I've been wondering lately after hearing comments of crying children in my neighbourhood..
One morning, last week or so, I saw a child [10years] crying and tried to inquire what went wrong..To my suprise she said
"Mum flogged me for telling her the right time for a programme on tv which she believes is not true"
On hearing this i sought to find out the truth so i asked her siblings and they confirmed it..
Yesterday, a experienced a similar incident of a matured teen [17yrs]..He said he got scolded for telling his dad that he that he was tired [After coming back from school]..This was when his dad asked him to go out with him on a bricklaying job..
Today, I saw a mum shouted at her child cos of a lil mistake she made..For she was sent on an errand..This happened:
Since they were my neighbours, i heard their conversation clearly..Her mum asked her to buy some foodstuffs and these included; A cup of rice, an hundred naira worth of oil, two tin tomatoes [canned] and 50 naira worth of pepper..She went out and when she came back, her mum denied sending her to buy pepper, when she tried explaining the truth, she was told "SHUT UP"!!
Tell me does this attitude help our kids? Nowadays the opinion of kids are neglected..
Why are parents hard to correct sometimes?

That's how parents are oo they feel it's their place to do the correction and not the reverse.
My mum used to tell me that until the day I start feeding her, her word is law in the house.

Her word isn't law anymore but advice that I choose to obey or not. Boys are now men. .

just tell the children to endure soon things would change.

I know how much it hurts when parents refuse to listen to a child's grievances .My hubby taught me to apologise to the kids when am wrong,he does that too.Parents should learn to put reasoning before pride, kids are humans with emotions too.

because a lot of parents feel they are above mistakes, my mum is not like that anyway, but my dad, kai he is something else, but I feel the generation of parents this days are trying to imbibe the culture of apologizing to their kids whenever they are wrong which is good

teeo: That's how parents are oo they feel it's their place to do the correction and not the reverse.
My mum used to tell me that until the day I start feeding her, her word is law in the house.

Her word isn't law anymore but advice that I choose to obey or not. Boys are now men. .

just tell the children to endure soon things would change.

Thanks pal...But my lousy neighbour is this adamant type..

Eneze1: because a lot of parents feel they are above mistakes, my mum is not like that anyway, but my dad, kai he is something else

Lol..He nags a lot right?

She know I gat the bread, She's hoping I toast her.

Lolz, @post, my mum is exactly like that, when ever i try to make her see things from my own point of view she'll start complaining i no longer value her precious contribution . my Dad on the other hand will always encorage us to correct him when he is wrong.
But I've learnt not to, cos he'll always use it against you.
Parents are funny

Bt u knw this attitude is found mostly with poor parent

write2obi: Lolz, @post, my mum is exactly like that, when ever i try to make her see things from my own point of view she'll start complaining i no longer value her precious contribution . my Dad on the other hand will always encorage us to correct him when he is wrong.
But I've learnt not to, cos he'll always use it against you.
Parents are funny

How smart, is he?

Eneze1: because a lot of parents feel they are above mistakes, my mum is not like that anyway, but my dad, kai he is something else, but I feel the generation of parents this days are trying to imbibe the culture of apologizing to their kids whenever they are wrong which is good

Sorry for the derailment pls! Are you from Igarra, because your moniker looks Igarrian??

I guess its the way things were with our forefathers and they feel it should be like that always. A child is not right as they feel they know little or nothing.Culture and traditions at times feel its quite okay.

Lol my dad can argue from mow to next year.he hates correctiom from anybody
lol...thats african ego for you

Yemlizzy: I guess its the way things were with our forefathers and they feel it should be like that always. A child is not right as they feel they know little or nothing.Culture and traditions at times feel its quite okay.

Sometimes little ones know better than them..In some cases..The third case backs that up; when she wanted to say the truth (the girl who was sent on an errand)..I was a witness..These are one of such cases which proves that kids are sometimes right.

kulyie: Lol my dad can argue from mow to next year.he hates correctiom from anybody
lol...thats african ego for you

Lolzzz..That is so funny..Hope he copes well with your mum?

Hackerjay: Bt u knw this attitude is found mostly with poor parent

Seriously? Its with all the classes..But it's more with the poor folks..

The only thing about my mum is her nagging attitude..

Actually in yoruba land(i can't talk of other places cos of my naivity of their cultures), i believe the parents and elders think they have more knowledge from their experiences than the children and the youngs. Hence the yoruba adage 'ti omode ba laso bi agba, ko le lakisa bi agba'(if a kid has as much cloths like an elder, he can never have as much worn and deserted cloths like an elder), forgetting that 'omode gbon, agba gbo lafi dale ife(ife land was created from the wisdom of both old and young).

