Often times physical abuse in mariages are being hammered on with verbal abuse being neglected but belive me the effect is jus as much especially becos unlik d physical abuse u cant see d scar outside even wen badly injured.the effect are huge ranging from low self exteem to constant unhappiness to depression to mention but a few. Most victims leave in fear of being abused and there by loosing their freedom. Feel free to share ur experience and opinion on d best way to manage such abusive partners.

Chima always verbally abusing me by sayimg I got a big juicy nyansh and he wants a relief.

I am sooooooooo scared!

Mrs.Chima:
Chima always verbally abusing me by sayimg I got a big juicy nyansh and he wants a relief.

I am sooooooooo scared!

Ashawo kobo kobo......liar

My sister this story is so true oh.....i was so sexually abused by this girl that i had to run away holding my boxers like a white flag as if i'm suing for peace.......in fact she rap.ed me

Am still battling that with my gf...
I talk shit when am pissed cus I never hit..but I came to realize that hiting might be forgotten and fully forgiven but those words never go away..

:-@eduson yea u cant take bck d words after its bin said. The victim kips pondering on these words. It hurts more wen its from a luved one

eduson33: Am still battling that with my gf...

:-@eduson yea u cant take bck d words after its bin said. The victim kips pondering on these words. It hurts more wen its from a luved one

It amuses me when people try to "manage" any form of abuse..

Can you wake up tomorrow morning and decide to fly a plane without having any skill or training??

I wonder why some ppl think themselves qualified psychologists?

Roughly speaking, 75% of verbally abusive men are also physically abusive too and this is one of the things the woman should be worried about.

*No offence to the male folks for making the man the abuser in my post*

Verbal abuse is as worse as physical abuse infact it is worst than it.
The moment a partner sends abusive words then their should be a need for rethink about that relationship.
An individual should not play deaf or ignorance to this trait while dating,it will continue in marriage and this is enough to break someone.
Words or sentences like,stupid,fooll,nonsense,mad,your mother is this or your father is that and many more should be avoided.

i regret ever saying those words but at the same time,i dont over blame myself.

others should learn from this.

you rather beat her than call her names.

especially,

**i regret meeting you**
**i dont even value you**
**ugly thing**
**flat assss**

she will never forgive you oo

Vivauche: :-@eduson yea u cant take bck d words after its bin said. The victim kips pondering on these words. It hurts more wen its from a luved one:-@eduson yea u cant take bck d words after its bin said. The victim kips pondering on these words. It hurts more wen its from a luved one

Mrs.Chima:
Chima always verbally abusing me by saying I got a big juicy nyansh and he wants a relief.

I am sooooooooo scared!

hmmm..i no go mind dat nyash o.
@topic. Say whatever u wanna about me, but the only 'verbal scar' that might not heal quickly is when u involve my parents. I can't think of any better way to manage this kind of v-abuse than to poach. My babe can't escape 'unlynched' with this.

Nagging by girls/women is a form of verbal abuse n I can't stand it either

There's nothing more hurtful than verbal abuse. It strips one of his/her self esteem and confidence. No matter how much you apologise and try to make up for all you said, it still can't be forgotten.

Words get to me very easily. Things my ex said to me years ago are still very fresh in my mind like it was said minutes ago. As it stands, to save myself from not getting depressed, I decided that the moment my partner decides to abuse me verbally, that's the day I will begin to re evaluate the relationship. Harsh as it seems, that's the way to go.

Dubemkelly: Nagging by girls/women is a form of verbal abuse n I can't stand it either

ur head dey dere! when doin this, they overstep their boundary and possibly hit at anything they know u cherish most.

Wu Zetian: It amuses me when people try to "manage" any form of abuse..

Can you wake up tomorrow morning and decide to fly a plane without having any skill or training??

I wonder why some ppl think themselves qualified psychologists?

Roughly speaking, 75% of verbally abusive men are also physically abusive too and this is one of the things the woman should be worried about.

*No offence to the male folks for making the man the abuser in my post*

sharrap!

Wu Zetian: It amuses me when people try to "manage" any form of abuse..

Can you wake up tomorrow morning and decide to fly a plane without having any skill or training??

I wonder why some ppl think themselves qualified psychologists?

Roughly speaking, 75% of verbally abusive men are also physically abusive too and this is one of the things the woman should be worried about.

*No offence to the male folks for making the man the abuser in my post*

I tink it depends on the situation on ground, I Dnt believe in giving up on love easily especially if such abusive partner is good in other aspects. Or wat if u're married wit a child and realize u are in an abusive marriage wat do u do? U cant easily walk away but instead u can try correct your marriage.

Dubemkelly: Nagging by girls/women is a form of verbal abuse n I can't stand it either

yea Dumbemkelly u're so correct even women verbally abuse their husbands thru nagging, u can imagine a woman u provide for crossing her leg in ur sitting room and saying stuffs like 'it's not ur fault it's my fault for marrying u" 0r 'I shuld hav known marrying is not worth it common blackberry u cannot buy lazy man" such words can kill a mans spirit and innitiate hatred.

eduson33: i regret ever saying those words but at the same time,i dont over blame myself.

others should learn from this.

you rather beat her than call her names.

especially,

**i regret meeting you**
**i dont even value you**
**ugly thing**
**flat assss**

she will never forgive you oo

pls Dnt beat her o..beating is also physical abuse which is as bad..I tink d best is to try talking to ur partner in a language he or she will understand, if it continues u're as free as air to walk out of d relationship.

mba,beating aint in my dictionary..

just saying

Vivauche: pls Dnt beat her o..beating is also physical abuse which is as bad..I tink d best is to try talking to ur partner in a language he or she will understand, if it continues u're as free as air to walk out of d relationship.

