My bros fell in love wit an Ibo lady for the past 8 years and nothing to show for this relationship. I dont know if the lady has charmed my bros, because he acts stupid atimes. Anytime my parents or any of my sis/bros/family asked about his progress in the relationship he always flair-up, sometimes warn them not to come to his house again. There was a time he stop giving his parents monthly allowances for some months becos of this issue.

To fall in love wit an Ibo lady is not an issue. But the lady in question is making matter worst. I liked here initially, but she's just too lazy, she cant sweep nor take care of the house. I do the cleaning always cos I live with my brother. She comes during the week spend 2 to 4 days and leave. I cant imagine when I left for NYSC, I came back to meet the house unswept for months, cobwebs everywhere, the bathroom & toilet unwash for months etc and my bros will not talk or tell her to do anything than to cook Igbo soup for him.

She pretended to be pregnant and having miscarriages, she is just allowing my bros to waste his energy and sperm. My parents are not happy with the relationship, my mum especially cries anytime my bros shun her in respect of the relationship.

Please help, wat can we do about this or should we leave him alone with his palava?

Have you confronted the lady about her LAZINESS?

seem lyk your brother is rily crazy in love, but since he's happy wit d dirty, lady you av no option but to try n b supportive of his choice and pray he comes 2 his senses.

mind ya business. thou shall not put assunder.

she is just allowing my bros to waste his energy and sperm.

do u need the sperm for somtin else,

Mustay: I dont know how to confront her. If I do am sure my bros wil throw me out of the house.

Dominique:I dont feel comfortable with dirt. But it is annoying that I do the cleaning always. She is not supportive atall. I wonder how the house wil look like when I finally leave my bros house.

Idupaul: take your time, am talking serious issue here.

The girl is lazy . . . that's enough reason to kick her out of your brother's life.

Wait, are there 2 threads for this same topic?

I am certainly feeling the non-sexual content of KEMISUGA's posts nowaday _{ol girl, have u repented?!}

Don't give yourself headache over the issue.

Your Bros is a big guy and can take care of

himself i believe.

Let him enjoy his Ibo soup maybe that is the reason

the lady is still around.

He's eye will be open up to reality someday.

Tell mom to praise God for everything most

especially for you. 

At least you care about them

cheers 

Brash take your time ooh

olukemi tanx.

kemisuga:

Brash take your time ooh

ok i would

Han han how many times you go post dis Story that touch

Leave your brothers house, maybe then you would be able to see clearly

Gamine is not crime living with one's bros.

Is not crime o, but hin dey affect your brain sha

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You know not how to talk to a lady like you?

Mustay, honestly i dont know ooh. For her own case she might feel rejected. So I dont want to hurt her or cause any arguments between me and ma bros.

These scenes are rife in NOllywood films. I suggest dialogue as an option - especially with both of 'em.

you posted this topic twice?

kemisuga:

Mustay: I don't know how to confront her. If I do am sure my bros wil throw me out of the house.

Dominique:I don't feel comfortable with dirt. But it is annoying that I do the cleaning always. She is not supportive atall. I wonder how the house wil look like when I finally leave my bros house.

Idupaul: take your time, am talking serious issue here.

@ bolded: thats the main thing for sure.

but don't you think its very disrespectful to be fighting your brother's girlfriend/wife in his own house? That's something I can never see myself doing- I hope I respect myself beyond all that.  I don't even know what will make me live in my brother's house at this stage- regardless if he's in a relationship or not.

And shouldnt you be making plans for your own man and your own place, or how long do you intend to live with your brother?

neither am I surprised you're the one doing the cleaning. I had actually suspected that, from the other thread. She may have been the one doing it before, until you probably told her she doesnt know how to clean, or something similar. Na today African/Naijas dey get interfering relations?

tpia you sound childish. If you dont know wat to reply, then leave this post for the mature minds.

Tanx.

kemisuga:

tpia you sound childish. If you don't know what to reply, then leave this post for the mature minds.

Tanx.

abi oh.

I hope I didnt hit a nerve asking when you're going to get your own man and place.

@ kemi tpia has a point about the INTERFERENCE ASPECT.does your brother not feel irritated with the dirt in the house? The lady probably feels she can leave the work for you since you 're around.

Why must your brother's girlfriend be the one sweeping his house for him, and why is it any of your business.  Jobless girl.  You better go and find a boyfriend or something else to occupy your obviously empty head.  Maybe a cleaning job. If you're tired of sweeping the house, then move out and stop living off your brother. let your brother sweep his own house.