The elders so believe that they have more wisdom which makes them to be infallible which may not be absolutely right cos no one is an island of knowledge and one can't have the whole world experience to claim that is the source of one's wisdom and knowledge.

I do argue with my parents now cos am very much above what they can beat. I couldn't try it when i was a teenager and infant cos mum would tell me she got to this world before me.

Tolexander, i heard Yorubas are opinionated humans...Correcting elders in the Yoruba culture is regarded as disrespectfulness- By a friend of mine; for he's a Yoruban..

Elliozy: Tolexander, i heard Yorubas are opinionated humans...Correcting elders in the Yoruba culture is regarded as disrespectfulness- By a friend of mine; for he's a Yoruban..

ya, they are opinionnated like you said.

Not as if it is seen as a disrespectfulness to correct an elders. There is an adage in yoruba, pele lako, pele labo(sorry can be polite and impolite), depending on the attitude shown when one was saying the sorry.
If the correction is made in a polite and very respectful manner, they will definitely concede. Yoruba elders very value respect.

Tolexander: ya, they are opinionnated like you said.

Not as if it is seen as a disrespectfulness to correct an elders. There is an adage in yoruba, pele lako, pele labo(sorry can be polite and impolite), depending on the attitude shown when one was saying the sorry.
If the correction is made in a polite and very respectful manner, they will definitely concede. Yoruba elders very value respect.

Words of a wise man..You really are wise..

That is one of the reasons africa is backward. A parent dad has no job, he would face his child when he stays at home cos of no work saying your mates are doing something but his are MD's. A mother that brings her sugar boy to the house when she see's her daughter talking to a boy and calls her - the girl decides to end the conversation with the boy formally, she has insulted the mother.
A father fights his wife but when kids fight they are the first to bring call for cane.
Father steals from his office when child steals from him the boy is going the way of a shina rambo.

no parent is above mistake as long as they are human beings. one thing most of us african parents have refused to accept is the right of the child. every child no matter how little,have rights and parent shold know that it is an act of responsibility to say sorry even to a little child when the parent know he or she is wrong.

edwill: no parent is above mistake as long as they are human beings. one thing most of us african parents have refused to accept is the right of the child. every child no matter how little,have rights and parent shold know that it is an act of responsibility to say sorry even to a little child when the parent know he or she is wrong.

That's true..Children are not animals..That's one thing most parents fail to understand..

Elli-dude:
How smart, is he?

Dude he is a cop, very smart

write2obi:
Dude he is a cop, very smart

Oh..Mah swerve

Elli-dude:
Lolzzz..That is so funny..Hope he copes well with your mum?

lol mum doesnt like arguing with dad because we all know he doesnt accept he is wrong so mom ends the arguement with short phrases like ok,i have heard,sorry,ehen or sometimes to silence him she wil quickly change the topic

as for me i dont bother engaging him with arguemrnt.i will just say ewo daddy i have said my own and walk away.but in his mind he knows.lol

its my elder bros that argue with him.when they start,it doesnt have ending..but this one everybody has left the house,no energy for arguement again.

Kulyie, Its a good thing there's mutual understanding between them..Most families would be hectic having this your kinda experience at home..

Elli-dude:
Kulyie, Its a good thing there's mutual understanding between them..Most families would be hectic having this your kinda experience at home..

lol
Hectic ke.when the arguement is becoming too joy sef thats when mummy will say daddy shewa
oya o,your food is ready come and eat before it gets cold

na the rest arguementators go find their level

kulyie: lol
Hectic ke.when the arguement is becoming too joy sef thats when mummy will say daddy shewa
oya o,your food is ready come and eat before it gets cold

na the rest arguementators go find their level

Lol..Its a show of true Love and understanding..

Hope i'm not goofing around?

Nigerian parents grew up without love. . . .don't expect them to change because they have 'CURSED FRUITS OF THE WOMBS AND BLOKOSES'!

Angry parents breed angry kids. . .GENERATIONAL PSYCHOS roaming around!

mgbeketoto: Nigerian parents grew up without love. . . .don't expect them to change because they have 'CURSED FRUITS OF THE WOMBS AND BLOKOSES'!

Angry parents breed angry kids. . .GENERATIONAL PSYCHOS roaming around!

Funny enough..This is one reason why the RUDENESS AND UNCARING ATTITUDE OF MAJORITY OF NIGERIANS NEVER END..

The coming generation would go according to this principle and it'll go on and on..But its something i'll antagonise strongly..