coogar:


brothers in arms!



he advises them to steer clear because majority of single mothers are bitter & they mostly have nothing but horrible advice for young women. their previous experience with men often beclouds their reasoning.



that was what i thought too until i found this section & i saw how single motherhood is glorified. the latent message they pass is a woman is better off without a husband & if she needs a child, she can adopt or find a spërm dönor somewhere to put her in the family way.



embracing her situation is a different thing altogether to glorifying it. simply put....single motherhood is like a driver with a busted tyre and using his spare tyre. yes, the spare tyre would serve its purpose but then it shouldn't be the ideal situation.



i also repeat, you haven't seen some comments on this section where women confidently said men are of no use at all.....as far as they are concerned, a woman on her own can raise her kids better than most happily married couples.

before you say a word, they had already mentioned ben carson or barack obama.......completely forgetting for every ben carson, there are hundreds of thousands of such kids languishing in american prisons or in a morgue!

danbrowndmf:
i thought i was the only one seen pple writting "Single Mother" for life,they keep glorifying it as if ts a trophy

coogar:


what do you expect?
haven't you realised deportees are the first set of people to say "there's no place like home.". once they fail, they have to somehow convince themselves they are happy & the failure isn't a big deal.

danbrowndmf:
lols...baba which dy u go drop freestyle for FFr na,drop something make u inspire boys to write na.

coogaluta:
My brother, Pa TV01, how are things?
How are my lil angels doing?

as per the topics on ground, as usual, I have no comments
Pick-a-boo-boo, I hail thee!

TV01:


See diss Bro'-Pa' - Aluta, welcome back.
Children are great ! Been busy spamming this place with pics - we are so happy.

Do I address you as Dr, MD or Consultant? Pending the time it becomes Dr Revd Mrs !


TV

TV01:
Kimoni,

to sum-up on some other points;

I am all for equality, just not blind to the facts; to wit;

1. Outcomes for actions - even if jointly taken - are not always the same - even if responsibility is.
2. There are real differences - at every level - between the sexes, and we flourish when we understand, appreciate and work to harmonise the complimentarity of our differences.
3. If a critical mass within society eschew traditional norms (particularly around marriage and morality), the consequences will be very damaging.


Single Mothers;
Society has traditionally stigmatised single mothers for obvious reasons;
1. It hinders a womans chance of learning and marrying.
2. It typically means a poorer outcome for any children
3. Not least because 60% of single parent homes are in poverty.

Stigma and shame serve useful purposes in society. Now, I am here as an advocate of marriage. I want all to marry - and marry well - including single mothers. Funnily enough, marriage is a prosperity builder - I can personally testify to that.

No gainsaying, apart form the societal cost, single-motherhood does not increase any womans eligibility. I advise women to avoid it and the things that could lead to it.

I advise men to avoid divorcees and single mothers for good reason. Divorcees is mostly scriptural, a woman is bound to her husband until he dies. Widows fine - but not black ones ! Single mums due to the obvious disadvantages and typical make-up of men.

Now I could hail single mothers, tell them they are precious, they are great, they will marry just as if they had no offspring and even that they are "hot-cakes" and spread the gospel of single-motherhood. One thing for sure, It would greatly increase the pool of cheap hits for promiscuous men - only it wouldn't increase the number and quality of marriages + it's not true.


I mentioned feminism, as unbeknown to even it's ignorant adherents, it has percolated to colour pretty much all engagements between men and women. It's why most arguments - including yours - are predicated on "equality", and in such a way as to ignore, instead of appreciate difference.

Hope your paper goes well. I expect credit 0 !


TV

coogaluta:
Apolonius

Pele.....


No more tales by moonlight.

Kimoni:

~ Peradventure he tells me he is broke, I open the Bible and read my favourite part to him - "a man who cannot provide for his home is worse than an infidel". Trust me, this verse works like magic.

RoyalRoy:

Pele.....
No more tales by moonlight.

TV01:
Kimoni,

how far? Couldn't respond earlier - normally don't visit weekends. I'll try and summarise;

of the 3 topics I can only touch on NHS;
1. Inefficiencies, possibly due to size - crazy amounts paid to locums and for outsourced services
2. Bloated middle and senior management, who as well as being costly exacerbate innefficency
3. Settlements for malpractice, negligence and ridiculous payoffs
4. Politicisation - by all parties
5. Recession & cuts.
6. Health tourism - not sure, like benefit fraud - which is only 1% of the welfare bill - I feel it's probably minor and unlike benefit fraud, feel it could be easily dealt with.

TV

coogaluta:



*in my British accent with my baby face and voice*
IT'S NOT FAIR!!!

**In my Abule-Egba accent **

I know dear....

RoyalRoy:
is Kimoni an insomniac or just on a different time zone?

We may be compatible along some lines
*winks



#team3310

coogaluta:


I think I might like this woman

Kimoni:





I am more productive(dont limit ur imaginations) at night and useless in the mornings.

Are you ready to be the "head"?

Flyer alert

Lollz


Well, I like to consider myself as the next man to discover the greatest thing after sliced bread.

3hrs sleep a day is all I need to get my batteries charged for the next day!!!
Insomnia and too much Pisces instincts keeps the brain sharp and alert for the next big opportunity in life.

Location and time zone may change but the sleeping habit remains the same!!

I am ready to be the head.... As long as the neck is in tandem with me!!



Glory Glory Manchester United!!

Kimoni:


Not kidding o

Egocentric men are the best ever, their button is not hard to find at all

Kimoni:


Not kidding o

Egocentric men are the best ever, their button is not hard to find at all

bellong:


Very very true but only few female know this. It is why the bible says a good woman builds her house.

Men are the easiest gender to deal with, you only need to know what buttons to press and massage his ego to your advantage and you have him in the bag.

Competition and rivalry don't win any battle with him.

coogar:


what do you expect?
haven't you realised deportees are the first set of people to say "there's no place like home.". once they fail, they have to somehow convince themselves they are happy & the failure isn't a big deal.

moca:
Kimoni the school gal
How r u dear?

Tearoses,come o, headache wan kill me.
I don tire for this thing o
It's well sha.

Bellong, u got it right.
Some of us r busy trying to compete while the rest r looking for that soft spot.
Chei!
If u get a man's soft spot,u have landed a jackpot and believe u me,u guys behave like kids when in this situation.

As for me,i prayed for it and searched well o until I hit d jackpot.
And I will continue to look for more.
Call me spoilt gal,na u sabi

moca:

So u of all people use nairaland as a yardstick?
Common!
I knew quite a lot of them and they don't find it easy at all. Societal cum family stigmatization and vulnerability. Name them.

I have. One that just lost her job now.
Had to lobby for a friend to take her as a temporary assistant(an offer he had already given to somebody else)
I guess she needs it more cos of her baby.

It's u guys. Instead of u to wear protection,u will deceive the gal for skin to skin. After,u will dump her.

coogaluta:
Apolonius

bellong:


Very very true but only few female know this. It is why the bible says a good woman builds her house.

Men are the easiest gender to deal with, you only need to know what buttons to press and massage his ego to your advantage and you have him in the bag.

Competition and rivalry don't win any battle with him.

coogar:


so there are no morning after pills anymore? have they banned postinor in africa?

tearoses:



Sorry sis
Pls try cool compress on your forehead and drink plenty water
Sometimes its due to dehydration
Pele

coogaluta:

Address me as aluta-always!
Revd kwa Badt girl like me
I'm glad you and the kids are happy...may the joy in your family never cease....