are better
than women- there by rejecting your own
feminine role in order to compete with
men in a masculine one. While I'm not
saying that every woman should be a stay
at home mother barefoot and pregnant in
front of the stove, I am saying that
these women are doing work just as
important if not more so than their
masculine counterparts. When you dress
and speak and act, try to be feminine.
Not only will this make you more
attractive to him in general, by
highlighting your own femininity, you
make his masculinity more apparent to
him.

3. Don't try to "one up" your husband in
your work or in something particularly
masculine . Many women do this thinking
that a little healthy competition is
intriguing to men. It can be, but once he
figures out he's not going to win he'll
most likely feel dejected and weak. He
gets enough healthy competition from
every other man in the world; he depends
upon you to support him and make him
feel big and strong.

4. Try to show some intelligence. Good men like
women that have good values, so show
these off (don't become pompous,
though!). Read books and investigate
topics that interest you. Every guy loves
to have a woman hang on his every word,
and human nature generally prefers to do
more of the talking than the listening.
However, if you never contribute
ANYTHING to the conversation, he will
quickly become bored. It's enough to
prod him along drawing out the
conversation inserting a gentle
observation every so often; don't think that you
have to argue him into a debate. Debates
can be a fun and interesting way to learn
about new things from your husband, but
use them sparingly. Respond sweetly and
earnestly to his points; don't roll your
eyes or give him a condescending smirk
before delivering a sarcastic remark
highlighting a flaw in his thinking. This is
unfeminine and harsh. The most
important thing to remember, however, is
to listen. Don't formulate your next
remark while he's talking, and don't
concentrate so hard on what he's saying
that you miss who's saying it. Your
husband wants you to listen, but he
doesn't want you to be so totally
engrossing in assimilating information
for your own use that you stop paying
attention to the person talking and focus
solely on what's being said.

5. Build up his masculinity. When you
highlight the differences between your
femininity and his masculinity, you build
up his ego. For example, my husband has
very darkly tanned skin while I have very
pale skin. One day when we were sitting
together and he took my hand, I
happened to comment on how delicate it
looked against his. The difference in
mood this brought about was palpable.
Also give him a steady stream of
compliments mostly aimed at his
masculinity. Still compliment him on his
intelligence and good character, but
remember that these comments that
work for both genders are so
commonplace that they have really
become meaningless and watered down.
Casually cup a hand to his cheek and rub
the stubble of his beard; when he asks
you why you're doing this just say
something teasing along the lines of,
"Because I want to, silly," or, "I dunno, I
like it." Or wrap your hands around his
arm and beg him to make a muscle for
you. One thing that's true with most men
is that a woman's hands aren't big
enough to go all the way around his upper
arm. If this is true of your husband show
him and make a big deal out of it. Be sure
that whatever you say is completely
sincere. False compliments are easily
seen through and can do more harm than
actual insults. Don't tell your 5'5" 130
pound husband that you love his big,
muscular body. Admire his bravery,
steadfastness and dedication to bringing
home a paycheck.

6. Tease him from time to time. When a
woman acts in a childlike way men find
this extremely intriguing. Don't be afraid
to have fun and be silly. A girl with a
smile on her lips, roses in her cheeks and
twinkle in her eye is much more
attractive that a painted up woman with
the weight of the world on her shoulders.
Be natural and cut loose, but don't think
you have to actually act like a child. Just
take the fun and lightness from a child's
mannerisms and add them to your own.
Don't turn into a spoiled brat, however!
When his infatuation with you increases,
both of you will feel happier and more
sure of yourselves. Also this teasing
shows him love- if you just sit around all
day and stay calm and rational he
doesn't get the same message as if you
start a pillow fight or tickle war with
him. When you show that you want to
have fun with him, you show him love.
Feeling loved is a good way to boost self
esteem.

7. Don't talk badly about people EVER.
Regardless of how you feel about the
person, relate the facts and save the
judgement for God. When he hears you
criticize others (even deserved
criticism) it can give him pause about
sharing his thoughts and feelings with
you as he isn't sure if it will be received
well. Sharing these things with you gives
him a good sounding board and helps
build himself up.

8. Never ever, EVER try to change him
in any way . Showing him that you don't
think he's good enough the way he is is
the surest way to make him feel badly
about himself. Whenever you try to
change a man, the only change you bring
about is in his feelings for you and in his
own self-esteem. When you decide to
change him, you are making the
assumption that you are better than him
and therefore he should become more
like you. Are you really, truly better than
your husband? Or are his faults simply
different that your own? The next time
you feel the need to correct him or tell
him how to live HIS life, reflect on your
own self and realize that that time would
be much better spent changing your own
short comings.

Hehehe...

Very interesting.

Dem go hear?....

Nice point, men n women r equal but different.

stillwater: Hehehe...

Lol!

Juell:

1. Recognize that men and women are
equal but separate and thus have
separate roles . A housewife is by no
means inferior to any man in a
professional occupation. The hand that
rocks the cradle is the hand that rules
the world. Comparing men and women is
like comparing apples and oranges;
they're both fruit with the same general
fruit-like qualities, but there the
comparison can go no further.

2. Embrace your own femininity. Don't
have an attitude that men are better
than women- there by rejecting your own
feminine role in order to compete with
men in a masculine one. While I'm not
saying that every woman should be a stay
at home mother barefoot and pregnant in
front of the stove, I am saying that
these women are doing work just as
important if not more so than their
masculine counterparts.

*Ahem* Dayokanu, what do you have to say to this masculinity booster?