NashvilleTN:


My honest view about ish like this is that life itself is a risk. Marriage is a risk like everything else. The fact that there's been a lot of bad stories does not mean one should not do the right thing. If I get a promotion, I will tell my wife; I have never had any reason to doubt her love for me, but if she uses it against me in future; really it's her loss. Cos I will move on with life. I had a similar discussion with some friends recently and we were talking about pre-nups. I said I don't see any reason for it and would never do it.

If I cannot risk my money with a woman, why should I risk my life being married to her? This same woman is my next of kin even for insurance purposes so I don't think even a pre-nup is really worth it.

NashvilleTN:


Lol,

That makes sense, cos I was genuinely surprised and even felt embarrased, that see wahala o. But he doesn't look like that kind of person. I just thought things like that should be shared freely between man and wife. But who knows what is really going on?



May be the next thing she'll ask for is vacation abroad. But for me,[size=18pt] I will rather refuse my wife her demands than not tell her at all. [/size] She cannot remove the money from my pocket na. Worst case, I will just explain that there are several other projects I am working on that we need the money to complete. But I think things like this should be celebrated not hidden.

raumdeuter:


You know in marriages, "Projects" have to be jointly agreed on and nothing like solo projects o.

It also depends on the person you marry. A wife who spends her whole wages on Louboutin is always broke and the husband is always bailing her out, The man would know not to disclose some financial details else na Neumann Marcus she go report that day

5minsmadness:

Apologies Nashville. Are you married?

edwife:
Well said NashvilleTN.

edwife:
Well said NashvilleTN.

tpiander:

next topic, abi e remain for this one?

They should free you nah, it's unbecoming someone having "wife" in her moniker yet slobering over male ass all over the place.

If you no get shame, dem for get am on your behalf.

pickabeau1:
How market?

Timbuktou:


Relax, the season is still young . Just 7 games in, no shaking.

pickabeau1:
Edwife

NashvilleTN

Timbuktou


How market?

coogar:


how's gomis doing now by the way?
i told y'all.....united are back with a bang this season.
catch me if you can.

NashvilleTN:


It depends a lot on the person you married. I absolutely agree. My wife has her own job is not necessarily a spendthrift but then most women will want to show off.

But it also depends on how you communicate and handle the issue. People always say communication is key - it's so cliche now, but how you communicate is even very key. You are the man of the house so you need to communicate clearly to her.

If your get a 10 million naira salary increase, I think as a human you should build at least a 3 million increase in living standards. Now, if your wife is building a 10 million naira living adjustment, it is time you step in and explain to her. It is your responsibility to communicate to her why you must not spend all the money and how you need to save for the future - school fees, your own house, etc. But as I said earlier, you need to show her the projects at the end of the day. The salary increase is not for the guy to have more girlfriends or drink more Hennessey! (and this happens sometimes). If she disagrees with you and your logic, it is not the end of the world. There would always be disagreements in marriage, it's nothing new, how you handle the disagreement is what matters. The fact that you want to avoid disagreement does not mean you should do the wrong thing. A couple can always agree to disagree on an issue and still live happily ever after. She can't take the money outta your pocket.

But what I feel is most important is trust. Love and trust go together. Once trust goes out of a marriage, then resentment begins to set it, because you stop believing the person. Besides, I think it is embarrasing to a couple for a husband to hear about his wife's promotion from outsiders and vice versa. I would rather tell my wife and even if we disagree on how the money should be spent, it's better than hiding the info. That trust must be upheld in my view.



Almost ten years now!

pickabeau1:


Okay oo

edwife:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmzH9MHKC7s





I loved this,thanks trucky!

edwife:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmzH9MHKC7s





I loved this,thanks trucky!

Mutaino7:
They won't like this.. thank God say nah here you post am or else your weavon for dey their mouth now

Mutaino7:
They won't like this.. thank God say nah here you post am or else your weavon for dey their mouth now

Talon05:

Edwife
Mourinho is chelsea's problem. He doesn't seem to be getting anything right at the moment. The only match he got it right was against Maccabi.
Feminism has never been about gender equality but female equality. I won't take feminists serious until I see a feminist campaign trying to reduce the sentencing gaps between genders for the same crime. Until I see them campaigning for the things the girl mentioned and some other things, they will remain noisemakers.
Feminists are just jokers anyways.

edwife:


I am used to them and i don't care.



Yeah look who we have here?

Been a while,trust you superb! Mou is just being naughty and mischievous as usual.My only beef with him is keeping Ivanovic ,
We will get it in no time,he is realising it now.We need new defenders,the centre back and full back is shit.

NashvilleTN:


100% agreed. The team needed some changes that didn't happen over the summer. But I am still confident we can win the EPL. Man Utd can't win, and City and Arsenal haven't been too impressive, so we are still in it.

edwife:


Not scared dear,very soon all these teams at the top will get tired and move to their respective places as usual.We all know this is between the top 4 best and Chelsea is among.

While many of these teams will get comfortable,we on the other hand will be fighting harder and yesterday should tell you that we are not ready to lose or concede without fighting back.New castle thought they were done with us but we proved everybody wrong.

So pick,market still fine-slow but solid.

edwife:


I am used to them and i don't care.



Yeah look who we have here?

Been a while,trust you superb! Mou is just being naughty and mischievous as usual.My only beef with him is keeping Ivanovic ,
We will get it in no time,he is realising it now.We need new defenders,the centre back and full back is shit.

Mindfulness:


Very well said!

I agree 100%. My parents always had a joint account and used to make EVERY decision on how the money was spent TOGETHER. We have never lacked anything in this home. However, my mother was a very economical and saving person. Therefore, trust is not only achieved by honest communication but also influenced by how reasonable and down-to-earth your spouse is. Trust must be developed and maintained by all parties involved. In this case, by the man's open communication and the woman's lack of greed and presence of economical thinking.

When we were still very young and in primary school, my father travelled abroad to work for almost a year. He was sending MOST of the money he made home. His uncle asked him if he wasn't worried that my mother will spend or even waste the money. My father wasn't. When he returned home all the money was still there. My mother spent NOTHING. She was feeding us from what she made by herself. After my father's return, my parents set up a very profitable business. The rest is history

BoboYekini:
Don't prenups take care of these kinda things? Why should a man still have to support the woman after they're separated? Especially when she's employed too.

ApexTitan:
Sensitivity by Ralph Tresvant.

The anthem for Betas right there.

ttp://youtu.be/xhfhVSUCLY4

Edwife

NashvilleTN

Timbuktou


How market?