Boy Vs Girl

Let us say that a guy and a girl are in a relationship for about 2.5 years. They met in the first years of college. The guy has lived most of his life in his country and plans on living most of the rest of his life there. The guy plans to complete his PHD and estimates that the earliest he'll be done is by the time he's 25. His current number one priority in life is finishing his education. The girl is also in a similar situation education wise (though she's estimated to finish a year after him). However, she's grown up in another country and would like to live out most of her life there. Since she's been a child, she's known that she wanted to be married in her early twenties and have all of her children by her late 20's.

So, in her relationship with this guy, she feels that she has done a lot to be with the guy. She has realized that being with him means she may not start having kids till her late 20's or even into her 30's. She has decided that to be with him she will live in his country for most of her life, instead of in her own. However, all she wants now is a commitment from him to get married by the age of 25.

They both say they are in love with each other, however it is the guy's thought that while she feels she has already sacrificed a lot, he cannot allow those to become leverage against his own wants. While he does know he wants to marry her, he does not want to commit to a time any more definite than 25-27. (BTW, they're the same age).

So, the question for you, is what the girl wants too much to ask?

Love is all about making sacrifices and compromise. One of them should be able to compromise his/her stand for the other.

Two issues have been raised:
- The girl wants to get married in her early twenties, the guy wants to get married later.
- The girl wants to travel abroad to raise her family, the guy wants to stay here forever.

Therefore they should break up as soon as possible. The earlier, the better. They should stop decieving themselves, because their life goals are simply. Love is a feeling that can be easily recreated with another person if the right conditions are there, therefore we should never make foolish sacrifices in the name of love. This boy and girl are not a good match for marriage; they should break up as soon as possible.

The girls' dream of getting married and raising kids early is very wise. There is something called biological clock and if you miss it has a lady is becomes much, much harder to get hooked up. If your target is to get married in your early twenties you mgith end up being late by a few years and getting married by 26 or 27, which is still ok. But if you aim to get married at 27 then you might never get married - or might eventually have to settle for a husband you don't really respect.

My advice to the girl; she should go and look for a husband that fits her dreams. Better still, she should travel out in her early twenties and when she gets there look for someone nice to settle down with.

My advice to the guy: if you love her, let her go. Do you believe in God? Well, if you do I assure you that God will give you someone better to love and to cherish for life, because this one is not your own. Take the wise path and jump ship as soon as possible. Love is not meant to be painful.

I must agree with Seun. If you see that you are heading in a complete opposite direction than the one you are with you must break it off immediately. No need to prolong a relationship that you can clearly see will not move ahead in unison.

Love has to do with risks. If you love her/him, you should be able to do what he/she wants/desires. But if none of you is willing to give in, then break-up is your next option.

Very true but love also needs to know when to let go. A sacrifice of love can be to step aside and let the one you love live up to their fullest potential.

Who knows, maybe they will meet up again when the time is right.

Let's just say love is complicated.

True that love is complicated hunnie bunnie.

Simple! Either they both make compromises or or bid themselves goodbye.

IAH:

Love is all about making sacrifices and compromise. One of them should be able to compromise his/her stand for the other.

the guy isnt asking for a compromise here, he is asking for her to sacrifice all her dreams to be with him...i dunno if thats love or just being headstrong and selfish..

if the boy doesnt want that,than she can look for someone whom wanna marry earlier

i say BREAK- UP.
personally i feel you shouldn't sacrifice your goals for marriage. the result is frustration/resentment for party that does.

come to think of it why should anyone "rush" marriage. werrin dey chase you?
besides nuff potential right spouses out there.

no limits fellas

none of em is asking for too much, they both just need to compromise and communicate!

if they are in love,the guy has to come to a compromise.love is all about sacrifice and not for selfish reasons.

ther is onething u guys have to know, for a girl time is very short that means that men can marry when he want but a girl no if not when she will start having children at age of 45 or 100. u have to understand it. if there is love why not marry her even with 10 cobo can