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Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
LaRoyalHighness: @Op.. and if a man loses his job or something...while the wife is working..? https://www.nairaland.com/1795267/women-stop-complaining#24397905 |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by baby124: 2:30pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Chillisauce:It's not easy at all. Na me first wake the next day, wear cloth. Afara! Definitely not planning to be a housewife. I even bought my mama gift with a big kiss after that experience. Even though she was never a house wife. I will rather be intellectually challenged than mentally exhausted. Little kids are very demanding. |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 2:58pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
baby_123: My dear, let them run their homes as they deem fit. E no consign me . Enjoy! 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by shizzle11(m): 4:21pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
LaRoyalHighness: @Op.. and if a man loses his job or something...while the wife is working..?This assumption is absolutely unnecessary, but if the bolded is what you envisage for yourself simply because you want to justify the laziness of a house wife, then good luck to you 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by nnekaregy(f): 4:22pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
2buff:. You must be a very mean person, u think the job @ home is easy?, u have never been there so keep mute. 2 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by shizzle11(m): 4:29pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
You don't work, you don't earn, you contribute practically nothing financially to the table, you have the whole time literally on your hands, at home 24/7, a sit-at-home wife, your hussy provides every daily family needs, goes uot probably early morning comes back at night, yet you complain of him not helping in chores, what exactly is wrong with some women? 2 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by LaRoyalHighness(f): 4:43pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
shizzle11:Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.D 6 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 5:03pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
LaRoyalHighness: Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.D This is generally why argueing with women today is always a pointless thing because one party is coming from logic and reason while the other just wants to latch on to abstract histrionics and oppose because it "feels" like the appropriate response to any call of duty placed upon said party. There is a difference between being helped and EXPECTING to be helped. Because of love, the one in charge of providing MAY CHOOSE to assist in the domestics, but that in no way means the one in charge of the domestics should be EXPECTING said help from the provider, to the point of complaining if it doesn't come as often as he/she'd like. Don't get it twisted. That is just arrant 21st century shamelessness. IF the assistance comes, take it as a pleasant surprise. Use that pleasant surprise to boost your mood. Moderate your expectations (i.e. stop expecting stupidly) to yield the maximum joy from being a house wife/husband if that is your current course. Just set your mind that "This is on me. I'm doing this." and you will find that your mind will automatically include it in it's time management plans. But if your mind is always on "he will do that one, he will do this one, I will leave this one for him" mode then when he comes and doesn't do it, you will now be dissapointed and that dissapointment will lead to all sorts of wahala in your marriage that could easily have been avoided if you had simply just managed your own expectations. Women who are wise will understand what I am saying. If you feel you need assistance, then go work/make money so that there can be more money which you can then use to hire yourself a househelp i.e. employee. But I find that with all the devices and appliances that we have today, all that is really no longer necessary. A lazy woman with terrible home training is a lazy woman with terrible home training....and she will ofcourse blame her husband for said lack of training on her part lest she take responsibility for it. 4 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by shizzle11(m): 5:05pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
LaRoyalHighness: Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.Di have never taken such a position and I don't believe in absolutism. The fact that either spouse is working and the other is not doesn't mean one shouldn't help at all, NO! depend on the nature of the mans job and the time he gets back from work, if he has ampletime away from work, he can actually assist especially during weekends, but some of you are making sound like its the mans duty or that the house chores should be shared and that is unacceptable |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by shizzle11(m): 5:21pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
2buff:Exactly my point! even when they are expecting help they should ask for it with modesty, and not asking for it like its a must they they share domestic duty together neglecting the fact that the woman in question isn't even contributing one naira to the family expenses, every man with conscience will appreciate the fact to help out in the home whenever available but not in the way you want, in the scenario you gave, imagine the time they must have spent gossiping and saying all what not that will add no value whatsoever to her family, guess that is part of the house chores....yeye dey smell |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by cococandy(f): 6:12pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
bukatyne: |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Ewuro1: 7:48pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
