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Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by LynForward: 11:07pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by LerrieJohn(f): 11:24pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Dear cosmass I have read your previous posts and I'm sorry you have to go through so much. Unfortunately whatever I say is just my opinion but I hope it makes you feel at least a lil better. From what you narrated on the day you had the laptop issues and his family reactions, I feel it was all a deliberate planned act to enable them postpone the wedding n I feel his family probably dont approve of you. Notwithstanding this man hurt you and left you without an explanation. He put a gap between you guys after two years without an explanation ( whether it be jazz, I doubt , woman, or family pressure , most probably the latter). I believe everything in life happens for a reason n the reason in this case indicates he's probably not for you. Personally I do not believe in reconciliation after break up because the trust is gone. My advice to you as a woman to another woman my dear, is to take time off to heal. Just feel the pain, cry, scream if you have to, after which stand up, wash your face, put on make up and smile at your reflection because you are worth more and you deserve much more. Take time to nurse yourself, be you, do whatever makes you happy, no rules and regulations. As for the closure you asked about, deep in our minds, if you take a good look, is a deep bottomless well. Think about all the times you guys spent together, good, bad, whatever, after which put them in a box , and lock it with chain and just let it drop down into that well until you can't see it anymore....I read that in a book once when I had my heart broken and it helped me forget. Now and then the box may try to resurface, any time it does just go back to your mind well and let the box fall down deepery again... When you heal, your mind will be open to love again and you will be surprised what life has in store for you. As for your things with him if they are things you DONT NEED just forget about them. Change your number or block any contact from his. Block any contact from his mutual friend as well, whatever your ex is going through shouldn't concern you anymore. Let his family and friends pray for him. I hope you are able to move on with your life and you heal too dear. Lots of luck and may God bless you. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by baralatie(m): 11:43pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: How many times will he tell you to move on....you ask? Errr......Maybe if you aren't giving his silly friend an audience, going on about God will fight for you instead of telling the dude to mind his business, you won't be getting text messages telling to move the eff on.leave am na wen beta wahala land she go know.make she dey follow dem lik chicken |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by baralatie(m): 11:48pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Lerrie John: Dear cosmassHALLELUYYAH! Now u understand! |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by baralatie(m): 11:55pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Lyn Forward: Cosmass! Cosmass! Cosmass! How many times have i called you?these guys wan finish her mental health u dey talk of divorce paper. @op!run like hyundai bike!hian if u do mistake enter dat yard,wetin ur eye.... |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by SisiKill1: 12:43am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Cosmass: Don't entertain his friend. Period!!!!! The fact that you are talking to his friend gives him (your ex) the idea that you are trying desperately to stay connected to him. This is why he can send you a text urging you to move on. If you need to cry and rant and pray and whatever, please do it with your own people. His friends are his friends are his friends....nothing will change that. Heck it's even because of that, I'd be highly suspicious of the friend's motivation for contacting me, if I were in your shoes. They won't come more guarded than I will be in that kinda situation. Look I am not saying you should fight anybody, just don't wear your heart on your sleeve, especially with people close to him. All that "God will fight for me" talk to his friend gives him the impression you are still pining, hoping, praying and waiting. Hey, you can very well be all those things (no one can fault you for that....years of relationship is not an easy thing to get over) just don't say it to HIS friend because....you don't know how the message is being conveyed to your ex. Enough of the psychological and emotional battery abeg. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Nobody: 1:59am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Not worth it. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Secularist: 2:53am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Space booked for insult, coming soon. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Nobody: 4:52am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Cosmass: UPDATE Cosmass the chances that this guy will come back because he loves you is most unlikely. Men who love and value a woman don't send such silly text over and over again. He may come back to use you as a practice babe again till he finds "the one" or he may end up with you because you are convenient and will do anything to make him happy. You have been able to do without your things at his place for a while now so leave them there you know you don't need it. Please throw away his security man's number and anything that has to do with him. That "person close to him" stop just stop picking his calls. Cosmass this ship has sailed. God has fought for you by causing you to escape marriage to an immature man who does not love you. And cosmass you are not moving on, you are still stuck on hoping he will come back and infact praying he comes back. Cosmass why can't you believe that there are 2000 better quality men out there dying to know you and you are investing in nothing. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Toyinletstalk(f): 4:59am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Love will push one to believe or do anything. But the right answers and the right thing to do is usually within us. Connect with it and you will not be misled. Be patient. Some people come into our lives to teach us some lessons and when that lesson is taught and done with, they move on. Take what you've learnt from him and move on. You have to completely let him go so that a new and better man can come into your life. