LaRoyalHighness: @Op.. and if a man loses his job or something...while the wife is working..?


I hope the man won't expect the woman to lift up a pin inthe house since she had been at work all day..

Chillisauce:

My dear, what do they know . Housewife is different from stay at home mom. For someone that has tasted both, my dear, drop off in crèche and pick up at evening. All hands should be on deck where kids are involved. They need you as a parent to play with them, they need you to teach them the homework with love and patience, bath time, they wanna play. Raising a child is not easy esp in this part of the world. While you are busy cleaning, picking up toys every minute to avoid trip, feeding every two hrs , changing, laundry, cooking, etc. My dear, I doff my heart to stay at home mothers with no help and who the husbands refused to assist . Mothers with little babies is 24 hrs operation. Guess who will wake in the middle of the night to sing, rock the little one, who wakes in morning to bath clean feed. One person!

ThankGod for my hubby, you are the best . My next world I choose you. God forbid I marry man that will sit his a ss and watch me toil 24 hrs. I go pour hot water for him belly, I swear.

baby_123:
It's not easy at all. Na me first wake the next day, wear cloth. Afara! Definitely not planning to be a housewife. I even bought my mama gift with a big kiss after that experience. Even though she was never a house wife. I will rather be intellectually challenged than mentally exhausted. Little kids are very demanding.

LaRoyalHighness: @Op.. and if a man loses his job or something...while the wife is working..?


I hope the man won't expect the woman to lift up a pin inthe house since she had been at work all day..

2buff:

Read my last post madame
All these things can be done by one person. It's called TIME MANAGEMENT.

Now everyone deserves a day off from work and all and I certainly never ruled out helping...but if you're bishing about it so badly to people, It's either you just don't want it OR you don't know how lucky you are to have that job. Ask the 45 year old single woman who has never been married.

shizzle11:
This assumption is absolutely unnecessary, but if the bolded is what you envisage for yourself simply because you want to justify the laziness of a house wife, then good luck to you

LaRoyalHighness: Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.D

LaRoyalHighness: Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.D

2buff:

This is generally why argueing with women is always a pointless thing because one party is founded on logic and reason while the other just wants to oppose because it "feels" like the appropriate response to any call of duty placed upon said person.

There is a difference between accepting help and EXPECTING help.
Because of love, the one in charge of providing MAY CHOOSE to assist in the domestics, but that in no way means the one in charge of the domestics should be EXPECTING said help from the provider, to the point of complaining if it doesn't come as often as he/she'd like. That is just arrant 21st century shamelessness.

IF it comes, take it as a pleasant surprise. Use that pleasant surprise to boost your mood.
Moderate your expectations (i.e. stop expecting stupidly and don't get it twisted) to yield the maximum joy from being a house wife/husband if that is your current course.

If you feel you need assistance, then go work/make money so tehat there can be more money which you can then use to hire a househelp.

bukatyne:

Cococandy

This your new moniker invokes thoughts

soul_glo:


What's hard in having a job. People do it all the time. Heck I had two when I was 18. So you see it's only a big deal to earn money to a lazy person

2buff:

Are you seriously asking that question?
And do you think it's the money from your two "macdonald" jobs at 18 that will financially run a family in these times of inflation?

Obviously if finding and working a tangible job is easier for you, you'd be working and hiring a househelp.
It you ain't, then agidi-continua according to the measure of your hand.

soul_glo:

If my husband decides not to work in the best interest of our family i can assure you that we would be fine financially. Either way it goes he would not be the type who thinks he has achieved something earth shattering because his income pays all the bills. So you go ahead and look down your nose at women who keep the home. Make sure your wife knows that her position in life being shackled to you is to be nothing more than a baby wielder. As you so eloquently put it.

LaRoyalHighness: Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.D

Sophyrocks:
Seriously, i dnt understand why the bolded is causing brouhaha here. Like thats a very logical conclusion. Any man who has no job and has resolved to allow his wife work to care for the needs of the family should care for the home. whatt is a man a househusband for for goodness sake? What has he been doing at home all day since he doesnt go out to work? Is he expecting his wife that goes out to work from morning till night to come back home and start doing chores again? what sort of wickedness is that? Why is this an issue when there are men who are doing it already? If we can condemn housewives who complain, why should househusbands be an exception? I dnt get it.

cKaiser: Thats why its better for both to work and finance the house equally while also doing the chores equally. That would ensure that there is no cheating

cKaiser: Thats why its better for both to work and finance the house equally while also doing the chores equally. That would ensure that there is no cheating

sholay2011: While I agree with OP's point with respect to this particular case, I am more bothered about his intention for creating this thread.

I wonder how the family section degenerated into this.

2buff:

And what is my intention for creating this thread, pray-tell?

sholay2011:
Are you asking me


Please face front and continue eavesdropping for more gossips so you can create more wonderful threads like this.

2buff:

Thanks for your contribution Sir. The door is that way

sholay2011:
You are welcome.

Btw, I know where the door is; I ain't blind.

Thanks all the same but please, face your work.

2buff:

Good. Use it, and stop derailing this thread.