All these yeye chores y'all shiarin ... Chai diaris goduohhh Yeye tins. 2 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 8:29pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Can a mod please put this on the frontpage so we can get a wider perspective on this? |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 11:41pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
soul_glo: Are you seriously asking that question? And do you think it's the money from your two "macdonald" jobs at 18 that will financially run a family in these times of inflation? Obviously if finding and working a tangible job is easier for you, you'd be working and hiring a househelp. It you ain't, then agidi-continua according to the measure of your hand. 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by soulglo: 12:42am On Jul 03, 2014 |
2buff: If my husband decides not to work in the best interest of our family i can assure you that we would be fine financially. Either way it goes he would not be the type who thinks he has achieved something earth shattering because his income pays all the bills. So you go ahead and look down your nose at women who keep the home. Make sure your wife knows that her position in life being shackled to you is to be nothing more than a baby wielder. As you so eloquently put it. 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 1:16am On Jul 03, 2014 |
soul_glo: Never said that. That's all you. 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 9:34am On Jul 03, 2014 |
LaRoyalHighness: Lol.. calm down!.Its the truth na... In conclusion(from this post), who ever is working and picking up the bills shouldn't help out at home. So if at any point, the person that is working is the woman... and the man has to stay at home.... She is automatically immune @picking up any pin to help out in the home. Q.E.DSeriously, i dnt understand why the bolded is causing brouhaha here. Like thats a very logical conclusion. Any man who has no job and has resolved to allow his wife work to care for the needs of the family should care for the home. whatt is a man a househusband for for goodness sake? What has he been doing at home all day since he doesnt go out to work? Is he expecting his wife that goes out to work from morning till night to come back home and start doing chores again? what sort of wickedness is that? Why is this an issue when there are men who are doing it already? If we can condemn housewives who complain, why should househusbands be an exception? I dnt get it. 4 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 1:38pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: They just want to look for reasons to keep complaining. 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by cKaiser: 2:40pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
Thats why its better for both to work and finance the house equally while also doing the chores equally. That would ensure that there is no cheating 2 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by cococandy(f): 3:47pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
If only it were that black and white cKaiser: Thats why its better for both to work and finance the house equally while also doing the chores equally. That would ensure that there is no cheating |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by bukatyne(f): 5:08pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
cKaiser: Thats why its better for both to work and finance the house equally while also doing the chores equally. That would ensure that there is no cheating The issue is not sharing chores/finances 'equally'; the issue is everyone pulling their own weight 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 7:40pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
Moderator. Abeg knack this thing put for FrontPage O. They must learn today 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 8:14pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
The lady clearly felt overwhelmed for whatever reason. Why take it upon yourself to complain about her complaints? It's not rocket science to be considerate to one another. |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by sholay2011(m): 8:49pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
While I agree with OP's point with respect to this particular case, I am more bothered about his intention for creating this thread. I wonder how the family section degenerated into this. 4 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 8:50pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
sholay2011: While I agree with OP's point with respect to this particular case, I am more bothered about his intention for creating this thread. And what is my intention for creating this thread, pray-tell? 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by sholay2011(m): 8:55pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
2buff:Are you asking me Please face front and continue eavesdropping for more gossips so you can create more wonderful threads like this. 3 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 8:57pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
sholay2011: Thanks for your contribution Sir. The door is that way 1 Like |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by sholay2011(m): 9:01pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
2buff:You are welcome. Btw, I know where the door is; I ain't blind. Thanks all the same but please, face your work. 3 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by armyofone(m): 9:04pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
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Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 9:06pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
sholay2011: Good. Use it, and stop derailing this thread. 2 Likes |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by Nobody: 9:07pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
nti elephants. Tee hee hee. |
Re: Women: Stop Complaining! by sholay2011(m): 9:10pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
2buff:I didn't mean to derail your hard-earned No vex abeg. |
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