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Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by SirAweezy(m): 11:57am On Jul 05, 2014 |
cococandy: crackhaus: I take care of the bills... You take care of my home! Aint stopping you to be A Hilary Clinton though. 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by delishpot: 12:05pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Bottom line, support support support. If it was in naija thr hubby would sleep with house girl and claim his wife was always travelling. He will say she never had time for kids and even made her secretary attend to her kids. Her mother inlaw did not interfere, her husband did not ban her mom from his home, her mom did not try to take control of her daughters home. She still has some small guilt feeling for lost moments, but she is copping cos she has something to show for her lost moments with her kids and her home was not left 100% unattended. I believe a eise woman with good support system can touch the sky. 3 Likes |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by SirAweezy(m): 12:11pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
delishpot: Bottom line, support support support. She only didn't explain that part.. U never knew what could have gone down.. And how manytimes they must have settled... So pls "leave some flaws for the portrait design.. Just admire the nice painting" lol |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Dotng: 12:18pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Decide on what you want in life and where you are going in life. Then, look for someone that is going the same way with you. That will eliminate a lot of headache later in life. If both of you are career oriented and are willing to adjust your family plans around it, you won't have issues but if one party is going north and another going south and neither is willing to shift grounds to accommodate your reality. That is the beginning of crises. For guy's, you are to lead your home, part of your leadership responsibility is to marry a person that shares your values. If you want her to always cook your breakfast or dinner (because that is your definition of love or responsibility) you need to communicate that. Truth is, you can't expect someone that rarely cooks at home or for herself to do that for you. So, make up your mind what you want and what you are willing to overlook. 2 Likes |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Nobody: 12:25pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
bukatyne: |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by delishpot: 12:32pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
SirAweezy: True but she is still married right? Bottom line, if she did not have support, she wouldnt be where she is. No woman with kids can climb up without support wether bought( servants, nannies etc) or from willing family and friends. That I am 100% sure. And a good mom even has twice the stress. Cos she will be fully involved in every aspect of her support system plus her kids too. She will not just say hey glory is there so I dont care or worry. |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by delishpot: 12:34pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Dotng: Decide on what you want in life and where you are going in life. Then, look for someone that is going the same way with you. That will eliminate a lot of headache later in life. If both of you are career oriented and are willing to adjust your family plans around it, you won't have issues but if one party is going north and another going south and neither is willing to shift grounds to accommodate your reality. That is the beginning of crises. For guy's, you are to lead your home, part of your leadership responsibility is to marry a person that shares your values. If you want her to always cook your breakfast or dinner (because that is your definition of love or responsibility) you need to communicate that. Truth is, you can't expect someone that rarely cooks at home or for herself to do that for you. So, make up your mind what you want and what you are willing to overlook. God bless, you just put it in summary. Wo, may your days be long you and all ya people join. 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by coretechng1(m): 12:52pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Dotng: Decide on what you want in life and where you are going in life. Then, look for someone that is going the same way with you. That will eliminate a lot of headache later in life. If both of you are career oriented and are willing to adjust your family plans around it, you won't have issues but if one party is going north and another going south and neither is willing to shift grounds to accommodate your reality. That is the beginning of crises. For guy's, you are to lead your home, part of your leadership responsibility is to marry a person that shares your values. If you want her to always cook your breakfast or dinner (because that is your definition of love or responsibility) you need to communicate that. Truth is, you can't expect someone that rarely cooks at home or for herself to do that for you. So, make up your mind what you want and what you are willing to overlook.What is obvious is she CONSCIOUSLY created these support system. She is aware of her roles and knows she is not making up but instead she tried hard to make up by creating a support system. Some fools don't even know their roles as mothers. |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Odunharry(m): 12:56pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
crackhaus:200 likes 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by 4C2215131: 1:01pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
damiso: When it comes heading big business it is not even a gender specific thing.You just have to sometimes sacrifice that recital, that parent teacher meeting, that school play and one way or the other let down your children.That is not necessarily black and white good or bad because every good thing or anything of value tends to come with sacrifices.. Nice one |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Rhukie(f): 1:05pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
in life, nobody can av it all one way or the other we av to make sacrifice so that we can co-exist peacefully. whether you are a stay at home woman or career orientated one. 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by 4C2215131: 1:38pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
SirAweezy: Sho' you right. The article was a synopsis of the "life" of a career woman, emphasis on Synopsis. A lot would've gone down during years gone by with regard to her hubby. If everything was honky-dory he wouldn't be complaining about being last on her list. Again, that couples are "together" don't mean that they are together. They could be doing it for the kids and other reasons. Know of a chap who hasn't touched his wife in eight years (I shit you not), hell, they're practically strangers under same roof. She's a bank executive and he's a middle level staff in an oil and gas company. Looking from the outside you'd think everything is cool, but, get in there and everything is as cold as ice. Kids will be getting knowledgeable soon, so I'm advising both parties to go their separate ways before the kids know what's up. Me thinks divorce is one of the best thing that has happened to the institution of marriage. What's the essence of making each other miserable?. And by virtue of that making your extended family, friends and kids miserable? If the juice is gone, by all means move on. How long do you have on this planet that you intend to spend your time moaning over an insufferable prick of a man or woman or yourself for that matter? (Hard view, I know, but telling it like it is. The Pastor or Imam that advices you to stick together against all odds isn't the one receiving the slaps,rapes, insults,mental anguish, soul torture, cold shoulder, silent treatment and a decimation of your belief in yourself that your abusive partner metes out to you on a per second billing...he that wears the shoes...) So the morale of the story is, never judge a book by the cover. There are a lot of couples suffering in silence out there. That you see 'em together don't mean all is fine. So as a lady before you start running your mouth on how your girlfriend's husband is coping wonderfully with her hectic work schedule and berating your hubby to follow suit take time to really ask her about that bruise on her upper lip or why her man is always out of town for one business or the other and/or seem so detached everytime you come visiting (he just might be going through the motions...of being a married man, that is until one day, the other shioe drops). For the chaps, stop hating on the successful ladies especially if you have one as a wife as you knew she was a fiesty go-getter before you married her. In fact, I can recall you saying her drive for success in what she does was the reason you got attracted to her in the first place. So why the volte-face now that she's close to the pinnacle of her career? If you can't stand the heat, get your arse outta the kitchen. You don't want the problems associated with marrying a career lady? Don't get married to one! Simple. If you can handle it, then, shoot away as a lot of career ladies are Really nice ladies compared to their counterparts (in my opinion) once you get past the "career" moniker on their name tag...that is if you can get past it though. Oh boy! Life! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by donodion(m): 2:03pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