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 9:45am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: I agree with you very much and noted! Toyinletstalk: Love will push one to believe or do anything. But the right answers and the right thing to do is usually within us. Connect with it and you will not be misled. Be patient. Some people come into our lives to teach us some lessons and when that lesson is taught and done with, they move on. Take what you've learnt from him and move on. You have to completely let him go so that a new and better man can come into your life. andromida: Lerrie John: Dear cosmass Lyn Forward: Cosmass! Cosmass! Cosmass! How many times have i called you? Thanks to everyone that has contributed their opinions so far and the advice is being heeded. No more picking up the calls from whoever that is close to him. I need to be me but I am doing much better. At least not picking up his call last night and not replying his message has given me an upper edge. I will be fine. Thanks again to everyone |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by baby124: 11:40am On Nov 30, 2013 |
Be happy you didn't marry this child. Just move on and forget all your property. If it is important to you, tell him to drop it at your house. The guy is playing games with you or he could really not want you anymore and the friend is pushing him. Fact is if someone doesn't want you anymore 1000 supporters cannot change their minds. Enjoy your life, go out and be happy. Forget the guy, forget jazz, forget that he wants you back. Just move on and don't look back. Please never pray for anyone to love you, what is the difference between you and a jazz woman in that respect? Fact is love cannot be forced. Especially when only one person is doing the loving. And please don't waste prayers on a man who is not your husband. Use all the praying energy on yourself till you find someone worth praying with and for. Notice I said "with and for". |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by veave(f): 8:00pm On Dec 01, 2013 |
u keep sayin 'noted' 'noted' but u dont sound like u r noting anything dow. do not go to his hous. i repeat, do not go to his house. and d@ busybody friend, cut off totally from him. he has his eyes on u. if u slack, he'll sleep with you. all these words above mine are enof for a wise fellow! |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Nobody: 11:53pm On Dec 01, 2013 |
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Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 8:45am On Dec 02, 2013 |
hispinkolo: There's something sweet and satisfying when an ex comes crawling back isn't it?The whole I was wrong please forgive me thing. Lol no you are not wasting your breath. I actually meant it when I said noted, I have put it behind me. No answering calls or entertaining any, as I said when my ex called, I did not pick up or reply his message. I am working on healing myself and as for praying, I am praying for myself. This is a new month, new things.. I have tried a lot. Also as for the age, I'm not really scared of aging, I'm not old at all I was more like angry when I saw the call and text but also laughed at it. veave: u keep sayin 'noted' 'noted' but u dont sound like u r noting anything dow. I mean it lol to the noted. And yes I am not going to his house, if he wants to drop off my things, he could drop at my house or better still dump it in the gutter. Enough of the humilation, no matter what he felt I had done. I thought True love encompasses all things. At least no infidelity was involved or whatsoever. It will be and it is well. |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Nobody: 10:52am On Dec 02, 2013 |
Remember okafors law according to coogar. Even if you eventually see him, pls don't prove Okafor law to be true. I take God beg you . Now, keep your head up, and start living life. What will be yours will be. Gods grace continue to be with you. Amen |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Cosmass(f): 7:58pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: I remembered the written sentence in bold. The friend called me today, but I ignored and not even thinking of returning the call. Stronger than before, would have entertained the call but NO MORE! |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by baralatie(m): 9:28pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Cosmass:Thank God! No more room for heartbrakers! Enjoy ur God given liberty! |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Maipride(f): 1:16am On Dec 30, 2013 |
This thread is God sent to me... 1 Like |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by baralatie(m): 2:58pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
theLORDreigns: @OP, I've read through your other thread. I just have to say that you are so desperate that you'll believe anything that you're told about this guy.gbam |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by LerrieJohn(f): 10:19pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
Cosmass: Good for you girl! Nice to hear you are stronger...just keep on being strong...xo |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by vivianfrancis(f): 5:56pm On Jan 01, 2014 |
were u living wit him? If yes,dats y he took u 4 granted.next time plz dat let ur emotion drive u,i can imagin wat u must hv go tru cos u l0ve him.men dnt apreciate women who give up every tin d have 4 dem |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by kenny987(f): 10:12pm On Jan 03, 2014 |
I can empathise with the OP on this issue. @OP: Most times when d best is arnd d corner, a look-alike comes 2 distort ur vision, thank God it has manifested 4 what it is, a mere counterfeit! You and all ladies out there deserve the real deal! |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Pinkett4444(f): 3:02pm On Sep 05, 2021 |
Cosmass: Have you finally moved on? Just stumbled on your story |
Re: In Need Of Serious Help And Advice URGENTLY!!! by Pinkett4444(f): 3:30pm On Sep 05, 2021 |
Wow!! That’s all I can say This is 2021and I hope you have moved on |
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