Mustay:

@ kemi tpia has a point about the INTERFERENCE ASPECT.does your brother not feel irritated with the dirt in the house? The lady probably feels she can leave the work for you since you 're around.

no, she's probably leaving the work for her because she was elbowed out of the way.


If she cleans and kemisuga here insists she's not cleaning the right way, what's she supposed to do?

Seun:

Why must your brother's girlfriend be the one sweeping his house for him, and why is it any of your business. Jobless girl. You better go and find a boyfriend or something else to occupy your obviously empty head. Maybe a cleaning job. If you're tired of sweeping the house, then move out and stop living off your brother. let your brother sweep his own house.

mr nairaland u harsh o!

Actually I don't think Seun was too harsh. I was going to say the same thing though maybe not as mean. LOL. She is in no position to confront this woman. I can guarantee you that she will be out of that house the second she does.
The fact that you say that all your brother wants is for her to cook "igbo soup" for him shows that you guys have an issue with her being igbo. It is very likely that you guys have been very harsh towards her and put you rbrother in a position to choose who is more important - his family or his woman. It is very obvious that he chose and you guys did not like his decision.

Why can't the guy clean his own house.

You should be asking your brother this. She is not married to him yet so should not be doing the cleaning.

Even when they do get married, he should still share in the cleaning. If he can't then they should get a cleaner or househelp.

Seun am disappointed in you You told landers not to insult anybody, so wat have said to me? And who told you I dont have a boyfriend of my own.

outtrip I pray you dont fall into this situation.

Definately I cant live with my bros for long, is just for a shortwhile.

I am sure most of you guys responding can not tolerate such, you are just making mouth.

There is a big different between a girlfriend and fiancee. This girl is my bros fiancee. If she cant clean the house before marriage, so wat wil she do eventually wen they got married

Ibo girl or Yoruba girl, it is not good to be a lazy wife. I dont have any bias mind against her, my uncles also married Ibo women.

In the message I posted, I stated in the last statement "should we leave him alone with his palava". Which means am not seriously against his choice. I am just feeling for him, cause he his a responsible guy that shouldnt make mistake about marriage.

Nobody except a wicked soul will see his/her relations/pets, wants to fall in a ditch and will not to do anything to save.

CHEERS.

You are just proving my point. It is not your business if she cleans the house or not. You are way out of line. She is his fiancee and he will more than likely marry her. Do yourself a favor and don't interfere in their business. You have not said that she mistreats him, you have not said that she cheats on him or anything like that. The only thing you can say is that she does not clean the house which I have to respond again by saying it is none of your business.

You worry about your future husbands house being clean and leave the poor woman alone. I sense that you probably tried to bully her but you realized that she would run away to a corner and hide so y'all are frustrated. Have you stopped to think why your brothe ris so frustrated with you guys. Oh I forgot, you said she probably jazzed him. Abeg pick up a second job or something because you have too much time on your hands.

My brother has a girlfriend that he carries everywhere with him. Infact we call her his handbag but I cannot go to my brother's apartment and expect that it should be cleaned by his girlfriend. Even if she lived with him it still would not be my issue. If they want to live like pigs then let them. I cannot even disrespect her like that and I am almost 10 years older than her. Abeg find your own and leave another woman's own alone.

outrip, yes it is non of my biz but you are talking nonsense, this is my bros not yours ok.

In my own family, we dont live in a dirty environment nor welcome a lazy wife. Besides she is not faithful to my bros, she receives calls from men and she speak Ibo which we dont undastand. But I dont get worried about that, "the way one lay his/her bed, so he/she shall sleep on it"

And who told you am frustrated nor my bros - out of point

I cant imagine a woman that cooks in a kitchen and will messed up everywhere and wil not bother to clean-up all the mess for months.

If you guys employ househelp to do the cleanings, we do the cleanings ourself in my family.

@kemisuga
I understand!!!

1800- merrymaids. Your brother should try it. And you should dial 1800 get your own man. Yes I pay someone to come in sometimes to clean my house and my husband pays someone sometimes to take care of our lawn. He is not my brother for sure, if he was I can guarnatee you that he would not have to deal with the stress you cause him. So it is bothering you that she calls guys and she does not give you an interpretation of their conversation. She is cheating because she is speaking igbo and you do not understand abi. An idle mind is the devil's workshop. Get a life abeg. This is how in laws always try to destroy marriages and when things fall apart, they move on with their own lives.

outstrip or instrip I dont have your time.

She pretended to be pregnant and having miscarriages, she is just allowing my bros to waste his energy and sperm

hmmmmmmmmmm

kemisuga, Mind your business and stop being NOISSY!!!!
Is she ur maid? If ur bro doesnt complain about her lazy attitude, who r u 2 complain?