Many a time we come across very beautiful "un-married" ladies and we wonder why they are still single. We wonder, is it their doing, their parents, or maybe there is a spiritual under tone to it. How many of us have really looked deep down to investigate what may really be wrong?
I guess for the ladies its high time they stopped crying foul over countless heart breaks and calling we “guys” monsters and they should look critically at themselves i.e what may be responsible for their wife “immaterial-ism”. For me I believe it may be one or some of these reasons:

1. INTERESTS.
What catches your attention maybe a turn on or turn off for us. You don’t expect a decent guy to fall for you when your mobile phone is full of pornographic videos and pictures; what are they there for, to learn styles for your wedding night? Or a lady that is always nosing in other peoples business, you will never turn on a guy who likes minding his own business. No man wants to be coming home to always hear that his wife is the news caster of the estate.

2. CAREER.
Our choice of career always plays a major role in a relationship. Many guys don’t want to marry a dormant wife who will graduate with an NCE or an ND and will have no plan to go further either through full time programs or part time. The world is moving on a fast lane and we want to marry ladies that can maintain the frequency that an average woman will operate. You are a graduate we get it but do you have plans to add to that which you have gotten? Even if it is diploma in bead making.

3. FASHION
Fashion is what drives our style. So how seriously do you take your style?
• It is a very common saying that the way we dress is the way we are addressed and I bet you that no decent man wants to marry a woman that will be a highlight for touts and miscreants by the way she dresses. How can you wear a very low blouse wit a rugged jean mini skirt and a black see through leggings and expect any decent guy to look at you twice? If he does please consider it as an act of pity.
• The hair is the beauty of a woman’s head. Many ladies treat their hair with so much disrespect and some times you can smell the offensive aroma from a mile away. If you know that you are too broke to keep a long hair please why don’t you just copy Hon. Okonjo Iweala and be on low cut?
• Ladies please stop scaring us with NAILS that looks like claws or let me say Vampires talons. When we see long and unkempt nails it scares us to death and as for me I don’t want to die young.
• Some ladies teeth are a nightmare to behold. If they smile at you in a restaurant you can lose appetite. For heaven sake why will a lady forget to brush in the morning? And for some, the plagues on their teeth is ripe enough for exploration and please lets not talk about the odour some mouth emits: It can kill. No decent man wants to marry a woman that cannot smile publicly without embarrassing him. Please take good care of your mouth.
• Some ladies have turned their body into canvases in which they draw anything there in the name of tattoo. For your information, nobody can buy a Porsche and intentionally scratch it. If your body is valuable to you won’t draw on it. And by the way no decent man is ready to marry a mascot. Another issue is body odour; some ladies have so neglected their body that the stench it emits in the name of body odour is alarming. If you know you have a problem here please get a perfume or a nice body spray to work the magic. And please bathing twice or three times a day won’t kill you.

4. HOMELINESS
How homely are you. Nobody wants a woman that will turn his house or home into an incinerator and of what benefit is a woman who cannot take care of the house. When he sees the way you lay or leave your bed “unlaid”, leave plates in the sink or even soak clothes for six days then he will decide whether or not he will stay.

5. THE KITCHEN
The best way to a man’s heart is through the stomach as they say. I believe it should be a taboo for any woman of marriageable age not to know how to cook. If he marries you do you still want him to be a customer at iya alaje food canteen? No man will want to marry a woman that is a lion in the bedroom but is a snail in the kitchen. If you she can’t cook, she’s no good.

6. RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS
The way you have relationship with other people can determine if he will marry you or not. How do you deal with…………………………….
• Your Parents: do you even show them the respect they deserve? Don’t forget that he knows that if you don’t regard your own parents you will NEVER have regard for his. You are bad market.
• Your Siblings: how do you relate with your siblings? Do you spite your elder siblings because your job pays more and because you are richer than them? Don’t forget he knows that No condition is permanent so if you can spite your blood because you are richer than them now how will you behave if eventually he encounters some monetary challenges in the future. Money is not everything; be wise.
• Your Friends and Co workers: do you treat them right? Do you make jest of their situations when you are “gisting” with him? Don’t forget, every wise men knows that whatever you do to others you will likely end up doing it to “him”.
• How do you treat the random people you meet in your life? That bus conductor, that waiter, your parents house maid, that taxi driver, that meruwa *pardon the spelling* that supply you water. Do you rain insults on them at the slightest opportunity? Do knock, slap or even insult their parents at the slightest provocation? Maybe you have forgotten that he knows that if he marries you, his own day will surely come too.

7. SACRIFICE
• This is where so many Nigerian ladies get it wrong. You ladies believe that we always have money or maybe it is strictly the duty of the man to give, so you ladies have removed every element of surprise gift in the relationship. Even if we are all Bill Gates that doesn’t mean we don’t cherish little needs we get as gifts. That set of singlet, that #1,000 wristwatch, that bundle of white handkerchiefs goes a long way in a relationship. No man wants a woman that her hand is super glued.
• Another factor of sacrifice is time. How many times do you sacrifice your time for him? Maybe to pick his laundry from the dry cleaners (no be you wash am sef o), to gist with him about his passion e.g. football, to give him a surprise dish (collect the money for ingredient from him if you wish) etc. If you can’t sacrifice your saloon time now when will you?

8. THE ALMIGHTY PAST
Yes the past is the past but the truth is, the past may haunt you for the rest of your life. Be careful of what you do today because it can result to damnation tomorrow. Imagine yourself as a newly wed move into an estate and you find out that your next door neighbor is the guy whom you have committed four abortions for? You should have told your husband before and that means he will soon find out that the man you told him about is now his next door neighbor or his new boss or subordinate or even his friend’s friend. And my dear, WOE betides you if the matter skipped your mind and you never told him when you guys were still in courtship. I sincerely pray you survive the situation.

Let me stop for now.

I don't know why you have to bash at ladies all the time. All these are applicable to men too.

lertee: I don't know why you have to bash at ladies all the time. All these are applicable to men too.

You are right but am not trying to bash women. its just that these are some of the things guys don't like and they may not want to say it out but most times it eventually cripples the relationship.

lertee: I don't know why you have to bash at ladies all the time. All these are applicable to men too.

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adezjamz: he's helping U̶̲̥̅̊ tho

. Please help me to tell them o