Letting go of a relationship when it is over can be a very painful experience for many people but with time and continuous effort the feeling of pain and depression fades and it is then possible to move on. Most heartbroken partners meet new prospects and start new and hopefully more fulfilling relationships. However for some few other people letting go and accepting the relationship is over is near impossible. It is for this second category of people this article is written to let them know that social networking/dating sites like 4clique are there to help people from broken relationships meet new people and start over again.
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Not being able to let go and move on is simply due to a very low self esteem says South African psychologist Jenni Avidon. This behavior is most common in women than men she says. Some women have been known to become suicidal after the end of a relationship which they believed so much would be permanent. Some go into deep seated depression and erratic uncontrolled behavior feeling their lives have come to an end. Stella an attractive business woman in her mid twenties followed John everywhere for several weeks after their affair of two years was suddenly terminated by him for some undisclosed reason. She became a laughing stock to their mutual friends everywhere even on Facebook because of the way she was carrying on. She was completely devastated. She just couldn’t understand what happened and she didn’t know how to accept it was over and continue her life without him. She was on the phone calling him twenty four hours and sending him endless SMS until he stopped picking her calls and finally blocked her number. She told her friends, she just didn’t care about her self esteem; she just wanted her lover back.

Some men have been known to get really brutal when rejected like this. Temi a third year law student disclosed her ex boyfriend hit her and made a public spectacle of her where ever he saw her for several weeks after they broke up making her life a living hell. It got so bad that she stopped going to school. It took her family reporting to the police to get him to leave her alone and move on. One would think that in a world full of people to go into relationships with such behavior should be very rare but it is surprisingly common says Cecille a psychologist. She says some people who don’t go all psychotic after a breakup, harassing their ex, begging, pleading hounding and traumatizing them simply withdraw into themselves and carry that bitterness and resentment and even viciousness and vengefulness into their next relationship making the next person they meet suffer a lot for their past hurt.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. The best thing is to help yourself get over the relationship. It is okay to grieve over a broken heart or a lost love but it is very unwise to let that take over your life. Don’t seat down poring over pictures, memories and paraphernalia from the lost relationship. Make a supreme effort to put everything behind you and move on.

Make a move to start dating again. The right person could help you forget your misfortune. 4clique is a great place to meet lots of interesting new people. Try going on a vacation to new places you have never visited before, or join a club or a gym or start taking class in an area you are interested in. Do anything that would take your mind slowly from the lost relationship. At least it will be far better than boring and troubling people will recounts or replays of your lost relationship. If anything it will help you keep your self esteem as you search for a more suitable person.


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