cKaiser: ^^ Its on record that black women are the ones with the highest rate on broken down families or non existing family structure. Word!!!! |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Nobody: 2:29pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Good point! Gboliwe: Smart and intelligent woman. |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Reference(m): 2:52pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Dotng: Mistaken missionary. Why didn't he take the son along all the while. What kind of plant has no fruit. Sad. |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by marv1: 3:01pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
alutacontinua:u and irenei were xpecting her to say she resigned, which is ur own version and u jumped to the conclusion rather than readin with understanding the actual facts she is using to cope. 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by marv1: 3:01pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
alutacontinua: |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Nobody: 4:21pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
cococandy: Doesn't that contradict the topic sentence?In essence what you are saying is you wear different crowns for different roles and try to be your best at it...GOOD THINKING! 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by cococandy(f): 5:20pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Yes. That's what I'm saying. And it's a double honor and double blessing. Xsolutions: In essence what you are saying is you wear different crowns for different roles and try to be your best at it...GOOD THINKING! 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by sandiyke(f): 6:09pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
cococandy: crackhaus:I so endorse this post and most especially the last part. The woman being the wife/mother/caretaker etc in the home does not make her a robot. She is alSo human for cryin out loud. If the marriage was entered with understanding, I dnt see any reason why roles cnt be substituted. If a man can do certain things but chooses not to do them cos its a woman's role, dat man is just being wicked and delibrately insensitive. I think marriage is complementary. So let d man complement the woman and vice versa. 2 Likes |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 6:19pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Dotng: Uhnmmmmm, i like that..."You can't miss what you never had." |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Ekundayo7: 6:28pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
crackhaus:In the bolded above I just want to point out that women are capable of changing light bulbs, washing cars, taking them for servicing etc., but the point I want to make is that these are OCCASIONAL tasks that need to be done. Cooking at least 2 meals a day, the serving and clean up then the helping children study, bathing them, putting to bed, the washing of clothes and house cleaning that can follow are DAILY tasks, and if a husband can't pitch in and help with these things he is not working towards the good of family unit. It's an entirely different matter if the wife and mother does not have to work outside the home, but most women need to work in order to put food in their children's mouths. This is not about "feminism", this is about survival and shouldering the family load for the benefit of all. I know a woman who besides working her own shop daily, also has a catering business and she spends LONG hours working, sometimes coming home at 2 in the morning with large pots to wash and clean. Do you know that her husband will be up at 2 a.m. and then demanding that she drop all to cater to him and fix his dinner though there is food in the freezer ready to be heated. I am waiting for the day she beats him over the head with her wooden cooking spoon as his attitude is beyond unreasonable. This is not an unusual attitude in Nigerian men and needs to change. Women do not need another child to take care of. He has a brain and two good arms and legs to fix his own food and could even pitch in and help her wash the pots but no, his idea is to make her serve his food then he goes off to bed to leave her alone to wash the large pots hauling water for hours til she can finally get a few hours sleep then get up to tend to her shop. smh 4 Likes |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 6:28pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Typical woman thinking over there, for those asking y such topic, if for people one of who i just quoted......they look @ the solutions but cant find it. Sis, u read d article upside down cococandy: Doesn't that contradict the topic sentence? |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 6:30pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
bukatyne: Tell me, how can u rise to d position of a CEO when u cant even manage ur home properly, cos dis ur comment shows a kind of ego in it, and perhaps, try read it from d top again slowly, u might see dat u mis-understand the article |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 6:32pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Typical woman thinking over there, for those asking y such topic, if for people one of who i just quoted......they look @ the solutions but cant find it. Sis, u read d article upside down cococandy: Doesn't that contradict the topic sentence? |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 6:32pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
ireneidiva: Follow the comments |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 6:32pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
God bless crackhaus: 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by bukatyne(f): 6:56pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Bigsteveg: My way, if you don't like it, good for you |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by bukatyne(f): 7:02pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
njokusboy: . Chelu godi, wait, biko.... So when the husband doesn't cook and waits for the wife, it automatically means he doesnt love her? Yea, he does not No worries, it is not a crime 1 Like |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Anthrophile(m): 7:44pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
A place for everything is everything in place. I believe a woman can have a brilliant career and an enviable family. It all depends on an understanding husband and a wife that won't get puffed up at the sight of success. Also, not forgeting the "G" factor - God factor. Beside, I don't expect a man who marries a career woman to shun cooking his meals atimes or at least hire a cook to prepare meals when wife's at work. Also, a career woman oughtn't spend her dough alone. |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by Bigsteveg(m): 11:38pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
bukatyne: Seems ure to be big for correction, kip it up |
Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by bukatyne(f): 11:49pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Bigsteveg: Hilarious! I stated my opinion, you state yours and move on. If you get home by 8pm, wifey gets home by 10pm due to traffic/long hours etc., sit your ass and wait for her to get home before you drink water Or you can play games or nairaland 1 Like |
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