Teespice: There's nothing more hurtful than verbal abuse. It strips one of his/her self esteem and confidence. No matter how much you apologise and try to make up for all you said, it still can't be forgotten.

Words get to me very easily. Things my ex said to me years ago are still very fresh in my mind like it was said minutes ago. As it stands, to save myself from not getting depressed, I decided that the moment my partner decides to abuse me verbally, that's the day I will begin to re evaluate the relationship. Harsh as it seems, that's the way to go.

me too words get to me easily... I don't seem to ever forget. Maybe becus I hav a calm spirit, I hate confrontation so much and when am so hurts I tend to lock it up inside recoil back to my shell and try to nurse my pain...often times I quietly carry dis pain inside for a very long time.

Wen a spouse begins using words to attack and control, a critical line has been crossed. D relationship becomes oppressive, one spouse doesn't hav d freedom to say no or to express his or her views and opinions. Oppression is a terrible experience especially in marriage. Verbally abusive spouse are intimidating and demanding dey use threats,invalidating of feelings,hurtful words, even d bible doesn't take selfish domination lightly. Eccl.4:1-2 it can be seen better to be dead than to be alive and oppressed. So verbally abused spouse should do something and stop being oppressed in silence

OUT OF ALL THE ABUSES THERE ARE ON EARTH , I THINK I HATE FINANCIAL ABUSE

chineloSA:
OUT OF ALL THE ABUSES THERE ARE ON EARTH , I THINK I HATE FINANCIAL ABUSE

hahaha funny lol. But haven't heard dat money can't buy happiness?

Vivauche: hahaha funny lol. But haven't heard dat money can't buy happiness?

It doesn't buy you love but it gives you power and freedom. Money can make me run from my abuser.

Some people stay in ( verbally, emotionally, and physically ) abusive relationships because they don't have financial power to stand on their own.

That's why I hate financial abuse. ROOT OF ALL ABUSE.

caseless: hmmm..i no go mind dat nyash o.
@topic. Say whatever u wanna about me, but the only 'verbal scar' that might not heal quickly is when u involve my parents. I can't think of any better way to manage this kind of v-abuse than to poach. My babe can't escape 'unlynched' with this.

hahaha am laughing out loud! punching makes it worst not d best solution at all as u know it is also physical abuse and is as bad as verbal abuse. Abeg no lynche person pikin o..

people speak badly out of frustration and anger....sometimes to regret it later. I can vouch verbal abuse is a hard thing to forget. Its either the person change his or her ways and bring peace to the table or it may be the end of relationship. This kind of abuse leaves invisible scars on a persons soul, not seen but nonetheless very real & painful. And If someone dosnt get control over their tongue while dating they will not gain control once married either. Me I coped by not returning bad talk but walking away. When change did not come from discussions I walked ...

chineloSA:


It doesn't buy you love but it gives you power and freedom. Money can make me run from my abuser.

Some people stay in ( verbally, emotionally, and physically ) abusive relationships because they don't have financial power to stand on their own.

That's why I hate financial abuse. ROOT OF ALL ABUSE.

U do hav a point here.. One of d major reasons why pple stay in abusive relationships or marriage is lack of money. But no matter how much ur spouse gives u( financial cash /material benefit) and still abuse u, u can't manage for too long cuz d mental, emotional,physical effect will definitely tell on you

Vivauche: hahaha am laughing out loud! punching makes it worst not d best solution at all as u know it is also physical abuse and is as bad as verbal abuse. Abeg no lynche person pikin o..

....u are right ! verbal abuse usually lead to physical one, especially when u ladies try to dominate in such a situation. u knw black man now, him go explode. that's very bad anyway.

oyinbogirl: people speak badly out of frustration and anger....sometimes to regret it later. I can vouch verbal abuse is a hard thing to forget. Its either the person change his or her ways and bring peace to the table or it may be the end of relationship. This kind of abuse leaves invisible scars on a persons soul, not seen but nonetheless very real & painful. And If someone dosnt get control over their tongue while dating they will not gain control once married either. Me I coped by not returning bad talk but walking away. When change did not come from discussions I walked ...

ur head dey dere! i like dis line in bold.

oyinbogirl: people speak badly out of frustration and anger....sometimes to regret it later. I can vouch verbal abuse is a hard thing to forget. Its either the person change his or her ways and bring peace to the table or it may be the end of relationship. This kind of abuse leaves invisible scars on a persons soul, not seen but nonetheless very real & painful. And If someone dosnt get control over their tongue while dating they will not gain control once married either. Me I coped by not returning bad talk but walking away. When change did not come from discussions I walked ...

Glad you walked.

Reminds me of dat thread where gals were against a man slapping his wife a week into marriage saying they would quit . What if he had verbally abused her? Dont you think that would be worse cos it would always linger in her mind?




A slap can shake a marriage but a verbal abuse is a timed bomb.

In most cases, verbally abused spouse can't easily walk away easily becos dey feel xtremely guilty for d problems in their relationship. because their spouse always blame dem and dey hav d tendency to take d hit for anytin dat goes wrong or feel guilty for having opinions contrary to or upset their spouse.most cases verbally abused spouses Dnt fully realize d oppression and control dey are pinned beneath. It is as though dey hav a sense dat somtin isnt right bt dey cant put their finger on it.out of frustration dey often try to reason with their abusive mates hav misunderstood but attempts to clarify are mostly useless. Abusive spouses Dnt want to be reasonable. I am a victim

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